nwekeugochukwu:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4NQ7Df1e18?si=Ki3S7tmQ0AZxWNEi

Behold the look of that fool that married this woman.

GreatAchiever1:
Her faith in God.
Her chastity.
Her submission.
Being teachable.
Her Wisdom.
Being nurturing.
Being respectful.
Her love.

That's all I can think of for now.

Good man

Darevofpeace:

It is common knowledge that many beautiful marriages in Nigeria, collapse few months or years after the families move to the western world. We equally read stories of men thrown out of their homes by their wives they brought over from Nigeria.

To be successful in your marriage in the western world, a man must manage his Nigerian wife that moved to the western world, the same way he handles his adolescent child. The moment a woman gets her Permanent Residence, it is natural that she begins to see life differently, and begins to express herself differently. Some of the things she kept within her heart that she had been tolerating because of her dependence on your visa, will no longer be tolerated. She will feel like a person who has gained her freedom from your influence. It is natural.

She will definitely have a lot of misconceptions about becoming an independent person that is not attached to your visa. She will try to explore so many things she may have been told by friends. She will want to press you sometimes aggressively or silently to adopt what she perceives to be the western approach to marriage. At that point, she is just like an adolescent who has just reached puberty. She will begin to express herself differently, and YOU MUST ACCEPT THAT.

She may stop cooking for you or doing the domestic things she used to do in the home. She may begin to live almost an independent life. Her general attitude towards you may change. She definitely feels like an independent being, and will begin to challenge you even in the most common things. She may begin to make certain demands that are strange to you as per how things are done in the home. She obviously would want to practise what she perceived to be the western style of doing things, which she believes to be superior. It may even worsen the moment she finally gets her naturalisation and passport. She may believe that she no longer needs you.

As a man, you must be careful in how you manage her during that period. You must allow her to enjoy the new found freedom. Any attempt for you to go head on or try to control her excesses, results to an accident, which may include getting yourself arrested or thrown out of your home. Common sense is required, the same you would apply when managing your teenage kids. Adolescence is a phase that comes and goes, same applies to her.

You must apply extreme self control, accept the changes, and give her time to find out some of her misconceptions she had about marriage in the western world. She will gradually begin to readjust to reality over a period of time, and return to her default state.

As a man, it requires emotional intelligence, especially self control and tolerance. If you don't manage that period properly, your marriage will collapse.

You the man must ensure that you are a role model to your wife in several ways. If possible, resist the temptation of sharing bills. Ensure that you earn enough to avoid dragging who pays what bill. Try and earn enough to foot your family's bills. She will naturally ask you to allow her pay a few.

Always improve yourself to make her see you as a go-to person, and that includes education and earnings. Allow her the choice to choose what she wants to take care of in the home. Never interfere in the choice of friends she wants to make; however, subtly advise her of the dangers you perceive. Never dictate for her, it will backfire.

Above all, try to be transparent with your finances. You don't expect her to be transparent with her finances, while she doesn't have a clue about what you earn. Also ensure that you play the role of a father to your children effectively. Don't also forget that her parents and siblings carry equal weight as your parents and siblings. You must balance your attention and spend on both families, almost equally.

Allow her the freedom she desires, she will come back to make you her best friend. Control will never work...can work for a short time, but will boomerang later.

https://www.facebook.com/1525879707/posts/pfbid02gFRufqsFTQCF9GaXTb5CJfhiA4LszrHFwPzeJJvVPBCuS41MJnEaTiy6Hr2VYTel/

You might as well just hand over your testicles to her, saying "I won't be needing these anymore"

charlsecy:
What is tart cherry, Votukpa?

Tart cherry is a fruit. Also know as sour cherry.

It is bright red and can be consumed directly.

There is also sweet cherry that is darker. Tart cherry is what we want for gout.

caandi:
how did you take this please??
Morning and night What’s the dosage?

Step 1. Get voltaren, an non steroidal anti inflammatory. Take to 2 tabs.

Step 2. Put water inside a pot and heat. Add tumeric and black pepper then stir. Add ginger then stir. Take it off the heat and let it cool a bit.

Step 3. Put the mix into a blender and then add coconut oil into it.

Step 4. Blend.

Step 5. Bottoms up.

Give it like 30mins to an hour. Great relief will come upon you.

Repeat when you feel a flare up approaching.

charlsecy:
Does this work for knee and joint pains?

Oh yes

Caseless:
I have a cousin battling this. You blend these together and drink or? Please, expatiate a little.

Yes. Blend all together.

Ginger is thoroughly anti inflammatory and so is tumeric. Specifically, the curcumin in tumeric is potent for this, however it is only bioavailable of you combine it with (black pepper, some fat and heat). This is why they must be blended together.

Also get volatren and take two tabs per day.

Most don't have access to tart cherry (apparently it's very potent against goutish pain)

Step 1. Get voltaren, an non steroidal anti inflammatory. Take to 2 tabs.

Step 2. Put water inside a pot and heat. Add tumeric and black pepper then stir. Add ginger then stir. Take it off the heat and let it cool a bit.

Step 3. Put the mix into a blender and then add coconut oil into it.

Step 4. Blend.

Step 5. Bottoms up.

Give it like 30mins to an hour. Great relief will come upon you.

Repeat when you feel a flare up approaching.

tofolo:
Gout is a type of inflammatory arthritis that causes pain and swelling in your joints, usually as flares that last for a week or two, and then resolve. Gout flares often begin in your big toe or a lower limb.

As we go on am going to post pictures for we all to see. It wasn't easy, but am good now.

The main symptom of gout is a sudden attack of severe pain in one or more joints, typically your big toe. Other symptoms can include: the joint feeling hot and very tender, to the point of being unable to bear anything touching it. swelling in and around the affected joint.

Gout, we mainly get from what we eat which includes, Red meat, sugary drinks, alcohol ..... etc I woke up one cold morning and noticed I could not walk properly as my left big toe was swollen, for 2 weeks I was bedridden as the leg needed to be suspended for the pain to ease, to cut a log story short I saw a doctor got drugs and the toe healed.

Lo and behold 2 weeks later the right toe went through the same process.

below are pictures which i will just post randomly both left and right toes.

I don't know why the pics are nott loading, and lastly don't mind toe nails when you are in pains to touch the foot is something else.

I can feel your pain. I go through it at least twice a year. Horribly painful.

Tart cherry
Tumeric + plack pepper + ginger + coconut oil + hot water blended together

It's gone.

Gentlelox:
Some time ago, i was in a public place and a lady sitting next to me was obviously staring at me and drawing his face out anytime I turn.

Eventually, she took her phone and started a call with a guy. Discussing over love. I had the feeling the girl was doing it because of me and that it not to drive me away but to show interest in her.

Happened again at the airport. A girl I was sitting next to asked me to get her something politely as i took permission to go get something. When I arrived, she was obviously into me. But then, she brought her phone out and started a video call with another guy. She does it in a way that will make me notice by fire by thunder. After the call, my demeanor changed and I avoided her and I could see the girl somewhat disappointed. From her looks, she was expecting another type of reaction from me.

A lady friend met me and we talked. She wanted relationship and she was into me But then I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said yes. Then i changed the topic and she could see my interest has changed. So she said it not a serious relationship and she doesn't even know if it a relationship because she doesn't love the guy... She started telling tales. Las las i nor give am line.

These things happened alot. Maybe because they are all up to marriage age. If a girl thinks that chatting or calling another guy would make a guy interested in them, then they need to rethink. Or maybe she just doesn't like me.

What's your opinion on this.

Nigerian women have as much game as 10 year old. They act like retards around the guys they actually like and end up turning them off.

Here's the mindset and thought process behind the behavior those unintelligent women displayed to you:

1. I like you and I want you but I'm the prize.
2. Since I'm the prize, I won't directly approach you or present some value to attract you.
3. From the little I know about men, they love competition and conquest and will more likely value the prize that I am if they fight to get me. So I will rather try to make you compete with another idiot to win me over.

Here's the problem ladies: If you like the man, think he has some value (marriage/commitment), you give indicators of interest, ok initiate banter etc then it's probably because he is the prize and not you. You need to get real.

If you think he's the prize, pay the price and fight to win it. Show some value, show some interest, ask intelligent questions and look for some common ground etc. We are more likely to respond to that that than to you calling some other man to deceive us that you are taken and hence worth the chase.

Women who are worth the chase are women who have a decent combination of beauty, decency and demonstrate in clear term that they stand to provide some long term value to us. Having said this, any woman who makes you chase her isn't exactly worth pursuing. If a woman likes and wants you, she will do most of the 'chasing'. Selah.

To men: Most women are just too damn lazy to build real desired value into themselves and thus they will continue to behave like the women in the OP's narrative, simulating value and deceiving unassuming men. Wise up and train your eyes to see a real woman of value.

Thank you OP for this valuable piece of education.

jamesversion:
Came to visit the Boers. The Boers (Afrikaners) own South Africa. When the Boers arrived the Cape of Good Hope in 1652, there were no blacks in South Africa. The Black's migrated from Zimbabwe and Botswana many years after the Boers arrived. The Boers are the landlord of South Africa


TMKSouth, you didnt see this ne??

Horseshit

ArewaHouse:


Yeah lots. Check for princess Mufeedah and enjoy Arewa talents

This is fire.

beejaei:
Are women genetically not disposed to being intelligent? Why do they only have boobs and ass but no brains. I have been to Nigeria and almost ten states in the U.S. and it is all the same. It seems being intellectual is some kind of taboo among women, like if they were intellectual their vagina will be shut by divine decree. Women, what makes you guys averse to intelligence? Men, have your experiences been like mine or different?

A disposition to intellectualism is a masculine trait. Women who are intellectual are usually very masculine. Masculine women are mostly unattractive to most men.

humilitypays:
May Almighty God answer their sincere prayers and grant them their heart desires accordingly, amen





Those born as male will never understand the pressure females pass through in this life.



Please appreciate women even though not all of them are good women, but appreciate the good women

If women are aware that this degree of pressure may befall them at a certain point in their lives, why do most of them fail to get a man when they are at their prime or most desirable? When do they prioritize unimportant things and delay marriage until the pressure shows up?

Most ladies today are simply unwise and stubborn.

Aaaaarghmed:
so with that his small neck na pple babe he dey collect, no wonder him career no reach main road

Pls who is this GT guy?

Emmanuelmich:
Dear farmers

Is there a market for micro greens here in Nigeria.

Micro greens are types of greens that take 10 days from planting to harvest.

In the UK, Asia and USA this crop has a huge market.

But I am trying to get it started in Nigeria

Is there a market for this crop in Nigeria?

You can hear a pin drop in this thread. Obviously this is a perfect business opportunity for you.

Microgreens are dense in nutrients and many health conscious people will buy for sure.

Good luck

Sholmakem:
Don't take any sleeping tablet because once the drug stops working you'll go back to your sleeplessness.

Look for a fresh an unripe plantain , wash very well ( don't bother to peal it ) cook for a while ,what you need is just the purple coloured water. Take a shot morning day and night and come back to share your testimony.

Stop pressing phone or watching movies when it's late nights , forget your worries everything is going to be alright.

Please tell us what compounds this cooked unripe plantain releases that helps sleep.

emerged01:

You need to find solution to the issue bothering your mind to get a deep sleep.

Amen.

This is the most important thing.

It might be in her kidneys (fried adrenals) and excess cortisol in the blood caused by high stress or caffeine consumption . It might be insulin resistance, or overexposure to light during the night time- all three are capable of inhibiting her pineal gland from producing melatonin (signaling the brain that it's sleep time) It might be a messed up circadian rhythm that needs resetting (very likely what OP is dealing with). It might be late night consumption of heavy foods that keep her body temperature up at night or a messed gut microbiome that's need to be replenished with flora. It might be a lack of 'electricity' due to magnesium and potassium deficiency.

All these things affect sleep and should be diagnosed and treated naturally with herbs and habit modification and not with pharmaceuticals.

Nappyhair:


This is what helped me, ROUTINE, I was once like you even worse sef, but I cultivated the habit of sleeping exactly 9pm , at first it wasn’t rosy , sometimes I would lie on that bed from that 9 to 5 sometimes, but I didn’t stop with that Routine, once it’s 8, I take my night bath, eat, brush my teeth, then make my bed, lie on it, by 8;30 , by 9 I try to get some
Sleep, and please, how do you lie? I think positioning matters too, I always sleep on my left side , I read somewhere that it aids a better sleep , been doing all these for 2years now, and have never broken it for once

There’s something I notice about the human body, it respects consistency and routine, , reason for doing all the above, taking bath, eating , then brushing , is to prepare the mind of what’s to come, the mind being that element that needs to be quiet down , it’s a long game, your body catches up at time goes on. I hope this helps,

You are right about the body and it's proclivity for routine, however if the body has some underlying issues that are not diagnosed and healed, this is desired consistency may not be achieved in the first place. Your insomnia was corrected because you corrected a bad habit over time. Good on you. The OP needs to know the root cause of her insomnia and deal with it accordingly.

Fairboy:
I used to experience same sleepless night as you do. Someone advised l should take a sachet or 2 tablespoons of MILO every night before l sleep and l tried it and since then l have been enjoying a sound sleep of 6-7 hours.

Give it a try and thank me later.

It worked because, the sugar and tryptophan MILO cause caused you to relax and reduced your sleep latency. Will not work for someone who is insulin resistant.

HacheNoire:
Do reasonable shots of either Vodka, Tequila, Gin, Rum, Whiskey, Mezcal or Brandy before bed time. You will sleep like a baby

This must be the dumbest advise I've ever seen posted on nairaland.

NairaGPT:
name 10 intervention programs that you know someone who has benefited from. Scrap that name 1

I work as director in a Federal parastatal with offices Nationwide. All what this parastatal does is pro-poor programs and they've been doing it for almost 40 years. These programs are done regularly and don't have any special names and don't appear on network news. They are more state and local govt related.

NairaGPT:
It would be beneficial if they were intervention programs but can you point out just one? No. For people living in extreme poverty, even small changes in economic conditions can have a significant impact on their daily lives and well-being. It’s crucial for policymakers to be mindful of the potential consequences and implement measures to address the needs of the most economically disadvantaged during such rate hikes.

As I said you and many others aren't aware of these schemes and programs. There are many of them on the state and local level. I'm not crusading for the government or anything, just stating facts. The point is, the hike won't affect the poor any more than they are affected with comparatively lower interest rates. It affects the big guys mostly.

eneyoduke:
Does this increase the interest for fix deposit

It should. It may depend on the volume of funds you want to park into the FD. You might get better rates with incremental commitments.

Blackscorpion1j:
Economist in the house...What is the implications of this CBN decision on the common MAN in NIGERIA....Please no insult...I just want to learn...

The CBN prime rate has no direct impact on the poor. If it has, it's very implicit and negligible. It's impact will be more pronounced on large manufacturing and production operations of conglomerates and multinationals, increasing their short term liabilities (banks would rather borrow these elements than to the poor). Institutional money managers and large finance houses such as pension funds, banks and insurance companies will react to the hike too. Specifically, the prime rate hike is likely to initiate a strong short term sell off in the NSE all share index that may cool off the current bullish trend in the equities market, considering that big investors and money managers will see economic sense in rebalancing their portfolios in favor or fixed income assets.The poor already pay a premium for TRYING to access loan funds from financial institutions and so a hike in the CBN prime rate might not change their ability to borrow in the short term.

The hike is very likely to mop up excess liquidity in the economy that will be moped up by the fiscal sector and channeled to government programs and social intervention schemes, resulting in the empowerment and employment of the poor. The government, on all levels support the poor through welfare programs that many aren't aware of. Employment of the poor is usually generated through recurrent government projects and special public works. This might be an overall win for the little guys.

NairaGPT:
The effect of this policy:

1. Borrowing becomes costlier: Poor individuals who rely on loans or credit for various needs may face higher interest rates on their loans. This can lead to increased repayment burdens and make it more difficult for them to access credit for essential expenses or investments.

2. Reduced spending power: As borrowing costs rise, overall consumer spending may decrease. This can lead to higher prices for goods and services, affecting the purchasing power of the poor and potentially making it harder for them to afford basic necessities.

3. Impact on employment: If businesses face higher borrowing costs due to increased interest rates, they may be less likely to expand or invest in new projects. This can result in slower job growth or even job losses, affecting the employment prospects of the poor.

Consider this:

The CBN prime rate has no direct impact on the poor. If it has, it's very implicit and negligible. It's impact will be more pronounced on large manufacturing and production operations of conglomerates and multinationals, increasing their short term liabilities (banks would rather borrow these elements than to the poor). Institutional money managers and large finance houses such as pension funds, banks and insurance companies will react to the hike too. Specifically, the prime rate hike is likely to initiate a strong short term sell off in the NSE all share index that may cool off the current bullish trend in the equities market, considering that big investors and money managers will see economic sense in rebalancing their portfolios in favor or fixed income assets.The poor already pay a premium for TRYING to access loan funds from financial institutions and so a hike in the CBN prime rate might not change their ability to borrow in the short term.

By the way, diminished consumer spending isn't supposed to cause inflationary pressure in the economy as you pointed out. Retailers will only suffer some more if they put up their prices during times of reduced spending.

On the flip side, the hike is very likely to mop up excess liquidity in the economy that will be moped up by the fiscal sector and channeled to government programs and social intervention schemes, resulting in the empowerment and employment of the poor. The government, on all levels support the poor through welfare programs that many aren't aware of. Employment of the poor is usually generated through recurrent government projects and special public works. This might be an overall win for the little guys.

Enddy50ty:
There are no laid down rules for a successful marriage.
Just marry your best friend, someone you can go the extra mile for, someone you can confide in, someone whom you can tolerate his or her bullsh*t.

You are wrong.

This is the reason why people keep their brains outside of the decision process behind getting married.

Listen.

Marriage is man and woman cooperating to create things. Period. This cooperation is like a business partnership in which each party provides a form of value that COMPLEMENTS the partners own. This combination will usually yield a level of profit, over an above the initial combined volume that produced it. Specifically, sperm on it's own cannot create a child and a woman's eggs neither. However, the combination of the two creates a child. A whole new human being.

This is more than just an outcome of marriage. It's the principle of marriage. PROFIT by COOPERATION. Every marriage should be PRODUCTIVE by principle and there are many things in the world to be productive in, not just child bearing. It is profit that encourages business going concern. Similarly, it's the cooperative fruitfulness (in various dimensions) of marriage that encourages the willing commitment of both genders to remain in the marriage. There are many couples out there without the fruit of the womb who are collectively productive in other areas and are happily married.

If productiveness by cooperation is the goal of marriage, why do people refuse to approach the selection on their spouses without this awareness? Why do most people focus on irrelevant things when deciding whom to partner with? I know very smart people who made unintelligent choices for a spouse. Why would a smart business person refuse to be entrepreneurial in his or her approach to marriage but make the most profitable business decisions?

We've been lied to.

There is an onslaught against the marriage principle and the god of this world is behind this. He conveniently took this Godly principle and turned it into an institution that is incompatible with the human spirit. This is why most people on this thread feel the same way about marriage and what it holds for people who dare to get into it, especially for men.

Men should be educated and taught about why
and how to take on a wife. Bearing in mind that women will be choosing them.

1. Men should look for women who complement their vision. This is because, between the two, he is equiped with the innate resources to provide logic, leadership and trajectory for the marriage. Most men simply are not aware that they are to lead the courting process with their vision and not their social status or bank accounts. A female with a knack for administration is more likely to buy into the vision of visionary entrepreneur or leader and be inspired by marrying him than she would for administrator at heart like her. This should go without saying but it hardly goes.

2. Most women today are hyper masculine. They want to be the leaders and visionaries in the marriage. They want to advance their own agendas in the marriage as opposed to seeking for a man with a vision that inspires them to engage him with value that COMPLEMENTS his vision. She would rather present sexual value, (going for the low hanging fruit of cheap attraction) than actually putting in the work to be actually valuable to the man of her dreams.

Emotions should mostly be temporarily retired while choosing a spouse. I'm more likely to tolerate and happily provide everything for a woman who's priority is my wellbeing and growth than one who isn't mindful and focused on the marriage principle of creating value by working with me. Even if she's my best friend.

This is how to apply logic to business partnership or marriage.

ibrutex:
To the married men and women in the house , let's give them some, not on papers experience which you will never be told before marriage...


Some of these I learnt through a friend....


A) If you (husband) have 5k and the woman has 3k , sum it together in marriage arithmetic , total cash available in that house is 5k, thanks.

B) As a man be prepared to enter kitchen, expecially those early morning cooking, or else be ready to visit mama put..

Keep it rolling......

What does a man really stand to benefit then. It's as if he is better off being single

Lightened:
Cos I'm a prayer warrior with a great culinary skills. My house cleaning skill also is top notch. Infact, I'm a home maker.

Good. You're the smartest women on this thread.

You will go to heaven for this.

Ladies take copious notes

Men don't need all the nonsense you think represents value to us.

We need y'all to stay at home and make us your career. Yes you read it right. Make your man your job, your career, your number one priority.

Support his vision, his health and his status. Your primary goal is to optimize him. PERIOD. Pray for him to be protected and to move forward financially. Prepare nutritious food for him. Encourage him to lift weights. Keep the house nice and peaceful for him to relax.

This is what men need.

nkemjacob2:
Any lady that can respect my feelings and emotions.
A lady filled with understanding /wisdom
A lady with a vision, leadership qualities, respect (very crucial)
A lady ready to learn, compromise.
A lady that knows God and allow God to pass through her..

If you have these qualities. Pls DM. Let talk. It is u I am waiting for

You have great expectations from a woman.

A woman doesn't think, she feels and she does it with her vaginna (emotions). Don't expect her to be mentally creative when it matters the most. Don't expect vision from a woman, that's your domain. Leadership is yours too. She would never take up the responsibility to lead. Women don't care about God, only men do. Women worship themselves.

Look for a kind, cooperative and submissive woman who actually desires you. Some women might desire you but are anything but compliant and cooperative. Some are cooperative but don't want you.

IyanuDeb:
Lmao, almost everyone must have some sort of good quality,the reason for many failed marriages today is because of the ability of people to show only their good qualities before marriage and after it, they reveal the bad ones which will overweight any other good quality

Exactly.

This is the expertise of the female.

She pretends to be valuable without having any actual value. E.g Make up for a bland face, push up bra for a pair of tired tits etc. Good marketing for a falling stock.

She is like a black widows (spider specie) that attracts the male into marriage, with her web of lies and deception only to destroy him with her venom later.

fyzaila:
I'm a gem, diamond, my kind is so rare.

be specific. What is so rare and valuable about you?

Do you know the amount of work that goes into acquiring diamond?

Work builds value into a person, place or thing.

What work has been applied to you to be so rare?