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Anyahuruagu:
The worst mistake is to marry entitled wife with zero contributions..

Living Hell.

She may be working but she no dey contribute.

Looking for a go getter who is ready to wave poverty bye bye as am waving it not a mediocre whose taste buds doesn't taste investment and savings.

You're father was supposed to teach you this:

A woman isn't supposed to contribute in the sense of what you expressed. Stop looking for a woman who will contribute economically in your home.

Men are more beautiful and complete than women because we don't need them like they need us. Behold real beauty when a man gives his wife everything she needs and he doesn't need anything from her except her devotion and cooperation.

If any man feels he needs a woman to contribute in his home then he isn't ready to marry yet.

A man who is rich in every way doesn't require riches from a woman.

He is not only '(al)ready made', he is GODREADYMADE.

sexylassie2:
The biggest mistake a woman can make is marrying a man with no income.

The reality is most men want to eat their cake and have it, they want a traditional wife but cant carry the responsibility of marrying a traditional woman.

Shebi you are the man, why do you need a woman that works, aren't you guys the superior being.

The only reason why you need a working woman is to prey on her finance, to be realistic, only broke men want a working woman, a rich man wants a house wife.

Note: cry me a river, you won't get any reply from me.

You're 150% correct.
Men will not accept this because it is coming from a woman. I support you on this.

Sixfeetbelle:
If the choosing was greatly dependent on the woman, why were you listing adjectives of a good wife for that cKhap over there?

Because it is the man who goes forth to seek a wife. A man makes the move towards the woman FIRST. Thus, it behooves the man to put on the right 'goggles' to properly identify and evaluate his prospective wife to know what manner of fruit his marriage will bear.

If he finds the woman he seeks but she refuses his offer, then he needs to work on himself and hold himself to the same standards he holds his prospective spouse.

Sixfeetbelle:
Even as you pen down pointers for the man who is about to get married, be a dear and make a list of qualifications for him to have. A spiritually weak man seeking for a spiritually fulfilled woman will make a terrible marriage, hands down.

Thank you

Thank you.

However your comment shows you don't understand some fundamentals.

Let me break it down for you dear Sister.

When it comes to marriage and relationships. It the woman who chooses NOT the man. Read that ten times.

The man presents himself as a worthy(worthful) suitor, the woman judges his worth and then decides whether or not she will accept him. This is the dance of heterosexual relationship dynamics that has been designed for men and women to perform, instituted by The Living God, The MOst HIgh for the purposes of holy marriage on earth.

Let me reveal a mystery to you as well.
Your pastor won't teach you this.

Listen.

Jesus Christ (the example of men) did the same...
Ephesians 5:2
and walk in love, as also the Christ did love us, and did give himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for an odour of a sweet smell,

Christ is an offering to the Church.
But, Christ is a sacrifice to God. Not the other way round.
Offering = approach present = valuable gift offered to get acceptance from the offered.

Also...

25Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church and delivered himself up for it: 26That he might sanctify it, cleansing it by the laver of water in the word of life: 27That he might present it to himself, a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish

In plain English...

Men love your wives as Christ (your example) loves his wife(the church) and presented himself as an approach present to her so that (she will approach/accept/believe in him) and then He can wash her clean and make her glorious (like Him) and call her HIS wife.

Principle: 1. Man approaches woman offering himself(time, affection, devotion,resources) as a gift to a woman he wants to marry.
2. Woman judges his worth in her eyes and chooses or rejects Him.
3. If she accepts/chooses him, he takes her and gives her all his resources to make her beautiful in every way over time with the goal of making her conform to his idea of a perfect wife.
4. In exchange for this offering, the woman gives the man her will, power, honor and devotion.
5. Both become one powerful force in spirit and in love.

What you should take home from this exposé:

If a woman chooses a useless and weak man, she lacked the wisdom to see otherwise and she should bear the consequences. Why? She made the choice, not him. A spiritually weak man cannot marry a spiritually weak woman because she will not choose and accept him in the first place.

Show me an unhappily married woman and I will show you a woman who lacked wisdom and judgement in evaluating the spiritual worth of her husband before she accepted to be his wife.

Bottom line,

The burden of a qualitative marriage(in the eyes of a woman) will forever remain on her shoulders.

Cabi1:
huh....I hail detectives like you oo oga
me I dey learn work oo
buh how will it be dat easy to know a woman's past especially if u just met her and intend to settle with her
Secondly,pls is virginity test real??
Thirdly, medically,if a lady has aborted before,can it be detected in the hospital or clinic dat she had an abortion??

Listen up...

It all starts with you. That is, the conversations you are having within your spirit as a man. Your mindsets and therefore your goals should come first before you face a woman. Focus on this. Particularly, if you desire to marry, you need bear a some things in mind:

1. Her past is of paramount importance because it's a pointer to the future. Why do you think our parents used to thoroughly investigate a marriage prospects, even right down to her lineage and village? We should do the same. We have the spirit of God to help us know the unknowables about ladies. It's even them who will confess to you. My point is, if you have questions in your mind that need answers, the answers will be presented to you IF and ONLY IF your mindset and desires drive you to investigate.

2. Virginity in a woman is spiritual first, before it is physical. Please understand this thoroughly. A lady can be a virgin and still be impure spiritually. It will only be a matter time before she will act it out. There are ladies out there who have kept their hymen but have been thoroughly fondled and defiled in many ways other than vaginal penetration. These are NOT virgins. By implication, a lady would have to have degraded herself spiritually before allowing physical premarital vaginal sex. Adopting this paradigm makes virginity testing EASY. Have a talk with a young girl, while holding this mental frame. I guaranty you that you won't be in doubt of her virginity. The answer will jump at you. Virginity for men is a matter of the heart and we should hold women to the same standards. Foolish men (I once was) are hymen centric. They erroneously rationalize that "so long as her hymen is intact, she is marriageable no matter what".

3. With regards to being able to know a lady's abortion history, know this: If a woman has been having sex for some years, it is very likely the has aborted at least once. Women abort hormonally as well as surgically. The stigma attached to this behavior in Nigeria will make many of these women take their secret abortion histories to their graves. This means that you may never actually know for sure unless the lady tells you herself. Most ladies would rather lie about it. This is why you should hold any woman you want to marry to high standards and demand purity. Unfortunately, most men won't do this because they too are unable to hold themselves to the same standards; and would rather sell their souls just for a piece of used up vagina.

A good and pure woman for a wife is VERY hard to find. If you do, sell all you have to get her. However, such a wife is not crafted or molded, she is a gift from God. So, this means that she cannot be bought nor sold in the realm of the physical. Therefore, only the men who are GODREADYMADE can have and recognize this gift.

Cabi1:
am still wondering how will someone know
easily ..... because women can pretend for Africa

I hate it when men are powerless before women. As surely as the sun rises and sets like clockwork, men will always have the upper hand when it comes to games and strategy. Women can only succeed over you if you've not mastered the beast (you) yet. Women succeed using our weaknesses but we succeed using our superior logic, our fortitude and resolve.

The only times I got played by women was when I literally elevated them above me. Same goes for any other man out there.

No woman can deceive you unless you are mesmerized by her beauty and presence.

Women are actually terrible pretenders. They constantly hope that we don't find them out. They bank on our blindness.

Cabi1:
what if she lies that she is a virgin ??
Because women will surely hide some things form you....

You're a MAN.

Once you are bent you discovering truth and your mental clarity is not obscured by her beauty and prospects of sex, If a woman is lying, you will know. YOU WILL KNOW.

ireneidiva:
Anybody with a different opinion is a dumb 'biatch'? Your home training is classic.

Wrong.

You said something a dumb person would say and so I pointed it out.

There's nothing wrong with having an opinion, unless it goes against law, order and design. Your cringeworthy 'opinion', goes against it.

What you spewed out was shameless godlessness.

In case you have not realized it, men and women are NOT equal.

The way you quoted scripture to substantiate your 'opinion', was nauseating to say the least.

If you don't know something to be factual, research on it first before declaring it in public as your opinion. Some kid might read it and forever transform into a degenerate.

Cabi1:
okay wat of the cases ave been hearing of the ladies having previous abortions and it has affected her womb nkorj
How will the man Know??.

Prayerfully investigate.

Question the woman. Are you a virgin? How many men have you slept with? Have you previously had any abortions? Ask her these questions. Don't be the fool that said 'I never saw it coming'. The answer will be revealed to you if you actually seek it.

Secondly, make peace with your own conscience. If you've gotten a woman pregnant and you led her to abort...what you sow is what you reap. But then again, any degenerate who pushes for his concubine to abort will not have enough sense to ponder the ramifications of his past misgivings; neither will it cross his mind that a huge possibility exists that the women he will eventually want to marry might no longer be anatomically disposed bearing children.

Cabi1:
please oo
before marriage how can a young man know if his wife-to-be/fiance is fertile or not(dat is weda she can bear children or not
To avoid stories that touch the heart...

You might not get it, but people don't make babies, babies are given.

When the D meats the P, u don't know what's happening inside the womb. It's all concealed from the eyes of men, so that they will fear God and not be boastful.

Nobody is fertile nor Infertile. Children are given or not given. Therefore, you don't need to know whether she or he is fertile or not. Have faith for the children you will expect and they will be given.

ireneidiva:
Women are already equal to men.' Male and female he created and called them Adam'. Well, you can add it if it will help you sleep well this night. Bye

Stop

Being

A

Dumb

Biatch

omonnakoda:
All this sounds like textbook stuff very far from reality

The VAST MAJORITY of people,men and women just manage to get by living an ordinary unremarkable life.
A life based on DAILY INCOME.

That idea of BECOMING SOMEBODY sounds good on paper maybe 1 in 10000 Nigerians achieve that economic status of BECOMING SOMEBODY

So okada riders,bus conductors and such like should not marry?

Those are the real Nigerians not Dangote.
In southern Nigeria most of our mothers hustled to feed their families not waiting for one husband who is SOMEBODY


Reality is different from motivation speaking world

This is hardly a motivational discourse.

If you will, inferences about universal design, law and order can be drawn from what I've said. Please understand that you live in a world that consists because of some kind of design. If men and women are able to align themselves with these edicts, they will have more fulfilling lives. The reason why you sound so sour about your moms in the south hustling and not waiting for their (underperforming) husbands is because the latter are unaware of these designs (as outlined), and therefore incapable of obeying their concomitant principles towards being veritable husbands to their wives.

Also,

Being 'somebody' isn't as outlandish and unattainable as you have made it out to be. Being 'somebody' your wife can look up to, admire and submit to isn't as much about being a man of means as much as it a mental disposition and lifestyle. It is premised on being spiritually grounded towards a fruitful and established life. Most spiritual people, live as though they aren't in the flesh. You, the conductors and okada riders are very well able to be 'somebody' if only you decide to change your minds and act out the change. Law, design and order never fail. This isn't really hard to understand nor is this just mere motivation-speak. If you think I'm b s ing, test these laws for yourself.

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

Goddamn.

First off. In so much as I have not heard the other side, I have a strong witness in me that your narrative is sincere. This is the only thing about your post I will applaud.

Everyone here is trying to advise you on what you should have done or can do. They don't understand your problem. They can't because they didn't experience what you experienced nor do they see what you see. They also don't know very much about how this world and it's aspects were designed.

I won't sympathize with your plight, neither will I tell you what to do. I will however give you some 'mental keys' to unlock your understand as to what happened, as well as some principles to live by.

1. Women, by design CANNOT love. CANNOT = incapability given lack of adequate tools or equipment to perform a task or an action. What is Love? God is Love. Love is when one is weak and his or her partner is able to contain the former. Love is not reciprocal. If it were it wouldn't be love. by design, only a man is CAPABLE of love. That's you. The only way a woman can love a man (the way a man loves a woman) is if she is filled with God (love). This goes against the grain of the feminine. Principle: a woman who fears God is the most excellent of women. She is rare and your wife isn't her. Women are transactional by design. She will only submit (admit she's under) you, if you supply her needs. Selah.

Your father was supposed to teach you this.

2. Bearing ALL the responsibilities of a home is ENTIRELY on your shoulders. This is, also, according to design. If you're not doing it, your wife will never submit to you (admit she's under you) and she will act accordingly- disrespect you and cheat on you. That's her design. Principle: bear all the responsibilities of the home while she keeps the home. This is order. There will be harmony and she will be happy.

Your father was supposed to teach you this.

3. ALL Women are hypergamous by design. She can't submit to you if she's better than you in anyway. Seeing that money symbolizes power to a woman, if she has more of it than you, she WILL cheat on you, most likely with a man who is 'better' than you. This is a reflex action for her. Principle: Always be better than your woman. ALWAYS. You can either be improving faster than her or you can destroy her progress completely and keep her at home, while making her comfortable.

Your father was supposed to teach you this.

4. Very important: A woman has more glory than a man in this world. You probably never realized this but as far as progress in this world is concerned, a woman will have more power and privileges over a man if you put them at par from the onset. A woman will make more money than a man if they are mates. A woman is better looking than a man from the begining. She will grow faster than man. She will command more favor than a man. This is by design. A woman has all the power in this world and she will submit it to a man whom she judges is better than her in every way. Principle: You MUST be 'GLORIFIED' before you marry. You must be 'something' before you marry, not hopeful to be, after the marriage. This is design. When I say be glorified, I mean be indestructible. Be GODREADYMADE. At this level, NOTHING can touch you because GOD himself would have forged you with his own hands. Meditate on this. To be GODREADYMADE, you must first go through a DIP. This is a crucible of flames and suffering that will refine you into 'Gold' at the end. Selah.

Even if your wife fears God, you CANNOT relax. A prudent wife is a gift from God. When God gives you a valuable asset, you still never get to relax. You work and develop yourself till you drop dead. This is order according to design. You were designed to work and grow forever. You still must totally dominate your life and hers.

It might be too late for your marriage to work out. Actually, once a wife sleeps with another man,
the marriage is dead. I would advise you to forgive her if she totally repents but I don't see that happening. Divorce her and move on. Live according to design. Be GODREADYMADE. If YHWH decides to gift you an actual wife, so be it. Otherwise, live for a purpose and let it define your life. Marriage is a calling, not a choice.

overdrive:
They for kuku sack them.

Trust ladies to always transform into dumb hoes when they get opportunities to better their lives.

Latashia:
I just hate guys like this.

Don't start what you cant complete.

I don't usually tell people off on NL but I will do it to you today.

First and foremost. FUCC YOU. I mean this with utmost respect for you, seeing that I don't know you.

Now, imagine a Nigeria filled with men like the OP. Men who pursue their purpose and take care of themselves first. Imagine that. In a world like this, which man will start what he cannot finish? Which man will give worthless women anything to start with? With men like the OP everywhere, women (like you) would probably be compelled to get enough education, character and self worth not to think that men owe them anything nor think that their bodies are cash cows. Finally, how many men started with you and didn't 'finish' what they started? You must hate many men. Don't point the finger at them. Please. Blame yourself for being extra idiotic for choosing men (in exchange for measly stipends)who won't 'finish' with you. You and every airhead who liked your comment and shared it, need to build some self-worth and self-esteem, instead of walking around with entitlement stuck up where the sun doesn't shine.

A sensible woman will NEVER behave like how the OP's girlfriend did. If she was in the least valuable to him, the thought of dumping her would have never crossed his mind during his restructuring phase. She made sure she got as much from him as possible while giving nothing in return because she had little to nothing to offer and she knew she wasn't wife material. I guess you are like her.

My objective with this is to make you uncomfortable with your mindset. I pray to God you repent today.

God bless you.

no one forced you to marry/date single mums. Your choice is not my business. I just said I am yet to find a tangible reasons for the stigma towards them.


You call her choices dumb,I call you dumb for your analogy

Granted.

his analogy wasn't exactly suitable for the point he is making but you need to understand that this isn't about stigmatising single moms/baby mamas.

NO ONE IS STIGMATISING THEM. Please be clear on this.

Single guys are simply refusing to date them. That's all.

AmuDimpka:
This is why Yoruba land is called brown roof republic...you keep showing it


Tufia

Please,

Take a second and read my post once again. Read it with the goal of 'seeing' my point.
Try please.
You totally misunderstood what I wrote.
I'll give you a hint. It isn't about economics nor buildings in south western Nigeria.

AmuDimpka:
As your name goes....oji amu ejighi ego....

Yoruba are smarter dealing with women
Igbo are smarter dealing with money


Division of labor...case settled

have you ever heard of a saying that goes like this?
"A fool and his money will soon part ways"

It goes without saying that if Igbo men will rather be smart with money than with women, then their wealth might not have going concern.

It is good if Igbo men will be smart with both money and women, laying an example for other Nigerians and not creating a spirit of entitlement in Nigerian women.

I reckon you are now able to see the flaw in your "economic strategy" of "division of labor".

Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

You sir are a reptilian sociopath.

You might not even know it.

Advice: You need to transform into a human being first and receive the love of Christ.

Good luck.

Lamanii22:
Awwwwwn... I'm really sorry about what you had to go through ma'am.... If your landlord keep humiliating your husband and he retaliates, your landlord would spill the beans... Maybe you should try and tell your landlord you'd appreciate it if he wouldn't harass your husband anymore....



Mehn I wish you had done it with another person entirely... Not someone that lives close.... Not even your landlord...

Your Logic is legendary. Female logic. Hoe Logic.

tot:
But some of the corrections you made are alternative words or phrases to those he usJed, doesn't make his incorrect.

Indeed.

In those instances, the writer wasn't incorrect in his communication- he got his point across quite satisfactorily. However, his choice of words made his manner of expression superfluous and his write up, unengaging.

The beauty and strength of written english is established by accurate communication, using appropriate diction and phrasing.

Veebliz:
Some grammatical mistakes you make and things you say wrong.


Hello, everyone. Before I shoot, I’d like you to read this:

After learning some Spanish and having to correct a lot many of English errors in WhatsApp groups, I’ve I discovered that some of us say some things wrong incorrectly. Some like saying things like[b]-[/b]“English is not our language”,“Who English epp? (Who does English help?)”, “Does it add money to my account?”-especially when you correct them, but Most of these these statements are saidmade out of ignorance. If English is not your language[b],[/b] why do you use it? English has helped a lot many of people. YES! It has. Why else do we use English to teach at school is it taught in schools? In As a matter of fact, more research has been done in English than in any other language,and 98% of published scientific materials published today are in English. I’m not saying that other languages are inferior, but the truth is that, some people do need to stop being ignorant and face it realize that English really DOES matter… and YES, – it can add money swell to your account. in so many ways; you[/s]. Think about it.

Yeah Also, I feel like it’s important for me to add this: I’ve come across some Nigerians who speak English as their first a native[/b]tongue; [b]and I do as well ,. So, the idea of saying notion that English is not our language doesn’t make any sense at all isn't sensible. I have no problem with anybody speaking any indigenous language.

The English language is not a foreign language to in Nigeria,. It has, over timemixedintegrated with our cultures vernacular in a unique way, and has therefore has become ours – one of our languages. Even though I don’t speak the language of my indigenous tribe language, I still have some of their cultural values instilled in me, so that I cherish and respect them.


Thanks for reading.

Veebliz.

Just thought I should make some corrections.
I didn't do all of it but I'm sure you get the message.

revolt:
I'll give my life and whole savings for some good boobs. God really thought well while creating those sexy things on some women. Cup em from back pesin fit pour
...

Simping isn't easy.

Most women are NOT as beautiful as they portray to the world. They are very selective with the angle and features of themselves they want you to see.

Most women would not last up 30 seconds in the mind of a man, without make up.

Most women don't look nice when naked.

Most women women are not fine, plain and simple

A truly beautiful woman is hard to find and if you do find her, she wouldn't be on an electronic screen, consciously displaying fake beauty and tired tits.

Suzzi23:
Hi guys. Please I need advice.

There is this guy in my department. Let's call him Joe. He is good looking and very intelligent. He also has this very nice voice and good vocabulary. Initially we were just normal casual classmates, we greet, exchange notes and all that, nothing serious. I've always found him attractive but have not found him special in any way because I've met lots of guys like him in my University.

But few months ago he started becoming more friendly towards me. We got talking and we realized we shared a lot in common. He asked me if I was single and I told him I was. This was the truth because I wasn't dating anyone then.

Few days after another guy I was very close to asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed. I'm in love with this guy. He is very jovial, intelligent and he knows how to treat me well. I know he loves me because I've known him for a while and he has treated me with love, affection and respect. It's always fun being around him and I enjoy his company.

Despite now being in a relationship, I still continued spending time with Joe. We shared a lot of deep intimate info about ourselves with each other. I have never felt more comfortable talking to someone before. Talking to him always made me feel good. I felt I could be vulnerable with him. He was very honest and didn't hide the dark aspects of himself. He wasn't the type to pretend he was a good person. And he wasn't. He had done a lot of bad things in the past and he wasn't afraid to talk to me about them. And although this might sound weird I liked the fact that he wasn't the typical "moral individual" I was used to meeting. I liked the fact that he had a dark personality that only me knew about. He said things to me that made me begin to explore myself and my sexuality in ways I didn't even imagine that I could. He was always fond of teasing me and never hesitated to correct me if I did anything wrong. I loved that kind of honesty.

As we talked more Joe opened up to me that he was attracted to me and had feelings for me. He would flirt with me and I'd try my best not to flirt back but I enjoyed his flirting and I enjoyed his company. He asked me if I felt the same way about him and I was honest and I said I had feelings for him, because I did. He is an attractive guy and even though I have a boyfriend I can't help being attracted to him..

He then asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I was already dating someone. He was surprised by my response. He told me he was under the impression that I was single and that's why he had gotten so close and intimate with me. But he didn't appear angry or sad. He even told me my bf was lucky to have me.

The problem now is that since that day he hasn't talked to me. When I see him in class, he doesn't even act like I exist. He doesn't reply my messages, doesn't pick up my calls and doesn't check up on me. Throughout this lockdown he hasn't even texted me once. This is unlike him. I feel very bad about the whole thing. It's almost like our relationship didn't mean anything to him and I didn't mean anything to him. I want to still be friends with him.

IF this write up is true...

Not to be sexist nor generalising but this is the reason why (if it were up to me), young women would NEVER go to the University.

One would think that the so called citadel of learning were a kingdom in which actual self development may be fostered but not for a lot of ladies. Take your time to read this post and try to imagine how deelply committed this lady is to developing into a hoe during her prime years of feminine power. Observe her words and how her soul oozes of sensuality. It's fascinating and tragic at the same time. By the time of her graduation, she might be unable to bond with an actual husband.

Tragic.

1stola:
You have no point!
You've made no sense.

Ok. Fine.

This thread is for people who have faith in the Christ and the Bible. People on this thread genuinely believe and want to get it right.

Your post communicated in no uncertain terms that you don't believe in the bible. Your tone even bordered only mockery of the bible.

If you don't believe in Christ nor the Bible, why were u commenting in a message thread for Christian believers?? You could have either remained quiet or been absent.

1stola:
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If you can not make your point without facts and without saying "THE BIBLE SAYS", then you're only making stupîd assumptions just like the people who wrote the "story book".

You're on the wrong thread pal.

Quite frankly.

Grandamante:
Married women don't always ask for money. So, many of them are doing it for the pleasure not for financial gains. Those of them who are good financially, especially older ones, would even pamper the boy finish.

If a married woman makes herself available to u for sex, and it is not against ur principle, f@ck the hell out of her. U don't ve any moral obligation towards her husband. Karma won't affect u. It is her who took an oath of faithfulness to her husband infront of God and man not u. U re only a passerby.

Wow.

You sound like Satan tempting Jesus in the wilderness during his hour of fleshly weakness.

"If you are the Son of God," he said, "throw yourself down. For it is written: "'He will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.'"

The Poster is also saying...

Put fire on your laps, it won't burn you...
Go close to the venomous snake and pick it up, it won't bite you?

Get behind me for a moment Mr. posterMr. Satan so that I can save some men from you.

Young men, listen up

Proverbs 5:3-9
For the lips of a strange(whorish married) woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:

Proverbs 7:24-27
Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

So far 217 people upvoted his post. Most of them are probably young men. That is scary and sad. I feel bad for this generation of men. Men who will prefer to throw their lives away to death than make basic fleshly sacrifices, delay gratification and enjoy later.

This poster said there is no Karma for this behaviour and the scriptures above say there is.
Which one will you accept?

You don't know the poster nor his life trajectory but you know the scriptures and the time tested principles and rules they provide. You also have seen many men on the internet who slept with married women and paid heavy prices for it.

Which one will you accept, young men?

I strongly suggest you follow the way of understand and life.

karma = law and order = sowing and reaping = God in heaven.

Young men, the poster is telling you to "throw YOURSELVES down"!!! Will you do it? God won't catch you. I assure you. You can't mock nor test God. A fool says in his heart, "There is no God". I'm not calling the poster and his 217 upvoters fools, but the shoe actually fits and they are all rocking the same pair.

Proverbs 21:16
The man that wandereth out of the way of understanding shall remain in the congregation of the dead.

I'm not a pastor and this is not a preaching. This isn't religion. This is success and life.

Master the beast and be GODREADYMADE.

Scaredd:
Good day everyone,

I'm the guy that likes to flirt with women (trying so hard to change). Sometime last year November, I hand some sex encounters with 4 different women (2 unprotected) and by first week of December I started experiencing some symptoms which include;

1.White tongue
2. Occassional diarrhoea (watery, oily and formy stool ever since then. I feel sudden need to ease like twice or thrice a day).
3. A gradual weight loss (I eat very well, mainly fruits and proteins with carbohydrates on average)
4. Occasional hand tremor.
5. Occasional body vibration and fast heart rate.

I used to smoke marijuana and take alcohol, but stopped. I also masturbated for about 5-6yrs, then stopped last year which added to flirting with women. I've not masturbated since then, but still take alcohol (mainly vodka).

I went to a university teaching hospital, met with the consultant and explained to her just as I'm doing here (she was wowed!). She then directed me to do HIV test (came back negative), H. Pylori test (also came out negative) and another test (I've forgotten the name).

She then prescribed, nystatin oral suspension and vitamin B Complex which I've finished taking, yet no change. Meanwhile, I've taken fluconazole, antibacteria and probiotics of late.

I'm waiting for the lockdown to be lifted to go back, but before then, (who knows when this whole problem will end) felt i might get some help here.

Please Doctors, what could be wrong with me. Especially this diarrhoea and white tongue. My stomach is always rumbling after eating. Please help.

Thank you.

Pictures of my tongue before and after brushing

Listen to me carefully.

Ignore every clown in this thread.
Ignore every uninformed person on this thread
Ignore every person telling you to go for tests.

Most importantly, ignore every doctor here too. Their medical training (not their fault) will simply lead u to purchase ineffective drugs that will prolong your predicament.

Your body has already told you there is a problem
Our bodies have a very intelligent feedback system to point out the mistakes we are making and how to correct them.

If you knew how your body works, you would know what to do and your desperation would never flow into this thread.

I have your solution. DM me asap. it is free but knowledge comes at a price.

Don't wait up.

Preshieben:
have u ever had passion for something??
Okay see me in the next 3yrs
I'll be a successful model

I don't know u but I will do you a big favour.

So Good they can't ignore you by Cal Newport

Go and get this book and read it. If u can't, send me Ur email and I will send it to you.

Please read this book.

Preshieben:
So i was actually thinking about peagantry and modelling
I decided to try when the opportunity shown up on February
Picked a form
Contested for face of valentine Akwa ibom
Tried my little best
Surprisingly,I came second out of 22 fine babes
I was thrilled
And the experience was wow so I decided to go into modelling fully maybe after this lockdown
Collected the price and sent it to mom

I asked for her permission to go into modelling
She said no
I have passion for that stuff and I can't disobey mom
Any Advice from my elders??

If your mom says not go, why do you still request the opinion of people who don't matter to you??

Are you seeking validation and attention?

Do you want people to confirm to you that you have what it takes to be a model?

Will nairalanders' validation of your good looks assure you that you can go for the modeling career and that your mom is simply playa-hating?

Did you send the prize money to ur mom to manipulate her into allowing you to do what you want?

Do you think getting runner up position in ONE face modeling contest proves that you have all it takes to pursue a career in modeling?

If the answer to all these questions is a resounding YES, then it's safe for me to say that you have self esteem issues that you need to deal with asap. You also need to develop more self awareness to know your, strengths, weaknesses, purpose and where you fit in the grand scheme of things.

You most importantly need to understand what a modeling career entails.

A modeling career will utterlly destroy you because you are unaware of what it takes to succeed in it. Most models don't make enough to take care of themselves. The ones that do, signed up to take numerous dicks through all their orifices and to do other unmentionable things. If you are prepared to do likewise, then you Indeed have self esteem issues as I conjectured and you need to take my advice and become more self aware. Your mom probably said no for this reason. Even if she had other reasons, she did the right thing as your veritable elder and better. My guess is she knows that women who model have questionable morals. Regardless, she wants the best for you.

Get some skills, valuable skills. Create multiple streams of income and do something meaningful with your youthfulness and power. Be an asset. Get married, have kids. Your 30s, 40s and 50s will thank you. Trust me.

Forget about modeling and stop soliciting advice and opinions from people who don't know you nor care about you, especially regarding critical things like career.

MadeINchenzen2:
There will be global shortage of food. Hunger is coming !!!

Mark my Word

Hunger is coming to where. Nigeria? Because of a global shortage of food?

Really?

You are quite uninformed. Have you been to local markets around this country? There is a food glut in every state and this will last forever.

Why?

Nigerians are not hungry because of a food shortage. They are so because of purchasing power and the lack of it. Most Nigerians have weak purchasing power because they have weak value creating/producing power, so that they depend on the benevolence of relatives and benefactors. The money supply in Nigeria is already excessive. If 60% of Nigerians go to work and engage in value creating activities while the Government closes the borders from importation, the quantity of money would then flow optimally and purchasing power would improve across all social strata. More importantly, farmers would farm more and supply more food to more people who now have stronger purchasing power. The cost of food would increase in the short run and stabilize over time.

This is an ideal situation.

In reality, Nigerians wont still be affected by the global shortage (should it happen) because we have too much land and too many people who will farm with comparatively smaller resources that their foreign counterparts. Things would still remain the same and poor Nigerians will continue to be hungry if they don't get into productive work. Be that as it may, people who are productive in Nigeria will still feed those who aren't and they won't stop because of culture and religion - 2 things most would rather die than contravene.