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Sholmakem:
Don't take any sleeping tablet because once the drug stops working you'll go back to your sleeplessness.

Look for a fresh an unripe plantain , wash very well ( don't bother to peal it ) cook for a while ,what you need is just the purple coloured water. Take a shot morning day and night and come back to share your testimony.

Stop pressing phone or watching movies when it's late nights , forget your worries everything is going to be alright.

Please tell us what compounds this cooked unripe plantain releases that helps sleep.

emerged01:
You need to find solution to the issue bothering your mind to get a deep sleep.

Amen.

This is the most important thing.

It might be in her kidneys (fried adrenals) and excess cortisol in the blood caused by high stress or caffeine consumption . It might be insulin resistance, or overexposure to light during the night time- all three are capable of inhibiting her pineal gland from producing melatonin (signaling the brain that it's sleep time) It might be a messed up circadian rhythm that needs resetting (very likely what OP is dealing with). It might be late night consumption of heavy foods that keep her body temperature up at night or a messed gut microbiome that's need to be replenished with flora. It might be a lack of 'electricity' due to magnesium and potassium deficiency.

All these things affect sleep and should be diagnosed and treated naturally with herbs and habit modification and not with pharmaceuticals.

Nappyhair:
This is what helped me, ROUTINE, I was once like you even worse sef, but I cultivated the habit of sleeping exactly 9pm , at first it wasn’t rosy , sometimes I would lie on that bed from that 9 to 5 sometimes, but I didn’t stop with that Routine, once it’s 8, I take my night bath, eat, brush my teeth, then make my bed, lie on it, by 8;30 , by 9 I try to get some
Sleep, and please, how do you lie? I think positioning matters too, I always sleep on my left side , I read somewhere that it aids a better sleep , been doing all these for 2years now, and have never broken it for once

There’s something I notice about the human body, it respects consistency and routine, , reason for doing all the above, taking bath, eating , then brushing , is to prepare the mind of what’s to come, the mind being that element that needs to be quiet down , it’s a long game, your body catches up at time goes on. I hope this helps,

You are right about the body and it's proclivity for routine, however if the body has some underlying issues that are not diagnosed and healed, this is desired consistency may not be achieved in the first place. Your insomnia was corrected because you corrected a bad habit over time. Good on you. The OP needs to know the root cause of her insomnia and deal with it accordingly.

Fairboy:
I used to experience same sleepless night as you do. Someone advised l should take a sachet or 2 tablespoons of MILO every night before l sleep and l tried it and since then l have been enjoying a sound sleep of 6-7 hours.

Give it a try and thank me later.

It worked because, the sugar and tryptophan MILO cause caused you to relax and reduced your sleep latency. Will not work for someone who is insulin resistant.

HacheNoire:
Do reasonable shots of either Vodka, Tequila, Gin, Rum, Whiskey, Mezcal or Brandy before bed time. You will sleep like a baby

This must be the dumbest advise I've ever seen posted on nairaland.

NairaGPT:
name 10 intervention programs that you know someone who has benefited from. Scrap that name 1

I work as director in a Federal parastatal with offices Nationwide. All what this parastatal does is pro-poor programs and they've been doing it for almost 40 years. These programs are done regularly and don't have any special names and don't appear on network news. They are more state and local govt related.

NairaGPT:
It would be beneficial if they were intervention programs but can you point out just one? No. For people living in extreme poverty, even small changes in economic conditions can have a significant impact on their daily lives and well-being. It’s crucial for policymakers to be mindful of the potential consequences and implement measures to address the needs of the most economically disadvantaged during such rate hikes.

As I said you and many others aren't aware of these schemes and programs. There are many of them on the state and local level. I'm not crusading for the government or anything, just stating facts. The point is, the hike won't affect the poor any more than they are affected with comparatively lower interest rates. It affects the big guys mostly.

eneyoduke:
Does this increase the interest for fix deposit

It should. It may depend on the volume of funds you want to park into the FD. You might get better rates with incremental commitments.

Blackscorpion1j:
Economist in the house...What is the implications of this CBN decision on the common MAN in NIGERIA....Please no insult...I just want to learn...

The CBN prime rate has no direct impact on the poor. If it has, it's very implicit and negligible. It's impact will be more pronounced on large manufacturing and production operations of conglomerates and multinationals, increasing their short term liabilities (banks would rather borrow these elements than to the poor). Institutional money managers and large finance houses such as pension funds, banks and insurance companies will react to the hike too. Specifically, the prime rate hike is likely to initiate a strong short term sell off in the NSE all share index that may cool off the current bullish trend in the equities market, considering that big investors and money managers will see economic sense in rebalancing their portfolios in favor or fixed income assets.The poor already pay a premium for TRYING to access loan funds from financial institutions and so a hike in the CBN prime rate might not change their ability to borrow in the short term.

The hike is very likely to mop up excess liquidity in the economy that will be moped up by the fiscal sector and channeled to government programs and social intervention schemes, resulting in the empowerment and employment of the poor. The government, on all levels support the poor through welfare programs that many aren't aware of. Employment of the poor is usually generated through recurrent government projects and special public works. This might be an overall win for the little guys.

NairaGPT:
The effect of this policy:

1. Borrowing becomes costlier: Poor individuals who rely on loans or credit for various needs may face higher interest rates on their loans. This can lead to increased repayment burdens and make it more difficult for them to access credit for essential expenses or investments.

2. Reduced spending power: As borrowing costs rise, overall consumer spending may decrease. This can lead to higher prices for goods and services, affecting the purchasing power of the poor and potentially making it harder for them to afford basic necessities.

3. Impact on employment: If businesses face higher borrowing costs due to increased interest rates, they may be less likely to expand or invest in new projects. This can result in slower job growth or even job losses, affecting the employment prospects of the poor.

Consider this:

The CBN prime rate has no direct impact on the poor. If it has, it's very implicit and negligible. It's impact will be more pronounced on large manufacturing and production operations of conglomerates and multinationals, increasing their short term liabilities (banks would rather borrow these elements than to the poor). Institutional money managers and large finance houses such as pension funds, banks and insurance companies will react to the hike too. Specifically, the prime rate hike is likely to initiate a strong short term sell off in the NSE all share index that may cool off the current bullish trend in the equities market, considering that big investors and money managers will see economic sense in rebalancing their portfolios in favor or fixed income assets.The poor already pay a premium for TRYING to access loan funds from financial institutions and so a hike in the CBN prime rate might not change their ability to borrow in the short term.

By the way, diminished consumer spending isn't supposed to cause inflationary pressure in the economy as you pointed out. Retailers will only suffer some more if they put up their prices during times of reduced spending.

On the flip side, the hike is very likely to mop up excess liquidity in the economy that will be moped up by the fiscal sector and channeled to government programs and social intervention schemes, resulting in the empowerment and employment of the poor. The government, on all levels support the poor through welfare programs that many aren't aware of. Employment of the poor is usually generated through recurrent government projects and special public works. This might be an overall win for the little guys.

Enddy50ty:
There are no laid down rules for a successful marriage.
Just marry your best friend, someone you can go the extra mile for, someone you can confide in, someone whom you can tolerate his or her bullsh*t.

You are wrong.

This is the reason why people keep their brains outside of the decision process behind getting married.

Listen.

Marriage is man and woman cooperating to create things. Period. This cooperation is like a business partnership in which each party provides a form of value that COMPLEMENTS the partners own. This combination will usually yield a level of profit, over an above the initial combined volume that produced it. Specifically, sperm on it's own cannot create a child and a woman's eggs neither. However, the combination of the two creates a child. A whole new human being.

This is more than just an outcome of marriage. It's the principle of marriage. PROFIT by COOPERATION. Every marriage should be PRODUCTIVE by principle and there are many things in the world to be productive in, not just child bearing. It is profit that encourages business going concern. Similarly, it's the cooperative fruitfulness (in various dimensions) of marriage that encourages the willing commitment of both genders to remain in the marriage. There are many couples out there without the fruit of the womb who are collectively productive in other areas and are happily married.

If productiveness by cooperation is the goal of marriage, why do people refuse to approach the selection on their spouses without this awareness? Why do most people focus on irrelevant things when deciding whom to partner with? I know very smart people who made unintelligent choices for a spouse. Why would a smart business person refuse to be entrepreneurial in his or her approach to marriage but make the most profitable business decisions?

We've been lied to.

There is an onslaught against the marriage principle and the god of this world is behind this. He conveniently took this Godly principle and turned it into an institution that is incompatible with the human spirit. This is why most people on this thread feel the same way about marriage and what it holds for people who dare to get into it, especially for men.

Men should be educated and taught about why
and how to take on a wife. Bearing in mind that women will be choosing them.

1. Men should look for women who complement their vision. This is because, between the two, he is equiped with the innate resources to provide logic, leadership and trajectory for the marriage. Most men simply are not aware that they are to lead the courting process with their vision and not their social status or bank accounts. A female with a knack for administration is more likely to buy into the vision of visionary entrepreneur or leader and be inspired by marrying him than she would for administrator at heart like her. This should go without saying but it hardly goes.

2. Most women today are hyper masculine. They want to be the leaders and visionaries in the marriage. They want to advance their own agendas in the marriage as opposed to seeking for a man with a vision that inspires them to engage him with value that COMPLEMENTS his vision. She would rather present sexual value, (going for the low hanging fruit of cheap attraction) than actually putting in the work to be actually valuable to the man of her dreams.

Emotions should mostly be temporarily retired while choosing a spouse. I'm more likely to tolerate and happily provide everything for a woman who's priority is my wellbeing and growth than one who isn't mindful and focused on the marriage principle of creating value by working with me. Even if she's my best friend.

This is how to apply logic to business partnership or marriage.

ibrutex:
To the married men and women in the house , let's give them some, not on papers experience which you will never be told before marriage...


Some of these I learnt through a friend....


A) If you (husband) have 5k and the woman has 3k , sum it together in marriage arithmetic , total cash available in that house is 5k, thanks.

B) As a man be prepared to enter kitchen, expecially those early morning cooking, or else be ready to visit mama put..

Keep it rolling......

What does a man really stand to benefit then. It's as if he is better off being single

Lightened:
Cos I'm a prayer warrior with a great culinary skills. My house cleaning skill also is top notch. Infact, I'm a home maker.

Good. You're the smartest women on this thread.

You will go to heaven for this.

Ladies take copious notes

Men don't need all the nonsense you think represents value to us.

We need y'all to stay at home and make us your career. Yes you read it right. Make your man your job, your career, your number one priority.

Support his vision, his health and his status. Your primary goal is to optimize him. PERIOD. Pray for him to be protected and to move forward financially. Prepare nutritious food for him. Encourage him to lift weights. Keep the house nice and peaceful for him to relax.

This is what men need.

nkemjacob2:
Any lady that can respect my feelings and emotions.
A lady filled with understanding /wisdom
A lady with a vision, leadership qualities, respect (very crucial)
A lady ready to learn, compromise.
A lady that knows God and allow God to pass through her..

If you have these qualities. Pls DM. Let talk. It is u I am waiting for

You have great expectations from a woman.

A woman doesn't think, she feels and she does it with her vaginna (emotions). Don't expect her to be mentally creative when it matters the most. Don't expect vision from a woman, that's your domain. Leadership is yours too. She would never take up the responsibility to lead. Women don't care about God, only men do. Women worship themselves.

Look for a kind, cooperative and submissive woman who actually desires you. Some women might desire you but are anything but compliant and cooperative. Some are cooperative but don't want you.

IyanuDeb:
Lmao, almost everyone must have some sort of good quality,the reason for many failed marriages today is because of the ability of people to show only their good qualities before marriage and after it, they reveal the bad ones which will overweight any other good quality

Exactly.

This is the expertise of the female.

She pretends to be valuable without having any actual value. E.g Make up for a bland face, push up bra for a pair of tired tits etc. Good marketing for a falling stock.

She is like a black widows (spider specie) that attracts the male into marriage, with her web of lies and deception only to destroy him with her venom later.

fyzaila:
I'm a gem, diamond, my kind is so rare.

be specific. What is so rare and valuable about you?

Do you know the amount of work that goes into acquiring diamond?

Work builds value into a person, place or thing.

What work has been applied to you to be so rare?

immortalcrown:
Your question is very necessary but should not have been directed to only the female gender. Brothers also need to say what they will offer their wives.

If not bias and hate for a balanced judgement, why are people attacking me because of the above paragraph?

People are attacking you because you said a foolish thing. Now get wisdom. A stick for the back of fools...

1. Women choose men and not the other way round
2. If women choose and not men, then men are the prize.
3. If men are the prize, then women who see the inherent value in the man should value up in order get the prize. To get any prize, you must be better than the competition. Therefore, women should work to get the best man for themselves.

Normaly, If a man is useless, no woman would want him. Therefore, he won't get chosen.

Men work and become the prize to be chosen. Women never work for anything, they simply show up with ass, tits and make up. Work generates value. So men are more valuable between the two genders. MEN ALREADY ARE THE VALUE BEING OFFERED. WE ARE THE OFFERING. Women don't offer much in comparison.

Your answer is all the more poignant, seeing that you're a male.

Repent.

Trueigbo:
Hello Nairalanders

My mother was diagnosed of brain tumor about 3 years ago though she is old we are skeptical about going for surgery.

The sickness affected her muscles as she finds it difficult to walk and chew food. It takes her time to eat food and end up eating very small quantity.

What can we give her to increase her appetite because I strongly believe she will get strength if she eat very well. We have spoken to doctor who insists we do the surgery as the only way out.

You will struggle with what I'm about to say:

The last thing your dear mother should be doing is eating. That brain tumor is simply her body speaking. Her body is saying 1. My lymphatic system is severely clogged up (from all the mucus forming foods that has been fed to me for years) and needs draining. 2. My way way of dealing with this (in order to survive) is to excrete all the mucus into the brain in sac of acidosis that doctors call a brain tumor. It's in a sac to protect the brain from high PH of the acidity that will fry the neurons and cause other complications and progressive death. This so called tumor will affect my well being but creating it is much more better than dying. However if I don't correct the thing that caused it in the first place, death might follow.

Read this is till you get wisdom.

Solution: please pay attention brother.

1. Have your mother go through a 7-day herb and juice fast.
2. Get some Herbs and astringent fruits that do nothing but open elimination pathways in the body and drain the lymphatic system. Get herbs that support kidneys, liver and nervous system. Get on net and do the research. Pay the price by seeking wisdom.
3. You will definitely see her get better
4. Continue for another 3 weeks and she will be healed.
5. CHANGE HER DIET into one based on plants and fruits and whole foods.

A surgery will drain your pockets without guaranteeing her survival. Also, extracting the tumor artificially might tamper with her neurology and this might affect the quality of her life post surgery. You don't want this, trust me.

To doctors and the medical pharmaceutical industrial complex, your mother's health is nothing but a business opportunity. Don't indulge them.

God made herbs and fruits for the healing of the nations.

You've prayed in Jesus name and this is the answer. Now get to work.

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar

Live and lets live moda fuckkers
Flog any of my female relatives and watch me knock your head off your neck

These are some of the things that come alongside civilization
Accept it or fuckkk off

That is how I was walking with my two baby sisters in New Benin markets and one idiot was about to cause awareness and call them names because they were on a skimpy, diaphanous and translucent outfit
I walked up to the moda fuckker and looked him straight in the eye and say I' mma punch someone in the face..balling'up my fist right 🤛 about now...no one fuckkk with my baby sisters and go scot free

I work in an office and habitually appear in a corporate attires during the week.

When people see me, they recognize me immediately as an executive who works in an office.

If I were to, all of a sudden, appear in a police uniform; those whom I know would immediately request to know if I've begun a new career with law enforcement, upon seeing me.

In society, we are first identified by our 'uniforms' (since most of us are decent enough not to go out naked). We are addressed as we are dressed- many would say.

Your passion and protectiveness about your sisters is commendable. However, if your sisters are wearing a 'uniform' that conveys to the world that they are women of questionable morals, should it surprise you that people would see and treat them as such? If the provoked person whom you almost pummeled, instead of reacting the way he did, proceeded to proposition your sisters for a sexual relationship, would your disdain remain? Afterall, we are in a modern age as you put it- this supposedly gives everyone the liberality to dress how they like and to approach women as they like. I assure you that all the people who saw your sisters appearance that day, probably felt the same way as the man you almost punched or were moved to lust after them. None of these outcomes will favour their reputation as ladies.

I don't know you but I am sure that you don't want anyone harassing your sisters for indecent dressing as much as you don't want them being treated like prostitutes.

Advise you sisters to dress in a way that inspires respect for them from those who behold them. This will help their fragile self-esteem far more than your nod of approval to their provocative sense of fashion. Also, it would have been a superior and proactive demonstration of love and protectiveness to them, than any form of reactive belligerence from you in their favor.

P.S This reply is meant to be constructive.

OmoGomesIlorin:
I meet this lady in December 2019 and by 2020 we had the opportunity to connect with each other on a friendship level. From my interactions with her and observations, she is cool-headed and calm, intelligent and ambitious. Her skills match someone I dream of marrying. She is from Anambra, state - Umuoji

However, as a low-budget guy, I am weighing my options due to stereotype of demanding for a gargantuan bride price.

I want to know if what people are saying online is true or exaggerated


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Check for the following:
1. Is she a virgin? Like a virgin virgin. She's not been so much as kissed by another man.
2. Is she young? Below 24.
3. Is she from comfortable home. Doesn't come from poor and greedy parents.

If it's a yes for all three point, do anything to marry her. Get your money up and marry her.

If you can't get your money up to marry her Deceive her and get her pregnant. You will PAY a heavier price though.

Go and get your money up. If you do, you might not get the quality of girl you need as a man.

Men with money never find great wives.

Women with money don't make great wives.

Teeroyzimma:
Ok Americana

Don't be dumb

Nigerians just don't give a damn about this, clearly.

ChatGPT has improved my work by a great measure.

illicit:
It's a white pool party

Only 2 black people were invited

That's rascism

Elite

Still got it?

Kobojunkie:
1. Who is "mocking" men? And yes, even in marriage, man, woman... replaceable.

2. Again, the fact is not all women desire to have children, nor want them. Same with men. Not all men desire to have children not want them. And your ignorance of this simple fact has nothing to do with God since He, over 2000 years ago ,also informed you of this Truth..

3. I know enough about you to know you don't even know the God you claim to speak of and this because commonsense which He revealed to you over 2000 years ago, you don't even know of nor understand.

This is really funny.

Seriously, I really want you to understand. People are NOT replaceable. The world was designed and ordered in a set way. Everyone is unique, with a unique purpose. If people were replaceable then you might as well just farm people like cattle, with the sole purpose of reproducing. No purpose, no hopes, no dreams. Think.

Yes, not all desire to have children but most people DO. It's how it was designed. It's called procreation. 98% of men and women want to have sex and make children. This is why we are over 7 billion on earth and not 100million only. If you are asexual and don't want to have children, that's ok, but something caused that. You were not born like that.

You keep emphasizing my ignorance of what happened 2000 years ago. If you speak of Jesus Christ and his birth and death, and how he didn't have children, then I will tell you that he came to this world for that purpose to achieve it and he did. It is a good thing to deny yourself for the Kingdom and there is no error in that. Having children is not the end-all be-all. Granted. However, not many people will go down the road of the Christ. In fact, most won't. If the Creator, had a problem with His own system of procreation, I'm very sure he is powerful enough to do something about it, without our input. After all, He himself created it all.

Kobojunkie:
I think many of you go in to marriage thinking you become gods by it.

When you lived as a bachelor, did you not provide and at the same time take care of domestic chores? Why do you now pretend that marriage sets you above doing the same domestic chores, only this time, for your own home that you build with your wife?

I guess the problem is not entirely yours but also that of the self disrespecting woman who will allow you marry her as house help. Way too many women with very low sense of self out there.

You're really out to get me aren't you?

Please, try not to let your ideals and emotions cloud your understanding of how things actually work.

Men function (optimally) a certain way and so do women. I briefly described this in my post, if you cared to read the whole thing.

Many bachelors will confess to you that it's very hard to make a lot of money and concentrate on doing house chores regularly. Men are mostly 'out there'. Our first love is our work. We would rather 'go out' than remain at home, even if there is nothing wrong with doing our own house chores (in the absence of hired help) Please understand this. This is good, normal and self-respecting.

It is not likewise with most women.

You are different in the sense that you would opt not to go out there in favor of staying at home if you had the choice. A woman will always opt for the easy way out, the path of least resistance so to speak. If all is provided for her, her natural inclination is to take care of the home front and perform domestic duties like house chores. This is good, normal and self respecting.

If both parties, within the context of marriage, understand these basics and play their positions accordingly, only peace and happiness will ensue. The man will be optimized and provide optimally, seeing that he is in his natural habitat. Likewise the woman.

Somewhere along the line, someone lied to women and changed all the rules, as well as the natural habitat of both parties:

1. Women now think they should compete with men in the work place. Outside their own natural habitat.
2. Women now think a man should help them in their own natural habitat. Outside his own habitat.
3. The governmental system declared that women can survive in men's habitat and incentivized their migration.

Humans excel when they work in alignment with their natural configurations and within their natural habitat. A fish cannot climb a tree more than a monkey can dive and swim in the belly of the ocean.

This is why you and I are arguing today and right now.

Any wonders why marriages were happier and lasted longer than they do today?

Kobojunkie:
Leave God out of your foolishness abeg!

God talk say He created some Eunuchs from birth, some were made Eunuchs in this life and some chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom... if you believe the childless are somehow cursed, then you know nothing of God but delusions you have likely been fed with about Him.

Oh, because God made some eunuchs out of some men, you can come out here and flippantly mock men for being replaceable tools? Really?

You are a woman. A woman was designed to have babies. I don't know you, but I'm sure you want to have babies someday. To have a baby, you need a man- this is very important. If you feel men are replaceable objects then you really don't value having children, seeing that you wouldn't want to have them with just any man. Therefore, if men are replaceable, you may either decided to sleep with any man at all and have babies who will not know their father or you can have intercourse with yourself (which you can't). Either way, you're not moving forward really.

Men are not replaceable tools.

You said I know nothing about God. That's ok. You don't know me, so I won't comment on that. However, I know God gave you something called common sense and quite frankly, I feel like you're not making the best use of it.

sanchell:
whatever type of man you are . you are not doing me any favour . you are replaceable thank you

How disrespectful.

I hope God forgives you and you don't die childless.

However, if you are incorrigible, feel free to go Bleep yourself.