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Kobojunkie:
Isn't it of importance to consider important the reason why many women are driven into this manipulative attempts at correcting issues in their marriages to begin with?

Take the OP'S given example. Imagine both the man and woman agreed from the beginning to sharing the house duties as a couple. But somewhere down the road, OP'S began neglecting his part, leaving the entire burden on his equally stressed wife to bare alone. Frustrated and stressed out, the wife, maybe after numerous attempts to talk to him about the importance of doing his share of the chores, and for fear she might turn into her worst nightmare - a nagger- resorts instead to 'training' the OP by denying him sex as a way of getting him to comply with the agreement they both made from the start.

No two marriages are the same, and so this needs to be considered on case by case basis ofcourse.

Why on God's green earth would any self-respecting man take himself through this hellish experience??

Why would a man GO OUT and be a provider for his home and return to it to perform domestic duties with his wife, all in the name of marriage and homemaking?

Disgusting.

No man can live long, going through what you're counselling men to do. That, I assure you.

The home is a woman's office, let her operate it. Why would she get tired of doing what she was designed by the creator to do. Conversely, the office of a man is outside the home in the 'competitive market place': where he creates value to earn purchasing power. Notice how we don't get tired of going out there to 'grind' on the daily. This aptly describes the unspoken agreement man and wife come into, within the confines of marriage. Let each play the role they are configured for.

In other words, stop asking monkeys to swim in the ocean. Stop asking fish to leave the ocean to climb trees.

To make a bad situation worse, she denies him sex, not because she's tired, but because she wants her honorable husband to assist her in her domestic duties. It's funny how she might even decide to lay on her back and do nothing while the man engages in more 'work', should she decide to acquiesce to his sexual advances.

Pathetic.

You're right when you say she is training him. That's the female imperative in case you don't know. Her objective is to have full control over him until he is worn out, while doing as little as possible.. If he gives in to her 'training', the stress of living with that witch he calls a wife, will sooner of later take a toll on his vitality and bring him close to his death.

Make no mistake about it: A good woman is indeed hard to find. She will bring a man good, all the days of her life.

My conclusion:

Leave poor girls from poor families alone. They CANNOT relate with humans without seeing them as some sort of benefit or opportunity to come up. Their poverty has made them too greedy to be righteous. This behavior will only birth an attitude of entitlement, lack of accountability and self-delusion. At the end, they will blame you for bringing yourself close to them.

I blame that married man for being foolish and investing his money in a poor girl and her family. If the OP tries to say she isn't poor and didn't stick around for the fringe benefits, I would in turn ask her, "what made you act so immorally to the point of dating a married man for 4 years, while your immediate family was ok with it?"

Poverty.

If you had your own resources and was contented, and you still did what you did then I would say that you acted selfishly and wickedly, because you HAD A MAN WHO WAS INVESTING IN MARRIAGE WITH YOU ALREADY!!

Bear your burden.

Men, leave women alone. You will be alone anyway.

sirjamesjnr:
There is no sure thing as a sexual quota. And there is no such thing as a ‘hoe’. Men that slut-shaming women are not mature to be in a grown-up relationship. No lady is not accountable to any man for her past. It's none of a man's business.

That lady A has one guy she sleep with when she was 15 till she clocks 30 and married, lady B has a body count of 100 before her 30th birthday. The truth is the two ladies have sex and they don't owe you any explanation.

If you are going to marry for 'purity" look for a virgin girl. Do not condemn a man who wants a team player, homemaker, companion, and someone who can resonate with him. A virgin girl can tick all the boxes agreed. If you found that virgin girl with these qualities good luck. There is a lady out there for every man. Time is hard, while the world is moving forward, the Average Nigerian man is talking about body count. Shouldn't you be worried about a lady who can build a great home with you so your generation won't abuse you? Whether you are wealthy or you are coming up, I will like to think you need a proper woman to build your home with you.

My time in this uncertain world, both in the corporate world and among great minds. What we care about are ladies with decent character, basic moral values, ethics, cleanliness, abilities to accept responsibility, and willingness to learn something good. Never for once within this circle of friends and learned mind do we care about what a woman does with her body. What you do when you are in a relationship with me is what matters.

To that man who is in a decent relationship:
I know how you feel. When you develop strong feelings for a girl, it’s hard to think of her being with other guys. Even though you can rationalize that her past relationships happened before you met, it doesn’t make it any easier to accept that there were others who had been intimate with her. But you can’t dwell on this. It will destroy you, and it will destroy your relationship with your girlfriend.

Unless your girlfriend is the kind of girl that is very flirtatious, and who loves all the attention that she can get from guys, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. If she were a “hoe” she wouldn't want to have a decent relationship. So how do you get over this? There are only two things that I know of that you can do:

1. Don’t torture yourself with the details. There is no reason for you to know with whom she did it, how many times they did it, what positions they did it in, how big the guys were, and if they were better in bed than you or not. As tempting as it is to ask her these things—don’t! And stop her from volunteering that kind of information. Knowing these things will not help you or your relationship with your girlfriend in any way. They will only become mental and emotional burdens to you—obstacles and barriers that you will constantly have to overcome in order to treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. You protect yourself and you protect your relationship when you avoid rubbing your nose in her past.

2. Change the way that you look at people. Start realizing that every one of us is screwed up in some way. There are no perfect people. Every single one of us does dumb things and makes mistakes in our quest to find love and belonging. Your girlfriend is no exception. Choose to see her through the eyes of love and compassion, rather than through the eyes of judgment and condemnation.

To our ladies. I have one thing to say to you. You don’t need to apologize for your past relationships, and you don't need to explain yourself to any man. Simply understand that all you need is to be loved by someone, and if it didn’t work out, move on and build your life. Hopefully, your next relationship will work out for you.

Me personally? I’ve never longed to be with a virgin except for an ex and my girl(I am not with her because of sexual purity). I prefer my sexual partners to already know their way around their own sexuality. That means they’ve gotten some practice. Now I understand that as a man you need some certain confidence that some of you may are probably still forming. But when someone says something derogatory about the woman I’ve chosen to love I don’t reconsider my love. I conclude the person saying it is an idiot and ignore them in the future. I have faith in myself which leads me to have faith in the people I choose as partners.

Ladies out there, know the class of men you allow into your life. Be responsible for your actions.

Salutations,

The other day, some lady I barely knew, asked me to give her some money. I responded by demanding sex from her in return. She asked why I would do that and so I responded by informing her that I felt objectified by her request. I proceeded to tell her that the way a woman feels when men ogre at her and desire her for sex only, is the same way I feel when women like her look at me and desire me for money only.

Objectified.

Women shame men all the time for not being capable of meeting their needs. Why can't we do the same to them? Having sex with many men destroys a woman's ability to pair-bond with a man to build a family with him. It is therefore essential that a man knows a woman's body count before considering being in a long term relationship with her. Also, did you know that a woman absorbs the semen of a men she's sleeps with so that it becomes part of her DNA? Imagine marrying a woman who has slept raw with more than one man. Scary and disgusting.

If women don't want to be slut shamed, they should discipline themselves not become actual sluts.

Slut shaming is a GOOD thing. It stops sluttery and immorality. Women are the gate keepers of sex and healthy marital relationship. If all women opened their legs to their husbands only, the world would be a much better place and you wouldn't have to write a whole essay, exhorting men out there not to judge and slut shame sluts.

doggedfighter:
This right here's arrant nonsense !

Superstitious, myopic, religious fear induced and meaningless balderdash.

Sex is just sex.

Whether with married woman or single lady.

There's nothing spiritual or dire consequences there in.

The only risk is being caught by an an angry husband or insane boyfriend.

Hi

What you said now shook me. I was shaken some more seeing that so many people agreed with you.

If you listen to the radio, do you see the 'things' that transport the voices from the transmitter to the receiver? Do you see what moves the sun to rise and to set?

You are a woman. Do you know life comes through the doors of a womb? Note that life comes from somewhere even if the actual child is knitted in the womb. Life is indeed sacred and can only be expressed through your womb. UNsacred life, likewise can find expression through your womb, did you know?

There are things we cannot see that cause the things we see to be. If sex is the system that initiates the entrance of the most sacred spiritual (unseen) thing such as life, into this world, so that the womb HAS to open for it to have expression, do you not think sex should not be a thing to be toyed with?

Try and consider this logic. You don't need to reply. Simply think on these things and consider how very real they are.

Thanks.

Duplexxx:
Because girls deserve it they are gods they are the one who can kill you easily they are the one who can make frustrated they can make you behave like little baby they can turn you like house boy even they controls you

If you're not the caring types they will drop you


They are really powerful

you are right, women like this are powerful in a destructive way, especially to those who fall into her trap.

I discovered that a seductive woman is a trap more bitter than death. Her passion is a snare, and her soft hands are chains. Those who are pleasing to God will escape her, but sinners will be caught in her snare.
Ecclesiastes 7:26 (New Living Translation)

Men of principle are immune to her though.

Mrsoft3:
Grace to go and suffer? Grace is attached to positivity and ease,I don't think it is attached to sufferness

Grace to BEAR the suffering.

FatherOfJesus:
Story, we are talking what happens in reality, you are here giving motivational speech.
Go around and do research on what me pass through in marriages.

Fair enough.

Are you married?

Marriage between a man and woman is the MOST powerful social institution in the cosmos. It can literally create life and nurture life, which the most impossible task on Earth (without marriage). If marriage can do this, then there is NOTHING it cannot acomplish. Any wonders why there is great warfare on that terrain?

This warfare became increasingly pronounced, starting from the turn of the 20th century until now and I don't need to go into the historical details. However let me emphasize that our lives here on Earth is spiritual. Life is spiritual and more so than we think. Marriage is spiritual. This simply means that it has its foundation (manual) from a place we cannot see.

Consider the following:
1. Women are spiritual gates. Every woman. This is the reason why life can only come to earth via the womb of a woman.

2. Everything on Earth (effect) has a spiritul origin (cause). This is a universal edict we all know. This Nexus is based on LAW or legality, and this established the workings or design of anything created.

2. If women are spiritual gates, life is not the only spiritual thing that comes through them to manifest physically. Other things may follow the same pathway.

4. There is good and evil in the world (see) because there is good and evil in the spirit (unseen)

5. The EASIEST way for these to have expression In the world is women. Women are very important, especially to Kings (men) as well as spirits. They can be destructive too. Depends on how the 'horse is mounted' or 'gates are opened'. I say they are the easiest way because women are numerous in the world and so good or evil spirits can manifest en mass through women. There are other gates as well but this is about women.

5. The right way to mount the horse is marriage to good woman. A good woman first of all is a woman who fears God i.e principled and as such is trained as one who will be. She is also a gate that has not been ilegally opened.

6. A woman who has been ilegally opened becomes a doorway for evil to come into the world to find expression. Any man who goes into her or marries her is greeted by evil and death in their varying magnitudes of manifestation.

7. A good woman will bring ONLY good to her King, all the days of her life. This is a Law.
Why? She was trained to be a good woman and was legally opened. Only a good fruit can grow and fall from a good tree. No woman can pretend to be good at all. Is she principled and acts it out? Is she still 'closed' and seeks to be opened legally? She is a good woman.

8. There are few good women because there is much to be gained from the evil that can come out through these numerous spirituals gates called women. To birth evil into the world, the numerous gates (women) in the world MUST to be INVERTED or corrupted, sexually and morally.

9. Men of wisdom and knowledge are men who understand that life is spiritual and behave accordingly. These are the Kings. Kings know that the world is predictable and they work the predictability to their advantage.

Woe unto the rest.

godlessmind:
it's your opinion, i don't believe in the sh#t

Doesn't matter.

You don't need to believe in the sun rising and setting for it rise and set.

godlessmind:
lol karma will not do anything ....the looters and murderers in our government why has karma hasn't gotten to them?

Wrong answer.

Right answer: 1. seed time and harvest time (karma) NEVER fails. Believe it.
2. Karma has visited many of them already but it would probably never be disclosed to you. karma WILL visit every last one them for sure.

sapphiere:
Good!

See fine gal were one ediot wanted to use.
Thank God she was wise.

The FUTURE is FEMALE

There is nothing 'fine' about a young girl who took it upon herself to meet a man at his dwelling place, whom she met over the internet.
Why did she go in the first place??
Was she expecting that the man wouldn't at least TRY to put the moves on her?
Would she have departed without getting anything in return?

The only reason her story came to light is because she didn't 'feel' him. Otherwise, she would have slept him, received payment for her service and acted like nothing happened. Chop and clean mouth so to speak. I can bet money she didn't even trek at all. She only announced her sadness because she got nothing for her 'trip'. She was defeated. The guy turned out not to be an idiot (as she expexted).

Then enter in the SIMP Who gave her money....

Here is a young girl with zero self respect who cried because she didn't get transport money for taking herself to a strange man. Upon not getting paid for visiting him, she resorted to trekking and demanded attention for her 'suffering'. Then a an idiot, twice as foolish as her decided to 'reward' her. Heavens.

May God forgive all three of them.

Mercisharelove:
Mr perfect dumbest idiot, what have you ever made perfect in this world? you are fully imperfections.


What's the �

Take it easy. No need to be emotional and combative.

His response to your post might have been a little uncouth, but it is the substance of his response that you should consider.

What he is essentially pointing out is that men should not be ignorant and flippant about the past relationships and sexual contacts of the women they are considering for marriage. This is because he and all other single men who are self aware, deeply understand that a woman with a 'past' lacks the emotional work ethic to be a wife. In other words, the aspects of her nature that enable her to bond and devote herself to ONE man have been seared on account of having sexual experiences with numerous men.

The hard and cold truth that all women should come to terms with is that having so much as one body count, immediately disaqulifies them from being a wife to a high value and self respecting man. This is why most women end up settling for men they don't respect and end up having children for other men in their own marriages. The tonality of his response to your post was simply a reflection of how he values himself as man.

In plain English: no self respecting man will wife up a woman with a past and he will thoroughly investigate a woman's past before considering marriage with her.

In the same vein, no self respecting woman who values herself will sleep with a man who IS NOT her husband.

Many women sleep around but still want marriage. Therefore they necessarily have to cover up their past in a desperate attempt to deceive an man foolish enough to marry them.

That's it.

A virtuous woman is indeed a gift from God.

Mercisharelove:
Young girls, especially women are very great instrument to change this world or destroy it.

They can actually control men. You know men feel they are leaders, but not to a charming queen he truely loves with all his heart he can actually go any mile to protect her.

So with your favour, beauty and strength bring men to him - your heavenly master and father God Almighty.

Woman took man out of God‘s presence before, man - CHRIST JESUS brought man into his bossom and gave the woman - mary - the harlot to bring in his brethren.

I‘m begging you girls, common bring the world - men back to your heavenly father God Almighty who craves to fellowship with us.

By the wisdom of a woman the family is built. Build our family around the world.

Listen closely because you won't learn this stuff in church:

Power is not ability to do work, nor to control anything, nor does it have to do with anything physical. Power is a spiritual thing. Power makes you super normal because you know higher (super) laws and apply them. Period.

Women have power not because of their beauty, but because they are doorways into the spirit realm. Every woman is a door way into the unseen. Life (spirit) comes from the spirit realm and every life comes through the female. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and gets favor from God. God is a spirit and is in the spirit realm. That means it is not only children that a man can get from a woman's 'portal'. He can get favors. Favor = stuff you get without exerting physical force or ability to obtain. Favor comes from the spirit. Favor is spiritual but manifested in physical things. . By implication, it is also possible for a woman to destroy a man from the spirit realm of darkness, where evil things emerge from. Women can be doorways, unlocking good or evil to a man. Women are doorways through the spirit. This why they have more power in this world than men. This is the real reason why many men worship women.

Nevertheless,

Men are called to serve God and not women. Women. Are called to serve men. A woman cannot bring a man to God. Only God can bring man to himself. Women have power to bring good things and evil things to a man, depending on how he relates and deals with her.

This is why women have more 'power' than men in this world. Women are spiritual doorways, but men have better access to God that women. Both were designed as such.

Men will find God if they stop making women their god, because of they power the represent on this earth.

Reachable:
Hi all, I noticed I started developing body ordour under armpit in particular.
First time I noticed it was like more than a decade ago, then was in my 20s.
So I started using medicated soaps and deodorants, at first it was a big challenge getting the one that worked for me because once I start sweating I notice that it will overpower most deodorants I used but one worked for me which is (sure for men the long one).
After some years I noticed I always have boils under my armpits as a result of high usage until a nurse adviced to stop using deodorants that it can lead to skin cancer, at first I didn't knew the cause of my constant boils was the deodorant until she told me and I stopped I noticed the boils just died off.
So I started using them again but this time sparingly, until I stopped using them like some years ago.
I was fine especially if I didn't sweat much during the day, the only thing I noticed was that if I don't shave on time I will have armpit odour or after shaving my armpits the odour will come again for some days then stop.
I was managing it like that, but was making sure I bath at least twice a day or as much I can in a day.

Recently, I was more of staying at home these days unless I have job to do outside.
Only for me to start noticing the armpit odour again, shaved and bath as much as I can yet it won't stop.

My armpits always smell like a per boiled onions some moments after bathing, I have been managing it with explorer sometimes it works depending on my activities for the day.
But it's peeling the skin under my armpits and it's hurting besides it give me boils.
Please help, what can I do?

Baking soda
Two fingers on each arm pit after bath or shower

Thank me later

PrimadonnaO:
That feeling is merely fleeting.

For most people, it gets to a point when you simply don't want to be alone... you want someone you'll call your own.

Only women feel this way.

Men shouldn't

Men in touch with their feminine do.

Palema007:
What happens in situations in which the woman is the bread winner, she provides and contribute to the family's finances.? Should she be left alone to do her supposed natural roles too?

Why on God's earth would any woman choose a man whom she will provision for to be her husband.

Why would any self respecting man present himself to a woman he isn't ready to love and take care of?

kestolove95:
Don't blame them, they wia brainwashed by the lies in the Bible dat says "he who find a wife has found a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord" that is the favour his obtaining from d Lord now..

Did you know that the bible that you are shamelessly mocking says Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night....way before the verse you quoted?


Before a man should marry a woman, he should "marry" the Living God first and be engaged in productive work. This will make him successful in his work. It is until he does this before he will find a wife and obtain (favor) from God. Favor is EXTRA from God.

Don't Get it twisted, Son.

DenreleDave:
Can a man be a sinner and still fears, love and believe God?

Yes he fornicates, he lies but he fears God.. He believes there is a God that lives in heaven, he believes that there is judgement. He hopes to repent one day.

For example; a man that start stealing because he is poor and has family to feed.. He has tried many things but not working for him and he result to stealing.. In his mind, he loves God but situation won't make him stop stealing... He fears the repercussions of sin but he can't stop but he hopes to stop it one day and be forgiven..

He is not happy seeing himself steal and disobeying God command but he has no alternative bcox he has to feed his family... Lets just say he is sinner of circumstances (if he had money, he wud nt have stole to eat. )

Question is: Can a man love God , fear God, believes in God but still sin?

If anyone can answer this too;

Question 2; Can a man life be precious to God more than the ministry?

E.g: God told Mr Ifeanyi that the ministerial work that he has been appointed for have been given to Mr kunle because Mr Ifeanyi life is more precious to Him (God) than the Ministry.

Can a man life be precious than the ministry??

First question answer:

1 John 1:5-10
6. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: 7. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. 8. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. [/b]9. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.

Mind you, confessing your sins doesn't mean declaring to God that you committed such and such sin (then proceed to return to that sin, as many Nigerians are accustomed to - the Catholics practice this).

Confessing your sins means seeing them as God sees them - as LAWLESSNESS WHICH IS WALKING IN DARKNESS [b]and as something to REPENT from. Emphasis on REPENT.

Simply put, God insists that we STOP disobeying him. That we sacrifice our natural desire to sin(disobey his commands)

You cannot sit and stand at the same time.

Question number 2 answer.

The idea of 'having a ministry' is really a tradition of men. At the least, the phrase is a making of men who desire to reduce God's high calling to 'offices' men can lay claim to.

Truth: God has called us to every good work. It doesn't matter what you do for a living. Your ministry/service to God is to create spiritual value for all those whom He sends to you. When you are filled with the spirit/word of God, you will find yourself gravitating towards either, preaching, teaching, helping, exhorting, evangelizing, praying, healing and/or whatever thing God wants you to do through his Spirit. You don't need some denomination and a following to confirm that you are serving God.

FInally, your service/ministry or spiritual works of righteousness to God, by Faith through his Spirit will speak for you after you leave this earth. You will wear them as your white robe, reflecting the righteousness of Christ while u were in the flesh. Remember, doing good to 'the little ones' is doing good to Christ and he will reward you for it.

Overcoming sin/mastering the beast and serving God through every good work/ministry ARE THE SAME in God's eyes. Neither is more important than the other. They are one and the same, just as Christ and the Father are one ; just as walking in light and not sinning are the same.

Be a living sacrifice, do the will of the Father who is in heaven, master the flesh/beats and be GODREADYMADE.

HitSong:
YOU MUST be sick if you think Almighty God is a cannibal or a ritualist that requires the blood of an innocent man for atonement.
You must be stupid if you think that somebody can die for your sins.

If your Jesus truly surrendered himself, WHY WAS HE WAILING ON THE CROSS?

WHY DID HE FEEL THAT GOD FORSAKE?

WHY WAS HE SAYING ((((((((FATHER FATHER, WHY HAVE THOU FORSAKEN ME))))))))))))))))))))

Please get understanding. The answers to your questions are obvious if you stop thinking according to flesh and beging to think spirit.

These things happened in the flesh but have a spiritual signification - this is why God wanted it that way. God is a spirit, remember. His ways are higher(spiritual) than ours(carnal).

E.g when we see blood/death, God sees life. He is able to raise the dead back to life. When we see death of the innocent. God sees purity and sinlessness. God was pleased with Christ's death because it would save everyone, because he loves everyone. You might then ask, why did God NEED these things to happen ? Couldn't He just snap his fingers and make everything right ?? God couldn't, not out of incapability but out of integrity. God can't break his own laws. That would make him a sinner, which He isn't. His laws must be obeyed, even by Him.

The blood of Christ had to be shed, because that was the only way to pay/make atonement/fulfill for the law of for the sin and death over and against all men. God made men subject to sin because if he didn't, we would know good and evil to be like Him. His vision is for every last one of us to be like Him. Selah.

I will stop here. Get to know Yahweh. You can get started by observing and understanding his laws that guide your very existence and the entire world he made as well.

Finally, Jesus wailed on the cross because God indeed forsook him at that moment. Jesus had God living in him all his life. At that moment, Jesus being in the flesh felt total absence of his Father and he felt lost at that moment. Why was it important that Jesus feel this way, you might ask ?

HE HAD TO FEEL IT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT DEATH FEELS LIKE. JESUS CAME TO DIE AND HE HAD TO DIE COMPLETELY. HE HAD TO DIE WHILE ALIVE AND HE DIED AND BECAME DEAD FOR THREE DAYS. HE HAD TO FULLY PAY WITH FULL DEATH SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT. NOW IF YOU PUT OFF THE FLESH, YOU PUT ON LIFE ALMOST IMMEDIATELY. "to be absent from the body IS to be at home with the Lord"

Tell Jesus thank you.

Kenplay:
With my personal Experience, Observation and inner conviction, I think I dont want to be part of any religion again. This thing is truely an opium of illusion meant for people who cant take their destiny in their hands and for a sheeple masses.

Despite withdrawing from religion I found myself even having a better moral compass which I cant explain. We are throwing away common sense, hardwork and universal principles to leave in illusion. At the end of my observation I have come to the conclusion that its what you do for yourself that counts more.

When I see poor people dying of hungry in a country which have the capacity to be the global industrial hub I know we have throw away common sense, Nigeria biggest investment to South Africa is Religious buildings (Church) while here in Nigeria the South Africans brought us MTN, DSTV, SHOP RITE e.t.c which employs thousands of people and gives profit to our Investors inventing in the stocks and shares of those companies I realise religion is lack of common sense.

No amount of religion can make you succesful without application of common sense.
No amount of religion can make your marriage succesful without application of common sense and consideration for your partner.
No amount of religion can a nation grow and prosper without application of common sense, productivity and good policies.

At the end of it I think am leaving religion, its not worth it. Even uprightness and moral comes from a person inner conviction and not because of religion.

Your resolution is what religion truly is - a lifestyle guided by common sense and love for your fellow man. What we have in Nigeria is a man made religion founded on hypocrisy, self-delusion and wickedness. This here is what isn't worth it.

oshaosha2014:
Take this little advice. This is the best time of your life to choose a worthy man if marriage is part of the things you want to dabble into. This is not the time to be sleeping around with different guys so that you’ll know the one you are compatible with. Just date as many guys without any sexual encounters to get to choose the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with. Yeah you may want career, you want to work, but don’t let that stop you from looking out for the guy that’s best for you for a long term relationship and eventually marriage. You are young, you are pretty, you won’t be like that forever, use this time to choose wisely as men are rushing you from right, left and centre. Choose wisely. Lastly, stay away from fuckboys. Get you a man that has real plans for the future and for you.

Very sound. I am in agreement with you.

One thing though...

You cannot put fire on your laps and it won't burn you. in other words you cannot circumvent natural law and order without reaping the concomitant consequences. Specifically, she cannot date several men platonically and not get swept away by one of them emotionally. This is a woman we are talking about here. This is why they are weaker than men. Emotions and their sway over them. Dating will lead to sex as surely as the sun rises and sets daily. This is why women used to be given into marriage back then, by her father or an elder. Once she has sex (outside holy matrimony) she changes forever. This will begin an unending cycle of sluttery which will not only wipe away her youth and beauty but lead her to marrying/choosing stupidly...that is if ever at all she marries.

Dating wastes girls' youth and beauty and young men's resources to get started in life.

Men should desire to work and get started in life early. Women should desire marriage early and enlist their elders and betters to help them choose wisley.

PrecioussB:
I am young and beautiful but when it comes to dating maybe because of some failed relationships, I rather stay on my own.

I remember even on valentine's day since i had broken up with my bf, i just decided to chill by myself. Ealking to the store, met some guys you know how they toast now, telling me why a beautiful girl like me is not on a date? and i jokingly replied i have one or just joke along.

Now I'm thinking, i might be wasting my beauty and youth because i have not been dating for long, have the zeal and will but don't have the strength.

Shouldn't I enjoy all those things now before I start looking old? My last relationship really exhausted me.

Let me tell you a truth:

DATING WASTES YOUR YOUTH AND BEAUTY.

YOUR BODY WAS DESIGNED TO BOND TO ONE MAN, NOT MANY.

EAT RIGHT ; EXERCISE; READ, DEVELOP YOUR SPIRIT AND BE PRODUCTIVE. THESE WILL INCREASE YOUR BEAUTY AND REFRESHEN YOUR YOUTH.

SEXUAL PURITY HAS MANY REWARDS. REMAIN PURE.

CHOOSE A MAN WHO IS GODREADYMADE AND GIVE YOURSELF TO HIM.

BUILD A FAMILY WITH HIM AND FULFILL YOUR SOUL.

foleskay:
So I met a random lady inside taxi on friday while trying to beat the curfew in town. I met her at the last back seat and sat close to her. Then as we move I noticed a her hand was touching my back, she actually put her hand across the back seat. The touching kept going on, and I sensed that she needs 'something' . So I started a short convo with her and we exchanged numbers.

Later that very night we chatted on WhatsApp and booked today for appointment oo. She called me arnd 11 am this morning to inquire the meeting point, thnk God no church so I told her to come straight away. Lo and behold she came within 15minutes to my side, when she entered, her first utterance was ''Do you hv food at home, I dey hungry . I was like ''na hunger dey pursue u come here'. . So I arranged some rice and fish for here with drink oo. After eating, we dscuss a lil bit then she made a move by kissing me oo. I was wtf . We barely met some days ago, so as a sharp guy, I obliged her request.
We actually fuckcked for 3hours. Still gv a doggy in the bathroom.
The point I want to point out is, as I was digging her so hot, one of her guys called her on phone, that one sensed something is fishy thru her coarse voice and ask her ''who dey with you'?? She said its her gf. D guy asked again '' wat re u doing,? She said cooking? Chaii. Naija men don suffer. By that time I don relax my digging so he wouldn't hear any sound. Later d guy said '' I love you, and she said ''I love you too' ahh mogbe ;. Naso I vex dey bleep dey go. Withing the three hours that we bleeped, about three guys caled the babe.
After everything I only gv her 1k for tfare. Now she's telling me she's coming back to sleep over at night.

My guys most of these young girls are hoes,only fews are loyal. So fucck d pusssy without any mercy, cos you never knew he many guys she's sharing it with.

She has your soul trapped already. The black widow turned you into walking deadman.

Meditate on this.

PrimadonnaO:
Super happy and fulfilled! Looking at my bundle of joy, like, this is all mine! Thanking God because I’d waited for that day all my life!

Yeah. That’s how I expect I’ll feel.

That bundle of joy IS NOT yours. It is the Lord's.

You are only a temporary custodian.

Don't get too attached. Train the child well and release.

Don't be brainwashed.

FeliciaOja:
It is now I understand what being strict does, it makes you live a life of pretence, cos when I got into University I wanted to explore everything  I didn’t have the chance of doing at home.

I drank alcohol like crazy, smoked weed, hung out with rich boys, partying, doing drugs but when I go visit my Parents, I still act like that innocent girl they have always known.

My Dad’s strictness led to my Pretence, if he had drawn me close like my mum did, I would have been a better kid.

When parents use strictness to shut down a kids curiosity instead of guiding them, you are making matters worse for that kid. Because eventually that curiosity will lead them into adventures and exploring all those things you refused them to..

Looking back, al the flogging I received from my dad only made me more stubborn and ruthless.

Nothing really changed? Until my mum made me change for good.

Parents need to use wisdom not force..

So now you've ruined your life...

Have you gained anything?

Let be known today that your dad is the protagonist of your story, your mom is the villain and you, the glorious idiot. What a plot! You destroyed yourself and disgraced your family on nairaland.

Your dad was only putting you aright, needless to say that his beatings didn't kill you.

There was nothing wrong with you pretending, but did you have to willingly metamorphose into a degenerate??

I've said it before and I will say it again: if it were up to me, young ladies would never go to uni. NEVER!

I won't be constructive with this post because it would do you no good.

Congratulation dear, your level of stupid has gone to the 10th power.

Nelsonnwagbo:
ok bro

Which part of jos are u residing ?
Coz am also in jos

Gold and Base/shaka area

Nelsonnwagbo:
None

Am just 21

Let me tell you what I would tell my 21 year old self, if time traveling were possible:

Remain like that until you marry.

I regret every sex I ever had in the past.

All these men comparing their dick sizes don't have the slightest idea of what they are doing to themselves and their unborn children. If they knew the implications of their randy lifestyles, they would never talk to a woman again.

Keep yourself from corruption.

Be GODREADYMADE

Kingarthur21:
no man minds a poor lady,how does girls peanuts benefit us?no man looks up to their finances.

We only have an issue when we are responsible for them financially,give them security ,comfort,and yet they are dragging shoulders with us .

They hate submission and devotion but yet want our pockets

We are men.

We make the first move.

Let's not make the move to marry THESE kinds girls.

Let's hold women to high standards and find the one who lives by them to marry.

A wicked, entitled and unsubmissive woman will show her colours from the beginning. If you know of her disposition and pursue her for marriage regardless, you would have practically handed your balls over to her. She will never submit nor honor you.

[quote author=Kingarthur21 post=89761488]no man minds a poor lady,how does girls peanuts benefit us?no man looks up to their finances.

We only have an issue when we are responsible for them financially,give them security ,comfort,and yet they are dragging shoulders with us .

They hate submission and devotion but yet want our pockets[/quote

We are men.

We make the first move.

Let's not make the move to marry THESE kinds girls.

Let's hold women to high standards and find the one who lives by them to marry.

A wicked, entitled and unsubmissive woman will show her colours from the beginning. If you know of her disposition and pursue her for marriage regardless, you would have practically handed your balls over to her. She will never submit nor honor you.

Kingarthur21:
my dear,all men know this

No financially comfy man minds marrying the poorest girl on the globe.

The issue is their hypocrisy which is showed in several ways such as:
1)they are self acclaimed feminists that belief men and women should split house chores and the man is not head yet they want him to be 100% responsible for them financially.

Why should I pay the rent,money for feeding and upkeep, school fees,utilities,vacations and pocket money for my wife to buy the fancy shoes and human hair yet she will want me to be sharing cooking and washing plates with her(let us not forget that house helps,washing machines,dish washers etc are still sponsored from my pocket).

2)These hypocrites want men to date broke girls,but open threads upon threads to advice girls not to date broke boys.

3)These hypocrites want a man to bring money,protection,etc(all gotten from hard work) yet they don't want to bring their virginity and youthfulness to the table. They will drag equality with us when it deals with being sexually moral and chaste(i.e if men are non virgins,women musn't be virgins ) yet when it deals with finances none of them want to be equal to men.

I feel you on every angle bro, but listen...

Why would you have all the money in the world and marry this kind of woman?

I like what you said about youthfulness and virginity. Those are the only two things women can gift us men. If a woman doesn't have these, then no man with his head on his shoulders should ever consider to marry such.

Most young women (with youth and virginity) DONT want to marry. This is why such women are rare and hard to find.

broke, entitled, used up non virgins who are mentally impoverished should be thoroughly avoided.