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faakay:
Seriously I hate Stretch Marks!!! I think stretch marks applies to the Fat Ladies and Fair ones!!! Maybe they BLEACH their Color.

Naaa, stretch marks are ok, just a sign of weight gain or loss. However, there is that one that looks like a vein or artery just overgrew and couldn't fit under the skin as a result, so it has to bulge out just under the surface. Its big hard and usually requires medical attention. . . That one is just plain irritating!

SoAmazing and Bob James just soooooo Amaze me

London. . . And on a weekend pls

If u know i've offended u, speak now or forever hold your peace!

190:
@poster
for the 1st tyme in a long while
im preety confused on dis 1

The chances of getting the desired outcome is very slim.

lilLOLer:
THE QUESTIONS
1) are guys attracted to girls they have a lot in common with? cuz its usually said that opposites attract. but on the other hand, birds of a feather flock together. so which is true?
2) is it possible that my feelings are not one-sided? cuz its like he's really cautious not to be misinterpreted (for example, there was this one time he asked me if i sang and almost immediately apologized for the randomness of the question).
3) even though we're cool now, most times our conversations are about me asking him for help or something. our internet chats are always sorta stilted, i'm a lot free-er with other people than i am with him. how can i stop this n become a lil more independent?
thanks for your time

Your questions are not very direct and its hard to give direct answers to indirect questions.
1) It is very possible for guys to be attracted to people they share things in common with, but some people fall for their direct opposites. Its hard to decipher what his thoughts are right now but i think u may be close to finding out.

2)Yes it is very possible that your feelings are or are not one-sided, the key here is patience. . . If he's interested in taking it to the next level then he obviously knows he'll have to talk to u about it in the near future. Some guys enjoy the journey as well as the destination, so my advice is that u continue being yourself. . . He's showing signs though cos now u've met his brother, soon enough it might be his close friends and relatives.

3) There are many ways to get independent, get a job! It is nice to want independence, but dont push it too hard, perhaps he likes the role of assisting u, remember he took u to the grocery store by himself. Such things may give him an inner satisfaction, so dont deny him that all the time - especially when he's the one taking u here or there.

platinumnk:
thats not you in the pic, why did u steal someone's pic?

Awwww, thanks

nues aweso:
Thanx all for concern.

Just been bogging my head with different scenarios and thats why its getting at me.

What s the condition of her womb? Only God knows. . .Possible future scandal from the ex. . .Will she go into complex and think i've done her a favour? . . . .Blood of the unborn child . . .Why do i deserve this knowing that I have been very clean on my own part? . . . Too many issues

Its just messy. . . think I'll take a walk

Listen to your own conscience, its there to advise u, girls will always ask u to forgive her like u have a personal issue with her. . .  The issue here is between her and that unborn baby, and u will take sides by sticking with her. . .  Free yourself!

If you're principled, then she should go, because now she's told u - u know about it and can be called a part-taker if u go ahead with it.
You're even lucky she came out with it now, and without u asking. . .  Things happen in mysterious ways for a reason.  

Be strong

Funny situation, the trust is gone over an innocent gesture. . . Girls are like that. You need to be a man about it, the mistake was made when u didnt inform her about NG's 2 weeks stay proposal.
A relationship without the trust is as good as dead, try and talk with her close relatives and explain everything to them. . . It might help if people closer to her talk to her and plead your case.
I advise u get NG somewhere else immediately.

I dont expect u will get her back again, but if u do, then u need to be very careful going forward.

Enjoy it while it lasts, it wont last much longer than u really think. The crime has already been committed so commit it very well so that when u r to pay the price, the punishment will be justified. The wifey will be hurt but you have no excuse for your kids.
You can draw some consolation from the fact that u r not the only one in it today, in fact millions of people [including some of the girls and guys saying they hate u on this thread, some have slept with married men and women] do it so its not such a huge deal.

You need to go and make peace with your creator and desist from any form of adultery in the future!

They are confused

Shouldn't be hard

Feelitx:
And what if after marrying him,she notices he has an erectile dysfunction and that they can never ever have sex.?

Lol

JJYOU:
whitelexi, u must know people who died last year and you didnt. why must people do things because others are doing it?.

Didnt say i was gonna do it, just pointing out reasons why people do it. Its almost a norm now in some places, so its definitely not new.

hoeyeadoe:
White , yu must have bin dere b4. And thx so much for saving me the grief of having to write that to spyke.

I do what i can babygirl. . .  I do what i can

spikedcylinder:
Can you explain what the serious matter is?

I think it had something to do with her ass getting some massage while she was alseep. . .

Its feels good when u do that, sometimes, it helps air the area too

maray:
Dats d reason some girls often have a friend dat is less attractive than themselves thus making them hotter by comparism when visiting their boy friend.It has never happened 2 me before so i dont know what 2 say.

Its not about your friends being finer than u, some girls just have serious flaws, and if a guy honestly asks u to learn from a friend in a particular behavioural area - it doesn't mean he is attracted to her.

If your man asks u to change and be like your girlfriend, u really should look at yourself.

What sort of massage gets u sleeping so deep u dont even feel a very long thing so deep inside u

Is it jazzzzz?

maray:
i think if ur boyfriend loves you, he would understand ur situation and not based d relationship on sex alone.so 4 dat reason he is not d one.

With all the stuff girls do to their systems these days, a brother might want to test-drive and make sure the system is working right before comitting to anything serious. I know some people who even refused marriage until the woman got pregnant!

I would consider it. . . Living on the same street doesn't mean seeing each other a thousand times a week. Its only when u cant stay away from the window, and u only stay there cos u want to see that person
Be mature about it all, and see how far u can get. . . You never know.

maray:
@ poster,he will never leave ur heart as long as u hold onto it.You need 2 cry ur eyes out over dis guy,realize he wasnt d one,and let urself love ur love somebody else,i hope dis helps.

What if he is the one?

surface:
if truely u love d guy,then give it 2 him.

My thoughts exactly

Others came out with their heads first, i came out walking strong on my own 2 feet

Lax75:
Personally. I wouldn't go to Naija and marry under the "assumptions" that I will find a "good girl." It amazes me when guys do this. How do you possibly get to know a woman when you don't spend that much time with her and she is across the ocean. I would rather deal witht he devil I know (the ones over here) than the one I don't.

From what I hear and see, the ones in Naija are VERY ruthless.

You should visit home more often, dont believe in all u hear or see on tv

Love is not a feeling, its an ability
Some people can never love again

Pataki:
What is in Essex oh?

You know, i always thought u were in the UK. . . But if u've not heard of Essex babes, then u r forgiven