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Piercy:
I grew up in a home where boys and girls did their dishes, cooked, swept, did the cleaning of the house irrespective of gender all examples my father himself sets.
seven kids in the home, both mom and dad did everything and every chores to raise each properly, so the fact the husband refuses to fund his daughters education for such is stupid to me, I know it's wrong but punish her with something else not her education.
I can imagine the dirty slap my dad will give you for not washing your plates or help in the kitchen because you saw three girls relaxing when they deserved it lol your brain will remember gender equality for the house.
I hope to raise my kids this way, a woman is not a slave nor a servant, fact is put her in that position to get money for the family and she will do it, so why can't you help when you can, take sometime cook for her, do the dishes, bath the kids, I am a guy I already know alot about raising a kid seeing my dad do same for me and the others.

this is not feminism it's the real truth, a woman is your partner, your second half not some equipment to achieve your aim.

Did you read the op's post at all, or you could not comprehend the post?

LilMissFavvy:
So teaching children good morals is only a woman's responsibility? Hmm.

Whose responsibility is it to teach a girl how to cook? Or did your father teach you kitchen etiquette?

paraltero:
You guys' responses are exactly why so many Nigerian kids are not as close to their parents as the should be. You guys are so consumed by your god complexes that you don't realize that your behaviour gradually alienates your kids and makes them even less likely to ask you for stuff.

Be truthful to yourselves: most of you would rather ask your friends and colleagues for stuff before you ask your parents. How is that a healthy parent-child relationship? You guys have no idea what the difference is between a healthy relationship between parent(s) and child and disrespect.

Later it's the same you guys that would be asking your kids "why didn't you ask me? Why did you ask other people and not me?"

Continue perpetuating the same unhealthy dynamic with your own kids o. I hope it pans out well for y'all.

Like seriously, how old are you?
Do you have a family/parent or you grew up in an Orphanage home?
I am truly amazed and ashamed of your thought pattern.

I won't reply to mentions anymore.
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LilMissFavvy:
The spoilt brat needs to be disciplined thoroughly, feminism does not encourage women to be disrespectful to their husbands, that is why some feminist are happily married. Because the mother is against the man stopping payment of fees does not mean the child copied bad attitude from her mother.You should know how some mothers are, she is more worried how the daughter will cope without money, and is less worried about the need to discipline their daughter.

If the mother had done a proper job on her daughter, the daughter would not be rude and spoilt to bite and be arrogant to the finger that is feeding her.

This is even common sense, you should be loyal and grateful to your benefactors, so long your pride and dignity are intact.

paraltero:
How is asking someone to dishes a sign of disrespect?

@bolded, exactly! So how do you know the girl is at fault if you admit the story is not complete?

How do you ask someone older than you, to do his/her dishes? This is simple home training 101.

I want to believe that you are not Nigerian or not cultured as a Nigerian.
Below is a simple and basic character of a well-groomed Nigerian child.


When you wake up in the morning, you greet your parents/elders. I hope you do this/have done this .
After eating your meal, you have to appreciate your parent/elders. (it is their responsibility) But the lesson here is, APPRECIATION
Whenever you receive gifts, APPRECIATE! Say the magic words Thank you.
Make your bed, when you wake up.
Wash the dishes if there are any. Male children may be lacking here if they have elder sisters; there is an exception to this.


So if you really have the above traits. How and why should you ask your father to wash his dishes after eating? Let us not discuss who owns the house and pays the rent.

paraltero:
That shows the kind of relationship you have with your father. It's fine for you but you shouldn't expect everyone else to share the same.

I mean, all these years, she clearly hasn't done anything that would warrant him stopping her fees but she asks him to wash his dishes ONE TIME and suddenly, she's a spoilt girl.

And I certainly hope you're not the type of parent that would stop paying your kids fees because they ask you to do the dishes i.e, the kind of parent that's willing to ruin their child's life just to massage their bruised ego.

If you see nothing wrong in what she did, then am I am really sorry for the kind of parent you are/will be.
Do you even know what RESPECT is, it is either you are not Nigerian, or you have no Nigerian root.
And the post did not say or reveal much on why the father took such a decision. There is more to it, maybe the washing of dishes was the last straw that broke the camels back. What do I know?

Daeylar:
Poor girl has really suffered. Small washing plate will make him to stop paying school fees? Such a little thing and he is taking such drastic actions. Was it really that deep? probably thinks she won't survive without him so feels he can do anyhow he pleases to her over little issues. That's why such a little thing warrants him to stop paying her school fees.
I'm glad she has her mum supporting her. I hope she does away with such a Draconian "father" the way he has done away with her and finds her way without him.. Topics like this come up yet people keep wondering nonstop why it seems mothers are celebrated more than fathers.

Ps
Can't believe people are supporting and making excuses for his actions , using feminism and "teaching her good manners" as an excuse and as their scapegoat.


Edit.
To everyone quoting me crying about this comment.
Tbh I think you guys are right. What he did is even small. He should even have disowned her to teach her a lesson.
After all. There is no such thing as a too harsh punishment.

Smh

Are you trying to be sarcastic or what? So you mean you will ask your father to do his dishes after he is done eating.
Oma se oh! all these indomie children sef, neva cease to amaze me.

paroh137:
Y'all dated for a year and you didn't try to learn these things before now? It's now you want to be running from pillar to post? Man no be God sha. May God help you

BTW for anybody here feeling jealous I pity you. Na suffer this guy dey go suffer for Europe. If you have to marry oyinbo marry an American.

Infact beg me let me help you find one here

Edit:
Please I don't mean to give those of you planning to emigrate to European countries HBP. I'm just saying if you're going to Europe unprepared you might find things more difficult than you think. Better prepare yourself well. Get an education. Get certifications that might help you succeed in getting jobs. All my friends in European countries all want to come to US. I mean, they can't all be wrong.

cc princecharmings

All your friends are either lazy or are fraudsters, that is why they want to leave Germany.
America is one big shithole if you know, you know.
A country that has poor medical insurance for its citizen, no social security system for even documented immigrants.
Security is horrible, and police brutality has become a norm if your skin color is black.

Bro if dem dash me citizenship, I no go collect.
You only made sense in your last paragraph.

Donbuky23:
Chat me up on this line 07067660872, let me explain somethings to you.....we can't discuss here .....

Op, for whatever reason, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT contact anyone for any assistance, just read the thread and pick whatever message you need.
All these number they are dropping ehh, sorry will be your surname at the end.

shogsman:
Try to rethink this situation of yours,Germans are possessive,if you no get money hustle and get small change before you marry her or else you will see fire for Germany.

Fly wey no dey hear word na im dey follow dead body enter grave. I just hope he is prepared to serve his Domina, when he enters Germany

Chiefochiefo:
Benin guy abi?

You be olodo, who is Benin guy?

Chiefochiefo:
But I don't really like this idea of marrying from another country, especially oyibo. I see it as a lost marriage. You die, your children gone forever. All u laboured for is lost. Tell her you're relocating to your country, that ends the marriage. If she too like you na to share children, God help you, you born more than one, if not, SORRY na your name. My advice is...... Don't marry her. Get whatever you can get from her and let her go. Good women plenty for Nigeria.

Do you know that you just typed some RACIST shit........ This is 2019 and not 1819 or 1920.

realborn:
Great gesture by your fiancée.

But hey, do not rush into marriage with anyone. Not anyone.

In similitude, do not rush into intimacy with her.

It is obvious she intends to foot the bills. Stay modest through her stay. Do not be perturbed.

Always remember, the paying party often dictates the tune. Thus don’t be excessive and seemingly vulnerable.

I wish you both the very best.

Forget the bolded, If you don't do that on the first date, it is seen as an offense. Besides he said they have been dating for over a year, do you know if they already had online sex
And you are here preaching do not rush into intimacy.

beethoven:
Who grace found? so oyinbo woman na grace now. SMH.

Anyways, don't marry her on her first visit sir. Step up and be a man, Germans can bitchy and domineering, let her understand that you are just meeting her and decisions like getting married cannot be rushed (especially for her). Make sure you have enough fun (not only sex ) with her. Show her around the Lagos but be very weary of kidnappers.

While she is here, you guys can plan for a wedding in future. If you get small money, buy ring propose to her (if you really want to marry her and be with her).

Ignore everything I have said above, if your goal is just to marry her for papers.

Bro I doubt if the OP knows what he is about to enter.

gypsey:
You need to be able to speak fluent German before Anything, otherwise the whole thing na joke.

It's not important, but the German immigration system will use that to frustrate your efforts.

He doesn't have to be fluent, however, basic knowledge of the language is required.

blackaxe78:
False!

It is true, if you marry a German citizen you need A1 proficiency in German before you are issued a visa,
The only exception to this rule is, if you marry a non- EU person who has a blue card permit.

MartinCorridon:
The continuous spelling was wrong. The original sentence was right.

But you can bark as long as you wish. I like being entertained.

I don't need to bark, knowing fully well you got schooled

MartinCorridon:
Actually. He can admit in present continous tense.

Ask your English teacher for a refund.

"He admits that the Holocaust was all a lie"

That's an example of usage. Sad to be you

You actually don't have to hit below the belt, if you know. Humility is an excellent attribute, which unfortunately you've failed to acquire.
First, learn how to spell properly. it is continuous not continous

Let me school you. Your example is not present continuous(indicative) but present (indicative).

Present.

I admit.
you admit.
he/she/it admits.
we admit
you admit
they admit

Present Continuous
I am admitting
you are admitting
he/she/it is admitting
we are admitting
you are admitting
they are admitting


I hope you have learned one or two things today.
Peace.

MartinCorridon:
Point out the errors, if you are sane... Only if you are.

Most times, it is better to let a sleeping dog lie.
Your sentence below is faulty. You should know the right tense to use here.

Please work on your English, Sir.

I don't know where to start the corrections from.

Thank God, you at least admit he was wrong.

Joromi12:
e don do bro. How he transformed to suit i no sabi o

Na upgrade na, abi u sef no dey upgrade for your profession ni

Temple1288:
Now let me break the story down. That scammer gave people a lot water he got from the swamp that has a kpangolo before you cross.. He had a longer beards and wore his white gown without slippers. . He gave his gullible followers water and also time they'd use the water.. It mustn't be past or before that time. Some will become pregnant for 2yrs, spitting around like snakes.

With Bible as their Laptop, they deceive lot

So you sef sabi the history.....

Joromi12:
agodo near the swamp. U dey mind them

I dey tell you. Even at the very beginning, he use to have these funny miracle services, where people claim they were healed of HIV and what have you.
Abeg make I no too talk before his warriors come and start barking.

mperornero:
tell us more

Before his arrival on the same street with Obadares' CAC Wosem, there was a vision(prophecy) by the prophet himself that a mighty wind was going to blow in the area, and it would deceive/affect Christians and non-Christians alike. This story was shared to us by our then landlord, who was also a member of Wosem church. Two years later Obadare died and Synagogue relocated to Segun Irefin Street, its present site.

The church was formerly located at Agodo/Egbe, and it was synonymous with the white garment, because of the apparel the prophet wore.

Joromi12:
I grew up in ikotun. Most ikotun people dont attend the church cos they know his history. Na scam

Sense will not kill you...... The first lie on the above list is, he started with 8 members on the same site. We all know how the church started all the way from Agodo/Egbe.

I also grew up in Ikotun/Egbe, I know a lot about the church, and its shenanigans.

justt:
People in Germany who have been contributing to the thread are much appreciated. However, what is worth doing at all, is worth doing well.

Answers to some questions seems so ambiguous/vague. I once lost the opportunity to have my PhD in Canada because a colleague also gave me a vague answer! The Institution was offering $18,000/annum
and I asked him, as someone who was already there and should know better, if this amount will be enough to sustain me. He said it depends on me!!!

Of course I still needed to apply and compete with others but his response just put me off. Well, I later have to go to the same University but just for a part of my study and I found out this amount was well enough to sustain me. My monthly expenses was even below $700.

I don't know the problems with Nigerians. It seems we often don't wish others have the same privileges we are enjoying.

Legendguru has two options on which he's seeking "expert" opinions and he should be advised as such without any form of discouragement.

In his/her last question, he asked about menial jobs and the possibility of making some amount from this menial job. Are certificates that relevant to get menial jobs?

Thank you

If you took the pain to read this thread, it was thoroughly discussed, with low jabs flying around, that you can not earn above €10k in a year working as a student. And @Legendguru was asking if it is possible to earn a million naira(€2500 * 400naira) a month doing menial jobs.

As a student or a prospective Ph.D. student, you should be smart enough to do the math.

Legendguru:
business not salary job.

if one is working full time doing menial jobs in germany can the person earn such amount in a month. i mean upto a million.i mean full time without studying. what is estimate annual income one can raise

Don't place the cart before the horse! Why do you want to migrate to Germany? work or study? If it is work, then you have to search for a job according to you skill sets and make you millions, if you want to study, then forget making millions and face your study.
And there is no way menial jobs will fetch you millions while studying. If you want to come to Germany with a student visa so you can work full time, I will advise you not to attempt it. You will be caught, so please come and study, after which you search for a job and make your billions or you apply for a job seeking visa and start making your millions/billions from day one.

Belial06:
Bro his story doesn't concern me

All I care about is for guys to have a better life out there legally

Good luck

So you think your format will get you clients........ Kolowerk, SCAMMERS WILL ROT IN HELL.

Belial06:
Oga they are many with the same take ignore them and leave nigeria while you can

Or stay there and shut up

You are so ignorant.

Belial06:
Hahahahahahahahaa

Rubbish

Everytime I see topics by losers who failed to plan advising those yet to travel about how greener pastures isn't abroad I laugh

You all traveled with fake documents or went into crime then get deported and start crying

My friends and I all have different stories

We have good jobs abroad and live very well darn better off than our colleagues in Nigeria

Stop spreading lies

Even the president sent all his daughters to school. Abroad why?

Why didn't they school in Nigeria

Zara has a business in the UK

All your top politicians have their kids schooling and living abroad

They only bring them back to run companies they set up here
Liars and crooks who go into crime and get deported or enter as illegal immigrants always come here a d open threads to console themselves after they are deported

We know your type

Even dangote the richest Africa. Has his kids abroad

So does alakija

But you will come and.tell us stories oga go back and lick your wounds in Nigeria and stop looking g for home is better crusade

Who asked.you?

Let the serious ones come.out and join us legally and make a good life for themselves

Is English too hard for you to comprehend? Or you just want to type this gibberish?
The poster said he visited Ghana and wanted to go to Ivory Coast. Last time I checked, you do not need a visa to visit these countries.

johnnycares:
Hello guys...
Good day,please I will be coming to Berlin on the 10 of June,so for now I don't have a place to stay,no space for now that what they said and also what and what should I.be aware of,
What to bring..And what not to bring
So that I can be well informed,make I no do mistake
And also if anyone who is in Berlin can help me out for just a day or two were I can rest my head before getting an apartment of my own.
Cheers

Come with enough Euros, getting an apartment in Berlin takes more than a day or two. It may take you months to get one.