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Hollybratt:
Rape is bad
but Nigerians will not hear
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IRMC

laluski:
Unfortunately things can go DEADLY WRONG in the course of doing that

worksmart:
I agree, but in her mind she thinks she is doing the responsible thing.

Ablemed:
Can therapy work for me?? isn't it to late at 24years of age?? I just finished calling mum now and accused her of everything that has happened to me, I told her I don't want to hear from her, not anytime soon. I'm tried calling my Dad to but his line is switch off, I just wanna cut both of them off, They put me in this mess that I have to fight alone now

laluski:
My sister am not supporting her actions don't get me wrong...for her to want to go a hospital at that age for that kind of thing shows laxity carelessness or the part of the parents..but somehow, she's still being sensible. What if she gets pregnant and in the course of abortion, she dies.. which would you have preferred...
Even of she decides to drop the parents strict rules with reckless abandon, and decides to start sneaking outside to have sex...nothing the parents can do my sister

onumadu:
I was forced to stop reading at this point because the Maths was wrong; didn't add up.

Fahvvy:
This are very valid questions you're asking here sir...

In my opinion the reason why she choose to open up is probably because the real father of the child has come knocking...

I mean, she has successfully hid this for 16years, so why should she open up now, if not that there's a huge chance her hubby would find out? She prolly just wants to soften things up by confessing...

If I were in his shoes, I would stay only because I don't want history to repeat itself (he came from a broken home), but I would NEVER trust or be committed to her ...

On a side note: Paternity fraud will only be reduced drastically if there is a prison sentence attached to the perpetuators of this wicked act...

GboyegaD:
No one can advice him. He should make a decision/advice himself based on:
Can he still love the child in question as he has always?
Does Shade know the real father and has there been communication during the marriage?
Why did Shade choose to open up now?

GoldSantana:
All that avails is a divorce. The marriage is definitely not going to remain the same.

Umbrateeth04:
Irrelevant post

Op you are very stupid

Kingsmm55:
Sixteen years is an over ripe woman....what was the age of your mother when your father started hammering her kpekus inform of marriage,,,? Abeg the girl did the right thing... She even deserve Oscar or any award if it were in a sane clime...

ghettochild:
It's a normal thing in the western world n here in South Africa.
Nigeria still dey behind

worksmart:
Sounds like that she is trying to be responsible

Baronthecelebri:
Wahala, who did that for, that guy will leave her tomorrow

Southernigbo:
Are u sure? Here in the south, our girls in teenage yrs don't do sex, marital or illicit, na 4 only north dem dey do catch them young by doing under age marriage

headbasher96:
its funny when u are not afraid of STDs and STIs but pregnancy

DarlingtonC:
So you won't mind if your daughter does family planning at 16?

OJODEL10:
For god sake who did it for her
the perso should be arrrested
the mother of the girl should be blame as well.

Onucs:
16 years, Jesus is Lord

laluski:
Isn't it better she does that than to have an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy?

gshsj:
Can u tell us the danger?
Some family planning is reversible so what are u talking abt.
In developed country, most pornn stars do temporary family planning...pls the gal did the right thing to not fall pregnant if its a temporary one she did.... that's smart of her in my opinion

gshsj:
Can u tell us the danger?
Some family planning is reversible so what are u talking abt.
In developed country, most pornn stars do temporary family planning...pls the gal did the right thing to not fall pregnant if its a temporary one she did.... that's smart of her in my opinion

efficiencie:
First, Emeka should work with the wife and family of the wife to find the true father of the first child and ensure that he accepts responsibility for his actions.

Second, Emeka should conduct DNA tests for all the children and confirm whether all the other kids are his or not.

Third, Emeka should conduct a family meeting involving the parents of Sade and his own parents to explain the situation to them and ensure that both families are aware of the situation.

Fourth, Emeke needs to go on a retreat to pray, to release pent up emotions and to heal.

Fifth, Emeka should return to wife but be careful with trusting her like he used to. If she could do such an abomination and keep it to herself for 16 years she can do a lot more damage.

advanceDNA:
I dont understand people...how una dey straff multiple partners together...some people are just very dirty...and u will do so to point of marriage ....


Anyway.....
Its been 16 years emeka should lock up...
If he cant lockup... he should divorce sade..
Sade should carry pikin to the real father if emeka doesnt want again

again... its been 16years... the bond is already dia...emeka should lockup

Baronthecelebri:
he should divorce that bastard

Wittyglam:
Good evening everyone. (6mins read)

The last time I brought a true life story here I got a lot of amazing answers. Thank you.

Here is another one, people reach out to me for my opinion regarding their situation, since I’m into counseling and sometimes I need the opinions of others. That is why I share this stories here.

A man named Emeka is married to a woman called Sade and they’re blessed with 4 beautiful kids, two boys and two girls.

Emeka, has been an amazing husband for the past 16years of their marriage and Sade too. I’m narrating this the way I was being told.

They both work and their family has been one with few issues just like other marriages. Something strange happened last month and this is about to change their lives forever.

Sade, make a confession to her husband. You’re guessing what it is hmmmmm.

Emeka is not the father of their first child, Emeka found this hard to believe and went out to do a DNA test but it came out to be true and he never suspected her for ones.

Sade is begging and asking forgiveness and everyone is asking Emeka to forgive and not break the marriage but Emeka is in a state of confusion.

He came to me and you can see the level of pain on is face. I asked him a simple, Have you forgiven her and he said Yes. I ask another one, do you see yourself trusting her or wanting your marriage to work? And he went numb asking me what he should do. There is so much to write and I don’t want it to be lengthy.

What will you advise?