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It’s normal for your wife’s body to change during pregnancy, the big nose is normal, the swollen foot is normal, the stretch marks are normal and the excessive eating are normal.

It’s enough stress to accept these changes as a woman but to have someone that claims to love you call you ugly or compare you to other pregnant women is unacceptable. Every pregnancy is different and people have different genes.

It’s totally normal for you wife to have cravings and to also eat a lot. All you can do as a Godly husband is to support this process and encourage her.

It’s not easy for us to undergo this changes ourselves. The best way to encourage your wife, is to go to the gym with her without pressuring her and you need to allow her get ready.

I see a lot of women struggling with getting rid of pregnancy fat by drinking different concoction all in the name of getting my body back to please my husband. Please, support your wives dear husbands.

Rozross:
This is why I’m still afraid to start dating, I don’t want to end up with a mistake of a man, the dangerous part is that these men will so disguise and pretend till you fall into their trap. Imagine a man trying to run from his wife and kids to Canada , very heartbreaking. Madam please try everything possible to stop him from running and make sure you involve the authorities and his family, he must be responsible by force.

on my YouTube channel I spoke about what to look out for in a partner, no matter how they pretend if you’re good and know what you’re looking for, you will see through them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dngUqrEwrU8

I’m worried for the wife. The man has already kill the wife trust towards him and now leaving to another world. My dear, is either you both get a lawyer and sign a contract or you report him. Nobody should be left to carry another person’s responsibility.

That man needs serious counseling and prayers. With the way things are going in this country eh.

Graduate2015:
Sorry this is going to be lengthy. I dont know how to shorten this.
I'm married for 16yrs but I cannot say that I have enjoyed my marriage. My husband is lovely when in a good mood but worst during his bad mood. His mood goes up and down but he thinks he doesn't have a problem. I think he has a bipolar and I've always mentioned to him that his behaviour seems like that but he never acknowledges it. Two yrs ago it got worse and we ended in couples therapy. During this period he revealed to me that while in the uni that he goes through period of sadness and the thing affected his grades anytime he experiences that mood during exam. I encouraged him to see a doctor and the doctor gave him antidepressant but he only used it for two weeks and stopped, saying he doesnt need that. But what he doesnt realise is that his period of sadness did not only happen in uni but its currently happening in his marriage. Our marriage is Iike a roller coaster. He finds problem but never suggests or initiate or even action solutions when suggested. He believes that every problem we have in our marriage is my fault ..
During his sad moments he eats unhealthy food, orders food everyday and says i make him sad and that i have caused him to gain weight. He suffers from diabetes and hypertension but he orders ice cream, chocolate smoothies during our silent period time. I've asked him for a separation but he refused. He calls me a wicked woman, that I make his life hell, that he will kill me one day. All this outburst just because u said something like can u clean up that plate u left in the sitting room(even though there was never a problem just before u ask). He uses visitors toilet but has never cleaned it. I have asked him several times not to use it. No other person at home uses it. Every morning I check and clean the toilet because he always leaves it unflushed.
He works almost everyday and provides for the family. I also work but since having our last child I only work on his day off which is once a week or twice because my son cannot stay in daycare due to his disability. He only goes to work, comes back, eat and watches tv. He detaches himself in family involvement while i run around with our children. He basically provides everything at home but he asks for my support when the need arises such as investments, I bring money for house or land deposits to support him or school fees. We have many houses. Our last duplex in Nigeria. He did foundation and stopped because he was building a house here. So I took over the building and finished he only continued from interior deco.
He doesn't help around the house, in short he messes it up and when I ask for it to be cleaned he gets really angry and can call me names. Because of my son's disability therapists comes to our house every day but he doesn't care if they meet his socks, belts and used plates in the sitting room because he leaves them there and rushes to work next day. He also doesn't delegate or ask our older kids to do any chores. He also doesn't involve in training them or in homework. He is a chronic porn addict and for the past few months he has stopped having sex with me. The last two we had in April I initiated it so I don't initiate anymore. He said anytime he ask for sex I always turn him down. But the fact is that he works everyday, sometimes nights. We.dont sleep in the same room because he snores and have sleep apnoe yet he is still not seeking any medical help. I end up staying awake the whole night if we sleep together not only does his snoring disturbs me but he also goes secs without breathing which scares me. He stays in the sitting room watching TV and comes to my room to demand sex around 4/5am which I can't do at that time. I suggested we watch TV in my room at night and have sex before sleep but he won't do it.
He also doesn't communicate his mind but end up using passive aggression to communicate. He gives silent treatment and I used to ask what was the problem as I sometimes don't even know what the problem was. Sometimes it's something I said which he could have told me off immediately. I dont ask what the problem is anymore because ive asked him to always communicate but still the same silent treatment. He can just burst into anger even with little issue. Right now I know he has some resentment and animosity towards me because of not being able to express his feelings. I buy everything in our house because he doesn't take charge or in control and always likes to be led. I think after all this yrs he is now feeling like he has lost control and i sense low self esteem even though his career is in the top highest paid job in the world. Our marriage has been like two weeks of good mood, then two weeks of silent treatment. He avoids discussing any problem and keep saying that there is no point discussing it because it will not bear any fruit that I will not change. Anything I dont do doesn't happen in our marriage. He takes responsibility of our car insurance but its not until I got into accident that I found out he hasn't paid our car insurance for a yr or two. Even our house didn't have house insurance since 2020 until i found out in April this year and immediately paid for it. He basically takes no responsibility for anything and its getting worse. It's like having a child but then u cant correct them because they can beat u up. I have a friend that her husband works all the time too but cleans their home on his day off. He also buys gadget like robotic cleaner to ease her suffering. I basically buy everything in my house. He doesn't have initiative except when investing in property, that's only place he takes leads, oh we should buy a house or land but this happens once a yr or more. It's not something you do everytime. He doesn't even know how to use a washing machine. I had to teach him when I was going away and this man damaged all his white designer clothes because he washed different colours together and also used cleaning bleach to wash clothes and my children kept saying how could he not know because they can use the machine.. I also pay for his clothes to be ironed. I don't know how he sees me as an evil person because he calls me that during quarrell.
His behaviour makes me so sad because we live overseas where is no help or family support. I'm always tired and he doesn't care. I stay awake at night with our son and he doesn't come out to help even with his cries he sleeps through it all. I don't think I can continue like this because he doesn't realise the problem. He thinks he helps around but I'm being ungrateful. I don't mind if he can own up and confess that he wants to be a traditional man but he will never confess but his actions tells me otherwise. His good part is that he gives me access to his money may be that's because I can use it to be running the house and remove that responsibility from him. He also buys me expensive things like range rover, gucci but my love language is not material stuff but hands on man because I believe I can afford that myself.

you simply need something to spark your marriage again. Have you tried doing something he loves or taking him out? Stress can play a dangerous game on him. Please, look for the problem inwardly. You both deserve to be happy.

Most of us tend to ignore this topic and end up allowing society teach our kids the wrong things.

It’s time you start teaching your toddlers parts of their bodies and those part that are private and should not be touched by others. As a parent you owe them that duties. There are books on sex and different age has the level of in-depth teaching. Whether you like it or not a failed parenting skill affects the whole society.
Check this out for more explanation


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTr2-y77_Rw

Onitemhi:
{WARNING} La watch La contact colodia vibroz

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTr2-y77_Rw

Wittyglam:
What do you want in a woman as a man ?
As a woman what do you want in a man? Don’t air me let’s chat.

check this out guys

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTr2-y77_Rw

carolingian79:
A girl who will still be with me whether I have 2k or N2 million in my bank account

this is perfect, having someone that will grow with you.

Shinegirl:
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why?

Before you say the word I do you need to watch this.
If you’re in a relationship you need to watch this.
Before you propose you need to watch this.

If you’re addicted to sex you need to watch this. Don’t forget to drop your contribution too.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaR9VZcpJcI

Stop empowering peoples insecurities all in the name of relationship. If you’re not in an health relationship than you’re in a danger zone.

Some things are not romantic but pure toxic energy but you’re finding it sweet until you’re choke and find it impossible to move out before you realize what you have birth in the name of relationship. Don’t be that person fueling peoples toxic behavior.

What do you want in a woman as a man ?
As a woman what do you want in a man? Don’t air me let’s chat.

Temiel:
See how I'm cringing reading this madness called fetish.
Indeed many people are mad, they just show it in different ways.

you will be shocked how some people think.

Choosing a life partner can be a struggle. We all pray to marry the right person but ask yourself this question, Are you the right one?

Most of us make many wrong choice and look at for things that we should not look out for in a life partner. Here are four steps to follow in searching for the right spouse…


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dngUqrEwrU8

Olasyke:
If you hear some of these fetish, you'll know people aren't normal. How would you enjoy person whipping you like you stole fish at mile 2 market? Or enjoy eating cum? That's just sick.
Wtf is am Alabama hot pocket nitori oloun.

it’s very crazy.

Some of you do the most unhealthy things all in the name of fetish.

How can you enjoy peeing in someone’s mouth all in the name of fetish?

How can you enjoy choking a person during sex all in the name of fetish? (They can die you know)

How can you enjoy eating someone’s foot?

How can you enjoy pooping in someone’s mouth all in the name of fetish? This is the worst but wait,

You guys suck women period too? What can of crazy fetish do you have? Some of you need to go for checkup and I’m damn serious.

Wittyglam:
I have heard so many horrible stories of people who had sex with someone they met online. It's better you stay safe than sorry. Be careful people.



https://mobile.twitter.com/TumisangMo/status/1351281579772018688

some of you still ignored this post and you have kept on having sex with people you met online. How is that turning out for you?

ubunja:
where did you even get that picture? Instagram? Twitter?

what does this have anything to do with the topic?

Firstly, I want to appreciate all the amazing men out there, who go out of their way to provide for the family. It’s not an easy job but you need to be also included in the running of the home and raising decent children.

I have seen and heard a lot of stories about men accusing women of turning their children against them and I want to talk about this.

I teach in a primary school, I decided to ask all my kids both boy & girls the relationship they have with their father but I was so shocked to see only 3kids have close relationship with their father.

As a man your only duty is not to provide for your kids but also to build a bond with them, you have to train them too don’t leave that to the mother. That is why kids are attach to their mother.

Don’t be that father that kids run away when they hear you coming. You can be better than your father. I have seen too many men weep about this and I decided to address.

If you continue ignoring your kids , think about your old age and how lonely it will be and at that time it will be too late to form any bond. That blame the mother when you can do better…

This world is already a crazy place to live in. Raising Godly children in this generation is almost getting impossible.
How can a mother love-vendor her daughters for sex? How can a mother advice a girl of 11years to follow rich men?

When you’re expose to sex at an early age it’s always a problem. The quest for material things is alarming � If you as a mother was expose to that life at a young age, it’s your duty to save your daughters from such lives and to encourage them.

One thing we all fail to understand is that a toxic person can only change because they want to and not because of you. You’re empowering a toxic person by choosing to stay in that relationship/marriage.

Will I find someone that will love me? Yes you will.
A person that loves you will not hurt or see you go pain. You’re with so much more. It’s time to leave and heal. You deserve more than you can imagine.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ip8HHxOae8

At what point do you think it’s time to leave your toxic relationship? Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship?

No matter the number of years you have invested in a relationship is not an excuse to stay when the other person wants out. Relationship is not a do or die affair and remember love is never a enough, it take commitment and discipline.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBjPwAXAMpE

If it's not pregnancy than it might be infection. Go to the hospital ASAP. Sometimes irregular menstruation can also be the reason.

Why do some men get envious of their wives when they earn better than them?

I have heard a lot of stories and I have also seen some unfold.

I know a man that earn so little and the wife earns 20times what he earns, she helps with paying bills and feeding too.

When you talk about someone being humble aunty Mary is very humble, zero pride and less association but problem began the day the husband asked her to quit her job to be a stay at home mom. He said they can manage from what he is making....

How is that possible, your salary barely cater for half the bills. Aunty Mary tried to talk things over with her loving husband but no way hmmmm, she brought family and pastor but still No, she asked that he opens a shop for her so they can have something to fall back on but No.

How do we take care of 4 kids, house bill, water bill, light bill, feeding, family bill, school fees, lesson fees on was he earns. Aunty Mary has refused to quit and the once sweet marriage is shaking before our eyes as the man barely comes house and has promised to remarry....

What ever went wrong we all keep asking ourselves and aunty Mary always ask for permission from her loving husband before she purchase anything....

Don't be scared of marriage, some people still have amazing marriage life out there.


Share your opinion.

You already know what you want. Fellow your heart.

This is the difficult part of relationship. Love, sometimes feel like an endless journey bit it's not. You will find love again. Keep pushing

This is the difficult part of relationship. Love, sometimes feel like an endless journey bit it's not. You will find love again. Kepp pushing

Have really having a lot to deal with right now, please bear with me.

AntiAPC2023:
what happened?

You have to love yourself first to feel loved and allow yourself to be loved but others. Sometimes, we stop ourselves from feeling loved. Be opened

I'm sorry

AntiAPC2023:
you're still yet to respond to the last mail I sent you.
I hope you're Good

Everyone with their own sha.

Truthabulabula:
Most ladies here enjoy prefer that.