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opeyy:
Godfearing - has to love God and be a praying partner with bad boy vibes
Kind - never keeps malice or use silent treatment as a tool. Always considerate and respectful to everyone.
Affectionate - expressions, kisses, cuddles, hand holding etc.
Attractive - clean, dresses well and smells nice.
Intelligent/Smart.
Talks a LOT but not loud.
Mature - tolerant, knows what he wants, lets love lead in times of challenges, open to discussion and never goes to bed angry. If he’s quick to anger, I am too but I am just as quick to reset so as long as we understand each other and open to talking about it, we’ll be good.
Reflective and remorseful, and man enough to identify where he has gone wrong and rectify this.

wow, this is a lot but amazing standards

Skseries:
which doctor or nurse does family planning for a 16year old?

one without conscience.

DanielPat01:
Some people have sold their conscience to the devil that's why. Just look at the prostitutes (male & female) up there supporting the act. Mehn! I fear this generation. The girl would probably become a LovePeddler before she ads another 10 years if she is not tamed.

it’s scary.

SugarGirl44:
There are some women who are almost never in the mood.
Those are the ones I'm talking about.

okay, they need medical attention.

judedwriter:
What do you expect when internet pornography is easily accessible to teenagers?

I just hope parents are aware.

khome:
Okay now that she has been exposed to sex and abstinence might seem impossible, would you suggest she aborts rather than family planning?

No, I’m creating awareness for parents.

Hannaleeyah:
I love the way you took your time to respond to those comments promoting the act.
God bless you!

I don't even understand what this world or let me just say this country is turning to

I can't believe the comments I'm seeing ! This is bad!

Amen. Thank you too.

Kobojunkie:
Who in particular bleed constantly from using what particular family planning method?

Be specific please...no more story telling abeg!

you should probably do the red yourself. That is why it’s good to for medical check before doing one but everyone system is different.

TenQ:
A married friend of mine did family planning (medical) just after her first child unfortunately till today, her procedure was irreversible. Her first child is about 15 years old now.

It is a dumb decision as she doesn't know if she would react to the family planning drugs. Even for married people, I advise them to use fp drugs only after their second child

thank you. I have seen people suffering from it but people don’t get to talk about the side effects.

Kobojunkie:
1. What family planning method did your friend do?

2. React to what particular drug? Condoms? Birthcontrol pllls, IUD.... you have to be specific about what it is she will react to?

Are the side effects worse than Pregnancy or STDS?

constant bleeding for some people.

Winters23:
The 16yrs old girl is actually wiser and smarter than you.

Dumb fvckers like you are the reason we have urchins disturbing the peace of the community.

What's the danger of birth control mr olodo?

Ignorance is a disease

there is no need for insults or you can a well pass without saying anything.

There are worst disease than pregnancy. I’m creating awareness for parents to talk to their kids about this to help them make better decisions with the help of a medical service.

Lastly, I’m a Mrs not a Mr. thank you.

Cmanforall:
Family planning, I guess you mean contraception?
It is alright for her to seek contraception as far she's up to age to understand the implications. However, if the partner is far older than her, say 40 years, then law enforcement authorities should be notified as a case of child abuse.

Note that both sexes can be sexually active below the age of 18, and as such contraceptive counselling is necessary.

if only done the right way and she is a minor.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop that nonsense!
2. Again, stop that nonsense! How many of the people who you claim have problems later in life did family planning in their teenage years? Stop spreading what are unverified claims abeg!
3. So? She made a decision to begin having sex and so took it on herself to get herself educated so she doesn't get pregnant or get STIs. Would you rather she have sex without protection then?

does family planning prevent STD?
I’m only creating awareness for parents. They need to talk to kids to help them take the right decision.

Please the word nonsense you earlier is offensive, this is a civil conversation.

cedricksly:
ignorance us the reason for many unwanted pregnancies and abortions... Even if she is 16years old, the fact that she has acknowledged that she is Sexually active, it is better than than unwanted pregnancy or abortion... Talking about what is wrong, the fact that she is still a minor and she's already Sexually active is what is wrong, not the family planning.... Na this same ignorance dey make majority born above their means... ONCE AGAIN AUNTY, THE DIDN'T DO NOTHING WRONG... But stukl them suppose flog him and the boy wen dey fry take advantage of minor

is she supposed to be having sex at that age? There are lots of diseases more serious than pregnancy. I’m just creating awareness for parents.

Kobojunkie:
1. Does teenage pregnancy or even an STI look better on a minor then?
2. Can 16-year-olds not get pregnant or STIs from sexual intercourse?
3. Your story claims she has a boyfriend, and I am guessing within her age. So, are you going to claim the boy is the one exposing her to sex or not?

Don’t family planning prevent her from STD?
I don’t know who is exposing who but I’m creating awareness for parents.

lookingfly:
me Sha know say i can't force any gal to knack.......even after deep pre-intimacy with the finger and being naked, if she resist. I won't force her. It's that simple for me.

thank you.

Kobojunkie:
Talking to your kids about sex is not meant for to stop them from having sex. They will eventually have sex... that is guaranteed. What talking to them is meant to help them achieve is freedom from all the mistakes that could result. Using condoms, birth control, waiting for the right person, etc... all are meant to help them avoid potential pitfalls, disasters etc.

I know and it’s also helping them do it rightly.

jaxxy:
Is this a real story or fiction to get attention and response?

How does a 16 year old know about family planning??

this is real. Any story I post is real.

benitwater:
this is not good for her even at her age.

thank you.

jammyrock:
Please, I need details of this story. OP, let us know where this happened, where and when?
I'll appreciate.

I can’t mention the school but it’s here in Lagos. It happened this year. That is all I can tell you.

almarthins:
Moral decadence don near finish. Soon it would be normal for eight year old to have family planning.

Asin and most people give the worst advice as long as it’s not their daughter or sister.

Dshocker:
You will be surprised that probably she has gotten pregnant before and aborted it, before the idea of family planning came up.

You guys should have seized her and force her to call her parents.

It is terrible and the guy behind this might be a 30yrs old man.

like some people are encouraging the act.

Immanuelsnr:
No one self wey done dey stay man house since February, I come dey wonder which kind parents leave there daughter since the beginning of strike and doesn't ask for her or care to know her whereabout, cause I know very well she get parents, nawa for some parents Sha

it’s well.

wirinet:
Yes there are days our bodies can’t handle sex, but the two parties must discuss and come to an amicable understanding before or during marriage. both of your should have an understanding and be sensitive to each other's sexual needs. Once that is missing, the marriage should be dissolved to avoid unnecessary pains and frustrations.

thank you

wirinet:
You still don't get it. We are saying why not divorce your spouse before you get to the rape stage. Because you will be divorced the minute you charge him/her to court for rape. Then the divorce will be more complicated.

okay.

almarthins:
Yeah! I fit understand but you know ur people na. They can over do things

okay.

Lamanii22:
I wouldn’t advice they go to a public school at this age, it’s better they are home-schooled

okay but there are some good ones out there.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as you are right, bride price is one of the major reason why some men believe they can rape their wife.

I will write on that because I get why they bill men a lot.

Tegabadguy:
babe their is no rape in marriage

maybe not this part of our world but in the western world they get sued.

Thegoodone13:
. Section 6 of the Criminal Code defines unlawful carnal knowledge as that which takes place otherwise than between husband and wife; and the offence is complete upon penetration. In other words, marital rape is not an offence in Nigeria. A husband cannot rape his wife. It is assumed that the wife gives implied general consent to sexual intercourse with her husband upon entering the marriage contract. This implied consent is revocable either by an order of a court or a separation agreement. In his book, History of the Pleas of the Crown (1736), Sir Matthew Hale wrote, “But the husband cannot be guilty of a rape committed by himself upon his lawful wife, for by their mutual matrimonial consent and contract the wife hath given herself up in this kind unto her husband which she cannot retract.”

hmmm but people get sued even though it’s not from this part of our world.

litigator:
Definition of rape.

357. Any person who has unlawful carnal knowledge of a woman or girl, without her consent, or with her consent, if the consent is obtained by force or by means of threats or intimidation of any kind, or by fear of harm, or by means of false and fraudulent representation as to the nature of the act, or, in the case of a married woman, by personating her husband, is guilty of an offence which is called rape.

Punishment of rape. 30 of 1960.

358. Any person who commits the offence of rape is liable to imprisonment for life, with or without caning.

Attempt to commit rape. 30 of 1960.

359. Any person who attempts to commit the offence of rape is guilty of a felony, and is liable to imprisonment for fourteen years, with or without caning.

I agree with you to the extent that the violence against persons prohibition Act (VAPP Act) modified the provisions of the aforesaid law.

But this VAPP Act 2015 is yet to be fully tested by the court. If you juridical pronouncement, please help me with one.

Thanks.

okay. Thank you

rickleye:
If Sex has been planned like everything else there should not be an Issue.
But most ladies take a laisse-faire attitude to it- I will give it to him when I am emotionally available.
For a man to consider raping his wife
1. Olosho is not an option
2. Maybe under the influence of something
3. He's been denied too long so he is taking it by force.

I just wish he understands themselves before getting married so they don’t suffer the other party.