₦airaland Forum

Cityboy08:
thanks for this bro really needed it, and yes I’m turning away from everyone they have never helped me with anything in this life and I’m not looking forward to their help in the future

Let me be honest with you as an adult, it is very wrong for you to stay in the same apartment with your cousin who have been rejected by your parent. It"s a total disrespect to your parent.

The best you could've done is to lend her money to complete the house rent for herself alone. Psychologically, you have little love/lust/soft spot for your cousin but you will never agree with yourself or anyone. My advise for you is to stay away from that girl and find your own apartment. The more you keep fighting for her, the more she keep loving you, and sooner or later, you will find yourself having sex with her and got her pregnant. This will happen except you act fast now.

This would've made sense if you went there with nothing but succeeded in doing keke business. How can you get 3 millions naira and end up in Togo? With 3M, you will get 2 brand new keke and well furnish apartment at good location in Nigeria.

gstelly:
actually I pay my school fees and I am a girl

Sorry, thought you are a man.

Dont ever worrying yourself anymore, things would soon fall back into normal. You can find a marketing/sales rep job during your semester break, you will meet alot of people through this. Be open minded,focus, and dont throw yourself at men anyhow, you will definitely meet someone that will assist you to achieve success.

wirinet:
You are absolutely correct. But you failed to list those who shape the values of the parents. So number 1 should be religious spiritual or moral leaders. They determine and shape the values of the parents and thus the society.

Priests and spiritual leaders have been shaping the values of societies from time immemorial. From ancient Sumaria to Babylon, from Ancient Egypt to Rome. Remember Christian was promoted and forced on the Roman Empire by Constantine for political reasons.

When priests become greedy and preach crass materialism by encouraging parents to acquire wealth without minding the moral source, then the parents pass this same attitude to their children, who in turn pass this to their peers and society at large.

In the old Testament Bible you will find priests and prophets hammering on the importance of maintaining the moral fabric of the society, Sometimes against powerful and hostile kings.

Yes, will agree with you to some extent, but I think Poverty and modernity is the major culprit in this aspect. Africans has been practicing religions since 18th century, why do you think the modern christianity or Islam is different from those practising then.

Poverty has blindfolded alot of parents to think that it normal for them to accept money or gifts from their lazy ass children without asking them questions. The same poverty has made some priests and other religions leaders to focus on material things, and withiout twisting the core believes or value of family setting, they will never achieve their aims.

Modernity on the other hands has done more than enough to alter family settings. During a good era, parents rarely go to work in the morning and come back late in the evening, they rarely go on business missions for days withiout attending to their children. There were few or no single mothers or daddy's, the rate of divorce was barely low, women were not fighting to be equal with men. The advent of technology is not helping the matter as well.

gstelly:
. Single no family I have friends they been doing their best for me

You dont have children and wife you are feeding, you dont pay school fees, you dont have family you often send money to, and you probably dont have liability as a girlfriend right.

Now tell me why you are feeling so sad and unhappy?

Honestly all you need to do is to channel your hustle to more productive aspects. Pick your bag and move out to unknow city or town( not war ravaging states), and start afresh. I can assure you have the capacity to make it the moment you leave your comfort zone. The good new is that you dont have anyone to worry about.

wirinet:
How can we have a functional family system when what is promoted is quick or instant acquisition of wealth and not strong family values like love, honesty and integrity.

Who is promoting quick and instant acquisition of wealth? Aliens or citizens?

I will try to be as brief as possible. There are 3 major factors that shapes humans life in their social settings.

1. Family

2. Peer groups

3. Society.

* FAMILY- if every parent preach or inculcate contentment, hardwork, humility and patience into the life of their offspring from inception, they will likely take this mentality to their peers.

* PEER GROUP - Since these children has already being made to believes in aforementioned attitudes, there is likelihood they will channel their productive energy toward more productive vices that will aid their development and that of society at large.

* SOCIETY - let me use this simple analogy, a man was born, he first know his mother, father, his immediately siblings,and other relatives. This is a foundation upon which society is built. Whatever a child acquired (good or bad) from his/her family and peer groups that he/she will bring to a larger society. Society in turn can modify its inhabitants if the foundation of its entire setup is faulty. For instance, people tend to behave well and abide by the rule of law if the society is guarantee them of better future, but that doesn't cancel the fact that society and its ruling apparatus emanated or start from the family settings.

gstelly:
Currently things are going so bad for me that am considering taking my life I don't know what to do

Please dont take your life, this is just a moment everyone pass through in life, and it not going to be permanent.

Are you married or Single, do you have family( siblings, mother, father etc), do you have friends or associates? Asking for a reason.

The first and basic unit of every society is family, as long as this basic element is not properly guild and nurtured, society will continue to see a serious menace like this. The west we are trying copying their style of family units has lay down working social systems that improve or support human development.

The mind of every new born child is plain, null and void, it is what you write there that a child built upon to become an adult. This is where the role of good parenting is vital in development of a child.

All the social vices you see today, are the result of dysfunctional family system in Nigeria.

Only if majority of Northerners are literate enough to discover that their sons and daughters holding power at central has nothing to offer the region but poverty, instability and death, they would've prefer to vote a sensible person from the south.

Adama my guy. He got speed and power to terrorise defenders but not intelligent enough to make a final decision in the box.

Not a bad deal for a lost team like Barcelona.

Cheating in relationship or marriage is nothing but hazards associated with it.

1. Sexual transmission diseases including HIV.

2. Bastard children.

3. Spiritual implications.

4. Could make partners irresponsible

5. Could lead to violence.

6. Could derailed the purpose of marriage.

7. Could lead to death of either partner or both.

8. It could affect psychological wellbeing of a couple.

9. Could damage one relationship with in-laws and children.

10. Could lead to financial handicaps and lack of purpose in life.

It is much more better to be a baby mama or dad than cheating in marriage. If we must cheat, let be a smart and sensible cheater.

It could be a mistake from her withiout knowing. Just ask her why she did so, if the response sounds intentional, then you should know what to do.

Iamgrey5:
is comoros out of the picture?

Yes, they will likely meet Cameroon.

BeeSkills:
Yup and we defeated Tunisia as well, but i just want an easy draw for now haha

Tunisia is 50-50, especially now that we'd defeated fellow Egypt. If their coach is brilliant, he would know how to stop Eagle.

If Sierra Leone lose this match, we are left with 3rd best from group F, which could be Gambia or Tunisia. Mali will definitely get a draw against poor Mauritania.