₦airaland Forum

jaytii:
Forced to speak about what exactly?

How his successor refused to owe salary/pay half salary?
How his successor decided to pay all pending pensions and gratuity against his wish?
How his successor got rid of the scam Opon Imo?
How his successor decided to take on realistic projects rather than white elephant projects that the state could not afford?

The truth is if he had performed excellently during his tenure, the APC would not have needed a calculator to plot out how they could win the last election.

Only in Nigeria a slowpoke would be asking someone to follow his legacy. No rightfully thinking successor will follow Aregbesola unrealistic policies. APC should know that if his sponsor candidate mistakenly win their primary, they should say good bye to Osun- State.

tollyboy5:
What are the project and why were they abandoned?
Is that not same reason ambode was removed?

We are talking about Osun here not Lagos please.

ivolt:
So, all it boils down to is Aregbe's ego and nothing more.
SMH

Dont mind him, the man does not have any glory to even talk about. He started many big needless projects withiout finishing them in 8 years. No sane civil servants in Osun- state will listen to or vote for any candidate supported by Aregbesola. The reason Oyetola first term election was so close is because of him. If his candidate mistakenly win this primary, APC should kiss Osun goodbye.

Mooh247:
Aregbesola don't score own goal

He is just a shameless human, in a sane society, someone like Aregbesola ought to be in political oblivion by now.

He almost totally ruin the state with wasteful policies and projects that add little or nothing to economic development of the state. He plumped this state into endless internal and external debts to the extent that the state civil servants were paying half salary for long period of time.

To make the matter worse, he adopted same uniform for all primary and secondary schools across the state. Where are OPON IMO that he wasted billions of state fund on today? This same man single handedly changed educational system in the state withiout thinking of consequences.

If he is really a man of wisdom and integrity, he shouldn't have based his grievances with the current state governor on a useless legacy.

TheNiceGuy:
All I know is he'll be worked Against.

If eventually he got the ticket, I'm very sure some candidate will flag another party and destroy his blocks of vote.

He'll NEVER win his reelection, that's the fact.

Abuja and Lagos wont allow that to happen, Oyetola is likely to emerge victorious from the primary. Aregbesola would be called/beg to reconcile with him in order not to lose Osun.

Aregbesola has no good legacy for any sensible leader to follow

Fxzboyz:
It’s very popular among guys saying to their selves “make money and you’ll get women”.

They’re right , you’ll get women that want your money not you.

Women like who they like, your money won’t make them like you, there’ll always be one guy she’s in love with, who you have everything more than but her heart will be closed to you.

You need absolutely nothing in life but money. You may not be rich but at least have something doing or little source of income to sustain your relationship or marriage.

Do not be deceive, a woman can love you withiout money but her heart is always at where she would get the desire comfort she's natural built to seek after. No matter how a woman love you, she will definitely cheat on you or leave you when hunger reset her brain. A rich man wife hardly cheat if her husband show/give his love, time and good sex.

Psalmistproject:
Biden, the jack ass!
Can Trump say a thing like this?
How can US especially Biden watch Russia invade Ukraine even after he has made millions in dollars in Ukraine together with hunter.

What elders seen while sitting down, the children will never see even at the top of a tree.

You dont expect a sensible leader to declare a war with world super power like Russia. What is the point of wasting humans lives to pursue a mere foreign policy. I am 100% sure Trump will never do this as well because you dont fight a country like Russia withiout leading to world war 3.

kayusely70:
I hope the boy would be allowed to attend school as well!

Hahahahaha, typical Nigerian mentality of killing future talent. If Man U sign your kid, tell them you want him to go school nah

Munamoqel:
nice but other regions are putting human development first .while we host over 1.4 million out of school kids in Kano .over 80 percent of the state pipe borne water system is not working anymore .this 5 bn naira could have used to eradicate child begging .

God bless you, some of them are so clueless for real.

For any society to attain it's full potential/development, it must first takes its human development seriously.

If a common man can comfortably feed himself and live in good house, there would be more peace and stability . He will always be willing to give back to society in form of taxes and service, which can be use to create more capital developments.

Two captains in one ship. Amuneke ego and being a boss mentality would only create factions among super eagle players.

Let hope this appointments good for the super Eagle.

To include another liability institution?

Our leaders are nothing but a bunch of mentally retarded individuals.

tensazangetsu20:
It's not anyone's fault thats why we need to be able to choose If we want to be born or not and the kind of life we would like to be born into.

It is entirely the fault of society we found ourselves.

Our upbringing help us morally and in decision making, while society contributes 100% to what we achieve in life.

An average African leader think his society will advance by focusing on modernity, not knowing that the basic for development of any society has been omitted or neglected.

No society or country attained a level of visible development withiout solving physiological needs of its subjects. This is basic tenet of Western ideology that eventually led to their development.

Until food and houses, which is basic need of human existence is surplus, amount to nothing or cost nothing in Africa, there will never be a tangible human, social and economic development.

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

Honestly you are not stupid, you"re only battling with innate contradictory opinions,egoism and fear.

You will outgrown this thought one day and wish you did not take this decision if you eventually does.

Cityboy08:
thanks for this bro really needed it, and yes I’m turning away from everyone they have never helped me with anything in this life and I’m not looking forward to their help in the future

Let me be honest with you as an adult, it is very wrong for you to stay in the same apartment with your cousin who have been rejected by your parent. It"s a total disrespect to your parent.

The best you could've done is to lend her money to complete the house rent for herself alone. Psychologically, you have little love/lust/soft spot for your cousin but you will never agree with yourself or anyone. My advise for you is to stay away from that girl and find your own apartment. The more you keep fighting for her, the more she keep loving you, and sooner or later, you will find yourself having sex with her and got her pregnant. This will happen except you act fast now.

This would've made sense if you went there with nothing but succeeded in doing keke business. How can you get 3 millions naira and end up in Togo? With 3M, you will get 2 brand new keke and well furnish apartment at good location in Nigeria.

gstelly:
actually I pay my school fees and I am a girl

Sorry, thought you are a man.

Dont ever worrying yourself anymore, things would soon fall back into normal. You can find a marketing/sales rep job during your semester break, you will meet alot of people through this. Be open minded,focus, and dont throw yourself at men anyhow, you will definitely meet someone that will assist you to achieve success.

wirinet:
You are absolutely correct. But you failed to list those who shape the values of the parents. So number 1 should be religious spiritual or moral leaders. They determine and shape the values of the parents and thus the society.

Priests and spiritual leaders have been shaping the values of societies from time immemorial. From ancient Sumaria to Babylon, from Ancient Egypt to Rome. Remember Christian was promoted and forced on the Roman Empire by Constantine for political reasons.

When priests become greedy and preach crass materialism by encouraging parents to acquire wealth without minding the moral source, then the parents pass this same attitude to their children, who in turn pass this to their peers and society at large.

In the old Testament Bible you will find priests and prophets hammering on the importance of maintaining the moral fabric of the society, Sometimes against powerful and hostile kings.

Yes, will agree with you to some extent, but I think Poverty and modernity is the major culprit in this aspect. Africans has been practicing religions since 18th century, why do you think the modern christianity or Islam is different from those practising then.

Poverty has blindfolded alot of parents to think that it normal for them to accept money or gifts from their lazy ass children without asking them questions. The same poverty has made some priests and other religions leaders to focus on material things, and withiout twisting the core believes or value of family setting, they will never achieve their aims.

Modernity on the other hands has done more than enough to alter family settings. During a good era, parents rarely go to work in the morning and come back late in the evening, they rarely go on business missions for days withiout attending to their children. There were few or no single mothers or daddy's, the rate of divorce was barely low, women were not fighting to be equal with men. The advent of technology is not helping the matter as well.

gstelly:
. Single no family I have friends they been doing their best for me

You dont have children and wife you are feeding, you dont pay school fees, you dont have family you often send money to, and you probably dont have liability as a girlfriend right.

Now tell me why you are feeling so sad and unhappy?

Honestly all you need to do is to channel your hustle to more productive aspects. Pick your bag and move out to unknow city or town( not war ravaging states), and start afresh. I can assure you have the capacity to make it the moment you leave your comfort zone. The good new is that you dont have anyone to worry about.

wirinet:
How can we have a functional family system when what is promoted is quick or instant acquisition of wealth and not strong family values like love, honesty and integrity.

Who is promoting quick and instant acquisition of wealth? Aliens or citizens?

I will try to be as brief as possible. There are 3 major factors that shapes humans life in their social settings.

1. Family

2. Peer groups

3. Society.

* FAMILY- if every parent preach or inculcate contentment, hardwork, humility and patience into the life of their offspring from inception, they will likely take this mentality to their peers.

* PEER GROUP - Since these children has already being made to believes in aforementioned attitudes, there is likelihood they will channel their productive energy toward more productive vices that will aid their development and that of society at large.

* SOCIETY - let me use this simple analogy, a man was born, he first know his mother, father, his immediately siblings,and other relatives. This is a foundation upon which society is built. Whatever a child acquired (good or bad) from his/her family and peer groups that he/she will bring to a larger society. Society in turn can modify its inhabitants if the foundation of its entire setup is faulty. For instance, people tend to behave well and abide by the rule of law if the society is guarantee them of better future, but that doesn't cancel the fact that society and its ruling apparatus emanated or start from the family settings.

gstelly:
Currently things are going so bad for me that am considering taking my life I don't know what to do

Please dont take your life, this is just a moment everyone pass through in life, and it not going to be permanent.

Are you married or Single, do you have family( siblings, mother, father etc), do you have friends or associates? Asking for a reason.

The first and basic unit of every society is family, as long as this basic element is not properly guild and nurtured, society will continue to see a serious menace like this. The west we are trying copying their style of family units has lay down working social systems that improve or support human development.

The mind of every new born child is plain, null and void, it is what you write there that a child built upon to become an adult. This is where the role of good parenting is vital in development of a child.

All the social vices you see today, are the result of dysfunctional family system in Nigeria.