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Any man or woman that find it easier to be friend with married opposite sex is a cheat.

No matter how close we are, once you get married, I will completely cut you off except if you have business to do with me or want to ask something about my profession.

premierlead:
She was mum's favourite girl in the neighbourhood, pretty and respectful. She will always kneel down while greeting her parents and elders outside even at 24 and already done with OND in one of the southwest polytechnic. Mum and her mother worked together in the same company while growing before they both married though her mum is a bit younger. After a long time which they have separated, they discovered that their hubbies built house in the same area, three streets to each other.

It all started when I was running a postgraduate program and was busy with research, thesis writing and a lot of practices for presentation and seminars indoor. Sometimes it took me three weeks to see the sky outside as I was always inside the house and our tenants didn't know someone is in when everyone left the house. I was just in my 30ls and my fiancee was no more serious as a result of what she always referred to as "academic stuborness" then.

Each time I was in the room busy with my papers, mum would call on this girl that she's going out and that she should helped in preparing the raw food she bought while coming from the office and after preparing the meal, she should serve me and herself, then she would go for long time before returning. Lo and behold each time this babe served me my food, something always entered something that it became a custom that two rounds must happen, first immediately mum left and second after the succulent meal.

Finally she was pregnant and mumsy took every responsibility to the extent that she bought new dresses for her and her average beauty turned to full pretty. We did a little traditional wedding, few people from her family and mine were in attendance. She gave birth to a bouncing baby boy under our roof in the heat of covid19 and the baby was like my half. Now I am done with the program and managing with a private polytechnic. I gathered money with the one mum gave her to start a provision business and she opened the business inside one big fish depot not too close to the house.

To cut the long story short, I travelled back home from where I was working unannounced last week and headed straight to her business place and what I saw really baffled me. I was in her shop for complete more than 10 minutes watching her displaying love with a guy who I later learnt was a bus driver that fish sellers always hire to carry their wares from the depot to their various selling points. She put her two hands around the guy and the guy placed one hand on top of her butts and the other at the back of her head. The old women were carousing and shouting, "ah, husband and wife, won't you give her feeding money" they were like that was not their first time and they have been doing like that since long ago, it was truly as if they are dating and banging each other. It took the noise of her son carried by one of the strangers (fish seller) for her to be released by this driver guy. She almost collapsed when she saw me inside her shop as she collected her baby from the stranger.

She did not come home straight that day as she first called mum if she was back. Though I haven't inform anybody since that day because I am still boiling inside of me till now and she has been reading it on me

I just need to share it to relieve me a bit

I am quoting your long post, so that you can see it.

Your wife is actually a flirt, and can cheat on you if opportunity present itself, but that does not mean she is sleeping with the said man.

This happens alot in any work place, especially markets or shopping complex. Men do play with women alot that you will think they are dating, but hugging and caressing of one another should be out of it, reason I said your wife might be a flirt. So, whenever you see them in such position, just know they have been sleeping with each other or will soon start.

Warn her not to tolerate that from any man again, otherwise, you will send her out the day you caught her in such position again.

dalass:
Wow... That's so sad. A whole Prof! Sorry about that.. imagine!

Why can't he ranch his bloody animals like what obtains in saner climes.... But Buhari is s the one condoning such because his people are the ones directly involved in grazing those cattle all over. If he can set example with his cows by ranching them, others will have no choice but to keep their destructive animals in ranches or at least away from People's farm businesses.,.

Thank you. Honestly you also have a good point, the president being Fulani man should lead by example.

dalass:
He's an outlaw,. They respect no one and their Sai baba has given them free hand to run amok ..... E go red for them when their support leaves office.

This is not about Fulanis, trust me, the real owners of these cows are your tribal men/women.

There was a time we rented about 5 acres of land for plantain plantation, after spending all our resources to hire tractor and buy suckers, an herd of cattles of about 200 came and distroyed everything. The villagers approached us that we should be very careful because the owner is one popular professor who had the backing of government. According to them, the matter has been reported several times, and nothing was done by security agents. We later contacted the man(a yoruba man) after several attempts, he told us frankly that we should mount a big fense on our farm to prevent cattle or better still, relocate our farm because he is also doing his business.

We eventually reported the case to one of my friends cousin who is a soldier, though they invited him to their barrack but nothing was done. That was how our ambition and plan was cut short.

I wrote about this sometimes ago, and some kids and tribal bigots on Nairaland attacked me. Those illiterate carrying AK-47 and matchet around dont owns the cattles, the owners of these cattles are the politicians, military personnels, professionals, and civil servants.

A typical Fulanis dont carry gun, they usually carrying their matches and always obey the farmers if he/she warn them not to trespass. The problem started when the aforementioned people start to invest in this sector and need to protect their investment.

If governments are wise, they should've know this already . If an herder have as much as 100 cows, he wont be in the Bush living in abject poverty. Go after the owners of these cattles and see this farmer- herder crisis goes into natural death.

Yeah, just as the same way the younger you and other officers rescued it.

If this IBB have any shame left in him, he would've stayed clear of anything politics, but this is Nigeria where anything seems normal.

Gracepikin33333:
This is not the first time i will be seeing their chats and i have tried talking to her but my wife won't listen. She always sees it as if i do not trust her.

This is what manipulative women do to perpetrate their evil agendas. The contents in the message are just too erotic to be condoned by a sensible married woman. Whether now or later, they will still have sex unless they completely stop checking on each other.

You can do this, stop checking her phone from now on, but before this, give her a strong warning that if you ever hear/see her and that man together, you will send her packing from your house withiout listen to her explanation. Also during one of your happy moments, warn her that you will eventually conduct DNA test on your children, and if any of them fail to be yours, there would a very serious consequence on her.

You dont blindly trust your spouse, trust is earned, and not to be giving on a platter of gold. It is much more better to tell people the consequences of their actions rather than telling them not to do what they wanted to do

GooodHardDick:
Having a car is not a must but however having a car is very necessary!

To poor people, having a car is like luxury while to the rich having a car makes it easier to go around.

Dont mind them, having a car is necessity, infact it is a must if one can afford it.

With car, no one in your street will know what you bring home. The hustle for commercial cabs during rushing hours or when it rain can reset someone brains. Also, people see you are a better person compare to when trekking around.

Richwallet:
First off Jews are Black and we have always been Blacks yet we are Asiatics the people of Sumaria. The name is Shemaria named after Shem the oldest son of Noah. Ham the youngest son became the father of Hamit aka Kemet aka Egypt. The religion that became Hebrew is the religion of our shared father Noah. It is not the Jews who strayed it was Ham. Yes Ham began the preflood religion and worship of false gods called the Fallen aka the Neteru gods of Egypt.

The first followers of King Yeshua Ben Yossef were Jews of the kingdom of Judea. It was the Black Edomites of Rome who called the followers of Yeshua Christians in mockery. Its the very same way Black Americans were called Niggers by the slave owners and now we call ourselves that name. Yet we are Jews and not the imposters who parade the Holocuast as their validatatiion for being Jews.

The Franks, Celts, and Anglo Saxxoms are all Israelites. The Igbos, Lemba, Akan, Kirikyu and Tygrans are also Israelites. Black Americans are Israelites. We are the people that were scattered throughout the world.

Jewish religion is the law of the Creator Supreme Being. No one is saying others cant have their own religions but if you read your Bible it says, it is others who attempted to force their relgion upon Jews. It waa the prinicple reason for our captivity to force us into submission to other natiion's religions.

I stopped reading where you claimed "black Americans are jews".

You guys should stop all these religions supremacy nonsense, this world has been in existing for billion of years. Many religions has been practiced on the causes of human existence.

Let do our religion in peace and stop enforcing others to accept ours as a genuine way.

Religion is a way of life that is embedded in culture, every culture have their own way of serving God. It is quite unfortunate that Africans abandoned their own way of serving God unlike Chinese, Indians and Arabs.

Until we all see religions as a way of life or something that gives hope and peace, the real purpose of religions may never be achieved.

Dtruthspeaker:
It is you who say "the Jews are superior to any other race in the world'.



The same way you knew it too.



Is travelling from Abuja to Lagos with Mercedes ML not better than traveling with your legs?

Hear This Principle of Law- "When the Higher comes, the lower must stop"!

Quote me when you are ready to answer the questions asked.

funshint:
Considering his colossal failure in governance, Buhari does not have the natural right to choose a successor. He should just go and rest. A consensus arrangement should be strongly resisted. The men are about to be separated from the boys. All the antics by Buni and Malami to hijack APC has failed so far. Jagaban will triumph over all his enemies IJN. Amen!!!

This is what I have been saying, how on earth Buhari of all people chose someone to continue this mess he started. We dont need anyone answerable to Buhari after his unfortunate administration.

How can he singlehandedly pick a candidate in a merger party like APC, this would amount to total disrespect to co- founders and other stake holders.

Dtruthspeaker:
Not True! The prevailing Law all over the world Proves it.

And it is certainly The Laws contained in the Bible.

Why do you think the Jews are superior to any other race in the world? How did you know the Jewish law, God and way of life are alpha and omega of human existence?

I am also a Christian, but I think it wrong to condemn other religions as Christians normally do, when they have no ideal about mysterious behind every god and religion.

SilentQueen:
Yoruba demon also know as Bleep Bois ehnn will break your heart and will serve you breakfast very hot

Ways on how to identify them;
1. He is a Handsome Yoruba boy with a Yoruba name especially those bearing Femi, Tolu, Olamide, Tobi fear Dem o

2.Good dressers: Yoruba demons know how to slay & dress to kill even the broke ones and they also smell nice too and I know we lady love neat guys.

3.Slick tongue: They can sweet talk you till they sweep you off your feet to the bed 8 they always have a way with words.

4. He will shower you with lots of love and affection for the first few weeks of dating but they lack commitment and are ready to move to another lady after they got what dey want.

5. They are surrounded by many beautiful girls and also have many messages, calls texts from girls like Titi, precious, Shewa and they don't pick calls in your presence.

Let me rest here! If you notice this red flags better run o... because you will fall madly in love with them but end it will end in premium tears
Share your experience!!!

If you really want to have a peaceful relationship or marriage, associate yourself with men of value, not men that every woman wants. Yoruba demon or whatever know the trick, they mostly spend on themselves to look like imaginary guy you all want. They knew you cant resist them, hence they use and dump you girls. A man of value dont see it necessary to spend on his look to attract female, he build his empire and integrity for future family.

Nobody knows as there are many ancient mythologies linked to supreme creators.

Ideally, people believes in what actually works for them, history evolves, same as religions. Few centuries to come, we might not have these present leading religions in the world again, just like we dont really know the prevalent religions thousands years ago.

DaveHarry:
Senegal with more chance to reach round of 16.

Football is not a mathematics, for Ecuador to qualified ahead of Regular Chile and Colombia, just know they are not push over. Of all the Africa countries going to Qatar, only Morocco can represent us well.

Zionzoom:
so we for play Portugal if we qualify....
And na this match I dey always pray make e happen o.... Portugal vs Nigeria

They will play one of Nigeria, Senegal or Cameroon in friendly match before the world cup.

qekng40:
Read books, watch movies (not Nigerian) , and self train.

Being fluent is an act, reading and movies only good for someone who want to improve his grammar, since he can write very well, that mean he is only afraid to speak in order not to make mistakes and be disgrace in public. Let him start speaking english( good or bad), he would eventually master the act of speaking. There is this local teenager a neighbour brought sometimes ago, you will be amazed how this girl speaks fluent english now like other kids( within 6 months).

Hailleys:
Help! I am about to finish my 300L stage in one of Nigeria state polytechnics but I am losing many opportunities due to my inability to speak fluently in English language. Although, I am good in typing/writing and I can compose my self in good English in my brain but it is very difficult whenever I open my mouth.
Any suggestion for improvement are welcome.
Thanks Nairalanders.

The only way to be fluent is to speak English frequently ( good or bad). Reading books or watching English movies can only help you to understand grammar. There are many who cannot read or write but speak good and fluent English, let english be 90% of what you will say each day.

The number of extremely poor people and those that are living from hands to mouth are way more than 140 millions. The middle class are practically almost non- existing.

These old men in power has probably lost touch with reality or the masses they are govern. An educated southerner should be giving a change to lead the nation after this unfortunate administration.

What both Coaching staffs and players lacks are passion and determination.

Gone are the days intelligent and big boys wins the games, to win convincingly in modern football, you need to be aggressive and always keep possession.

This is major philosophy of Guardiola, Klopp, Conte, Tuichel and Nagelsmann. You hardly lose game with this tactic.

fydence:
complain don start ��

This is not complain, I personally dont know away goal still counts in world cup qualifying games. The focus of the team in Ghana should've be to play attacking game to earn at least a way goal.

Eaguavon knew there is away goal rule in these matches, and they went to Ghana to play rubbish.

Just hope they dont conceal a second goal.

DaddyFabooluz:
Sometimes when I read comments and people's analysis or ranting, I just laugh because it is very obvious so many people don't understand why Tinubu is one of the greatest and most strategic politician Nigeria has.

As smart as Tinubu is, he knows that going for the seat of president will mean the downfall of APC. All we see now is a well arranged strategy to cause distraction in all other political party and at the end, it will look as if Tinubu is disgraced not to win the APC presidential ticket but the main game play is that whoever wins that ticket is already what they have arranged down to make the masses vote for that person thinking Tinubu has been disgraced by that person.

Mark this post from Today till the right time and see how everything plays out. Everybody will later see how powerful and smart Tinubu is.

You are very wrong sir, the man is seriously interested in becoming president. The effort being putting so far is so magnificent to be taking for a mere political game.

But the fact is that, if he doesn't get the ticket, one from his ACN bloc will get it, and if this doesn't happen, he would eventually use his ACN bloc to bargain for key positions at central.

Cromagnon:
He was premier of south west
South east and north rigged him From central
How was he supposed to use south west money for other regions or do Y'all think before uttering this statement?

Please explain this in summary

The leaders during the first republic were selected based on absolute majority at central/parliament.

Meanwhile, I was particularly talking about his UPN of second republic, which is also western dominant party. His rigid ideology and unforgiving spirit led to downfall of the then AG, under which one of his top ally in Akintola team up with Zik NCNC in subsequent elections.

In as much as i had enormous respect for Awo and his legacy, I will give it to Tinubu as master of political strategies and calculations. A typical Awo would've cut off Buhari or ACN out of the merger, forced Akeredolu, Fayemi and co out of south west ACN. Unlike Tinubu, Awo sees others, especially Notherners as unintelligent people that are not capable enough to lead Nigeria.

Tinubu is a patient politician, while Awo was too obsessed with egoism and charismatic authority.

OhBritannia:
The prayers of millions of Nigerians doesn't go above the roofs of their Church buildings or house.
When it comes to GOD, heaven and True christian living. NIGERIANS are the world highest hypocrites and GOD don't deal with hypocrites.
You see men and women praying In their numbers in churches, even fasting and speaking in tongues and yet their children are internet scammers.
Most if not all of them even stay in the new building built by the proceeds of scams.
A Church pastor collecting tithes and offerings from young boys and known internet scammers.
So many things have gone wrong with the Nigeria society it has gone spiritual.
So my dear forget about the Many prayers and Churches you see, GOD do not know them.

Man can't deceive GOD.

Oga calm down, prayer dont work, until you take a step. Regions should rather preach love for humanity.

If everyone love one another, Nigeria wont be where it is today. A person that cant help his relatives will never help his society as leader, a pastor that cant help his congregation will never help his society as leader. Africans are naturally blindly selfish, egocentric and domineering. A typical African dont care about development of others or his society but only for himself. This is the area our religion should focus, not one useless aggressive fruitless prayers.

Abdul05:
if this man chief awo had successful taken the rein of power in the 60s..

I don't think dis country will look like this..

Exactly, he was the only visionary leader Nigeria has ever produced. He would've been successful if not for his too much love for south west and regional politics.

This is what differentiates him and Tinubu. Unlike Tinubu flexible/accommodating style, Awo political ideology is too rigid, conservative, and meritocratic for the then corrupt military government to have confidence in.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Honestly, you dont know the power you have as an husband. Except she is the one feeding you, I dont see the reason why any woman would be treating you like nobody in your house.

Please be opposite of what you are now, and see her coming back to her sense.