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Incrizz:
Okay.
I tried to do some research.
I asked a different guy, he's married, if it's okay for a girl to ask a guy if he's married. He replied with a resounding no
He says I should never do such.

@bolded Yes babe, I thought about that. But I concluded it was my mind playing tricks.

I agree that a guy should not do all the chasing. But that I know that I'd be forever embarrassed if he's in a relationship numbs me

I asked around. He's not married.

Not necessarily asking him out, you can always initiate conversation. Afterall, there are lots of relationships that started just by time and chance without anyone asking each other out. Try become his friend and see what happens.
When you're leaving the event, go to him and compliment his attire, shoe or anything. Have ur number written on a piece of paper if he hasn't ask yet, and give it to him. Try to avoid taking his, if he tries giving it, tell him ur phone(s) is dead. This will avoid you from call him first. You've given ur number, he needs to reciprocate by calling you first.
When the conversation starts, be very careful not to present urself as a side-chick kind of girl.

At the best

Do whatever you want to do to get him as far as ur life won't be at risk. We have more regrets on what we thought abt doing but failed to do them.

**no heartbreak is the same, you'll always get over it.

@OP, my first advice is work on ur temper. You're now living in the UK, tread carefully bro. You're very close to ur victory don't let the devil ruin it for you. Believe me, what happened recently could have put you in jail or to say the least thrown out of the house. You may be wondering how, if ur wife should report you claiming you pushed her and she hit her head on the wall, you're a "goner". As long as you remain in that country, you need to be more tactical and well calculated while handling family issues like this.

Commenting on this recent event, in my opinion, your wife is obviously bored in the relationship. Y'all have relocated to the UK, you're now living a more comfortable life relative to Nigeria. But in the process, the marriage lost its spark. You're not alone making this mistake, lots of Nigerian men in the diaspora do. Most of them think comfortable life is just all what their wife need, its not. Women needs your attention. It's very sad when I see fellow brothers hustling days and nights to make their wife more comfortable but won't create time to spend together. The comfortable wife get bored and seeks others who will attend to her.
Having a happy home isn't just by having riches, there are wealthy couples that fight and shout on each other too. A Happy home is a result of synchronisation of the members' body, mind and soul(especially the couple). I understand that the hustle is quite hard now, especially studying, working and other distractions too. My Bro, please create time for wife. If possible, carry her along with ur Ph.D research, ask her to do some reading and summarise for you. All these things makes her valuable and get her busy too after daily job. Or beta still, tell her to enroll in other training/programs. There are free trains both online and offline, this get her busy.
Lastly, communicate, communicate and communicate abt everything.

I guess someone didn't wasn't settled during the transaction. Na in-house matter make they go settle am

acme6:
It affects their mentality, just last week, my neighbour said he will give me 5k but I will let him kiss me and touch my boobs, that was after months of asking me out, Its was very funny and I felt really sorry for him cos he doesn't know what he is doing. Its really bad, he actually said he believes every girl has a price and he will get me when he buys a car, he has added it in his to-do list, that he must get me no matter how tough I think i am, I just laughed it out.

Guys really need to change their orientation about women. No amount of money can make me mess around and my respect and good name is better than wearing expensive clothes to cover body that almost all men have used.

Everybody (both male and female) has price. That doesn't mean we're all after instant gratification. Some want the instant gratification while some prefer a differed gratification just to be sure of what exactly is coming their way.
Some ladies prefer liquidating heavily on their sexual service and avoid emotional connection, ex. are the professional prostitutes. Some ladies prefer to cashout moderately with some emotional connection, ex. is the typical naija style relationship. Also, are those who priorities emotional connections over material compensation, ex. are the sisters in the mid 30 still searching for a fruitful relationship.
And vice versa, this applies to men as well.

***We all have a price, priority just differs.

samzzycash:
the baby mama get stroke?

The babe wey just born? Make he leave her go wedding for South Africa? I'm sure there will be bank alert for Banky anyway.

samzzycash:
As a fan of wizkid
I can't help but admit the guy is crazy just why did Bleep he didn't attend the wedding even though he posted it on his IG that he is going to rock the white wedding after missing the traditional wedding.. Wizkid Is truly Mad

Make e leave the new baby mama alone?

Anybody using a VW/Audi in the mover's club? I need ur opinions on 03 Audi A4 European spec.

I'm considering dropping my 03 audi A4 into the movers club. Thoughts from u guys

Her accent is more American in my opinion.

Sunday evening of all other days of the week?

He went on first date and can't take off his sunglass? Is he shy of making eye contact with the babe?

This story is a complete fabrication. She's just tactically avoiding NL guys and romantic msgs.

To my understanding, some virgins don't have sealed couch bt it'll definitely be quite tight. While some non-virgins (bt not more then 2 encounters) can regain their sealed status back.
Personally as a guy, I won't want to hear such stories cos such memories during romance may ruin the moment. Please, try to heal ur mind and forget. Except, you want to go back and prosecute the culprit.

***Personal opinion.

Towncrier007:
bros no sex again oh,she said she has gone celibate

This caught my attention, @OP, someone else is hitting it. Brace for impact, cos ur tenancy status may be over soon.

McBeal10:
well I call most of my guy friends sweatie

No worries. I'll wait till ur boo use a similar status for a younger and more beautiful girl. Then you'll understand beta how e dey pain.

You should be grateful that she's exhibiting her real sef before you both are married. It's very obvious, you marry this girl, you put urself into wahala.

uyplus:
Now this is a stupid thing to say! So you look at the messenger and not the message! Looking up to Jesus, the author and the finished of our faith. The message has to be preached for you to accept right? You cannot search the scripture yourself? Can God be mocked? A friend saw this pastor in Dubai few months back on a shopping spree at a Gucci shop with two young ladies! Ebuka works for his money, what work does Biodun do? That is why most pastors abroad do full time jobs aside the mission they are called to serve, because your job is what you expend to fund your lavish lust and not the church's purse! We are still waiting for his robust response tho! No Nigerian church in UK is registered as a charity organisation, but they as limited liability company, and they are ok with it, because they rather prefer to declare profit to the UK government so they can send all their tithes and offerings back to GO/HQ, than have the government look into their books as a non profit charity organisation! Fani kayode gave that Biodun lots of money during GEJs regime, and the man stylishly campaign for GEJ on the altar! Imagine taking monies from people with questionable characters, and not querying the source of the money! Never stop at defending the indefensible!

Really? Hearing that for the first time.

chronique:
Nobody truthfully wants to wed this way; let us tell ourselves the truth sometimes. If they had the money, they would have done like every other person. I must commend them for their courage to damn what anybody says, and do this but this sole act should not be used as a yardstick to judge everybody, neither should it be the benchmark for testing if a lady is loyal or a wife material. We don't get married everyday. My younger sister got married recently and everyone was happy cos the wedding was lit! Yeah, it costs some good millions and I felt proud and was happy it went that way. It was classy and what every bride would want... Years down the line, she and her hubby would look back and still be proud of themselves. Banky and Adesuwa just had theirs and we're all talking about it. Years to come, they would look at themselves and be proud of what they did.

If you have the means, go for what you want and make your wedding as classy and lit as it can be. Weddings don't happen everyday. The harsh reality is that if my sister wants to do this kind of wedding, I don't know if I'd ever be a party to it cos I'd be disturbed about how the man in question would be able to take care of her. We all wanna be happy. Brides wanna be happy on their wedding day... The fact that there are leeches everywhere, doesn't mean we should use poverty as a standard for judging a good wife material. If I want to get married, I'd love it to be as lit as it can.

Moreover, the fact that they got married like this, doesn't mean they would not break up if devil surfaces in their union. Poverty and lack of money, destroys so many homes and that's why it is good for one to be financially ok to a reasonable extent before getting married.

When the realities of a family life kicks in, the last thing couples remember is how big/small/flamboyant wass their wedding.

In other news, you're the toiletries/beauty supplies sponsor.
Ask urself this simple question, does the relationship currently worth abt 50k, in terms of companionship, time spent together and other charitable services she offers. If yes, bro you're enjoying a good offer if no, than tell her you're low on cashflow.

We're what we eat. If you can't be on similar level on food taste/cooking style then there's issue. I'll advise you to talk abt it. Although, many naija ladies don't to be criticised on their cooking skills. The earlier you talk abt it the better. Sometimes, hangout with her in the kitchen and question whatever you find odd.

Moorish:
For the uneducated, please know these facts

The original Settlers of Lagos: Awori

How they arrived in lagos: The Awori left ife and were instructed by an[b] ifa oracle (priest) from ife to put a plate in the ocean and follow it and settle wherever it sinks. They followed the plate till it sank in the Atlantic Ocean,[/b] they called themselves Awo Ti Ri meaning the plate has sunk, hence their name the AWORIS

Lagos is Yoruba, however the king of Benin sent an expedition to lagos island, and was able to conquer parts of the island and called it eko, meaning war camp. So yes, lagos does have a Bini influence, however the original settlers are sons of ife

Hope that clears it up

This ur story looks like tales from one old man's dream. Thinking abt this credibility of this story, does that mean the Oyo, Ogun and part of Ondo state are Sandfill by the same rooster Oduduwa brought from Mecca? . Cos ur story is telling us that Ile ife has a seaside.
***Please can you explain ur story further? Thank you.

"The state of origin" palaver has done more harm then good to the unity of this country. It's time we start using "the state of residence". Osibade (oh my bad, VP Osinbajo) promised this during the campaign but no sign of action yet.

Why the double barrel hatred on NL , She's not the reason Nigeria situation bad the last time I checked.

viic:
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Oga scientist, as fela talk am, "trouble sit down and you wake am, Na palaver you dey find ooo". I don't think ur invention has an domestic application. So, why the publicity?

This is exactly happens when you feed under-developed brain too much marijuana

Bros, how much to refill Refrigerant for 03 AudiA4. I had an engine repair and the mechanic said he had to disposed the gas in the car. What class of refrigerant is recommended for the car?

walepackage:
oga,what is wrong is wrong irrespective that some are doing it.The girl is too young to start experiencing sex at this phase of her life.She should rather chanel her energy to schooling rather than allowing a boy to turn her to a sex machine at her age.So pitiable that values and morals are withering away in our contemporary society.

This young man (16) asked a question, and the first comment he got was curses and all sort of nametags. It's just sad that this young man had to go thru such experience. Honestly, our so-called high moral (fake) is what is messing up our society today. Despite this so called claim, there is no physical proof in the society today. Prostitution is still the biggest economy in the country (maybe not...hyperbole)
You too claimed a 12 year old girl shouldn't be in a relationship, give me a break. That's a fantasy bt in reality, some 12 year old girl wants a relationship. Not every relationship has to be sexual, we've all been there. Some of wrote love letters while in Secondary school. For how long are we going to remain in the fake moral standards of ours, and wake to reality. We're just abt repeat the silly mistakes our parents made, by neglect their responsibility and being our best friend post puberty stage, neglecting us to learn abt ourselves on the street.
***The young ones needs mentoring and not rebuke.

alexialin:
We are not enemies but I realize one thing. You were part of the bandwagon mocking my looks, my personal decisions and all. So why should I grant u private audience? To stab me deep?

Abeg the negativity here on Nairaland is overwhelming.


Sorry it's nothing personal. Need to protect myself. That's all.
I simply trust no one.


If what u have to say, is not embarrassing or nor awkward to the read, why not tell me here on any forum with my name mentioned, I will read thru reply and delete it afterwards . It's that easy, if u have no hidden agenda.

That's my take.

If you can't ask here, then sorry I don't want to know what u have in. Mind to ask me.

Ehya who are those bullying "the queen" for NL sake? Y'all should stay off "Military Zone" here