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From the way you're detailed, you're obviously still very hurt.

What happend here Shangy is that she has always had the other guy on her heart, you were just a spare tyre, in case things don't work out with the other guy, she knew you'd always be there for her. Then, things worked out and she didn't need you anymore.
It's unfortunate but that's how it is.
You'll have to move on with your life, you're definitely not her number one choice, even if she eventually comes back to you, it's simply because she couldn't get her dream man.
Open up your heart and love again. Don't use her as a criteria when you go into your next relationship and most importantly, learn from this experience but don't let it determin your relationship with other women.
Do take care, you've got a good heart, don't sell it off because it has been broken.
Take care and Tread with wisdom.

What happend here Shangy is that she has always had the other guy on her heart, you were just a spare tyre, in case things don't work out with the other guy, she knew you'd always be there for her. Then, things worked out and she didn't need you anymore.
It's unfortunate but that's how it is.
You'll have to move on with your life, you're definitely not her number one choice, even if she eventually comes back to you, it's simply because she couldn't get her dream man.
Open up your heart and love again. Don't use her as a criteria when you go into your next relationship and most importantly, learn from this experience but don't let it determin your relationship with other women.
Do take care, you've got a good heart, don't sell it off because it has been broken.
Take care and Tread with wisdom.

If you really love her and you sincerly want to marry her, I'd advice you give her a chance, but she'll have to make some sacrifices too. This doesn't mean you should become unnecessarily selfish and self centred, just do things with moderation. Sit her down and talk with her, what does she really want with you? does she love you? is she ready to settle down? is she ready to go the extra mile with you? is she currently seeing any other person? these and more are things u have to find out.
If your girlfriend want to come all the way from Abuja to see you and u can afford it, i see no reason y you shouldn't pay her flight fare, just make sure, she's actually coming and not taking you for a fool. Don't allow your previous experiences with her totally turn you into what you're not.
Take care and be wise.

what are doctors and post-natal sessions for?

Yes, it's normal, depending on the calender on your monthly cycle. If you had a period at the beginning of the month, let's say, 2nd of october, it will be normal to have another one on the 27th if you have a short cycle of about 25 days.

Sulphur oitment is very good for the treatment of eczima. Get any oitment that has a high concentration of sulphur, alternatively, buy the raw one from yoruba sellers and blend to smooth powder, mix with kero and use at night after bath. It doesn't smell nice and I think it's pretty harsh, but works like magic.

We once had a maid that came to the house with it and we attacked it so fast, it wasn't transfered to anyone in the house.

Yes, I agree with you. I believe they want to make sure everything in ground for our coming in. Remember IRS is sort of starting all over again. It could be the planes they're expecting haven't arrived yet.

@ Jk,
Being sexually active at 13??,,, I don't consider that "smarter" or "sharper" They're just not being given the time or moral upbringing we were given.

doyin13:
I sure say with some makeup, a chleioplasty, nose lift

tummytuck, scalp refraction, cheek suction

teeth whitening

abeg I tire sef

If I die right on the floor of my office for laughing too hard, you shall be held responsible!!

@ Olanajim, mystery ke?? date ni. And y not iice? cos she's 62? small thing, I could be 90, maybe he's interested in our wills. At these ages, we could die soon and he'll have access to all our wealth!!

@ Kinky, in Nigeria and you were already having sex earlier than 13? Boy, you needed some real good spanking. Am pretty soft with the poster's cousin because she's a girl and best thing to do is plead with her conscience and beauty, in other words, sweet talk her, but as a boy,, I'll sure teach you a lesson and a very good one at that. Guess you weren't as lucky as the little girl in question because you weren't caught, but tell you what, never ever accept it as one of those things. And remember, sex is riskier for a girl than a boy. ,  Wasted emotions, pregnancies,  more prompt to STDs., name them.

seuniyanda:
is there really always the right person out there, or someone somewhere try to make him or herself the right person
You girls have what i believe is poverty mentality, you like some one that can bear your load for you, whereas you have something that makes you too unique even more that men attimes, but you carry away by your immediate needs and for get the ultimate
Girls are the same, well i won't stop loving one, if i get the so called right person

You already made up your mind, why did you decide to ask us? Go ahead and do whatever you feel you should. Guess you never needed our advice afterall.

Enjoy!

@ Rhino, we're begining to have an agreement. But at 0.01% Haba, that figure is too small now. Give us 30% with some credit and I'll stop bugging you.

Kinky Dawg:
Not to justify what they were doing, but I think it's naive to think that a 13 year old couldn't be having sex. By 13 I was already in JS2 and I knew that I started having sex way before that time. So that's the world we live in, as crazy as it might sound. As long as she doing it with somebody her own age, you gotta live with that.

All in all, you gotta talk to her but that's all you can really do - TALK, she still gotta do what she gotta do behind your back. Sad but true

@ Kinky Dawg, you can say all of that because you're not in Africa. In as much as we know things like that happen now and again, it's not a norm and we still consider it totally iresponsible for a 13yr old child to be having sex. We try to curb moral decadence in this part of the world and not applaud it. Weather it's someone of her age or not, it has to stop, she doesn't have to live with it, she can make it stop. What she needs to do is to educate her cousin keep a close watch on her.

This is indeed sad. I only hope the "thing" you're talking about here is probably kisses and not "the real thing"
I'm afraid, having tasted it at such a young age, it might be very difficult to curb her.
You'll need to educate her on the dangers of what she's doing and on the beauty of keeping away from guys. Since she already knows about sex, you must give her some practical examples, even if it means using your person experiences. Let her know the pains that goes with it, pregnancy, HIV/AIDS and other veneral diseases, disrespect from the male folks.
Give her a good Christian teaching too, let her see that Mary the Mother of Jesus was chosen because she was pure and a virgin.
Give her a sense of pride in herself too. Tell her she's too much to let just any boy mess up with her. Let her know that everything has it's own time and a time will come will guys will beg to give her even a kiss. Let her know that the most important thing right now is facing her studies.
Make sure she gets close to her mom or any older female in the  house who she can always relate to. Give her some good books to read and make sure she stays away from amorous books and videos as well as get to know her friends and know those you'll discourage her from hanging out with.
Good luck!

suzzlingol:
u didnt meet the right person and beside guys makes girls to be unfaithful.

Nobody can be held responsible for somebody's unfaithfulness or flaws. I agree with you though, that he just hasn't met the right girl.

Men., Wowo gum that guy! if that's his pix on his profile, then, I love his confidence! Am laughing so hard, I can't even think!

Funny enough, am just seeing this post for the first time. Dear poster, what do you want?

You can trust a girl but you must be trust worthy yourself. It takes trust to have a good relationship. But remember, tread with wisdom!

Bolarge:
yimiton,
You mess up oh! Fine girl like you.
This guy obviously has tons of money to throw around on pretty girls.
_{Just kidding.}

Emm, tons of money, Never mind, the guy needs our help, Maybe it's his first date and blinded by love or old and deperate to marry. Anyhow sha, since he's a fellow Nairalander, the least we can do is to open his eyes.

godslead:
Maleeq @post don use na.You no tell mi say u need recharge card too.Ask it shall be given unto u

Nairalanders will not kill me with laughter! You make my day!

Dear Yara, the hand writing is too glaring for any matured minded human being not to see that your internet girl friend is not real. She's "dating" you only for the money and when you stop giving her money, she'll definitely jilt you. I can't imagine how a lady will be asking you for money when you've only just started dating and she gets mad when you can't provide all she wants even after you've explained your situation to her. Surely she's taking you for granted. You're too serious in this so called relationship. Pls, take it easy and DON'T DON'T give her any more money until she can prove to you in other ways that she genuinely cares about you and wants you for real.
If you really care about her, you may keep up the relationship, but don't go about giving her money, that doesn't totally prove how much you love her. Besides, distance could really be a problem when you're trying to start a new relationship.
Tread with wisdom!

It's not compulsory that you must start a thread. If you don't know what to say, just read what others have written and learn from them. You're blabbing dear poster.

This is getting more interesting than i anticipated!!

Guess Bibi has as much problem with reading and understanding as with writing. I hope for his own good he takes to advice and learn.

I've heard only one song from the album and I was totally discouraged. It sucked.

@ Trendy, is that a recent development? didn't hear about that. What's your source pls?

Too hot to hold!!

Damn too hot!

She's hot!