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@ naijaborn,
Thanks Buddy! You're kind. I'll look out for your thread.

@ showstopa,
The Lord is your Strength!
Welcome Sista! You'll be the better for it.

@ Willy Esq,
Thanks, you're far too kind.
But at least, guys will respect girls more and there'll be less broken hearts on the street.
Remember, I'm not a feminist, I try to be rational and take time to think things through, plus I used to be a sucker for good books.
I don't read that much anymore now but I still put to use a lot of things I've read some time ago.

@ omega25red:
Never a truer word than yours!

@ showstopa,
of course you have to slow down on the calls.
Look, you're a lady and you don't throw yourself at a man, he just won't respect you. It's purely the man's way.
Even if you see him, say a decent hello to him and go about your business.
If he notices you aren't so crazy about him and he really wants you, he'll definitely come after you. If not, let him be.
I know how difficult it is to love a guy and not go weak in your knees when you see him but he doesn't have to know just how weak your knees went or how many butterflies are in your stomach!
Causion is the word girl, wisdom is the big one!
Love ya!

@ Theffanyi
Do you realize that such relationships are usually without intimacy?
That's why it's usually so so painful for the guys when the ladies break up. The ladies usually go away without a scratch save for the memories of a nice time.
Most times, the guys loose in a non-sexual relationship while the girls loose in a sexual one.
She must have been very young when they started and because they didn't start with sex, the guy might have decided to wait till the big day.
What do you say to such to guy? That he was stupid? No, I don't think so. Things just didn't work out fine and he needs to go ahead with life but he'll definitely take a long while to heal.

These are the kind of ladies that turn our gentle men into heartless human beings.
All these while when she needed you financially, she didn't know she'll see visions, suddenly, she's seeing visions.

You know what, I hate people that don't seem to have a say in their own lives, people that always blame others for their stupidity or mistakes.

I really don't see this lady making a good wife, she'll continue to run from one place to another when there are problems instead of settling down, thinking about this problems and tackling them intelligently.

I believe very much in God, but people take God for granted. If she has seen a vision that you'll marry more than one wife, what stops her from going on her knees and praying against it as well as improving her character and learning how to build a perfect home when she finally has one?.

This is going to be very very difficult for you considering what sacrifices you've made for her, but you must pick yourself up and start all over again. Shit happens, but life goes on.

@ bolargeez:
For ya mind! That book must be very precious to you. Remember theory and practical are very far apart!
Let's assume you got all the lines without the looks, confidence and style! Have you thot of that yet.

You might want to listen to Shania Twain's "that don't impress me much" to understand what I mean.
Enjoy!

@ Olanajim:
Thanks Jare. Let's fold our arms and wait for him

Stay cool. You don't have to go shouting to him that you like him.
Keep in touch but don't call that often.
If you don't call for a while, he's bound to call if he has feelings for you too but if he doesn't, I'll advice you go ahead with your life.
You may give him a call occasionally but don't place your hopes on him.
There might be a lot of reasons why he can't commit himself to you now, like he could still be in a relationship or not just sure about you. If you become desperate, you're driving him far away from you.
Take it cool, if he wants you, he'll come after you.

olanajim:
If it is true they are having marrital problems. Wouldn't it been better to make the positive use of their findings on internet to strengthen their dilapidating home? If the woman had never said any good words to the husband at home, but said it on internet, what stop them from building their home on that positive observation.

I see that these two are made for each other. If they could get along as strangers but can't get along as a couple, they've intentionally chosen to remain enemies.
I agree with Olanajim, this would have been a great opportunity for them to see how much they can get along without any bitterness between them and strive to mend their relationship not breaking apart. This should ordinarily make both of them laugh at each other and with each other.

@ virusabbey:
Biodun, you make me laugh so much my head is begining to ache.
Alright, I want to hear those perfect words, but you'll have to post them right here.
Trust me, if they're really cool, I'll acknowledge them!

@ Efua:
Let's hook up on YIM, I won't be so busy today. Always nice to see you here though.

No, it's too risky, it could get to the wrong hands and that could be desastrous!
Remember what Marcia Cross of Desperate housewives (Bree) went through when someone stumbled across some of her 'not so decent' pictures thrown in the trash!

At 17, you're already sadling yourself with the issues of women! 
Boy, you've got a long way to go! And 6 at that, mine oh mine, what time do you have to read your books?
What ever happend to pure, uncommittedand beautiful friendship?
You really think you're very mature? Macaulay Culkin of Home Alone equally thought he was very mature when he got married at age 18 but discovered it wasn't a game for kids barely 2 years later.
My advice to you, at this age, you don't need any commitments be friends with all six of them, like reading mates and with time, you'll get to understand what love is all about and genuinelyfall in love.
For you to have 6 women on you at once and not knowing what to do simply shows you're still a long way from being mature.

It is rather unfortunate, but this guy has used and dumped you, he doesn't need you anymore. All these while you were filling the vacuum the absence of his girl friend created and because you knew about her and how he feels, he took you for granted. You were always there for him physically while his heart belonged to someone else.
If you are sincere with yourself, you'll agree that somewhere deep down in your heart, you wished, hoped and even convinced yourself that he might just forget his long distance relationship and settle for you.
You became clinging, demanding and appeared desperate, you were playing with your own emotions in a game that you were bound to loose and girl, didn't you loose!
You were too available to him, so he treated you like dirt.
When you have feelings for a guy, there's no point hanging out with him if he's not willing to make commitments with you, just let go already and don't punish yourself.
Now that he has suggested this break up and gone, please get up, dust yourself and get along with life without him. Free up your heart and mind to love someone else. Your world does not revolve round him. I wouldn't even advice you go back to him if he comes begging, unless of course he's ready to make commitments.

A relationship without occasional misunderstanding and quarrels is a relationship built on deceit and insincerity. When you become to careful to step on your partner's feet, you don't get to know eachother well.

Two people with different sexes, backgrounds, ideas about life, culture and so many other differences are bound to misunderstand each other now and again. But the most important thing is that when you have a fight, you must learn from it. It should be a mistake that never repeats itself a second time, in that case, that particular misunderstanding builds the relationship because it helps you to know your partner better.

But if the same issue is the cause of several misunderstandings and these misunderstandings are very rampat, then, it's very very unhealthy.

@ bondxie,
That is a dumb excuse to be unfaithful.
When a couple has any problem, the ideal thing to do is seek solutions to it, not making your partner feel guilty or condemning herself for "the problem".
If she had a choice, she wouldn't have chosen to be without a child.

How could be be gay with 2 wives? Maybe bi-sexual _{which I don't think he is} but he's definitely not gay.

There are no excuses for dating a married man. It's wrong and non exusable. Any responsible young lady should consider it insulting when a married man approaches her for a relationship.
Most importantly put yourself in the shoes of his wife and envisage yourself as her after a few years and a couple of kids. How would you love a young unmarried woman competing with you for your husband?
And finally, it's so wrong that it's the only reason the Bible (new testament) recognizes that could break a marriage.
In a nut shell, IT'S WRONG!

This is indeed very very funny! You must be very young not to realize this is pure lust and nothing deep and of course she's playing a very smart game with you.

Of course she won't date you and might never sleep with you but will continue to play with you for as long as you give her the opportunity. She catching her fun, you know, it's like hide and seek or the more you look, the less you see. She's going to get you so hot for her, you won't be able to resist her but mind you, if you ever finally get down with her, boy that will be the end of all these so called feelings!

Take heed, be wise, clear her out of your system and go ahead with life. She's not worth your sleepless nights. She's just getting you excited.

Can't seem to think of anything else. Unless of course you want it in French!
Hope someone comes up with something suitable for you. Do have a nice day.

That sure could make me stop and laugh if you say it just the right way (comically)  and you got a good voice and good looks, otherwise, it will get me so so angry you'll make me want to cry! _{I'm laughing now though}

Not again.

I'll go with Extension or Development ABC Extension Project Or ABC Development Project.

@ Hazel-eyed:
It's really alarming to what extent some guys will go to to get a lady's attention. This is really annoying and the best thing to do is to ignor. Problem though is that even when you ignor someone, their messages still find a way of coming in somehow when you log out and re-log on.

I've tried to ignor someone and even reported him as sparm but just when I'm about to take a breath of relief, I receive another of his annoying messages.

The best thing to do here is to ignor him on your mind too. You musn't reply even if he sends you thousands of messages. Sign in invisible and he wouldn't be sure weather you're there or not. If your mind doesn't see him, you can easily ignor his messages and move on. This might be difficult at first but you'll get used to it with time.

@ Acidrop! Thank goodness you got no stalkers, you're so lucky! Tell you what, stalkers are real pins in the *ss. Enjoy this time now cos you'll long for it when you finally get stalkers!

Hello IRS Liners,
I heard someone has been called for Cabin Crew in Lagos.
Has any other person heard from them yet?
I called about 5 other persons and they're yet to hear anything.
I'm still believing in God. If you hear anything, give us a holla right here!

Romantic! emm,
Sharing the same music with me, while we dance alone, just alone in our world
writhing me really romantic write ups, I mean, just putting what he feels for me on paper. (I could read this a million times when he's not there!)
shopping with me on saturdays, I do the picking while he carries the shopping bag or pulls the trolley
excercising with beads of sweat on him while I watch on!
wispering sweet nothings to me in public, (even if he says nothing)
sharing laughter and smiles with me
sending me texts messages, Just to say 'I love you' and,
No, am not going to say anymore, these should give you an idea of what I consider Romantic!

NaJa HaJe:
I 'actually' fell in love once.

the most beautiful thing eva. If i never love again,,,,,, it will serve as sufficient memory for the rest of my life

Love ya Sista!

@ Poster,
Follow tundewoods's advice and you'll be the better for it.