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@ Shangy,
Thumbs up for you Buddy! I'm glad you woke up and went on with life. I'm so proud of you. Shit happens and we all fall now and again, but the most important thing is that when we fall, we must get up, pick something up from the fall and move on with life.

That's what makes life worth living, that's what makes life beautiful. Keep keeping on. I'm glad you're not bitter, glad you learnt to love again. Life is good, life is sweet, life is beautiful and life is too short to be spent hating anyone.

Love you Buddy!!

seuniyanda:
though then i was only trying to play around, but i just don't know why i love her so much,
So don't cast the first stone,
only with the lady that deserve it

And only with a guy that deserves it!

You've answered your own question. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
You were out to play around, you fell in love, she probably noticed you were playing around and wasn't done with it. She only beat you to your game, so what's your problem.
In any game, there must be a victor, it was your game but she was better at it, so, live up to it and stop whining!

When one says, "I'll die for you", it's not literally speaking. No one will so such silly thing unless on very impossible occassions like Titanic. If dying to take his place is what you mean, I might understand a little esepecially if we already have kids and he's in better shoes to take care of them, otherwise, life goes on for him, he finds another love, and goes on without my stupidity. Without kids?, I'm not doing any such silly thing!

Seems to me you're making fun here, you've watched too many home videos. But if what you're saying is true, there's nothing to it, there are lots of gold digging guys out there these days, so, make sure the guy is not taking you for a fool. If he's educated and decent as well as responsible, I see nothing wrong in it. Be sure to stand and defend your choice to the face of the world cos girl, if you were my younger sister, emmm, your face will not be spared from a good slap.

Be sure he feels the same way and that you're matured enough to handle this.

Wouldn't reply to his "hi" how much more go on a date with him. Even if it were a blind date, wouldn't I have the right to turn it down?

How old are you? Lust could easily be confused for love depending on your maturity. You definitely found her attractive, but for love only time will tell. You don't need to tell her anything, take your time, keep the conversation open, get to see now and again, keep sex out of it, so you could both think with your heads and not your "Stuffs" and after a few months if you still find yourselves attracted to each other with lots of things to talk about, then, by all means, start something.
You could just tell her now that you think she's cool, but nothing more.

@ Rhino, you've always been very very mischievous, how dare you say the guy's suit looks like an Olopa's? It's not true, it will be very cool in Salvation Army's collections!

@ Fatty27, are you male or female? If you're female, don't you find plp like Pat Attah, Morris Chestnut, Jim Iyke (I hate him but his body built is attractive) cool?  If you see a nice looking guy with such built walking down your street, won't you admire him? Of course you will but you'll definitely not say "Hi, I think you're cool" neither will you stop and stare at him. If you dare do that, mine oh mine, you'll be termed cheap and irresponsible without self control. You just take a quick look and hope he notices you and finds you attractive enough to say hi.
On the other hand, if the guys find us attractive, it's allowed for them to air their views. Thus, it is erroneously believed that we don't find them attractive (because we keep our cool) and they find us attractive (because they're brought up to appreciate us without a sense of shame or guilt)

Think those that don't mind their E-mail addresses being displayed already have them in their profiles.

Men attract as much as women if the men are good to look at (there are only few compared to women though) but as we all know, a responsible woman or a well brought up lady cannnot afford to stare at men the way a man can afford to stare at women. It's just the culture, so that even if you find a man attractive, you simply look the other way so that you'll not be tagged "irresponsible"

Yes, cute-ass is very correct. Most times, I sign in invisible because I might just want to talk to a sister or a particular friend and could ignore anyother person that tries to IM me unless I just feel like acknowledging his or her presence.

Mc Omo, did you say 100 friends?, mine is not that bad, maybe 15 @ once, but I'd rather choose whom I'd like to talk to or not.

Please don't waste one more minute on him lest you fall in love so hard you can't think properly. Back out please and right now. Walk with wisdom!

Thanks to every contributor to this tread. This means it's ok to hibernate but I'll have to totally shut down now and again. You've set my mind at rest.

Windows Media Player 11 rocks! It's so cool. I downloaded directly from microsoft. Internet explorer 7 is really nice too; I love the multiple Tabs.

I always prefer to hibernate my system instead of turning it off because I always have one or two things I'd love to come back to. This means, i can go on for about a week without fully turning down my system. Please I'd like to know if this has or could have any negative effect on the system.

People cheat in relationships for different reasons, but it all boils down to one thing, dissatisfaction.

An individual goes into a relationship without really knowing his partner, then, he discovered that she's totally different from whom he thought she was but he finds it difficult to break up even though he realizes he's actually not in love with her _{doesn't want to hurt her feelings.} or she doesn't possess the qualities he's looking for in a woman afterall.

Then, he keeps her but keeps floating around to see if he'll eventually get that lady his mind is after.
Another factor is that he may not want to leave her because he feels insecure. He needs someone else but afraid to loose what he already has in case he doesn't readily find that someone.

Then, there's pure indiscipline, some plp just can't stay with a single partner.

_{Note: 'He' could be a male or female here as well as 'she' could be the male.}

bon anniversaire!

I totally agree with you Eddy. My younger sister wrote UBA exams since around June and she was told she passed the test, but until now, she's yet to be called for an interview. She's so devastated and worried.
Something surely has to be done.

As for those guys with fake postings and fraudulent behaviour, I'm afraid they'll definitely come back with other names and Identities even if they're banned or blacklisted. I think we should all think of how to curtail their intrigues in some other ways. Educating Nairalanders by calling the names of frauds (like you're already doing) is a good beginning.

Every one should be weary of promises that sound too good to be true and NEVER EVER part with money to recruiting firms, if they truly have anything to offer, they wouldn't be asking for money first.

Ultimately, stay clear of get rich quick syndrome and be wise, open your eyes wide and don't get duped.

@ Sillyboy, I was thinking but am done now. If he really loves her, he could give her a chance but he's got to be very careful not to be taken for a ride.

This depends on the kind of person you are and what you love doing. If you love wild life and animals, I'll suggest Kenya. The place is clean and the locals are friendly, they speak English and have lots of relaxation spots.
Unfortunately, I don't have any friends or relations there but u can always make friends there and you could relax too.

And sons of Adam.

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@ seuniyanda, it's not a question of being confrontational or being trusted. This is not about me, it's about you and your girlfriend. Guess what, I've decided to keep quiet on you. My resolution? if it's Seuniyanda, then, NO COMMENT!

Eyaaa, shit happens!! Cheats, girls , so much cheating what do we (men and women alike) want?
Sorry buddy. Ask her what she wants.
Why is she cheating on you.
Don't know what else to say, the issue of cheating has been flogged and over flogged in this forum.
Follow your heart.

This is na wah!

why did u get engaged in the first instance?

Emm,

Intelligence, good carriage, fear of God, confidence, good sense of humour, romantic, easy smiles, sharing the interests of his chic and just cool, with love for some kind of adventure.

Physically? good hight, broad chest, powerful arms, athletic built, nice cool (but a little ruged) face and, can't remember others. I guess fellow nairalanders will help you out, that's if they don't take me up on these!!

Silly boy, take time oh, anyway sha, I agree with your style, but just as you pointed out, it doesn't work with a lot of ladies!! I feel you sha, but when a brother sister is in love, that could be difficult. I don't believe that girl is real, that's y he needs to talk to her to find out her intentions.

Emm,  but what are we going to be talking about? with plp here already cutting at each other's throats with the key board. I'll be there only on the condition that we're allowed to come in harmed with guns and body guards!

Maybe I would have changed mine for him, but am afriad, my family will be suspicious since he's not a member of the family, and my bring in EFCC. I wouldn't want to leave any wahala behind, so, am leaving it just as it is to avoid issues.

@ seuniyanda, obviously u already made up your mind on what to do before coming up to this forum with this. You probably just wanted to share your problems and obviously not looking for any kind of advice from anyone.
I take exception to your insults.
Just as I said earlier, you could go ahead and do whatever you deam fit to do with your life. It's yours, it's all yours, you can do with it what ever you choose. Just be ready to face the consequencies and bear full responsibilites as well as dance to the music of whatever decisions you take in life.