MRbrownJAY: although there is nothing "seemingly" wrong with a 30yr old single woman, the alarm bell will clearly ring in my mind, but that's just me....so here is how i will evaluate such person (this is just MBJ's views, pls dont get offended):

[b]- as much as a +30yr old would "seemingly" look great, we all know that the skin elasticity may have seen its fair share of cream etc, so before settling for such lady, a GOOD LOOK at her without make up is necessary in order to have a clear evaluation of the skin quality/elasticity. a poorly cared-for skin would mean that this gal would quickly look like an old hag, after a few months/yrs (check her mother without make up for CONFIRMATION).

- skin elasticity also means that her tittays would certainly sag quicker than a 20yr old (if they didnt sag already).....so a good look at her nekkid and standing IS A MUST. if her tittays already sag pass the belly button, then you already know what to do. pls dont get fooled by them gals with big tittays firmly locked in push up bras, this is one of the fallacy of the 20th century and just another trick used by our sistas out there, lol!

- if that girl is beautiful, then alarm bells will be ringing even louder, as you most definitely must ask yourself:" what is it about this beautiful gal that drives people away?" YES, there must be something within her that is driving all potential mates away, something so foul that men are willing to disregard her beauty...so thread carefully!

- then the idea of WHY she has never been able to meet the right person must also be considered. as much as many may be unlucky like that, there are equal chances that she may have the wrong attitude, the wrong goals in life, the wrong mindset, the wrong lifestyle, the wrong background/past, TOO DESPERATE etc. again, a thorough check must be done to get to the bottom of it all, and know exactly what it is.

- and then there is the issue of freshness of the toto, yep you heard me right FRESHNESS OF THE TOTO!!!!!
most single women meet about 5 different sex partner a yr (i am being generous), and since they start fukcing at about 19yrs old (and i am VERY generous once again), it means that a particular lady could have no less than 55 different men mounting her toto by the time she gets to 30yrs old. although there is nothing wrong with that, it means that this toto has seen its fair share of traffic, and as we all know that traffic mean heavy maintenance, that toto has long pass its sale by date. it may taste great, but chances are the elasticity and mechanic of that said coochie is close to giving up on you. a 20yr old coochie will get its elasticity back after a pregnancy (with the right exercises), for a 30yr old coochie it will be 3 times as hard.....[/b]

so looking at if from a life long investment's point of view, it is not a great move to go for such ladies, especially when we all know that you can get a fun, "easy go lucky", friendly young 20yr old coochie for the same hassle that you would get from most desperate 30yr old woman.

PS i am not even going to dwell on trying to educate and "reboot" the mind of that said +30yr old lady, and getting rid of all the "viruses" that have been implanted in her mind by her past r/ships. NO operating system/antivirus could handle such heavy duty work load!

Dimples 316:

Sweetheart I couldn't resist you on this, sex is good and yes there's the temptation to fornicate the longer I stay single and unmarried. I am not a virgin and won't pretend otherwise, I've done that whole sh****t with serious boyfriends in the past and realized it only leaves me feeling empty and demoralized on the inside so now I know better than to go there.

Sex wasn't all that WOW for me when I was doing it because I hardly ever reached o-r-g-a-s-m. I just couldn't feel the pleasure in it. I think men get more of a kick out of it than women do, or at least than I do. F-o-r-e play yes that I enjoyed, but to answer your question am not into s-e-x t-o-y-s, m.a.s.t.u.r.b.a.t.i.o.n without it I can do. I've got a vivid and wild imagination I can make myself come without the aid of s-e-x t-o-y-s or an e-r-e-c-t-i-o-n.

I could fall into temptation and fornicate I am not immune to the possibility of that, but before I get there I would have exhausted other options like masturbation or an intense body work out to rid myself of all that sexual energy. And of course there's always an ever present help in the time of need from Heaven.

Am no perfect so don't even take me up on the masturbation thing just let God deal with me on that.

erico2k2:
In my Village deep deep inside the Jungle if you ever say you dont want kids and never want to get married, you are automaticaly classified as a WITCH

Jambsupport: :

Dimples 316: Seun Seriously?

Do simple words like s-e-x tools, m-a-s-t-u-r-b-a-t-i-o-n need to be modified for us.

Jeez man give me a break. You just make my post above sound gibberish with all those words like intimacy, heavenly feeling.

Gosh that is so 1920's

Atheist:-D:


She can have kids without being married. What makes you think that she needs to be married to have kids.

D-Explorer:
Hey sweets, how're you doing?

Dimples 316: Ahaa, good to know you are finally feeling me on some things cos I really hate to be misunderstood. I figure now you also realize I don't need a shrink right? So take that back (I wasn't offended) but would like to see you eat those words and admit you were wrong. I am waiting oooo, don't keep me waiting. One love

Sunbellar:

@ Dimples, i ve been carefully following ur comments. Its good to uphold ur ego as a woman who is not searching anyway. We understand your predicaments and i advise u as a christian not to condemn every womans desire 'marriage' [/b]bc word is mightier than sword. Soon God ll give u ur own bone but God works according to ur confession. Pls confess right and expect the right. There is power in confession. So begin to claim ur own husband now and u ll soon be favoured.

Jambsupport: dearie am fyn. Tnks 4asking *got my pm*

shizzle11: Naturally, the market value for women drops as they get older compared to men. Most career women who have made their mark in their profession usually don't marry early cos they cling to their jobs not giving much thought to marriage, and to some, marriage has become a thing of status, so they're waiting for their 'level'. A few other ladies can't just come to terms with living with a man and playing the role of surbodinate to some man. Different reasons I tell you, some of them just so so funny.

Now op, kindly confirm if you're female or not (and tell us where you belong).

D-Explorer:
Oh good. PM..Inbox or via NL?

Jambsupport: nl

Dimples 316:

No offence taken, yes I would like to take care of my folks for as long as its possible and necessary to. Married folks do this too which is all good but I am saying I don't need to be married to do this. Taking care of my folks is more of a priority than marriage is and am not going to put my life on hold or wait to do things like this until I am married.

This may sound controversial but its the truth I love children especially those between 0-6 yrs, I can have kids out of wedlock via adoption if orphanages will allow single parenting. One female child is what I desire I don't need to have pre-marital sex to have a child. I don't know about needing kids to take care of me because there is no guarantee that they will. They could pass on before I do or turn out to be irresponsible or simply not give a damn.

I would strive to take care of me for as long as I can single or not,while trusting in God to take better care of me now and in my old age because He created me and knows the end from the beginning. My faith in Christ is a big part of my life if something feels right and doesn't go against my Lord's instructions I do it. For example the adoption thing

Dimples 316:

Chei, Sunbellar ooooooo pls where did I in any of my posts condemn other women's desire to marry? Pls quote me on it because I clearly remember saying marriage is a good thing and people who deisre it should by all means go for it but not every one wants this.

You obviously haven't read through my posts carefully to make the sort of conclusions you did. Can't a woman have a contrary view or opinion on a matter OR a view different from the norm without folks like you screaming blue murder and judging her?

And FYI I am not into that name and claim it religion of today which some folks confuse for Christianity.I run every thought and feeling by God and I am brutally honest with Him on all things because He already sees and knows what's in my heart. Everything I've written on this thread He is already aware of because I tell Him.

Oh and by the way my understanding of the passage in Proverbs about The power of life or death lying in the tongue is that with my words I can build a person up, encourage him and basically help him get back on his feet OR I could tear and pull him down with my hurtful and spiteful words. That's the understanding given to me by the Holy

. . .but the only 'comma' in all of this, is that
each time she wants to hang out with other girls, she realizes that these girls are still in their 20s and she's like a aunty in their midst, since girls her age are already married...married with kids!

marvelck: When A Girl Is 30+...and still single. Though she's 30+, she still look young and feel young. And she's less bothered by what people say about her. Since she's comfortable, have a good job, a nice apartment and a fine car to go with it. And she dresses and wear things younger girls wear. Though she feels lonely atimes, especially in the night, but she consoles herself either with her BB + pinging to keep herself company, or by watching romantic movies and cuddling her teddy bears to keep herself warm. she partys alot and hang out with other girls, but it can never be like when u're with ur family (wife, husband and kids). and atimes it's fun when you're single and happy, and not under the 'chain' of any man. but the only 'comma' in all of this, is that each time she wants to hang out with other girls, she realizes that these girls are still in their 20s and she's like a aunty in their midst. since girls her age are already married...married with kids!

vislabraye: I won't blame all the +30 yrs women who are not yet married. Life is not usually fair. Many of us have had dreams and aspiration which did not materialize as when expected.

MRbrownJAY: although there is nothing "seemingly" wrong with a 30yr old single woman, the alarm bell will clearly ring in my mind, but that's just me....so here is how i will evaluate such person (this is just MBJ's views, pls dont get offended):

[b]- as much as a +30yr old would "seemingly" look great, we all know that the skin elasticity may have seen its fair share of cream etc, so before settling for such lady, a GOOD LOOK at her without make up is necessary in order to have a clear evaluation of the skin quality/elasticity. a poorly cared-for skin would mean that this gal would quickly look like an old hag, after a few months/yrs (check her mother without make up for CONFIRMATION).

- skin elasticity also means that her tittays would certainly sag quicker than a 20yr old (if they didnt sag already).....so a good look at her nekkid and standing IS A MUST. if her tittays already sag pass the belly button, then you already know what to do. pls dont get fooled by them gals with big tittays firmly locked in push up bras, this is one of the fallacy of the 20th century and just another trick used by our sistas out there, lol!

- if that girl is beautiful, then alarm bells will be ringing even louder, as you most definitely must ask yourself:" what is it about this beautiful gal that drives people away?" YES, there must be something within her that is driving all potential mates away, something so foul that men are willing to disregard her beauty...so thread carefully!

- then the idea of WHY she has never been able to meet the right person must also be considered. as much as many may be unlucky like that, there are equal chances that she may have the wrong attitude, the wrong goals in life, the wrong mindset, the wrong lifestyle, the wrong background/past, TOO DESPERATE etc. again, a thorough check must be done to get to the bottom of it all, and know exactly what it is.

Dimples 316: @ Naturalwaves.

We are cool , but I really don't know what you want me to reconsider. I am not aversed to marriage neither do I hate it. I just don't feel a desire for it and am not desperate because I've turned 29.