12 inches!:
There's something I always say and bliv in. Despite the fact that there's no time limit for marriage, not being married when most of your age mates are getting married or alredi have children is bound to make u feel "somehow". Anybody saying otherwise is just deceiving his/her self.

candieangel12:

Well dear, I can tell you that being around my age mates that are already married with kids do not make me feel "somehow", in fact it makes me more happy with my decision to put off marriage for a while...and I am not deceiving myself at all. My age mates that are married with children have so much more responsibility, I wouldn't be able to deal with it all. I love the fact that I don't have a husband to answer to or children to take care of. I don't need to rush home from school or work to come and make food for my hubby or to help the kids with their school work and whatnot. When I come back from school, I just chill with my friends or go partying or anything fun. I love it that way and I would not have it any other way. My friend, thats 1 year younger than me, got married at 18, has 3 children already and looks older than me because of all the stress and responsibility that comes with having a family. She wanted to go to medical school, but she had to put it on hold so as to dedicate her time to her family. She tells me at times she envies me because I'm living out my dreams...she says she adores her hubby and loves her children but she wishes she would have waited before getting married and starting a family. So my dear, your statement is pretty false because everyone is different and have their own outlook on life.

o.obim:
If u r a guy,30 yrs and nt yet a millionaire,do nt own ur own house n cars;SHAME ON YOU!Now,how abt dat?

candieangel12: My age mates that are married with children have so much more responsibility, I wouldn't be able to deal with it all. I love the fact that I don't have a husband to answer to or children to take care of.

candieangel12: When I come back from school, I just chill with my friends or go partying or anything fun. I love it that way and I would not have it any other way

o.obim:
Make una free our women na!Life cn b unfair somtyms.do u all wana tel me dat those gals who married before 30 lived a more decent life?Trust me,i knw 30* ladies who were so decent.Somtyms i wonder if u guys hav mothers,sis n daughters.If u r a guy,30 yrs and nt yet a millionaire,do nt own ur own house n cars;SHAME ON YOU!Now,how abt dat?

Dahbutter:
YEAH, shame on u , now let that shame drive u to doing what u oughta do!

o.obim:
Hahahaha!Now u feel what 'em girls feel when u tell them that nt marrying at 30 is a shame.I'm a millionaire,building my own house n aint 30 yet.Shame on u for nt owning a house at 30.Ladies,ds shud b d question u ask any stewpid man who ask u why u stil single at 30;'why aint u living in a mansion at 30'

shizzle11:


Hmmmn, human beings and mindset, nawaooo!


@Dimples, swwetie, no offense pls, you jst turned 29 and still single, and the posts from the family section scares you from even 'thinking' marriage and you want to dedicated th rest of your life taking care of your ageing parents(as if those who are married don't happily do that). Do you intend to get kids (that is of course out of wedlock) cos u'll definately need one or two to take care of you when you start ageing. Just asking'o, and maybe a food for thought for some.

hardbody: However i did not know that the real reason why people have children, is, according to you to take care of them when they start aging. Honestly in my world, i had grown out of that mindset. My parents have enough investments not to bother about what i am able to do for them, and i am growing mine to ensure i do not rely on children to take care of me.

naturalwaves:



This shows that U are not even matured enough to get married.The responsibilities of being married seems to scare U such that U feel U are incapable.So,wen are U gonna get responsible wrt marriage?


And how long is the fun going to continue? With d way U've been sounding all through, u look like someone that will even be so afraid to pass through the process of a child delivery.My dear,life is not all about career and fun(everyone loves fun).If not,men will not even get married atall.We can just av kids outside wedlock,date numerous women and live life to d fullest.There are some certain responsibilities that comes with difft ages. In d words of SHIZZLE11,when U finally make up ur mind to stop d fun and get more serious,DONT LEAVE IT TOO LIL,TOO LATE. Cheers!!!

12 inches!:


This thread is abt pple that are 30+ but u're not 30+ so it probably doesn't apply to you. You're probably early twenties. Your friend married quite young and I can assume most of your age mates are in school studying one course or the other and also like you having fun. But if u were to have finished school, and your friends start getting married and you were to be the only unmarried one you are bound to feel 'somehow'. How long can you continue to have "fun". Even the people you're presently having fun with will get married and won't be in the interested in the kind of fun you're interested in now. When one of your age mates invites you for their child's bday party u'll get a full perspective. Keep having fun till then sha. Do you want to grow old and be alone without children or be remembered as the woman that never married. Think!

naturalwaves:

Ur argument is so baseless and meaningless.U are comparing A WOMAN,whose period of fertility has an expiry period with WEALTH/ MONEY that has no deadline and can be made at any time.I wonder ow U made ur millions with this type of brain(no offence,just wondering).Did U get urs thru inheritance or U got fixed into a good job by a top gun? U shuld find it a lil bit tough passing a 'SHL test' with this type of reasoning.I hope Ur millions is legitimate anyway? Don't U know that women who get married around 30+ stands a great health risk and fertility problem? Except if such woman won't be giving birth.Didn't U see LEOBREEZY'S post where he gave some useful advices about what women who want to get married ASAP can start doing to increase d chances? But U were too sentimental to see that.U've forgotten that a lot of people will read all these posts even though just few of us are making comments,so,whatever U say,will go a long way.Though,I'm not in support of asking a lady Y she is not married,asking them to reciprocate such questions with 'Y are U not living in a mansion' or 'Y are U not a millionaire' will only compound things.U may give another advice.I know U can do better.

marvelck: When A Girl Is 30+...and still single. Though she's 30+, she still look young and feel young. And she's less bothered by what people say about her. Since she's comfortable, has a good job, a nice apartment and a fine car to go with it. And she dresses and wear things younger girls wear. Though she feels lonely atimes, especially in the night, but she consoles herself either with her BB + pinging to keep herself company, or by watching romantic movies and cuddling her teddy bears to keep herself warm. she partys alot and hang out with other girls, but it can never be like when u're with ur family (wife, husband and kids). and atimes it's fun when you're single and happy, and not under the 'chain' of any man. but the only 'comma' in all of this, is that each time she wants to hang out with other girls, she realizes that these girls are still in their 20s and she's like a aunty in their midst. since girls her age are already married...married with kids!

candieangel12:

Your argument isn't very legit. A woman in her 30s has the same chance as a woman in her 20s to give birth to a healthy child. Seriously, all you people saying a woman 30+ poses a greater health risk to fertility issues have some misconceptions. Are you guys doctors or what? This is a common lie that Nigeria feeds to our young women and that is why most of them are rushing into marriage when they are not ready. A woman's fertility decreases slightly from 35+ and it decreases a lot by 40+. There are many women that have children well into their late 30s early 40s, for example Mariah Carey and Jennifer Lopez. Tyra Banks and Gabrielle Union are in their late 30's, childless and not married. They both said they want children some day but even though they're clocks are ticking for them, they are not running to the nearest alter to get married or have kids out of wedlock. They are taking their time till the time is right for them. In this day age, with all the technology, a woman in her 50s can even have children. Does early marriage guarantee children? Some women that have been married for years are still childless, so please this whole 30+ years shenanigins is nonsense. A woman will have children when it God's time, be it 20 or 45.

naturalwaves:

U got it all wrong.A woman whose age is advanced has a lower fertility rate than a younger one and women who starts aving kids from 30+ will give birth through 35+ if such women want to av more than a kid.It was also reported that children with downs syndrome and other types of birth abnormalies were given birth to mostly by women whose ages are advanced.Here is a proof.U may like to read this;
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/ageandpregnancy/

charles316: [size=18pt]and then there is the issue of freshness of the toto, yep you heard me right FRESHNESS OF THE TOTO!!!!!
most single women meet about 5 different sex partner a yr (i am being generous), and since they start fukcing at about 19yrs old (and i am VERY generous once again), it means that a particular lady could have no less than 55 different men mounting her toto by the time she gets to 30yrs old. although there is nothing wrong with that, it means that this toto has seen its fair share of traffic, and as we all know that traffic mean heavy maintenance, that toto has long pass its sale by date. it may taste great, but chances are the elasticity and mechanic of that said coochie is close to giving up on you. a 20yr old coochie will get its elasticity back after a pregnancy (with the right exercises), for a 30yr old coochie it will be 3 times as hard.....[/size]

MR BROWNJ,U ARE THE BEST.

candieangel12:


Yeah Yeah, you have it all wrong. I said a woman's fertility decreases when they reach 35+, you are saying that it decreases at 30+. I read the article and I know all about that stuff and the article is clearly stating that a woman begins to have fertility issues around 35+...so what's the big deal about marrying and having children between 30-35? Still, everyone's case is different...there are still very fertile women in their early 40s just as there are very infertile women in their 20s. So what is your point and what is it that I am wrong about? Maybe you didn't read your so called article very clearly and maybe you didn't read the women's comments on the article, one had her 1st child at 32 and the other is 40 years old and pregnant. So, again I ask what is your point? You still make no sense to me.

naturalwaves:
If U read my post well,U will see that,I said a woman who gets married at 30+ will give birth THROUGH 35+( most likely) xcept if she wants just an issue.
A woman's fertility declines with increasing age and a woman starts having fertility problems from 35+ according to d article .U forgot d fact that 30+ means any age from 30 upwards and U quickly concluded that d woman will av kids btw d ages 30-35.What if she gets married at 34 or 33 and she wants to av like 3 children? Won't she span d age 35 in d process?Or won't d children be spaced atall? If a woman spans 35 years and report has it that women from that age tend to av fertility problems,that means there is d probability of the woman aving such problems? That's d point!
Won't it be logical for one to try and av kids when there is a great chance for fertility rather than wait till when or close to when medical professionals say fertility starts declining.Y put one's self under probability when there is a phase for certainty (all things being equal).That's d point! Moving away from medicine and theories,I av seen countless examples of couples who got married late and their major challenge always seem to be d ability or difficulty in conceiving in which d major diagnosis was that d wife is not very fertile as xpected due to advancing age.
Moreover,U didn't talk about d point in d link I gave U that said 'there is a higher risk of giving birth to children with Down's syndrome,Edward's syndrome,Patau's syndrome and d likes in women that wait till such advanced ages'?.This means that,aside d fertility problem,there is also a probability of giving birth to a faulty product.
Considering all these,won't it be rather advisable to play safe and av kids at an earlier age?

MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ i suggest you go back and read what i wrote before busting a vein, as you are clearly talking in the air. BTW funny how you completely missed (or selfishly decided to disregard) where i've written that there was nothing wrong in having 55 partners....... ah women!!!!! ok let me educate you then:
1) if it is my sister/mother that had 55 partners by the age of 30, would my post now make some sense TO YOU?
2) where in the above post did you see the word SLUT or LACK OF SELF RESPECT?
3) how blind are you that you missed the FOCUS of the above post, which was about toto elasticity?!
4) are you saying that because you have never met such women THEY DONT EXIST by the boat load in 9ja? some gals have such amount of partner before they even get an education/degree. i suggest you open you eyes and educate yourself on RUNZ.
5) who cares how many partners a man has, since we all know that a man can have a hardon till well into his 90s (thanks to a $20 blue pill)?
6) if you believe that my post insults women then so be it, thats your opinion and you are entitled to it...... but thats MY OPINION nevertheless.



Please, I don't need your education...I know enough and maybe even more about this topic. You men running around here thinking they know more about women. I never said you said SLUT or LACK OF RESPECT but clearly a woman that has had up to 55 sex partners is a SLUT, maybe you didn't know that....or maybe you need to be educated? And well you can go ahead and say what you want about toto elasticity just as I stand by the fact that the older a man gets, the saggier and rugged his balls become. I never said anything about men not getting erected because women can as well get pleasured well into their 90s. Just as you don't want an loose toto, some ladies don't want saggy and rugged balls. Runz girls or whatever are a different case because they do it for the money. A regular, ordinary woman that prides herself does not go around sleeping with men like a Runz girl does. Anyways I am done with you on this topic, if a man choses who he wants to marry bases on the toto elasticity of a woman then he has some deep serious issues. Case Closed.

candieangel12:

A woman will have kids when the time is right and when she is able to take care of her children, there is no need into rushing into marriage for the sake of childbirth. If a woman knows she wants many children then yes, she should marry and start having children earlier like my mother who had all 6 of us before she clocked 35 but if a woman, for example me, wants only 1 or 2 children then what is the rush? I can only speak on my behalf because I am not against early marriage but early marriage and early child bearing is not for me. Yes having a child when one is above 35+ can lead to defects but with all the technology and the right pre-natal care, this likelihood diminishes. And maybe you forgot that it is not only women that cause fertility issues and high risks pregnancy, the man can be just as much to blame. So don't go pointing fingers at women. This is the 21st century and you guys need to get more educated on this issue instead of claiming myopic views. Be it 20 or 40, a woman should marry when she finds the right man and when she is ready to handle the responsibilities that come with being a wife and mother. No one should rush into marriage because that would be a mistake one will regret. There is more to life than all this marriage nonsense. Let's just leave it at this, I'm tired of stressing out that marriage should be done when one feels ready. Let's agree to disagree because all this head butting will get us nowhere. No one can change my views, I am just giving my own opinion to the females on here that think their lives are over because they are single and 30.

candieangel12:
Please, I don't need your education...I know enough and maybe even more about this topic. You men running around here thinking they know more about women. I never said you said SLUT or LACK OF RESPECT but clearly a woman that has had up to 55 sex partners is a SLUT, maybe you didn't know that....or maybe you need to be educated? And well you can go ahead and say what you want about toto elasticity just as I stand by the fact that the older a man gets, the saggier and rugged his balls become. I never said anything about men not getting erected because women can as well get pleasured well into their 90s. Just as you don't want an loose toto, some ladies don't want saggy and rugged balls. Runz girls or whatever are a different case because they do it for the money. A regular, ordinary woman that prides herself does not go around sleeping with men like a Runz girl does. Anyways I am done with you on this topic, if a man choses who he wants to marry bases on the toto elasticity of a woman then he has some deep serious issues. Case Closed.