SAGirl: I am a single woman in her 30s.

What I know about life is every situation has its pros and cons. Everybody has their own set of problems. Everybody complains about their lot in life. Married women want to be single, single women want to be married.

Most of my friends were married in their 20s: 20% of them are divorced. 30% are staying in miserable marriages because they feel they have no way out (or are scared of what people will say). 20% are in good marriages, with good man, but they still suffer from depression due the stresses of marriage. 30% are happily married and loving it.

I have both single female and male friends. And yes, we all dream of meeting that one person to spend the rest of our lives with. But what I've picked up is that single men are more stressed about their situation that single woman. They obsess about it more. And hence they assume that it should be that way with women. But it is not because women are different. We just get on with it and make best of our current situation.

If I am 32 and look 25, it means that I naturally age well. I will be 50 and I will still look damn good. Being a beautiful 22 year old does not mean much, every woman is beautiful at 22.

You do not know how she's going to age, and chances are as soon as you put that ring on it she is gonna let herself go and start balooning like nobody's business. A 30 year old woman who looks good knows how to take care of herself and will never let herself go, married or not.

So.. you marry your 22 year old, and I promise you that in 10 years time, I wll still be looking like this. My tits will still be tight. But she will be looking like my Auntie.

Disclaimer: I am in no way bashing younger women, and I am in no way suggesting that you marry me or any other woman my age. You will not find one anyway who would settle for anyone with the mentality of some of the gentlemen on this forum :-)

MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ the only thing i know about the gal is that she is +30 and "possibly" desperately single (aka unmarried). how can that ever be a reason to wanna hang with someone? especially when there are gazillions of 22yr old women all over the world in that same position?! SHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT!

Dimples 316: MBJ I dey see you oooooo, clap for yourself.

LOL where you are concerned because I am not oblivious to the way you carefully draft your posts and string your words together, so you can't be called out on a statement without having a defence. I saw the part about ''possibly'' I just deliberately chose to ignore it.

I hail thee.

Dimples 316:
@ Naturalwaves

My NL oga I hail thee,(I'm making you my oga for now as you adviced that I reconsider my take on marriage. LOL)

Dimples 316: I see you are going at it with candieangel. There's logic in your argument too,

Dimples 316:
but common is marriage for the sole purpose of bearing children and doing so in good time before we hit menopause? I don't think so and you know me now, am all for adoption, adoption, adoption if you can't have children of your own OR if like me you want children out of wedlock but do not want to fornicate to have them. Remember God is working in us giving us both the desire and power to do what pleases Him (Phillipians 2:13). So my desire for a child out of wedlock via adoption may just be God's desire at work within me. Well at least I believe it is. Oh and by the way there's nothing wrong with my womb I can have children out of it just saying in case you think.............

MRbrownJAY: although there is nothing "seemingly" wrong with a 30yr old single woman, the alarm bell will clearly ring in my mind, but that's just me....so here is how i will evaluate such person (this is just MBJ's views, pls dont get offended):

[b]- as much as a +30yr old would "seemingly" look great, we all know that the skin elasticity may have seen its fair share of cream etc, so before settling for such lady, a GOOD LOOK at her without make up is necessary in order to have a clear evaluation of the skin quality/elasticity. a poorly cared-for skin would mean that this gal would quickly look like an old hag, after a few months/yrs (check her mother without make up for CONFIRMATION).

- skin elasticity also means that her tittays would certainly sag quicker than a 20yr old (if they didnt sag already).....so a good look at her nekkid and standing IS A MUST. if her tittays already sag pass the belly button, then you already know what to do. pls dont get fooled by them gals with big tittays firmly locked in push up bras, this is one of the fallacy of the 20th century and just another trick used by our sistas out there, lol!

- if that girl is beautiful, then alarm bells will be ringing even louder, as you most definitely must ask yourself:" what is it about this beautiful gal that drives people away?" YES, there must be something within her that is driving all potential mates away, something so foul that men are willing to disregard her beauty...so thread carefully!

- then the idea of WHY she has never been able to meet the right person must also be considered. as much as many may be unlucky like that, there are equal chances that she may have the wrong attitude, the wrong goals in life, the wrong mindset, the wrong lifestyle, the wrong background/past, TOO DESPERATE etc. again, a thorough check must be done to get to the bottom of it all, and know exactly what it is.

- and then there is the issue of freshness of the toto, yep you heard me right FRESHNESS OF THE TOTO!!!!!
most single women meet about 5 different sex partner a yr (i am being generous), and since they start fukcing at about 19yrs old (and i am VERY generous once again), it means that a particular lady could have no less than 55 different men mounting her toto by the time she gets to 30yrs old. although there is nothing wrong with that, it means that this toto has seen its fair share of traffic, and as we all know that traffic mean heavy maintenance, that toto has long pass its sale by date. it may taste great, but chances are the elasticity and mechanic of that said coochie is close to giving up on you. a 20yr old coochie will get its elasticity back after a pregnancy (with the right exercises), for a 30yr old coochie it will be 3 times as hard.....[/b]

so looking at if from a life long investment's point of view, it is not a great move to go for such ladies, especially when we all know that you can get a fun, "easy go lucky", friendly young 20yr old coochie for the same hassle that you would get from most desperate 30yr old woman.

PS i am not even going to dwell on trying to educate and "reboot" the mind of that said +30yr old lady, and getting rid of all the "viruses" that have been implanted in her mind by her past r/ships. NO operating system/antivirus could handle such heavy duty work load!

marvelck: When A Girl Is 30+...and still single. Though she's 30+, she still look young and feel young. And she's less bothered by what people say about her. Since she's comfortable, has a good job, a nice apartment and a fine car to go with it. And she dresses and wear things younger girls wear. Though she feels lonely atimes, especially in the night, but she consoles herself either with her BB + pinging to keep herself company, or by watching romantic movies and cuddling her teddy bears to keep herself warm. she partys alot and hang out with other girls, but it can never be like when u're with ur family (wife, husband and kids). and atimes it's fun when you're single and happy, and not under the 'chain' of any man. but the only 'comma' in all of this, is that each time she wants to hang out with other girls, she realizes that these girls are still in their 20s and she's like a aunty in their midst. since girls her age are already married...married with kids!

marvelck: When A Girl Is 30+...and still single. Though she's 30+, she still look young and feel young. And she's less bothered by what people say about her. Since she's comfortable, has a good job, a nice apartment and a fine car to go with it. And she dresses and wear things younger girls wear. Though she feels lonely atimes, especially in the night, but she consoles herself either with her BB + pinging to keep herself company, or by watching romantic movies and cuddling her teddy bears to keep herself warm. she partys alot and hang out with other girls, but it can never be like when u're with ur family (wife, husband and kids). and atimes it's fun when you're single and happy, and not under the 'chain' of any man. but the only 'comma' in all of this, is that each time she wants to hang out with other girls, she realizes that these girls are still in their 20s and she's like a aunty in their midst. since girls her age are already married...married with kids!