pearl~hapi:
SK,very sorry I didn't show up.I had an issue that needed my attention!so so sowi I hope to make it up in the next

acidosis™:
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So before we start this debate, we should all understand that to ASSERT anything, you have to possess that character/faculty. so let's look at how we (men) automatically got that authority/superiority in marriage, before we could ever think of asserting it. To do so we have to look at MARRIAGE. Marriage is the union of otwo individual who want to grown and share their lives together, build a strong bond/unit , in order to strive for the future as a family. Like anything else out there, marriage can only function PROPERLY, if all the participants UNDERSTAND and ACCEPT their duties in that said unit, and fulfill them to the best of their abilities. There is no need to dwell on WHAT these duties are, as it is irrelevant to this debate. What is important here is to understand that both participant want to achieve the best for that said union.

Just like any partnership/organization, we all know that in order to avoid mayhem and chaos, you need to have a dedicated person who will have the ultimate say on any disagreement. There can be NO PEACE in any partnership/organization/union if a dedicated "leader" is not chosen. To have a leader DOES NOT mean that this person is better than others, it simply means that this dedicated person would be the one who who has the ultimate say on all the necessary important decision, bring order and control to the unit, "if" some disagreements should arise. Sadly, it is socially inadequate/wrong (in most of the world that we live in today), to have a woman in charge in matrimony. She may be the silent leader inside the home, but to the outside world, she must submit and let that man be viewed as the leader. A marriage with a woman being in charge will AUTOMATICALLY be viewed as abnormal by society (unless you live in some Scandinavian countries etc)

So do men really have authority?! no,

but this is how great marriages have been portrayed through generations and generations. Society wants it to look that way.....and many of us grew up under such school of thought (daddy went to work and put food on the table, while mommy took care of the children/home). Many are conditioned to believe that this is how a good home should be; how a "real" man is pictured; how a great family function.
Let's all remember that just because daddy has the ultimate say, DOES NOT mean mommy cannot put her input in the family affairs. so really, when people want to assert their Authority/superiority, they simply want to put a certain foundation in marriage that we all know has been successful for centuries. the important question IS: is that such a bad thing?

can there really be two cooks in one kitchen?!

The sad fact of this matter is that many people mistakingly believe that being the "leader" in matrimony means to have power over another, to dismiss whatever comes out of their brain etc....which is not true. It simply is a way for women to show devotion to their union (although the points they may bring to the table will always be evaluated). Just because a wife allows her husband to be in charge of the union, does NOT mean that this person has power over her, it simply means that you trust that person's judgment, and let them be the ultimate say in the affairs of that said family, in order to not have chaos in this partnership/organization/union. A submissive wife can still give her opinion/say in a marriage, and bring great points to the table to make the union better , so long as she understands who will have the ultimate say if disagreements were to come about. This is one of the main characters sought after by most men looking for a good wife......to be submissive.

- It could simply be that the social environment where they reside DEMANDS for that, as we all know that many societies look at men as the BOSS, the
head of the family, the one in charge.....

- It could also be because of power.
Due to the fact that a man bring much more to a union (financially), he may believe that he has the upper hand and can decide on whats best for
this r/ship (or not). This is a common occurance when men dont see the value of women who care for the home, raise children, cook and clean, instead of bringing a pay check.

- it could be that this man paid his bride price, therefore believes that he owns his wife.
Sadly, we have to blame society for this, and all the parents who gladly sell off their daughters, like she is some commodity via "bride price". here is how some men think: IF I BUY SOMETHING; I OWN IT! therefore if i pay bride price, i own that women. Any person who owns something automatically has authority over it.

- It could also be that his wife is not performing well in her dedicated duties.
many men MUST assert their authorities because some wives decide (after marriage) to not perform the duties that were assigned to them. So men MUST assert their authority in order to bring that said lady back to her intended state of mind/character.

- And last but not least, RELIGION also has a big part to play in this matter, because it is clearly written in the Bible/Qur'an that a man should always have authority over women.

Mrs..Chima:
Good morning people...

Moderator, how long is the second round and do I have to quote my opponent?

skydeep: Sexkillz, what did you score in mathematics in ur O'level? Calculate my score and dont8's and give me the real total.

sexkillz: Quote your opponent and counter his opening arguments

candygosh: Mehn bin workn all morning.I don't know how to quote in between posts except the long post tin, so wat do I do?

MRbrownJAY: MBJ is just waking up (some of us work at night)........until what time the second round is on?

bennyraz:
Without further ado, It is right for a man to assert his superiority in a relationship
because he was created to be stronger, decisive, wise and firm by God.
We have the word Relation + Ship coming together to form relationship. So definitely, there
as to be one captain in a relationship between a man and a woman. If there are two captains,
the Relation-ship will definitely capsize.The primary objective of the captain is to sail
the relation-ship to it's destination.
A man can be likened to a captain of a ship. If it takes assertion to sail the Relationship
to its destination, so be it, they are hard choices but a man has to do what he has to do
without showing emotions.. mind you, a man is not a weak vessel, a man isn't scared by
roaches or spiders a man is bold fearless being.
A man can be likened to a Pilot of an Aeroplane. What is the primary objective of the Pilot?
to fly an Aeroplane to its destination. Often times, a pilot is supported by a CO-pilot. In
this context, a man can be said to be the Pilot of a relationship while a woman is said to
be the co-pilot. Take note of the suffix "W0"- Man", "CO"- Pilot. The sole responsibility of
the C0-pilot is to respect and follow the decision of the Pilot because the Pilot has been
delegated with the power to lead. A woman is a C0-pilot in a relationship.
Why do we have issues of Assertion in a relationship? why do Real men show their superiority
in a relationship? Most people want to know the answers to this questions. The truth is, a
man will only assert or show is superiority in a relationship when the woman in question is
not cooperative, stubborn, and disobedient.
Everyman as what he believes in, therefore it is highly important for a woman to share in
the hopes and aspiration of a man in order to have a successful relationship. Behind every
successful man, there's a supportive, Obedient, cooperative woman.
It is quite unfortunate that people are asking why marriages are failing when they shouldn't
ask because the root of most failed marriages today is caused by the Man's assertion in the
marriage. It shouldn't be a problem at all had it being the Man had cultivated the attitude
of Asserting in his relationship. And if you must know, the preparatory ground of marriage
is courtship & Relationship.
If a woman doesn't share in the beliefs of a man or if a woman doesn't want to walk in
the same footpaths as the man, there's bound to be a show of superiority either by power or
by force. And if the woman refuses to follow in the footsteps of a man it is highly
encourage for the man to work out of the relationship because it would only lead to
abuse/assault.
If as a woman, you want to be disobedient, you want to be assertive, you want to be
stubborn in a relationship, it's not a curse but you will end up being single all the days
of your life. If God wants to bless and upgrade you a little bit, you might just end up
being a single Mother.
As a wise woman, When a man asserts or shows his superiority in a relationship/marriage, you
simply humble yourselves and respect whatever he says.
With this few little words of mine, I hope have been able to make you guys understand that a
man is right to assert in a relationship.