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Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 2:39am On Jan 13, 2013 |
bjcole: @baby 123, i will not want 2 join arguments with, i ve seen so many of ur comments full of insults, r u not d girl dat said u will insult, abuse ur husband if he deserves it, u said u get mouth well well & i can see it, i guess after giving him enough wash down, u will then call d cops 2 arrest abi? With all these ur talks i still wonder why naija babes still dey look 4 us naija men to marry, u wud ve settle wit those akata dat will use & dump u. Dayo & others, U carry d day, 3 Gbosas You are not smart enough. A grown man that cannot write legibly. If you like follow all my posts. Not my problem. I don't know you and quite frankly I don't care. Piece of advise, leave your bushmeat behavior in Nigeria or else your wife will lock you up here. Who I marry is of no consequence to you as you will never measure up. Better go and sleep before you pop a nerve. I hope you learned something. You like to talk women down, I am not your wife, take note! |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 2:43am On Jan 13, 2013 |
coogar: He had evidence, so good for him. He could have gotten a good lawyer to expedite and intervene. Now, are Nigerian men aggressive? Very very. Let's not mince words there. Especially the fresh off the boat ones. You know its true. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by coogar: 2:45am On Jan 13, 2013 |
ileobatojo: why now? you don't dig interracial marriage? ileobatojo: i am an ardent fan of black women particularly nigerian women. the drama around them is odikwa amusing! baby_123: he was arrested before he knew what's up. the lady never threatened him, she just called the cops when the dude refused to show up for their sex congress.
aggressive when chasing women or aggression - as in the tendency to be violent? if it's the former, i can understand why some naija men are like that. they have had encounters with women who first refused them and later accepted their offer. in a nutshell, your fellow naija women queered the pitch for you. a man that has been used to girls telling him no before accepting his offer later would always think: no = try harder. when naija women stop pretending, naija men would start believing! |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by bjcole(m): 2:49am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Gud nite & church 2morrow, what a hilarious thread, anyway i m married & i dnt forsee my wife becoming a witch in d future, i m not even going 2 relocate to canada or American, na only visits & i m back to my sweet home, my real nairaland where d african setting works, where i can enjoy my fatherhood, wit my wife besides me even @ 80yrs, there is even enough cash to make here 4 those dat knows how. Naija rocks 1 Like |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by biolabee(m): 4:06am On Jan 13, 2013 |
interesting thread i support the man 100% on this one. some posters are too sentimental. so to show the world he is a good father he should risk jail and potentially huge legal fees which can be better spent on future college fees? @OP stay out of it. your cousin has made her bed. let her lie in it. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by logica(m): 5:30am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 6:48am On Jan 13, 2013 |
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Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:16am On Jan 13, 2013 |
when the kids grow up, they will be hating on their mom like eminem - some of his rhymes allude to this sort of behavior - crazy mothers lying to their kids that their fathers hate them dayokanu: - You picked a girl up in the club, had drinks, danced, had fun, went home together, had consensual sex, He didnt call her the following day, She is pissed and calls the cops that he Date-rapped her? don't carry camera to the beach - you want to get pictures of scantily clad kids |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:24am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I have no clue sorry |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:27am On Jan 13, 2013 |
@ chaircover everybody is engulfed with their own well being for easy way out and their convenience .... Nobody seemed to care bout what will happen to these girls before they are 14....Ah!! I shake my head with knot in my tummy This is a big eye opener for me! |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:29am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Sorry yo say this ir sister is a bad woman. From ur statement u know am right. I think d man is a leaned man.he should pay the money when mthe kids are 18 they will look for their father. Am u did,nt side ur sister. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Teejayphillip(m): 7:49am On Jan 13, 2013 |
He wanna ensure dat d woman suffers 4 her selfish n stupid act... I strongly believe he'll surely com bac 4 his kids.. D kids aint bastard... |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:49am On Jan 13, 2013 |
these are from a CAD forum i frequent, occassionally people talk about personal problems - this is not just about celebrities regular guys and crazy women Guilty when it comes to kids.
Divorce is such an ugly thing, the attorney's win, the kids lose and the parents hate each other the rest of their lives. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by vanitty: 7:53am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Every time the man picks up his girls, the woman runs to her $500/hr lawyer and file all this allegations. One of them might just stick one day and the man is in all sort of trouble. I won't advice my own son to be that gullible. All this a man should fight hard, afterall, they are his children can sometimes not be reasonable. Let's be fair here, for the children to have even testified against their father, he should even stay clear until they ask for him or until they are teenagers. Yes the children might have been brainwashed but who is to say they won't be brainwashed further to testify far more damaging accusations on him. The man should fight if only he believes the kids are at risk with their mother. However, if he believes the kids are safe but the woman's hatred is for him and him alone, he should adapt the siddon dey look approach. The man should stay on his lane, pay the child support religiously and watch the cookie crumbles. Thank God his children are girls. Girls always ask after daddy. As for you cousin, FAMILY MEETING time o! I hope you are doing more than just bringing this issue on nairaland. Leave the man alone and let your family face the woman squarely. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 7:56am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by damiso(f): 7:58am On Jan 13, 2013 |
What is it with this naija nurses in the us sef? D.Why not the doctors,pharmacists,lawyers,engineers always the nurses.just a joke Divorce or seperation is already an upheaval in the life of a child without one or both parents employin under hand tactics.I dont get how one will start schoolinv your kids on what to say against daddy in court(if he truly was not an abuser).I dont get it.If God forbid me and hubby split today because of what we once shared and the fact that i respect him i would NEVER deny him access to his kids.I also know that would be taking the colour out of his life cos his kids make his world beautiful. Its not by force to stay married but if there are kids involved one should thread carefully. Just to add,I am a naija import. 3 Likes |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 8:22am On Jan 13, 2013 |
chaircover: You people are funny o! to say the least Totally and 100% agree with you. madam CC when I get a spare minute I will email you - have some news |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by KINGwax(m): 8:37am On Jan 13, 2013 |
coogar:av never read me a more stupid comment |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by BoyeYemi(m): 9:15am On Jan 13, 2013 |
Its the money that is intoxicating. I heard nurses in the US earn a lot, most ladies, when there is an exponential increase in their income can be worse than men. @ op The children may be suffering but i respect the man, what do you want from him? To beg the children to love him? That is impossible with their mom there to continuously poison their mind!!! To pretend that he is needed where he is obviously not wanted? To force himself to maintain ties in a loveless and dead relationship? His decision is simple, sever ties completely (beyond the $1,000) with his previous life and move on. Unfortunately, the children may end up like most African American children from broken homes which to me is the saddest part in this story. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by coogar: 9:56am On Jan 13, 2013 |
KINGwax: av never read me a more stupid comment and i have never seen a more odious tool who cannot recognise sarcasm! |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by question(m): 1:04pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
damiso: What is it with this naija nurses in the us sef? .Why not the doctors,pharmacists,lawyers,engineers always the nurses.just a joke There is a legion of demons responsible for the increasing rate of divorce all over the world (irrespective of race or religion). The devil know that high divorce rate is associated with other social-economic problems like violence, drugs, prostitution, moral degrading of society etc. Thereby leading more innocent souls to early death and hell. @ OP, this family (especially the helpless children) needs serious prayers for divine intervention. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Woged2005(f): 2:34pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
question: I didn't want to comment on this again but just to draw your attention that it was Nigerian pastors seeing fake visions, prophesies and advising my cousin what to do that contributed to this mess in the first place. Most times she will leave her her kids for her husband, clutch a bible, leave the house by 11pm to a prayer night without her husband's consent, then sneak back in by 2am in the morning. The family once confronted the so-called Nigerian pastor, he was full of the usually 'BS' you guys come up with about demons, curses, witches and wizards. Now look at where the marriage ended...I will ask you. Did the prayer work? We are Catholics, we don't believe in some of these spiritual quick fixes. Some Nigerian pastors honestly do more harm to marriages (some are be good). A woman is supposed to be loyal to her husband not to a pastor. It's called 'Emotional Infidelity'. Sorry, I wont recommend any spiritual stuff on this. 4 Likes |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
Woged2005: You are very right pastors cause more damage to marriages than good. But one thing I will recommend is to play this audio prayer in your own house day and night and I hope your cousin's husband too can do the same, but please stay away from this curch, pentecostal churches and pastors. WICKEDNESS MUST DIE http://www.mfmhouston.net/AUDIO%20MESSAGES/WICKEDNESS%20MUST%20DIE.wma |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by bigheart2013(m): 3:13pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
Woged2005: Supported and right on point. If a husband tells his white wife he'd like her to dress sexier in the house to improve romance, the white lady will happily share with her friends "wow he suddenly started paying attention to me..". She will hit Victoria's Secret and upgrade her wardrobe-problem fixed in 2 days. Romances commences. On the other hand, most Nigerian women will accuse their husbands of infidelity, say he's possessed by a demon, he's having a spiritual wife, etc. They will call their church members, invite a pastor. The pastor will speak in tongues, see visions, prophesy more doom (never a good prophesy), schedule prayer sessions, ask her to sow seed, pay tithes, then scatter. The wife begins to see her husband as demon-possesed. the marriage scatters. They blame the devil and relatives....hahahahahaha! Crazy people!! How come pastors don't see visions of winning lottery numbers for their church members, so that members will hit the Megamillion? 1 Like |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 3:22pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
Woged2005: Rotflmao. You didn't wait for a church or pastor recommendation. I think people who believe that everyone is out to get them are not too stable in the first place. Witches, wizards etc. We used to know one eccentric woman that was always seeing vision, and witches and wizards were always involved. If we were not learned people to know something was strange about her, we would have fallen into the trap. Looking back, she was probably a paranoid schizophrenic. These pastors and their sheep may fall into the same category. One has to be really careful. The only solution for your cousin is to try to get close to her and work on her conscience. Get to know what truly happened, and hear her own side. She may not have been able to cope with the stress he was giving her. No family to turn to, and since some Nigerian men think they are god who mere mortals have no right to confront. These women open the door for all sorts to take root. Her own way of solving her problems. What ever comes of it, oh well. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 4:14pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
baby_123: Thank you jare. Some problem or desperation usually drives these types of gullible people into the traps of these fake prophets. I highly doubt the guy is completely the innocent victim in all this. We don't know why she has a restraining order, was the guy panel beating her regularly? Will I be surprised to hear he was? No! I'm also not surprised that she continues to make reports against him. If I had a genuine restraining order against someone, there's no way in hell I would want them near my kids. Hence my initial surprise when the OP suggested that the woman was now sad. On the other hand, I'm also not surprised that the man has decided to abandon his kids. Is it not black men? Na today? |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 4:20pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
baby_123: and she solved these "problems" by cheating on her husband? So there are "2 sides to a story" for her preventing her kids from at least having a relationship with their father? I have seen ridiculous excuses that women advance for other women but this one takes the pale. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by Nobody: 4:21pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
ileobatojo: there are more white men abandoning their kids... but dont let such facts get in the way of making a blanket racist allegation against black men. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 4:24pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
ileobatojo: I personally don't totally want to judge on the OP's story as it is a third party account. So that is why I limited my argument to other people's arguments. Am sure we would be surprised if the woman came to narrate her story. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by dayokanu(m): 4:28pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
baby_123: What argument would the woman make to turn the kids against their father? Or for visiting Pastors thus scattering her marriage? or wanting desperately for her ex husband to be in jail This is a man who pays Child support without fail. That alone shows he is responsible, Most men wont pay the $1,000 per month if he was as wicked as you want us to believe |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 4:28pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
davidylan: Na wah! Una no dey sleep? Someone cannot make a comment quietly and exit the thread. This is a 3rd party account we have been arguing on for 9pages. It would be not too wise of us to conclude without hearing from the actual party. Usually when women run from religious house to the next, they are facing some sort of issue at home. I am only talking from a woman's perspective. At the begining of the thread I told OP she wasn't living with them, so she shouldn't be too quick to judge. I know so many people who present a different front outside, than who they really are in the homem.The woman may pursue legal action, but she doesn't seem to be the type to run around family members talking bad about her spouse. Her husband did all that. |
Re: Should He Fight For Custody Of His Kids?? by baby124: 4:33pm On Jan 13, 2013 |
dayokanu: Well that is the side we need to hear. No normal person will take all these actions and go so far without reason. OP didn't point to a psychological problem her cousin had. At least not yet. |
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