Jackal:

What these people are saying is equal rights between the husband and wife.
If i wash your undies this week. . . .u wash mine next week kind of thingy.
That to me is GROSS!!!!!

Lmao! So, I guess I'm not a feminist then. That's even a lot of trouble for me as a woman. what, I'll be nagging over who's turn it is to scrub the loo ? Don't make sense!! Mutual respect y'all !

There's the time so be stubborn and fight for your right. E.G, when I need to travel for a seminar and he says no. Umm. . .the outcome won't be nice at all.

Radiant:

Don't hiss girl. What are you tellin me? That if you were washing the dishes when you guys were dating you'll stop washing it when you guys get married?? You sound like the latest clown

Y'all let this feminist crap go and be yourself!

Girl, I love the kind of controversy surrounding feminists. It's hilarious. I'm a feminist means I don't stand for maltreating and I still believe in an egalitarian society.
Of course, I'm a clown Just ask my mama. I didn't say i would stop - i just wished that guys would learn to see females as partners and not housegirls. It gets to my nerves when i see a wife acting a slave. It's just wrong. That's what I am against.

genius33:

And you don't think she'll feel the same about washing yours?

D'u have a brother that you always "help" to wash his clothes? D'u ever ask him to wash yours as many times as you do his? Is this feminism?

Radiant:

Lmao! So, I guess I'm not a feminist then. That's even a lot of trouble for me as a woman. what, I'll be nagging over who's turn it is to scrub the loo ? Don't make sense!! Mutual respect y'all !

There's the time so be stubborn and fight for your right. E.G, when I need to travel for a seminar and he says no. Umm. . .the outcome won't be nice at all.

You are a darling!!
Only a dirty, scruffy woman would wait for her husband to clean the loo because she wants chores done equally.

genius33:

And you don't think she'll feel the same about washing yours?

Our grandmothers did that many years ago and they had happy married lives!!!

Radiant:

D'u have a brother that you always "help" to wash his clothes? D'u ever ask him to wash yours as many times as you do his? Is this feminism?

No it's not feminism, but it's not pleasant either, it's just the yoke we bear as women, I guess.  

_{my brother's only three anywayz}

j-girl:

Girl, I love the kind of controversy surrounding feminists. It's hilarious. I'm a feminist means I don't stand for maltreating and I still believe in an egalitarian society.
Of course, I'm a clown Just ask my mama. I didn't say i would stop - i just wished that guys would learn to see females as partners and not housegirls. It gets to my nerves when i see a wife acting a slave. It's just wrong. That's what I am against.

I understand what you mean and that's why I said that any reasonable man helps his wife. I was a bit surprised when you said your feminism will take a different turn after you get married because of dishes.

If he didn't help you when you were dating you think he'll help you when u marry? No need to fight for your right when you marry a responsible man who knows what mutual respect is. That's why you date/court so that you know the kind of person u be dealing with in the future

Radiant:

I understand what you mean and that's why I said that any reasonable man helps his wife. I was a bit surprised when you said you're feminism will take a different turn after you get married because of dishes.

If he didn't help you when you were dating you think he'll help you when u marry? No need to fight for your right when you marry a responsible man who knows what mutual respect it. That's why you date/court so that you know the kind of person u be dealing with in the future

Can u be ma attorney, Rad?

genius33:

No it's not feminism, but it's not pleasant either, it's just the yoke we bear as women, I guess.

_{my brother's only three anywayz}

Thanks for clearing that up. Sweetie, don't call it our yoke. It's just what women usually do just as men have got their own share of duties

Anybody can throw the clothes into the machine and let the shit spin!

_{Your bro shud be a lil' bunny I guess}

Jackal:

Can u be ma attorney, Rad?

Lol

lolipop

So what about when women want to work is that ok with many husbands?

Radiant:

I understand what you mean and that's why I said that any reasonable man helps his wife. I was a bit surprised when you said you're feminism will take a different turn after you get married because of dishes.

If he didn't help you when you were dating you think he'll help you when u marry? No need to fight for your right when you marry a responsible man who knows what mutual respect it. That's why you date/court so that you know the kind of person u be dealing with in the future

Nah - i didn't mean it like that. Most feminists don't get married so obviously if i'm going to get married (which i highly doubt for reasons beyond my mental capability), I'm going to have to change my views as a married woman but I also believe my husband will love me enough to want me as his partner while retaining his position as a man. It's all about compromise.
When we're dating - it's a different ball game entirely. Things will have to change after marriage because we can't both be acting like single ppl. We have to learn to accomodate each other, our beliefs and things like that.
Back to the whole thing of feminism, my husband must learn to understand that women do not have an easy life and they go through various difficulties but he doesn't have to do anything about it.

j-girl:

Girl, I love the kind of controversy surrounding feminists. It's hilarious. I'm a feminist means I don't stand for maltreating and I still believe in an egalitarian society.
Of course, I'm a clown Just ask my mama. I didn't say i would stop - i just wished that guys would learn to see females as partners and not housegirls. It gets to my nerves when i see a wife acting a slave. It's just wrong. That's what I am against.

This is one of the reasons why i feel the white men shoulda left us alone in Africa . . . . .
How would J-girl have known what feminism is with leaves covering her "honour" while she's pounding yam and making Okra soup in a hut?

Rofl . . .

Jackal:

This is one of the reasons why i feel the white men shoulda left us alone in Africa . . . . .
How would J-girl have known what feminism is with leaves covering her "honour" while she's pounding yam and making Okra soup in a hut?

Jackal, for that statement alone - I'm increasing my money to 500 pounds!
You're not serious at all. Is that the setting in which you were brought up?
My parents brought me up to be independent lady and never to depend on any man for anything. That stemmed into my feminism interest abeg. It has nothing to do with my education.

why u dey rofl. . . . . .?

Radiant:

Rofl . . .

It's TRUE!!!!!
Would she dare speak to her husband of 9 senior wives about feminism?
In a setting of survival of the sexiest, J-girl would be happy to feed, sweep, scrub, wash, clean and shag her husband to be his favourite.
Don't u reckon?

Women may be weaker physically but not in many other respects. The man is the head of the home I agree, even though not all men want to live up to that responsibility, but if I get married I wouldn't want to feel like my life is being run by my husband, marriage isn't supposed to be a dictatorship. No one likes to feel or be treated like they are less than someone else and men should understand that. Marrying a feminist is asking for trouble tho, if she's an extremist she won't want to comply with the typical wife's role.

Thumbs up girl.

Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, ten men and one woman. The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall. They weren't able to name that person, until the woman gave a very touching speech. She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids, or for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping their hands,

j-girl:

Nah - i didn't mean it like that. Most feminists don't get married so obviously if i'm going to get married (which i highly doubt for reasons beyond my mental capability), I'm going to have to change my views as a married woman but I also believe my husband will love me enough to want me as his partner while retaining his position as a man. It's all about compromise.
When we're dating - it's a different ball game entirely. Things will have to change after marriage because we can't both be acting like single people. We have to learn to accomodate each other, our beliefs and things like that.
Back to the whole thing of feminism, my husband must learn to understand that women do not have an easy life and they go through various difficulties but he doesn't have to do anything about it.

[b]Dearie, [/b]it's all about understanding. Only if you'll marry a beast will you be treated like an animal. I know some Nigerian men are very cruel with their wives but this is again due to irresponsibilty.

Your husband will love you don't worry. You may have passed through a lot in life but when you find a man that understands and respects you, with time you'll go back to your normal self and won't have to worry about feminism and Hillary Clinton.

Just take it one step at a time. There's that one man for you

genius33:

Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter, ten men and one woman. The rope was not strong enough to carry them all, so they decided that one had to leave, because otherwise they were all going to fall. They weren't able to name that person, until the woman gave a very touching speech. She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids, or for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. As soon as she finished her speech, all the men started clapping their hands,

Lord knows i won't clap for such sympathetic stuffs. . . .
I would be the first to kick her off the rope.

uhm

@Genius, me likey that analogy, It cracked me up, Then again, that's so like the "men" of today, Nice one, once again they were tricked into believing they are 'smarter".

Honestly, what is so wrong with a woman wanting to be heard? I can do so much than cooking, washing and cleaning. I have potentials too, Afterall, God took one look at Adam as said He could do much better, So get me that opportunity to shine too na,

Radiant:

[b]Dearie, [/b]it's all about understanding. Only if you'll marry a beast will you be treated like an animal. I know some Nigerian men are very cruel with their wives but this is again due to irresponsibilty.

Your husband will love you don't worry. You may have passed through a lot in life but when you find a man that understands and respects you, with time you'll go back to your normal self and won't have to worry about feminism and Hillary Clinton.

Just take it one step at a time. There's that one man for you

Trust me girl - I've seen the beasts and thank GOD i'm not married to any of them .
Thanks for that assurance. Sometimes, guys say they love you but they show another side that contradicts that whole thing. So when I find the one that loves me that much, you'll be one of the first to hear me sing his praises on NL for a long, long time.
For the Record - I would never ever vote for Hilary, she's weaker than they make her seem

uhm

j-girl:

Trust me girl - I've seen the beasts and thank GOD i'm not married to any of them .
Thanks for that assurance. Sometimes, guys say they love you but they show another side that contradicts that whole thing. So when I find the one that loves me that much, you'll be one of the first to hear me sing his praises on Nairaland for a long, long time.
For the Record - I would never ever vote for Hilary, she's weaker than they make her seem

Aight

j-girl:

Trust me girl - I've seen the beasts and thank GOD i'm not married to any of them .
Thanks for that assurance. Sometimes, guys say they love you but they show another side that contradicts that whole thing. So when I find the one that loves me that much, you'll be one of the first to hear me sing his praises on Nairaland for a long, long time.
For the Record - I would never ever vote for Hilary, she's weaker than they make her seem

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.  I am waiting for that day to come, I know my menopause aint touch down by then

Chat2MeBac:

Honestly, what is so wrong with a woman wanting to be heard? I can do so much than cooking, washing and cleaning. I have potentials too, Afterall, God took one look at Adam as said He could do much better, So get me that opportunity to shine too na,

My sentiments exactly gurl, the mind is a terrible thing to waste! We have a lot to offer the world.

Jackal:

Lord knows i won't clap for such sympathetic stuffs. . . .
I would be the first to kick her off the rope.

Ain't you a darling?

Chat2MeBac:

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm. I am waiting for that day to come, I know my menopause aint touch down by then

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!! You know what? Because of that - I'm more determined to fall in love. Lmao!

genius33:

My sentiments exactly girl, the mind is a terrible thing to waste! We have a lot to offer the world.

, I am not becoming any man's domestic diva. Last time I checked God gave us all hands, He can wash and cook and iron his damn clothes too. If he thinks it is not his job, hire a freakum maid,

j-girl:

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!! You know what? Because of that - I'm more determined to fall in love[b][/b]. Lmao!

Don't allow me to influence you o, Do it for you, I heard it is NOT so bad afterall

Chat2MeBac:

Don't allow me to influence you o, Do it for you, I heard it is NOT so bad afterall

Lol - I'd rather hang myself than fall into a trap because of anyone else. Falling in love is like signing off your heart to someone else. It's a delicate thing and I'm not ready to damage my heart anytime soon.