Young po413:


you don`t mean

oyinbogirl:

nyc point , have to agree guys should be dating with a mind 2 marriage anyways, ur gonna take care of her sooner or later so why not now? U cant expect her to give all the wifey 'things' if u no support her too! Do guys expect all these priveledges for themself when they got nothing concrete to offer?

~PreciousBro~:


I don't think you understand the message in my post you quoted, your points are skewed and not well lettered.

Firstly,I didn't say men take excuses to deny their girl anything,I said the issue of men. monetizing se.x is not just the men's fault but the women as well as the society.

I don't get the drift you're trying to pass across,please read my post thoroughly before the rush to reply. When you complain of men not rendering assistance to their GFs when she isn't giving sex is another issue of pot and kettle being in same drawer,I didn't say men were devoid of ill-mentality,there are wise men so there are unwise ones too,and the said girl being unwise happens to be with this same unwise man for equating se.x and money,just like the girl that demands assistance unduly. Again that issue is not and shouldn't be a generalized one like you make it. Some have vile thoughts due to past experiences of course,you don't expect a girl they seldom trust to be treated as queens. And why would a girl regard her needs/ assistance from her boyfriend a compulsory one ?

Again,I didn't say he has to wait for her to ask before he extends generous gestures, we are talking about abuse of BFs generosity here by certain GFs, you strike me as one that focuses on your BF's financial assistance as a measure to know his level of generosity when it doesn't match your demand,he is termed as "stingy".

And the last, yes men will always entice you with things ,now the manner at which you fall is what portrays your morality and indignity.

A man would not deceive himself, we know a cheap girl from one that can't be bought,so just play your part and let the man do his.

oyinbogirl:

nyc point , have to agree guys should be dating with a mind 2 marriage anyways, ur gonna take care of her sooner or later so why not now? U cant expect her to give all the wifey 'things' if u no support her too! Do guys expect all these priveledges for themself when they got nothing concrete to offer?

Sorry dear ..
What're the "privileges" guys enjoy ??

S.E.......X

BTW .. What do ladies contribute tangibly in a relationship ?
At least, it's a well known fact that guys tender the "benjamins" for the wrong reason sorta !!!

BarryX: Sorry dear ..
What're the guys "privileges" ??

S.E.......X

BTW .. What do ladies contribute tangibly in a relationship ?
At least, it's a well known fact that guys tender the "benjamins" for the wrong reason sorta !!!

jmoore:

Wife not woman. Take correction.

princessayesha: oh ok...u know they are not wives and u keep bleeping them hun?

Marie Sucre: It has been our culture from time immemorial. The woman is saddled with the house responsibilities and the husband brings in the dough for all. Most women can't imagine paying their own bills just as most husbands even in this century can't imagine doing house work regularly. To put it mildly; just as a husband would take cooking as a once in a year thing or washing the toilet once in 7 years(all house work done minimally not large scale). Thats the same way women will only spend on themselves once in 5 years albeit for minimal things. Culture and Nature dictate thus.

Angelstartups: It may be a bit harsh to think if a lady seems dependent on a man,its greed,poverty and all sorts.What do you say to this when your younger sibling asks you for financial help?is he or she poor or greedy?Not necessarily.Look at it this way,your younger siblings look up to you and hope you can help,ladies look upto their men in the same vein because this is how the creator made it.And maybe you need to show her what she can do to be financially independent.It gets out of hand though when its too much.

princessayesha: oh ok...u know they are not wives and u keep bleeping them hun?

Marie Sucre: It has been our culture from time immemorial. The woman is saddled with the house responsibilities and the husband brings in the dough for all. Most women can't imagine paying their own bills just as most husbands even in this century can't imagine doing house work regularly. To put it mildly; just as a husband would take cooking as a once in a year thing or washing the toilet once in 7 years(all house work done minimally not large scale). Thats the same way women will only spend on themselves once in 5 years albeit for minimal things. Culture and Nature dictate thus.

lynpetra: Abeg I won take loan,who fit borrow me?

j.tenna:
@promisebro. Seems u have a reading/comprehending defect. You are either the one who is confused or you are just an arguementative soul who always want to defend his point blindly. It doen't matter how you analyze men's method of enticement, in fact if You like talk from now till tomorrow and the truth will always remain that we all, men n women alike need to change our relationship mentality.
Point of correction, read my post again. i never tried in ur words 'to establish a dependence state of mind by women' am not in support of that. I didn't generalize, just stop lying. I was merely stating the cause and dat we, men and women are both to blame. Period!
I wouldn't reply u again!

sexylogan: I have had discussions with several of my female acquaintances and work colleagues over the issue of the "Responsibilities" of a boyfriend in a relationship and to my dismay, almost all had the same beliefs. Most of them believed that their boyfriends wer the ones saddled with the responsibilities of

-paying for their new hair-do

-buying them new fones

-sending them airtime regularly

-giving them monetry allowances

-buying them clothes and shoes....etc

The list is endless.

Most even argued that if he (their bf) wants them to look good, he must be ready to spend.

In my mind i was like "WTF!" isnt that their father's responsibilty?

The only exceptions i came across were some of the ladies who were raised abroad and a few who were born in upper class families.

Those ones have a very different mentality. They believed that it was after getting a gud education and subsequently a gud job wud they be able to take care of themselves and buy watever they need.

The scenario got me thinking...

Is Poverty to blame for the general attitude of our naija babes or are they just Greedy?

#front-page-tingz

kandiikane: Lol you wan a woman but you nor wan work for am? Foolish men! Go ashawo joint now. It will be cheaper foe you. Nansense.

kandiikane:

Well then I guess our forefathers use to prostitute their daughters and the daughters carried it on. Indirect prostitution.

Read and try to understand the question.

If you don't want to earn a punny stay celibate or phuck a goat.

Teespice: Honestly, it is a lose lose situation.

Most guys believe that to woo a girl, you must have a lot of money to throw about

Most girls believe that a guy must foot her bills after all " why are you my BF if you cannot take care of me"

Then when the real deal surfaces or when it ends albeit on a painful note, you see guys crying foul

Bottom line, women should be independent. Men should stop this mentality of thinking that every woman love can be bought with gifts and money. That way the cards are laid early in the relationship and whosoever is not satisfied has the option of taking a walk.

Nuff said.

deeplow: Neither of the two,it is plainly due to wrong orientation and upbringing. I know a girl who is from a wealthy family,and still believes a guy must give her everything. I asked her why,she said that is how it should be,and that's what her mother told her.

At the same time,you'll see girls who are from families where they barely can afford 3 square meals, that still believe a boyfriend isn't their saviour from poverty.

Would we say greed and poverty is responsible for Armed robbery? If so,80% of Nigerians would be thieves.

Caracta: *yawns*

Bla bla bla bla...

jmoore:
Which good book? There is a difference between girlfriend and wife.
Or have you written your own good book?

~PreciousBro~:


Point of correction,no one is saying men won't take care of their girlfriends,the issue at hand is the abuse of it.

And the issue of 911 calls ,public embarrassment and all the nonsense you use as points to evade girls from being independent is not from a healthy mentality as yours too. Has it not been happening here too ? Who told you things won't take its order of correctness when a healthy society stems out ?

Men like you are what is failing the female mind from being independent and much so,the society.

And lastly, what does that mean when you say she's above your level ?

Again you place money as the sole factor for qualification for social strata. Smh

I'd say its insecurity and inferiority complex taking a huge side of you. So you do recognize what attracted the man to her in the first place but still decline his move due to his financial incompatibility, isn't that the problem in the first place ? Why should money be your benchmark and thus the yardstick you use for whole union/courtship/marriage/relationship, or are you saying a big girl cant fall in love with a broke guy ?

How you people reason is beyond absurdity. Smh!