Harbosede02: Op,u are daft#no offence,u knw y i said so?cos of d way u tink,wtf!!how dare u generalise!itz nt all naija babes dat ask their guy 4 tinz,every1 has a different way of thinking some gurls tink wen they are dating a guy d guy sud spend all he has on them,while some tink d orda way round!carry out ur research very well next tym b4 u cum hr and start spitting awt trash!
#compliments

Asable: why do guys depend on der gf for sex why dont dey meet there mothers? guys abeg ans dat question then i will tell u y u need to take care of ur babes

Asable: why do guys depend on der gf for sex why dont dey meet there mothers? guys abeg ans dat question then i will tell u y u need to take care of ur babes

Naam22: Its not greed or been poor,we are Africans and there's this knowledge that men are sopoz to take care of the woman,so forget all wat u r saying,no copy oyibo ppl..moreover if u can't take care of me while we are dating,how can u do it wen we are married,most men get use to the fact that d lady can take care of herself and shy away from their responsiblity

jakesund:

I read your post thoroughly and truth be told I'm not surprised... the thread owner was stating his opinion and was asking what we all think about the Nigerian girl over dependent mentality..

if you were so different as you're trying to portray your Ill mannered self, courtesy demands you politely state your opinion and leave...

you went all out calling the thread owner "DAFT" for stating his opinion which last time I checked he's entitled to...

it hurts when you see people talking about the kinda person you are... which is over dependent and greedy...

THREE ADVICE FOR YOU...

-GET SOME MANNERS...

-STOP BEING DEPENDENT ON YOUR BOYFRIEND

- AND STOP TRYING SO HARD TO PROVE YOU'RE DIFFERENT JUST TO GET A BOYFRIEND ON NAIRALAND


NO ONE GIVES A DAMN ABOUT YOU

Icy4real: I'll say its mentality. I'm a lady and i dont tink i nid a man to pay for my hairdo or buy me clothes. A woman is suppose to look gud for herself not for some guy. I'm married but if he chose to do all this stuff for me i wont say no but then he is nt under any compulsion. I chose to fix myself up bcause i feel gud wen i look gud.

~PreciousBro~:


What does that mean ,saying this is Nigeria ?

So this is Nigeria and people should remain in abject nonentity when its eligible minds like you as you claim that should bring to the society a healthy change are flowing with this unhealthy trend and scoping men off ?

"The Average Naija Man" differs in characteristics and understanding relatively to the Nigerian People and so if you say the average 9ja man,let it be to your own perspective of his traits. I don't buy to this whole bullock of a talk, did you actually read my posts on this thread,starting from the first to this which you ignorantly chose to quote ? I doubt it.

Firstly,I don't think anyone should acquaint him or her self with someone from a different idiosyncrasy,especially when it comes to courtship/relationship, move with people in same social-likeness and status. So your issue of average 9ja men are comfortable with pest they can control is totally flawed,are the vast and numerous threads on Nairaland about money-hungry girls solely by below average ,average or above average men ?

The issue of it should start with men is another nonsense I choose to ignore because by my last post before this now,I cleared it,so bringing this as a pointer is what you'd have to explain better for me to counter.

hollandis:
your mother is a brat .Your sisters are brats .All living and dead female members of your households are brats ONYOSHI

xynerise:
Have you seen a dollar or pound since you were born?

adgwarri: Gurl r just lazy

j.tenna:
How dare u blame ignorance, greed and poverty when u monetize s.ex? How do you expect a desent gal to feel when u refuse to help all because she didnt give u her body? Don't get me wrong i am not in support of girls who depend too much on a man but a man who isn't a supportive friend and lover is worst than an infidel. Sorry to say this but some men deserves to be milked dry! And some babes have sown to do so!
Take this from a gal who has experienced such and come let me tell u the story!

Siena:

Wow! What happened to you? Sounds like you've had it rough. Take care your bitterness doesn't cloud your sense of reasoning though, as it will affect future relationships.

And it could turn you into a man-hater, assuming it hasn't already.

silverspring4ev: . Yes! The issue should be discussed starting from the guys becaues they re d ones who instigated this whole thing... wen a guy is going after a good looking nd "comfortable" girl without making any attempt to find out what d girl does for a living or which family she came out from,what does he expect? I dnt encourage a girl to be dependent on a man buh my point is...a guy shud at least find out a little abt a girl b4 asking her out. That way,all dis things wii be checked...infact,m not going 2 join issues with u. Its either u address d issue d way it is or u keep dreaming.

hollandis:

All am saying is Nigerian Girls and girls from other countries are the same or even better.Before you go out with a girl abroad ,you know you need to have a car ,a house ,a good job and you have to be handsome.So what's the difference

vivalavida: You guys are just wasting your time here. Call them wat u like,from ignorant to greed etc,they dont care. It flies in goes in from one ear and leaves the other. Even if u will elicit any response from them,what u will get is *whatever*. This present generation of girls are da worst to thread on this country

Monie,the lady in canada,i loved your contribution to the topic. It was quite expository. Adaeze,kudos to you.

Christine01:

What kind of a reasoning is this? A man will shy away from his responsibility once he is married because he didn't spend on you during dating/courtship? That is so untrue!

I have seen a lot of cases where the man spent on the lady during dating/courtship only to turn a bad leaf after getting wedded.

And I have seen more cases where the man didn't spend so much on the lady during courtship and after getting married, the wife lacks nothing..... case study- my elder sister.

So, you really need to change this mentality of yours.



This's exactly what guys are trying to say to the ladies...be wise when you still got the time to be. A lady who is a liability during courtship to a man will never be appreciated when finally married to that man but a lady that was an asset to a man during courtship will get wateva and more of anything she needs and be greatly appreciated when finally married by her husband.

Shalom!

j.tenna:
How dare u blame ignorance, greed and poverty when u monetize s.ex? How do you expect a desent gal to feel when u refuse to help all because she didnt give u her body? Don't get me wrong i am not in support of girls who depend too much on a man but a man who isn't a supportive friend and lover is worst than an infidel. Sorry to say this but some men deserves to be milked dry! And some babes have sown to do so!
Take this from a gal who has experienced such and come let me tell u the story!

Flyboy Zee:
You see your life? Na babes like una dey work for CBN, yet you go dey disturb your boyfriend wey dey teach for nursery school make e buy you Brazillian hair.

Them dey talk better matter here, you de ask for date. Abi Nairaland look like calender?

Christine01:

What kind of a reasoning is this? A man will shy away from his responsibility once he is married because he didn't spend on you during dating/courtship? That is so untrue!

I have seen a lot of cases where the man spent on the lady during dating/courtship only to turn a bad leaf after getting wedded.

And I have seen more cases where the man didn't spend so much on the lady during courtship and after getting married, the wife lacks nothing..... case study- my elder sister.

So, you really need to change this mentality of yours.

Shalom!

For wetin nah?:


Helloooo..it is VERY NATURAL for the man to take care of his woman, atleast the good book says soooooo!! ......

For wetin nah?:


Helloooo..it is VERY NATURAL for the man to take care of his woman, atleast the good book says soooooo!! Y'all are shouting how dependent girls overseas are, hope youre ready to take the same public embarrassment and insults and slaps and 911 calls and arrest the guys take from the same very 'independent' oversea babes? (Nigerian man go gree) How do you even expect a girl to respect you when you can't take care of her? She fends for herself yet you want to bully her around..Eziokwu!! Granted some girls have their excesses, but the minute you notice she's way above your level simply bow out..afterall it was her LEVEL that attracted you to her in the 1st place. Let's not sit here and keep vindicating men. Guys take care of your women..atleast let her know you're trying no matter how small.

~PreciousBro~:


The issue of monitizing se.x as you say by men is not in its entirety correct,is more like the order of a new era by many bodies" eg media propaganda,parents ,men and women ,so its safe to say its a society issue . Blaming it solely on men is false,because women are as guilty as men.

If you go to foreign countries too like say the western world,is the same. Now the main issue is what has it turned you to,has it turned you to a gold-digger that you'd take advantage of this ill norm ,putting to disregard the virtues of truism in its movement that should earn you a good man likewise your kind ?

A decent girl will not in anyway, I repeat,not ask her man for financial support especially when she knows reasonably ,the means of achieving financial aid isn't possible,save for she's in dire situation when she clearly needs help from many hands and that includes her parents,her relatives ,her boyfriend etc

So my dear, men will always entice you with the good things of life,money is not an exception,it doesn't mean he expects you to yield to these enticement wrongly. Don't be taking advantage of it and still blaming it on him cheapening you with his enticement as a means to drain him,if you don't like him don't take advantage of his givens.

Naam22: Its not greed or been poor,we are Africans and there's this knowledge that men are sopoz to take care of the woman,so forget all wat u r saying,no copy oyibo ppl..moreover if u can't take care of me while we are dating,how can u do it wen we are married,most men get use to the fact that d lady can take care of herself and shy away from their responsiblity

j.tenna:

i don't agree with it being a societal issue at all. when a man takes that as an excuse to deny help from a person he claims to love, like and cherish then it is an individaul issue and it is so common among nigerian men. I have white friends and even though i know they like to have me as a lover, when am in need and i ask for monentry favor, they never hesitate to help even when they dont have.
most men complain that gals depends too much but they are so happy to give as long as they have s.ex with them. When they have a gal that wants to keep herself for marriage, they hesitate to give but yet they go behind to spend for a girl who 'gives' them and yet they complain.
@bolded, of course a decent well-brought up gal will ask only when she knows he has but must he wait for her to ask? Lol. Typical of most nigeria men. They can't give from the dept of the love(they say they feel) from their heart.
@bolded. Men will entice you and when you fall for it, they fawn over you and behind you they call u cheap and if you don't they say you are holy holy, they withold their stinking favor and prefer to roll with the chicks that knows 'whatsup'. Nonsense! Who is depending on whom?