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Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 4:48pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill: yes they were. it' just the way people view things now which is because things were different then from what we have now. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by StephenP(m): 4:48pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
You ladies have your kind of "deep friendship" which involves spending time alone with yourselves, handling each other, sitting on each other, hugging each other, crying with each other and all that and that is cool because you're generally more emotional than we are. We men have our own sense of deep friendship which involves ordering pizza, watching a game together, going to the Chinese restaurant down the street to get something to eat while talking about current girls we're dating, playing basketball/soccer/football together, going to the club together and all that. That is just what we do. We can go to the movies together as long as it's a really good movie like Batman, saying "I love you" is a red flag unless he is your dad or maybe brother and/or he did something extraordinary but nevertheless, it shouldn't be said with emotion like you'd say to a girl, it is should just be said. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 4:50pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
StephenP: well said |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 4:53pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
StephenP:Oka whatever. . . . . that whole highlighted statement is just generalizing. As i said before it depends on the maturity and bond of the men involved. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 4:55pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
@Onyinye do you expect guys to do the higlighted among themselves too |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by tpia: 4:55pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
OluwaKANYE: People tend to forget there was a gay "coming out" period in the 70s or 80s, when the gay lifestyle was officially recognized by law. About that same time, homosexuality was removed from the list of psychiatric disorders. All these went a long way towards enshrining the gay lifestyle [coupled with public awareness of gay mannerisms], in western culture today. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by StephenP(m): 4:56pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: Well, I did say "generally" that's what happens. Level of maturity? I don't think so. Bond? Yes. They love each other so much that they want to get married in California. Let me say again, I've got nothing against gay people. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 4:57pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
A quotes from a book called Men's Friendship The opportunities to get close to another man, to share and talk about their feelings, are not available after a certain age. The concern about being perceived as gay is one of the major complications of socializing one on one, many straight men acknowledge. Awwww, poor guys! Well know this now. . . You don't have to be defensive anymore. I say call up your bromantic partner, go out to dinner in a fancy restaurant and when the waiter asks what you'd like to drink, instead of say beer or asking for the hardest liqour they have. . . say "I'll have some wine, please" |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 4:58pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
StephenP:Oka i have male friends in which i have known my whole lives. The four of us are family and like sometimes i have heard one of them tell the other "i love you" and it was just that. They are not gay or "sweet" for doing so. They are family. OluwaKANYE:Young man. . . . please quote me where i said that because i don't believe i did. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by StephenP(m): 5:01pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: Yeah, I guess that's cool. Sisikill: LOL it's funny cause I ask for just water or soda. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 5:04pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
OluwaKANYE: Aaah! I see being viewed as gay automatically makes one gay, ko? In that case, I'm sorry oh. . . I won't push Bromance anymore. StephenP: ROTFLMAOPIMP. . . Stephen, I can't stop laughing! Is that what you guys think we do? Cry and handle each other? I don't know what to say right now. . . maybe it's because I have questions. So are we crying because we're being fondled or are we fondled because we were crying? |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:08pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill:You are really something. . . sisi But yeah i have friends who are women and i have never been fondled or the fondlier so im wondering where this came from. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 5:08pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: Please keep telling them for me!! I don't get it, I just don't get it. . . Why is it so hard to understand? StephenP: Why is it because you don't drink at all or because you think asking for wine will make you come off as. . . a li'l fruity? |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:11pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill:I guess you know how guys love to be seen as tough and hard and all that jive. So they don't want anything to some how "damage" that image. I truly think it is just childish and what have you. Maybe because i know the difference of a guy who loves another guy and a guy who is in love with another guy. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 5:13pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: You do NOT want to know what goes on in these men's heads. They believe all women should be lesbians and all men are should be straight, the fact that it makes no sense, does not matter. This is why they imagine us taking showers together, handling each other, lying in bed together and every other lesbian fantasy they can come up with |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 5:17pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill: of course, have you asked yourself why lesbianism is easily overlooked and even accepted unlike gayism |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by StephenP(m): 5:18pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill: LOL I just don't drink at all . . . I know that's hard to believe but that's what it is. Sisikill: I don't know, you tell me . . . you have to admit though you ladies cry for no reason, then when one start crying, another joins, then another joins soon every woman in the movie theater is crying. Sisikill: Dang . . . I didn't mean handling in that sense but I won't mind though LOL I guess that handling thing came out wrong. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by 3viso(m): 5:21pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Lord Are we baptizing GAY Practice with a new name BROMANCE. The last time I took a guy out for a dinner was when I'm trying to hook up with his sister. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:22pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
OluwaKANYE:Because of double standards. 3viso:That is truly foul. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by NegroNtns(m): 5:26pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
I broke out laughing when I saw this one. No doubt I understand what you are saying and I am sure a lot of other men do too, but I am not sure you are going to get many truthful responses. I said that because of the language. In the way this is written, the language is leaning to the homosexual side, even by Nigerian standards. Moremi, I attended an all boys boarding school. When we see the tendencies you just described, either on school grounds or out in town we dont hesitate to issue warning to the parties observed in those clumsy entwines. If they desist they are asking for trouble big time! This is nothing but homosexuality tendencies and they get beaten and harrassed out of the dormitories and the school. The few ones that went through this ended up transferring to another school. Guys do fraternalize. It is healthy for gender bonding but it is also a natural instinct in us that happens in stages. It cannot be equated with the manner in which females bond. If a boy has homosexuality, it will become apparent in the teenage years in the way he expresses emotions and sexuality. What you described here is homosexuality, not boys fraternity. Stage 1: Boyhood playmate - It starts when the boys are observed hanging together rolling marbles on the pavement, playing ludo on the porch, kicking soccer balls up and down the street or racing against one another with their spoked wheels heading on an errand to the market or the store. When you see them together, one with a catapult hanging from his pocket and the other with pocket full of stones, you can bet pretty soon some animal is going to end up t'e'r'r"o'r.i-zed or dead. They compete on who can hit target and get a kill. Leave them alone, they are practicing how to hunt and in few years they will need to apply that skill in some other aspect of social interaction. Stage 2: Teenage Company - Guy to guy share of interests and secrets. Plans on breaking laws and violating rules are strategized and executed together. Together they lay claim to a territorial boundary and in a designated area within their community, this is the bully zone and other teenagers and their brothers must bow down to authority when in this zone. Their refusal to acknowledge the seemingly political control will be interpreted as a challenge and will lead to a physical confrontation. This is show off time for the girls; a parade of aggression and manhood, power and control. They compete on who can get what girl and lay with her. They appear together at parties. When they start dating, they pick girls in the neighborhood that are equally close and when you see the guys you see their girls also. This is a transforming stage. Stage 3: Manhood stage - More independent, college life and new interests has groomed him for a new outlook on life. Still in touch with friend/s but at a distance. New girlfriend and all into her, she is all that matters and he wants to please her but suspicious of her smothering affections and reluctant to completely bond with her but at the same time doesn't want to lose her, she is good, makes him feel whole and responsible. New interests, new friendships. Circle of friendships have widened and interaction with them all demand time. New job, new assignments, new acquaintances, gradually loose friends and make new ones. This is the point where the man to man bonding gives way to man to woman bonding. Stage 4: Family - Married and raising family. Family, Job and community become primary concern. New acquaintances, family friends, lifelong bondings develop. Start to witness in his children the same cycle and stages in life that he has gone through and it becomes intolerable to accept. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 5:27pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: then i think the brouhaha should be more on lesbianism than on gayism |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:29pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
OluwaKANYE:Seriously what do you think women do when guys are not around? Because you seem to be very delusioned about it. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by 3viso(m): 5:29pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Bia onyinye kedu ihe idere na sig. gi? Back to topic That's how gay practice starts imaging myself spending time with a fellow man calling it what? |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 5:29pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Examples of Celebrities in Bromance Matt Damon and Ben Affleck George Clooney and Brad Pitt Matt Damon, George Clooney, Don cheadle and Brad Pitt Owen Wilson, Vince Vaugn, Ben Stiller Quentin Tarantino and Robert Rodriguez Justin Timberlake and Trace Ayala, Can anyone deny their Manliness? I think not! I guess that's why it's easier for them to embrace their Bromance. God! There is just something so freaking sexy about a man who is so confident in his manhood, he has no problem being free with his guy friends PS Please exclude Justine Timberlake from the umbrella of manliness. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 5:31pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2: whatever you do when guys are not around can't be compared to what guys do when the ladies are out of sight, thats simply gay |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:32pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
3viso:My signature means: God foisted one problem on the Igbo, and the Igbo foisted another nine onto themselves. OluwaKANYE:My brotha please tell me what you think women do when you so called "m.e.n" are not around? |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by 3viso(m): 5:34pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill: But not to the extent of telling a fellow guy I love you. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by OluwaKANYE: 5:38pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
i see nothing bad in telling a guy "i love you" depending on how, where and when you express it @ Onyinye you know all the stuffs women talk about, quick question- i know lots of women don't have any problem being naked when with their fellow women, what do think it means when guys are naked together |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by onyinye2(f): 5:40pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
OluwaKANYE:You said "lots" not "all". And im guessing those "lots" is probably a "few". And no i don't know "all the stuffs women talk about". Elaborate. |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by Sisikill: 5:40pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
StephenP: I believe you, I don't drink either. The closest I've come to anything that looks remotely alcoholic is a virgin daiquri and you should see the looks I get. LOL I don't know how to counter this idea you guys have of women? So what. . . you think the moment there are more than two of us in one place, we just start undressing for handling and cry? LMOA! Have I said how much I loooove the way you guys think!!! OluwaKANYE: Lol! Jeebus! This is too much! If the women are lesbians and the guys are straight, guess who loses out? Yep, that's right you guys do. . . how do you like them apples? |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by tpia: 5:41pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
Sisikill: Hollywood actually isnt a good point of reference. Anyone can come out of the closet anytime. Note: I'm not saying any of the above people are gay. In any case, all I'm saying here is friendship doesnt equal bromance. We are all Nigerians here. (or at least most of us are). How would you feel if your dad or brother constantly holds hands with other guys most of the time, and tells them I love you? I mean, lets not go overboard with this matter. I love you isnt the alpha and omega of life. Its important, yes, but I personally dont need to hear it every minute of the day, for example. 1 Like |
Re: Are You Man Enough For Bromance? by 3viso(m): 5:42pm On Aug 30, 2008 |
onyinye2:Please come in details what we forced on ourselves? |
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