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Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by dezypinky(f): 7:15am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Just become so religious. Even more than her.u married cos u love her just kp on loving her.she will change.shebi na church tins on point.tell her u self sabi GOD wella. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by eduxerxes: 7:16am On Jul 18, 2014 |
It seems u're not in charge of ur family. Are u saying that she stopped giving u the "kpekus" because of her new found belief abi she's unattractive again? Which one? Any way...a very potent solution is to watch ur wedding pictures and the video all over again together. I tell, it'l bring back her sanity. All these. Useless teachings by useless pastors mostly use diabolic means to mesmerize their listeners! |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Dcaliphate(m): 7:17am On Jul 18, 2014 |
obayaya:you have said it all... nicely put |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by 2ndking: 7:19am On Jul 18, 2014 |
my dear marriage is for better for worse, but your wife's decision is to accept and serve God is the best. Love her the more. and I guess you also serve the lord as she do. That is holy spirit at work. thanks! NOTE; all these make up ann jewelries are gods(Gen35:1-4) |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Impulse80(m): 7:22am On Jul 18, 2014 |
It's simple, WE KILL HER PASTOR! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:24am On Jul 18, 2014 |
OP, this aint no dilemma @all. Here is the plan. Shebi she still want all the outings, food and pocket bonuses? I guess yes. Fine. Tell her ure not okay with her new lifestyle but you respect her decision all the same. You'll nw begin to act as though all is well. This is where you'll now beat her to her game. You'll also find your own "church". This "church" that you'll find will be against much pocket and food bonuses(add other things she loves)...TV shall become a sin, and the "church" holds late meetings at odd hours.lol ...did I forget to mention dat d "church" also believe that s.ex should be strictly for reproduction and not fun? Trust me you should even bcom a "worker" in this "church" if you have to. Madam won't like you "church" at all, and she won't keep it a secret. Wen she wanna talk, remind her that you don't Like her new beliefs either, but you chose to respect it all the same, but of course you're willing to make a sacrifice to drop some just as she must also...after all, that's what marriages are all about...SACRIFICES! #WorksAlways #BrosB4Hoes 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:31am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Janetozi: @op, ur wife wasn't born with make-up & jewelry on her face & attachment on her hair & she is not going back to her creator that way. U should should have try to find out is she looks attractive without those artificial or not b4 getting married to her, but now that u have married her & she becomes born again, u have to support her. Lead her not into hell...... Those things she avoid using are what she have to sacrificed to get where she wants to spend her eternity. Hell may be cheap but heaven is not. She wasn't born with jewelry and she won't go to heaven with any. Right. But your other arguments are wrong. Whether you like it or not, men are lookers. We look a lot. And that's why it is important for a woman to look good especially for her husband. So I share op's sentiments. The advice this guy needs is How to salvage his marriage from breaking down. He doesn't need any form of misguided and judgemental opinions. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:33am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Blockus:Wat a terrible advice .... Broz i hope ur okay |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:33am On Jul 18, 2014 |
@op but she still dey do that tin with u na,if so don't cheat if she dey give u her hole. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by rhythyson: 7:33am On Jul 18, 2014 |
If madam is suddenly looking 'unkept" then have you checked maybe its a case of depression? If madam is becoming keeping to herself and her bible always don't think something is wrong and she is looking for solace? If madam go more often to church than the kitchen, don't you think she is trying to escape something? If madam suddenly hate make up don't you think she has discovered something? Well I will advice you that instead waiting for some e-touts in Nairaland to bash you and your wife, call her, talk to her, go to that pastor talk to him ,pour out your mind, check his response, after that try get a professional councilor to work on her. People must not become unkept because they found new religion, God himself wants what is clean. After all cleanliness is next to......... I pray God grant and show you a way out of this disturbance, your marriage is too young so fight with all you have got to keep it. May Allah guide you as you strife through the pot holes of marriage. Keep your woman keep your marriage help your woman to help herself You will overcome AMIN. 2 Likes
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Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by ChiJenyfa(f): 7:35am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Tallesty1: @Op, don't go nuts yet. She is just trying to devout herself to God, apparently to make up for her past mistakes. One thing that will be bother me if I were you is if she is in the right place or not. Believe me, all those thing she is doing are nothing if her church is not rooted in Christ.Stop giving him a wrong idealogy, why ask him to pretend? |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by crusader01(m): 7:35am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Op is looking for excuse to cheat on his wife. It is just a matter of time, she will change to suit your taste if you wish. All you need is to talk to her on how she can dress moderate to look attractive. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Janetozi(f): 7:38am On Jul 18, 2014 |
kovak:and the wife too is trying to salvage her relationship with God from breaking down. She doesn't need any form of misguided & judgmental opinions. Not from u nor from her husband or anyone. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Mavor: 7:40am On Jul 18, 2014 |
ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.Stop deceiving the man please. He has told his wife not to do something and she is not listening. She should go and marry the church na and leave his house. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by donodion(m): 7:42am On Jul 18, 2014 |
onegig: Sorry but it's very obvious you have never been married or you never placed yourself in his shoes before advicing. Bro with your post. ... I hold my peace.There are hijab wearing muslim sisters who still look ravishing and attractive to their own men,simple make up which still make their men wink at them every now and then,yet upholding their faith and virtues. would have love to go on but....Naija christians ...eish! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:46am On Jul 18, 2014 |
TheLeader: ... This is where you'll now beat her to her game... Guy you dey c r a z e |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by nellyzkid(m): 7:47am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Brother never use this as an opportunity to cheat on her...I know how hard it might be but keep on showing love to her never give up....I wonder what is going on on our modern Christianity...but keep on loving her |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by God2man(m): 7:52am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Your wife is making serious effort to move closer to God in terms of dressing and you are here looking for somebody to give you an advice on how to make her look like a Jezebel. Lord have mercy. God2man. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by adedayourt(m): 7:52am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Op if I may ask, was it the woman you married or the trousers, makeup, jewelry she uses? Avnt u ever tut she would eventually stop the use of those things one day? It means u don't find her attractive without dos tinz (u look @ her with disgust wen she wakes bside u in d moring) Thou shall not cheat on thy wife for no reason for it shall only cause more damage. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by daryoor(m): 7:52am On Jul 18, 2014 |
if she goes to one extreme you sef go the other extreme, play por.n on the dvd, smoke in her presence listening to bob marley, that way she'll know how it feel to choose an ideology that makes life unbearable to ones partner. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by danot1030: 7:52am On Jul 18, 2014 |
snowpe:most of d people here are little children who are not married they has no marital experience. I no d situation u are, I once have d same issue and I made her see dat her new lifestyle is capable of pushing me into the hand of other woman pointing out that am man and I have taste for life u don't expect me to just go for anyting dat is presented, to me packaging and attraction is it in evry issue possoble dis she knows so how can she just take away dat and expect me to remain d same. Beside I tuk her into the bible and made her see that those doctrines are not of God but fallacy from men who wants to create their own righteousness and standard to impress God. U know many of them don't read dat bible and even those dat read and many of those that preach don't understand it. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Nobody: 7:55am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Janetozi: and the wife too is trying to salvage her relationship with God from breaking down. She doesn't need any form of misguided & judgmental opinions. Not from u nor from her husband or anyone. This time I agree with you... none of us has the right to be judgemental against the wife nor her husband. We don't know what is truly going on in. Their minds. Nice dp by the way. The jeans and brown shirt bring out your fine figure. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Richy4(m): 7:59am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Alot of people on this forum are not married yet. Some are waiting for Jamb, some waiting for WAEC. I cannot say I am married myself because marriage is different from boy friend and girl friend thing. I suggest you pay a visit to the pastor of your local church were both of you worship alone. Explain to him that you are the kind of guy that pay attention to what your wife and people around you put on....bla bla bla Tell him that the queen of your heart now look un kept etc He will understand if he is a good man. Then invite your wife so that both of you can go see him for advice 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by 4lorunsho(m): 7:59am On Jul 18, 2014 |
My brother pls sit her down and let her know u " don't u know d scriptures to tell her wen she is doing the opposite in the bible. And if symptoms persit consult your doctor which is jesus 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Wislet(f): 8:05am On Jul 18, 2014 |
I WONDER WHY SOME PEOPLE THINK GOD HIMSELF LOOKS UNKEMPT, THEREFORE THEY TOO SHOULD. The floor of heaven is tiled with gold, which means God likes good things....he did not use sand on the floors and say, "I don't want to look expensive". We keep deceiving ourselves thinking a true christian is one who wears rags, keep their hair untidy and don't care how they look. You better start caring about your appearance. If you were to appear before your nation's leader or appointed to work in a prestigious firm, you would adorn yourself to look good, how much more to be a worker in the vineyard(company) of the creator of the universe himself? Should you look ragged and work in The Biggest Company in the World- God's company? The roman soldiers cast lots on Christ's cloth which we learnt was seamless. For them to cast lots to determine a winner (instead of tearing up the cloth), I bet it must have been of worthwhile stock. Our God says, "My people perish for lack of knowledge". Women make themselves unattractive to their husbands in the name of worshipping God, tempting their husbands to look outside...and then they think they have the right to run to God and say, "my husband is looking outside" and He's gonna shake their hands and say, "it's not your fault" . You need to check carefully because it cannot be God you are following His footsteps...it is someone else- maybe your religious leader who hasn't understood the mind of God. You are created in the image of God. Do you think for one minute that God looks ragged? For what reason then did He create the fine things He did ( gold, diamond, etc) and gave man the brains to make finer things out of them? Was it for the animals to use? Of course not. Pls, look good. Where one should be concerned about is moderation. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by simpleseyi: 8:06am On Jul 18, 2014 |
xynerise: YES, the husband will have two options, one - cheat on her, two - send her packing. This is because she is throwing away all the qualities that attracted the husband to her. He married her for some qualities he saw in her, once she throws away those qualities, she also throws away her marriage. The husband definitely saw deeper life and mountain of fire church goers but did not ask any of them for marriage, instead he married a fashionable, well dressed and presentable coca-cola shaped damsel. She cannot change to holy Mary over-night. That is breach of agreement. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by ogtavia(m): 8:07am On Jul 18, 2014 |
What is ur definition of unkempt and lack of make - up,I live with ladies and I know dose scenarios are very subjective...no matter what,its nt a good reason to cheat,if u cheat,u're only putting urself in trouble and nt ur wife. |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by lilmax(m): 8:07am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Crixie: I don't agree with you ooooh... Her style of worshiping God should not affect their marriage, Imagine the husband chooses to become celibate as his own style of worshiping God... Hope the woman would accept itreasonable comment so far 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Amya(f): 8:08am On Jul 18, 2014 |
Nairalanders hypocrisy never seem to amaze me. Someone comes looking for an advice and everyone is acting all holier than thou and judgemental. All these cheating married men that are flooding the place are they from mars? The fact is some men justifies the tinniest reason on cheating on their wives. This one even seems more legit than some I've heard over the years. OP try to talk to her. She really has to know her new dress sense is making her unattractive to you. let her know that reason you're so bothered is you don't want to have a reason to look outside. If she has any regards for the marriage, I assure you, she'll change. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Bibol(f): 8:09am On Jul 18, 2014 |
I'll assume the OP has a sincere mindset to this issue. I'm sure that after 4 years of living with his wife, he knows exactly what she looks like without makeup and jewellery. Some men just prefer their wives looking all decked up and all that. However the woman should also realise that she is now ONE with her husband and major decisions like this has to be discussed with her man. Whether she likes it or not, he is her head as long as she is alive and he is accountable for her wellbeing in all areas, same for her. Dear OP, sit down with your wife, discuss what you feel you aren't comfortable with and try to reach a compromise. Although I'm not in support of a woman looking dirty and unkempt in the name of "born again". She can still look very presentable with her natural hair even without makeup, jewellery and trousers as long as she decides to be wise and organised. It's not that hard! Understanding, communication and some form of compromise is needed if you are to enjoy your home. Only you knows the woman you married so deal with it in a matured way. I'm guessing you are the same faith with your wife sha. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Over Spiritual Orientation Is Driving Me Nuts!!! by Wislet(f): 8:10am On Jul 18, 2014 |
2ndking: my deardo not teach what you do not understans, Mr man. Those things are not 'gods' as you say. When the things of this world mean more to you than God Himself that's when they become 'gods' to you. When you covet them as you shouldn't....when your heart is on them..that is the evil thereof. 1 Like |
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