snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
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snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

snowpe: l appreciate all the advice given,it makes me strong and opens my eyes more to understand something s which I didn't.by God's grace I will never cheat on her.

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

snowpe: he who asks for good advice won't make wrong decision, so is either u drop an advice or you keep quiet,cos if I wanted to cheat y shld I ask for advice?I want u guys to understand that in the journey of marriage nobody knows it all.

Amhappy: In as much as she still dey baff, OP no get problem.

Janetozi: @op, ur wife wasn't born with make-up & jewelry on her face & attachment on her hair & she is not going back to her creator that way. U should should have try to find out is she looks attractive without those artificial or not b4 getting married to her, but now that u have married her & she becomes born again, u have to support her. Lead her not into hell...... Those things she avoid using are what she have to sacrificed to get where she wants to spend her eternity. Hell may be cheap but heaven is not.

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

gennysq:

Walahi! Bomb dey ya head.............. Waris dis

Dygeasy: Bluntly speaking, No advice anyone gives the OP will be sufficient to change his orientation cos for a man to have TRIED to consider cheating on his WIFE for a reason as absurd as what he's stating here, trust me he is just wasting our time.

It's either she changes or he cheats.

lrguru: OP don't be hard on her, she is only following GOD'S word as regards the prerequisite of making Heaven. The ALMIGHTY GOD abhors ladies who wear make up n trousiers, and all those high heel and whatever shifts them from been natural, and u should be glad ur wife has seen the light n towed the part of living a CHRIST like life, instead of wasting much energy tryin to convince her to do otherwise, I'd advice u follow suit. if my fiancee could just be like her, I'd marry her immediately, imagine she tellin me she can't do without make-ups and wearin brazilian hair? And this lady is very pretty, my joy is that GOD is aware I have told her countless numbers of time that that path leads to destruction, and Christains believing that GOD only looks at the heart, is just pure delusion, cos your body should be the temple of GOD and not a shrine filled with ornament n colours. And BTW there's no modern christainity, GOD'S word never changes. OP love your wife, for she will bring you wealth and good luck

xynerise:
My advice comes after you answer my question

flipflop: Sir, I'm sure you did not marry her just for beauty alone. Your wife has acted on faith, you criticizing and demanding for her to change may destroy her faith. Give her your support as her husband and friend. If you feel she looks unkempt, it just because you are still looking for that woman she used to be. You suggesting cheating on her is absolutely absurd and terribly wicked. Your wife is your wife, stop loving her for the outside "beauty" and start focusing on the inward beauty that does not change or fade. *#shrugs shoulder

tempem:
Make it strong!!

Brainwashed

Otuabaroku: I don't know why everybody is just advising the op to accept the sudden change of the wife attitude to very important issue simply because this is not the only reason why he married at first place.

@Op, talk to your wife and let her know that worshipping God does not mean she should look unkept all the time.
Equally let her know the implication of what she is doing and your concern and worries. Hopefully she listens and change.

Goldenboy007:

The problem about seeking advise in forums like this is that people that don't having business advising you will also give you terrible advise.

I wonder what is wrong with people these days, you got married and now decided to change something about yourself regardless of what your spouse think? You do not have the right to change from how your spouse found you!!! This exactly is what causes problems in marriage !!! SO because you are married now, you think you are secured so no need to keep up your game? then you will have yourself to blame.

OP, I quite agree with you !! you have a genuine concern and nobody should criticize you! Don't let anybody condemn you on the way you feel! There is something that attracted us to whomever we married and it is not necessary for it to be "Love" !!! Some is physical attraction, some its money, some it is character ! Don't condemn anybody's reason for getting married !!!

This is a common problem, call her parents or an elder she respects and talk to them, let them talk to her. Even the bible clearly states the husband as the head of the wife and if whatever you are practicing negates this then you don't God. What if you decided to adopt a strange habit too? like getting a tattoo? earrings? or go become a Buddhist? How would she feel? However sha, keep your cool, at least thank God it is good thing she adopted and not that she decided to become a "wakawaka" wife

Nairalanders! If you are not married! stop advising married people because you don't know jack what it is all about !!!! Your Nollywood and Mills&Boom Romance Novel experience don't apply in reality!

nairakobo:

Is she also born with clothes, panties and shoes? Perhaps she develops eye defects and she uses contacts or glasses now, would u let me know if she was born with all of those God blessed us with to maintain our body pls? If she wasn't then she should start walking around nude, shoeless, half-blind etc since she wasn't born with all of those. But its safe to conclude dat since we were not born with ordinary white powder, we should nt use it cos we are going back to our God the way he created us.

decode55: one thieving pastor has brainwashed someone's beloved wife & you guys are here screaming: "God" "Faith"



SMH.

The number of brainwashed zombies on this site keeps increasing

Now you understand the fuckery I have to deal with on a regular.


The Bible says 'Wives be submissive to your husband'.. Yet this niggas wife is submissive to her Pastor and not her husband yet these niggas aint saying nothing about that.