daben1: and who's talking about fu*k here? My family first, i cant quantify my family with any girl, not at all

Shinelle: See my opinion is dis ... asides the general rule that "wife/girlfriend owns the front sit", age is another major factor. if I,as ur gf was at front and we were about to pick ur elder sis, or one older dan me, ild just open d door n head back as a Gf not wife o... except shes like no no no, sit abeg, den ild close d door n she goes to d back, buh den if its ur younger sis, or one im older dan were to pick up, I won't evn bother...and im sure if ur younger sis or one im older dan were to b in d front, and ur about to pick me up, ild head to d back still because someone is there, buh common sense shud tell her dat she shud alight, or u as her elder bro shud ask her to move to the back....if none of this happens, ild maintain the back and pray for the journey's success, which is the most important thing lol :-) :-)



*forgive my shorthand*

daben1: and who's talking about fu*k here? My family first, i cant quantify my family with any girl, not at all

Timileyin: #

My sister is 27 my girl is 26

MadCow1:


And imagine a 27 year old girl fighting a girl who is her junior over who seats in the frontseat of her boysfriends car..

Whats next?! Who lies next to the brother inside his one room apartment?!

Timileyin:

My Girl friend is calming the sitting in front is her right, me i dont understand ooo?

Timileyin:

The fun was already died, Girl friend threatens break up, my sister telling me none sense. The fight is still up self.

MadCow1:


Hi Shinelle...

Well written, but why does this seating arrangement change between status (Wife/Girlfriend) though age difference remains a constant?!


Now lemme try a direct question to you; Would you seat in front with your brother and relegate his girlfrined (your junior) to the back seat?! Or would you allow the lovers be and seat at the back?!

cirmuell: Okay first thing first, how old are the two of 'em?

BodyKiss:

On the other hand, you don't even sound like you have a sound mind.

temigracie: ..lol...Is that possible...

Honestly, it is kinda hard for me to believe your story...

Its not possible your girlfriend will drag seats with your sister....She carry charcoal for head ni??....BTW, whats so special about the front seat gansef??...I wanna know..

Can someone please help me out....

yuppieman: In our kind of society, ‎​‎​†ђe front seat of Ω̴̴̩̩̩̥̩ man's car į̸̸̨§ meant for his wife/gf as ‎​†ђε case may be. But in your case, you have your sister sitting in ‎​†ђε front seat before you got ‎​2 your gf, now coutesy demands that your sister alights and go 2 ‎​†ђε back seat but in your case she didn't (for whatever reason); your gf should have let it slide pass afterall she will get 2 sit in your car more than your sister will ever sit there. Now, 2 answer your question directly, if your sister į̸̸̨§ much younger than your gf, you would have politely requested that she moved 2 ‎​†ђε back seat (as Ω̴̴̩̩̩̥̩ mark of respect) but if they are abt ‎​†ђε same age then you would have politely requested her 2 sit at ‎​†ђε bck for that once.

MadCow1:

Good for you hommie..


I just hope you have that line clearly marked out cos it tends to fade like the 'referees vanishing spray' if not clearly defined..

The difference between a wife and a girlfriend is a piece of paper and a ring o!!

gede7744: u are not yet married to ur gf and she is already domineering and controlling, wonder what she will do if u eventually marry her.

voltron: who ever is giving up the cuchi at night should seat in the front.. nairalanders and their suggestions sf.. imagine what does your sister give to you that your girlfriend cannot give + punana

holluwai: My friend madcow1, I don't know how you came about your ideas in life but to be honest with you it is non of my business. The 26year old younger gf shouldn't even process the thought in her head at all, let alone open her filthy mouth to tell her bfs sister to vacate the front seat. It is highly disrespectful of her to do and if she thinks she better show herself in full and not hide any of her behaviors to her bfs family then I'm sorry for her as she should have to make do of her fathers front seat that is if her father even has one. I'm a proper Yoruba man and eventhou I'm married, my wife will dare not tell my sister to move to the back, it won't even happen my brother.

cooljoe: family is family. Friends(galfrnd or no galfrnd) are not as important as family. Do not confuse the loyalty of friendship with the bond of blood

MadCow1:


[b]In Life;


Your Siblings are your Siblings..

Your Family is Your family..


But your Girlfriend has a very special place in your life..

If you and your sister drive to your girlfriends house to pick her up.. When your girlfriend comes out, she (i.e your sister) is supposed to go to the back seat on her own.. Its not only corteous, but also shows respect for the relationship they have. Or is your sister trying to put assunder?!

Just because she isnt married to you yet does not make her second to your sister. The way you treat her as a girlfriend would play a role in how she see herself as a wife.

On the issue of guys, its different.. Women (both married and otherwise) normally move to the back seat for guys (its an unwritten rule that amazes me). Maybe out of respect for her husband or boyfriend.. But every other female both family and otherwise move to the back for your main chick..



P.S The sensibility of a post is also subject to the intellectual capacity of the reader.. #NoDisrespectEither..
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MadCow1:


[b]Okay!! I think I see your confusion now.. Lemme clarify;

Its Highly immature/foolish/disrespectful/childish and outrageous of a girlfriend to walk up to a car where her brothers girlfriend is already sitted in the car and demand she relocates to the Back.. #Hope you are clear on this point..

What I was trying to make you understand is this;

1. The frontseat of a Guys Car belongs to his Girlfriend/wife..

2. A wife/girlfriend would normally give up her right to that seat for her Man's 'MALE' friends, his brother or his Father..

3. The only female who has a right to veto the rights to that seat is the Mans Mother (or the wifes mother depending)..

4. A wise sister never struggles the front seat amongst other things with her brothers girlfriend and more especially with his wife.

5. Age may be a factor that can influence wh seats in front between sister and girlfriend, but I would expect my elder sister to seat behind as well because she should be above such trivial things. And because she should respect the sanctity of my relationship with my girl and allow us be.

6. The relationship with your sister is way different from that with your girlfriend/wife (but not necessarily superior to).

7. Setting a Precedence is always important in a relationship.. How you treat your girlfriend and where you place her in the eyes of your family is very important for the future because old habits die hard.. If your sisters have no respect for your companion as a girlfriend, dont expect it to change when she eventually becomes your wife.

8. Every wife is first a girlfriend.. Same way your sister would also be anothers girlfriend before wife.


Finally... The scenario played out on this thread is rather juvenile in nature and the blame would go to the Girlfriend who should have been the 'Bigger' person and moved to the back seeing as the sister wasnt wise enough to act right. You dont fight every battle head on.. The girlfriend in this story was badly behaved.. The Sister in this case was also badly behaved or didnt know any better.

I hope its clearer to you now..
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Timileyin:

My Girl friend is calming the sitting in front is her right, me i dont understand ooo?

holluwai: Well said but I've been cleared on this issue from page 1