But you didn't answer my question . Oh yeah. Now I see it, you did. So thank God for you right?

pcguru1:


i took your last question a bit personal, because i have experienced it and promised to never emulate it. its harsh of you walking around calling people "Women beaters" just because you are skeptical. that's why am taking this a bit too personal you seem to forget that men also grew up under abusive homes hating their fathers for doing such. well i will leave that to you. don't ever categorize everyone as the same just because of some few. and most importantly don't ask questions in that manner its very cruel "So you are not a woman beater ?".

dovelike:
But you didn't answer my question . Oh yeah. Now I see it, you did. So thank God for you right?

do you grow up in an abusive home ? that would would justify your hatred. shit happens

pcguru1:


do you grow up in an abusive home ? that would would justify your hatred. shit happens

Lets leave it at that pls. And am not hateful

dovelike:

Lets leave it at that pls. And am not hateful

you are to me and that's my personal opinion of you the same way i am a woman beater to you. let's leave it at that. hope church was fun.

pcguru1:


you are to me and that's my personal opinion of you the same way i am a woman beater to you. let's leave it at that. hope church was fun.

Am not . I plan on getting married to a man one day.Or can't you differentiate btw hatred and skeptical?

dovelike:

Am not . I plan on getting married to a man one day.Or can't you differentiate btw hatred and skeptical?

wait you can make generalizations about all guys being women beater and i can't generalize that women who make statements like this are misandrists. am only doing what you are doing.

pcguru1:


wait you can make generalizations about all guys being women beater and i can't generalize that women who make statements like this are misandrists. am only doing what you are doing.

Call me misandrists if you want. It doesn't matter sweets . Why are you still talking to me self.Oh, you must have seen my dp.Thats why..

dovelike:

Call me misandrists if you want. It doesn't matter sweets . Why are you still talking to me self.Oh, you must have seen my dp.Thats why..

why are you still replying, besides i haven't seen your pix but am sure you must be a fine girl no doubt about it, as much as i like fine girls i prefer the ones who are not biased and spiteful against men who haven't harmed anyone. I am not gonna reply anymore else i might be begin to find logic in your statement. Just read on stalin and hitler and you will see what hatred does.

pcguru1:


why are you still replying, besides i haven't seen your pix but am sure you must be a fine girl no doubt about it, as much as i like fine girls i prefer the ones who are not biased and spiteful against men who haven't harmed anyone. I am not gonna reply anymore else i might be begin to find logic in your statement. Just read on stalin and hitler and you will see what hatred does.

Wait,so all I was not making sense b4? Anyways,you don't prefer my type,I don't prefer yours.

The mom's advice and the guy's violence; don't know which is worse. Looks like you put all eggs in 1 bucket but remember even if you throw it away you can lay more.

[quote author=ferdimako post=29699767][/quote]ferdimako thanks.dats a slip of finger.noted

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My dear, don't allow this spirit of I 'love him, he's my dream man' to put you down 6f. I really wonder why you didn't notice his high level of pretence in him because of love flower that could fade away for good 7yrs as acclaimed by you. There are various ways your man can use to put you through should it be that you are falling out in character instead of beating you always by destroying most probable the reasons behind his marriage to you. My dear, don't allow anyone to deceive you to leave or stay mostly family n friends or else you were forced to marry him though you stated b4; make wise decisions yourself but seek God first and it'll be solved for you ok!...and to all we guys/men as you may call it. Stop the habit of beating up your 'woman' cos u might have gone scot free yesterday but tomorrow you might not so please be temper controlled!.

This man will kill you. Run like hell out of his life. There is no future for you or your kids there. Besides he must be insane, any man that beats a woman is NOT a real man, will never be a true husband of a loving father.

@Poster,

I am going to be harsh on this. Ordinarily, I hate to sound this way but TRUTH IS YOU WILL REGRET THIS MARRIAGE IF YOU GO INTO THIS MARRIAGE BEING A PUNCHING BAG FOR HIM.
I believe in miracles but this attitude of crocodile tears and still going back to beat you is unbelievable to me.
Any man that beats the wife is not serious...

A Leopard can't change its skin. That's what he will keep doing after the marriage and you won't have a choice by then. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

you better run for your life. if you like wait one day he will kill you. how many times did your father beat you like that and at this age. rubbish called love. be practical. if he makes a mistake will he beat himself? i hate things like this. even when i had paid my girlfriends accomodation like N200k and i found out she was bringing a guy to the house to sleep with, i simply just walked away and i never communicated with her. that bro isn't your husband . take it or leave it . you are better single than being with such an animal. ladies are really making themselves so cheap.

My dad is late. I’ve told my mom every time he hit me and she would go over to his house with me and shout at him. He would apologize and do it again. I am tired. My mom keeps advising me not to disgrace the family that he is a man and that’s how men behave. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong that has been ticking him off so much lately.

Your mum needs a dose of "adol" and "lagatin" injection.

Many will give U gibberish advice on this post so beware of the one U choose as it might make U spend the rest of Ur life in Joy (as is my prayer for U) or regret (as the society will want it to be).



Now my advice





My Mum married my Dad out of love & joy. But she spent many years in pain & tears Due to regular beatings from Dad.



My aunt spent Her marriage in tears & pain Due to a similar nature as the one listed above.



When Dad beat Mum, She will go to Her family & after begging's & petting's, she will return home to face the same pain. Her family was boasting of the fact that She (Mum) was married with 4 kids while Mum suffered in tears in Her matrimonial home.



The reaction of Ur Mum is normal & expected cos that was the way of life in the former generation. But this is Ur life, Ur future, Ur pain, Ur decision, Ur generation.


Are U capable of enduring this pain & torment for the rest of Ur life or till God changes His (Ur fiancee's heart?




Will U face tears in Ur matrimonial home for the purpose of bringing Joy to Ur Mum & the society?




She is Ur Mum. She might react in anger if U decide to cancel the marriage, But She will still bring U back to Her bosom in love after begging Her for forgiveness.


As for the love, it will turn to hatred if U marry that guy ooo.


Weigh Ur options & take a permanent stand.

dovelike:
Dear,love is an overrated word.Its called infatuation or crush.In the long run,it gradually fades and turns to tolerance. I detest women beaters. Am scared of rships now because there are times I thought I was in love.....then I got bored . Its all tolerance and patience,then friends,in marriage.
The thing be say,if God just remove all the women from nigeria,the Men will not survive one day. Truth.

Honestly...excellent write up. A lot of people don't know what the so called "love" entails, that's why they get disappointed at the end of the day because they never got what they were expecting. It's all about tolerance

@ OP

Since you love this man who has turned you into a punching bag, I have two pieces of advice for you. First postpone the marriage for 6 months. Spend the 6 months in a karate school. Learn the martial arts full time so that when you eventually marry him, it will be blow for blow. Now do not tell him what you are in to while you are doing your training so he would be in for a surprise the first time he tries to hit you after marriage.

Should you find this suggestion above too hard to go with, then I will suggest you send me you wedding IV so I can buy you a wedding gift - A COFFIN. yes a coffin because your husband will need that sooner than later to pack your remains when he eventually kill you. You say its not your portion IJN? Then run , i say run now as fast as your legs can carry you.

I'm surprised that you a graduate of the 21st century can be asking for advice on this kind of matter. A man who beats you during courtship will strangle you after your wedding. But I doubt if you are truly a graduate. Where is the sense you used to pass your degree examinations? Why is it no longer functioning? Were you my daughter, I will personally take you to A psychiatrist for check up.

Hunny get to stepping....Leave that man behind....but do keep him in your prayers