IyaKadijat:

Therefore, when I found out in Yoruba "Baba" meant father(or Daddy), it was just as natural for me to change the vowels, and I thought it was cute

FADAKA:

Iyakadijat You begin to talk too much, Why cant you count your-blessing one by one.
At least look back where you are coming from and where you are now.

Its your choice to pick between this guy and those other Niggas that do have countless kidz all over the places
without proper care for any of them.



A word for a wise!

spikedcylinder:

I am yet to see any fault in this woman.
She loved and lived with a man for 8 years, whats wrong with that? She has his baby and was happy with him until she found out he was still married.Anyone, absolutely, anyone can fall for that. In fact, I haven't seen any tell tale signs from what she has said that could have warned her the man was still married.
He wasn't pushing to marry her like other Nigerian men would have done to get papers, he lived with her and actually had a child by her, he confessed to having had a baby mama (who doesn't?). Unless she's a super human, I don't think there's any way she could have known the man was/is a Arrow.
As for looking for another Nigerian man, whats wrong with that also? My first boyfriend was Nigerian, does this mean because he broke my heart, I should go seeking Ghanaian men? I don't get this.

No2Atheism:

@spikedcylinder

1. Which technically means that you yourself are not a Nigerian,

or

2. Does that mean you still dating a Nigerian as of now,

Huh? It was an hypothetical example. Was that now obvious?

spikedcylinder:

Huh? It was an hypothetical example. Was that now obvious?

spoilt:

Chei.
@ Iya Kadijat
I dont even know where to start. It is a known fact that many Nigerian men will shack up with women over here while waiting for their 'real wives' on other continents to cross over. (This storyline is so old it creaks! I swear ve heard it like nine hundred and ninety three times!!!! ) The starring lead actress just changes. It reallydoesnt matter if that man needs a green card or not. At least in the mean time he will live comfortably, eat hot home cooked meals made by you the interim wife and be 'knacked' for good measure! Dudes have become sneaky. For every suspicion you have, they have an explanation, a reason. I really dont blame you for being fooled. I just wonder why you went for 8 years without a ring. Who does that? Why slave away and give your life force to a man who dangles the vague promise of marriage at some distant yet to be determined date at you?

All that is water under the bridge. Time to move on.The irony is that women like you who have been had, only turn around and play wife again to the same sort of man. I sometimes think they know you will persevere thats why they take, take and keep taking from you. You give, give and keep giving. Im exhausted just thinking of all you gave in those 9 years.

I empathise. At least you have your daughter.

ThiefOfHearts:

she's alreayd looking for another Naija dude on another thread. akatas are mad hopeless

spikedcylinder:

Actually, it is a known fact that men (and women!) from less developed countries inter-marry Europeans, Americans etc to get easy access to citizenship and naturalization in their adopted countries.
You said you didn't suspect him of foul play because he wasn't pinning for you both to get married. I think thats an indicator that you were aware these things happen.

spikedcylinder:

I am yet to see any fault in this woman.
She loved and lived with a man for 8 years, whats wrong with that? She has his baby and was happy with him until she found out he was still married.Anyone, absolutely, anyone can fall for that. In fact, I haven't seen any tell tale signs from what she has said that could have warned her the man was still married.
He wasn't pushing to marry her like other Nigerian men would have done to get papers, he lived with her and actually had a child by her, he confessed to having had a baby mama (who doesn't?). Unless she's a super human, I don't think there's any way she could have known the man was/is a Arrow.
As for looking for another Nigerian man, whats wrong with that also? My first boyfriend was Nigerian, does this mean because he broke my heart, I should go seeking Ghanaian men? I don't get this.

spikedcylinder:

In that case, the only issue here is that he broke your heart.
He didn't use you go get "papers" and him bringing over his family was not unknowingly facilitated by you. Right?

spikedcylinder:

Lol. I am Nigerian.

IyaKadijat:

I can see your sarcasm-and the answer is, "RIGHT". He filed all the paperwork himself-I didn't even know the children got their visas until shortly before he bought the plane tickets-and I didn't find out about his wife coming until right after he bought the plane tickets.
If you are insinuating that by you and your significant other trying to be upwardly mobile by moving to another state and starting up a business is somehow stupid on my part because I "should've known", then maybe you should write a book on this-because it's obvious you are wayyy smarter than the average bear.

I wasn't being sarcastic, I was just trying to get a clearer picture to understand your situation better.
It seems to be a formed opinion here that he used you to get his papers and I was wondering how possible that would be if he didn't actually get married to you.
Sorry if you think I was sarcastic and I hope you feel better.

spikedcylinder:

I wasn't being sarcastic, I was just trying to get a clearer picture to understand your situation better.
It seems to be a formed opinion here that he used you to get his papers and I was wondering how possible that would be if he didn't actually get married to you.
Sorry if you think I was sarcastic and I hope you feel better.

spikedcylinder:

Lol. I am Nigerian.

IyaKadijat:

Sorry-someone suggested you weren't and I just ran with it, lol!

spikedcylinder:

Lol. I am Nigerian.

spikedcylinder link=topic=265982.msg3797223#msg3797223 date=1241005744:

I wasn't being sarcastic, I was just trying to get a clearer picture to understand your situation better.
It seems to be a formed opinion here that he used you to get his papers and I was wondering how possible that would be if he didn't actually get married to you.
Sorry if you think I was sarcastic and I hope you feel better.

JJYOU:

i am beginning to think some women enjoying playing the victim. i used to watch in horror in the 80's / 90's as women who should know better knowingly made nigerian men old enough to be their dad husbands.

what is going on?

spoilt:

I didnt even see the part about him asking you to not cheat on him. Arrrg!!! Dude couldnt have cracked a worse joke!!!!
The cheek of it!

spoilt:

I didnt even see the part about him asking you to not cheat on him. Arrrg!!! Dude couldnt have cracked a worse joke!!!! 
The cheek of it! 

IyaKadijat:

Unless he had me when he was like 9 years old, my child's father is NOT old enough to be my dad. I don't know, I myself have discovered firsthand that Nigerian sperm is powerful(since Kadijat was a "1 drop" baby)-but that powerful-come on!

JJYOU:

you know some people lie to the point they begin to believe their lies. what wont you tell a lady you think you have strong hold of?didnt say you personally check what i said again.

is kadijat your daughters real name?. if it is is can i ask that you kindly stop using it online. this is a global site plus your foto is online too. i know protecting her is your number 1 priority here. tks to google you can get any info you want to get on anyone these days. is Kadijat an islamic name aor just a yoruba name?