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Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 10:41am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Diamondvera:direct your fücking pity to your demented alzhemier prone brain. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:41am On Dec 04, 2015 |
I already told him even the on he did before this one! I do tell him that it ladies that mostly react this way. He just apologise n change d topic! I'm tired n scared. What if we marry n it continues this way or lock me out because of this attitude? I listed to a preacher who said that things like this are warning signs that we are not ment for each other! xtervaganza: |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Infinitikoncept(m): 10:43am On Dec 04, 2015 |
koboko69:Its really a crazy world |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by modestdude(m): 10:44am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Babe, I will ask you to commit it to prayers, remember God is ever willing to bear our burdens and give us respite. Ask for His will, submit to His will and let Him lead the way for you Secondly, stay away from Him only on Social media and engage him only in real life. Understand it that your relationship with him is better off without Social media. Some people live a dual life; cool, calm and quiet in the real world while being expressive and aggressive on social media and i think this makes such people introverts. Then check your differences with him and come to a reasonable compromise for more understanding. Attack the issue from the root and not the fruits. I know you are not the call/ phone conversation person, but you need to develop it please, it bonds much more better than social media. You can equally confide in your lovely Dad , am definitely sure he has one or two lessons to give you on how to tame your Man. He is well schooled in matters of the heart though i didn't meet him. Above all i wish you happiness |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by EnimeBassey(m): 10:44am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Highcuerayte:. Ur grammatical application is over emphasized,can u divide it down to a tiny atomic sizes? |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by drehdinho(m): 10:44am On Dec 04, 2015 |
There are lots of insincere comments so far. Is like many do not know that the matter this lady is seeking advise on is very crucial. If you have nothing tangible to say ,I will advise you keep reading what others have contributed. Now ,here is my advise Op. You know the sincere answer to this question yourself. Do you truly love this man? If truly you love him. Keep praying for him. I want to take this case from marriage perspective already. Because courtship days are mere means to an end which is marriage. Marriage is not a bed of rossy. And the earlier you know this the better. If you say, today am done with this relationship with you,this wicked man . What do you know the man you hook up next with will be like. Although, luckily, he may be a better man. But there will still be definately some other areas too you will find very irritating. In all, you need to go master the art of playing maturity with everyone and anyone. The way to do this is you don't always feel he,your man, is the one to care for you at all time. You too are obliged to care for him come what may. You need to work a lot on your level of tolerance and forgiveness. I wish you the very best in your relationship with him...stay blessed dear. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Mekzy02(m): 10:45am On Dec 04, 2015 |
211Observer:lolz....give him more 6 yrs? The dude would probably be 47 and OP would be 35... N probably after he grows up, he would need more 3 years to settle down and marry OP!...lol it wouldnt be a wedding again but a silver anniversary!!! 1 Like |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:45am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: My dear sister, pls don't be depressed by those insulting you because you're 29. You are not old at 29. This is a public forum, and that's why you find those impolite guys typing rubbish. God understands how he works for every man. Getting married early is no assurance of a happy marriage. Just get yourself closer to God in all sincerity, I'm sure he will intervene in your life and bless you with a perfect man. That said, if you ask me, I sincerely do not believe this your relationship with this present guy is a very healthy one. But I suggest you first of all open your mind to him about this his attitude and hear his reply. God bless you! |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:45am On Dec 04, 2015 |
AsherStorm: But I don't know about you I can't bring myself to beg someone to add me back after deleting them, also that's an avoidant personality , such a simple act in a little way shows how that type of person reacts to conflicts. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by koboko69: 10:46am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: Then let that be clear to him. I have heard people getting off whatsapp or bbm to save their relationships cos u not reading my pings and u online...or I didnt read my ping but u changed ur dp was bringing some much issues. If he deletes u again...let him remain deleted for as long as u can hold no matter his pleas..... And let him know how much it disgusts u...and you aint gonna have any of it again.... I am not talking of 1 day or 2 days plea from him...let him know how serious u are.....let him know u will accept when u ready.. But dumping him simply cos of social network ish....is a BIG NO! Except other issues are involved |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 04, 2015 |
I didn't come here to seek advice on what to do because I've already made up my mind! I just want to know WHY? And I tried asking why he delete at every provocation, he only laugh nd apology about it. Bringing this here is just to know if other men react that way! Even when I asked my brothers and best friends, (MEN) they just don't have anything to say. To me, it's childish n I should be d one threaten him with deletion! AsherStorm: |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by noblegrex: 10:48am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25:you need not worry yourself too much.from the look of things I perceived a part of you still loves him(which is normal) while some part is far away form him.only if he could just change hmm.I can see you're still very angry.so take a deep breath,sit down, relax your nerves and think of any reason why you still have to continue with him.if none or if its not enough, then back off. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:50am On Dec 04, 2015 |
AsherStorm:Sorry if i may ask Who are you calling ignorant children, mind u dis is a faceless forum nd u don't know who is behind each moniker Nd y will a 41yr old man be deleting his 29yr woman frm his bbm, whatsapp, Facebook nd other social media account any time dey have an issue D least he could do is try and communicate with her nd try nd resolve wat ever issue dey r facing, cos if dey don't face it now wen dey r not married dey will never be able to face any problem wen dey r married Nd u r saying she might be trying to send him annoying messages Do you know if she is trying to communicate nd resolve d issue at hand? Most of u guys are funny, if she did not communicate with you wen dere is problem, u will start saying she don't care, nd maybe she has someone else Nd now dat she is trying to communicate and get through to him u termed it annoying SMH Truly one can never please d world |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:50am On Dec 04, 2015 |
On my honour, I won't write of a guy because of this if other issues are not involve! But this are personal issues and bringing this here was because of curiosity! Even my brothers and best friends who are males couldn't explain his reasons for that! So what am I suppose to do? Die in silent? Mba nah! koboko69: |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 10:57am On Dec 04, 2015 |
olumide81:Agreed! In social media most guys do display that character of a split personality, that doesn't mean he dont love u or care abt u. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by AhWetin(m): 10:57am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: I think you actually answered yourself. If at 41 he still does childish things like that, it explains why he is still single Meanwhile vote Miss World Here http://www.lvka168.com/missworld/voting/countries/Nigeria |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by rooqee120(f): 10:59am On Dec 04, 2015 |
olumide81:I love ur reply to the moon and back 1 Like |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by olumide81(m): 11:00am On Dec 04, 2015 |
rooqee120:gracias! |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Jewelbaby01(f): 11:03am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25:I was just about to tell you that, am glad you already know. Its very normal to have misunderstandings in relationships, especially one that is just growing. As time goes on, it will lessen. There is no good relationship without misunderstanding, what matters is your ability to understand that it isn't the end of the relationship and also your ability to resolve the misunderstanding amicably. Another thing you have to know is that people have different ways of reacting when angry, it just might be his own way of cooling his temper, that's why he comes back to beg later, because after deleting you, he feels okay at that time, but later he feels bad about it. Just telling you from experience, I used to do that a lot to my guy when we first met, but today am proud to tell you, that the same guy is gonna be my husband in a few months. Now you know what he enjoys to do when he's really upset, let him know how much you detest it, am sure with time, he'll stop it. He's at least better than some animals that would rather beat you up. Your relationship needs time dear, give it some time. The most important thing should be that he is God fearing, you love him and he loves you and he doesn't ever hit you. All the best dear 1 Like |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by tansho(m): 11:08am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Stop taking your issues to social media, each time you two have a misunderstanding. Do not speak in proverbs on these platforms when there are issues. He might misinterpret what you actually meant. Ladies do this a lot and it could be very annoying. But if you don't do this and he deletes you just like that, then there's a real problem |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 11:10am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Hello.. I really feel for u on wat u are passing through, I can see dat dis guy(ur bf) is really taking dis love for granted,fine it is normal to av misunderstanding wen in love due to different upbringing, am not after d age difference cos Age is just a number where dere is true love. Wat count most is MATURITY, I won't never advice u to quit ur relatnship cos no one know d one God destined u to marry in d nearest future but I wil advice u to take dis as a lesson to learn, wat are d lesson??. 1). Open ur eye, don't ridicule ur integrity for a man to use as a stepping stone. 2). Be in love but never be ridicule in love. Don't put urself into pressure of am getting older and am not yet married at my age (29),where all my mate are married, cos if u do men will only be taking advantage of ur . You are so much unique as a woman. Wat u need now is action and practical.. Call him,sit him down, tell him ur stand,give him d last warning and make sure u stand by ur words but do not insult him.. Ur words and ur stand can change him. If he really love u and ready to take u as his wife he will change, but breaking up is d solution for now.. U can add me on WhatsApp for more information.. 08182049967 |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by suwalee(f): 11:10am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25:well I don't see it as childish tho I don't see why he's alwys comin to plead wt u he deleting u via social tells u he's only tryin to forget u wich is quite hard for him that's his only way of moving on |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by AsherStorm(m): 11:13am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Greekgoddess: those statements were not particularly channeled to you but to some comments that seem awkward. its obvious that she wasnt trying to discuss matters with him, she was just annoying the man cos i see no reason why a man will delete her from social media if she was calm and trying to sort things out. lets be reasonable here and not just side with anyone that comes on nairaland to talk bad about someone else. lets call a spade a spade and ask her abt what happened the last time before she made d decision to leave the guy finally. she has made that decision already and doesnt even know why the guy does that thing. why is she now asking the world a question shes supposed to ask the guy... the reason i do it might be different from the man's reason for doing it... no one can actually talk for the man here and no one should call the dude childish either cos you havent heard his side of the story. Lizabeth25: hmmn, so youre done with him... i really pity you maam.. you broke up with a guy cos he deletes you on social media during a quarrel? what will you have him do ?receive your chats on there and respond to your rants? dont come telling us of the next guy you start dating if he calls you names on social media when you have a quarrel pls. thats when you will appreciate the one that deletes you during quarrel |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 11:13am On Dec 04, 2015 |
tartarus: It's so refreshing seeing a guy make such a post. Well done@your response to that poster. God bless you for being one of those men. 1 Like |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 11:13am On Dec 04, 2015 |
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Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by airex(m): 11:19am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25:Candid advice! u guys should stay away from each other on social media and try talking one-on-one. I bet u will see the difference |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Nobody: 11:20am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Dear Lizzy, I expected to see many *single* ladies out there encouraging you to quit the relationship because they claim the man is behaving like a boy. But this is your life and this will be your choice to make. As one of those who commented have said, some people react in some ways when angry. Some people tend to get really jealous and possesive when they really love someone. Relationships with these kinds of lovers needs more real life activities. If it dwells online too much, things like this can occur. My advice is that you try to know more about this man in the real life. You will discover his real nature when you've spent time together with him. You might even be surprised at his qualities you may discover. Not everyone is good at love on social media.. Some may be good at social media love but jerks in real life. That said, it's still YOUR CHOICE to make. |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by khloeee: 11:22am On Dec 04, 2015 |
I do this sometimes though....mostly on BBM....he he he especially when the person am quarreling with would be changing dp anyhow....annoying stuff |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by searay(m): 11:22am On Dec 04, 2015 |
We've been seriously dating for the past 5 to 6 months and within that period, every time we have a slight misunderstanding, he deletes me from social media starting from BBM to Whatsap then to FBK.! So whenever we settles, he begs me to re-add him.So you guys have misunderstanding every month? |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Iamfrank(m): 11:23am On Dec 04, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: To tell u d truth, I alwz do dat to my girlfriend n I hv my reasons |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by Chommieblaq(f): 11:24am On Dec 04, 2015 |
400billionman:Does your girlfriend do that every time u have issue. It's about same action recurring over and over. Shutting one out of your life at the slightest misunderstanding. No relationship is perfect buh shutting out his life at every tym we have issue is like me showing me the door repeatedly |
Re: He Deletes Me Everytime We Have Issues! by martinlooter(m): 11:24am On Dec 04, 2015 |
My dear, so many messages already, I hope you see mine in the pile of comments. Anyway, if you ask me I think the man is still a baby at 41. 41? , a man starts being a man at 30, married and waiting for his first child, but if at 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40 and at 41, he is still throwing temper tantrums, and acting petulant only tells me you're going to be the husband, mother, father and lastly the wife of the home when you two finally get married. Remember, when your child gets to about four years old, you have to separate plenty quarrels between him and daddy over toys. So, only if you are capable of managing all these responsibilities at home should you go ahead and marry big junior, If not, don't say I didn't warn you ooo! |
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