Raphafire101:

I feel this ur comment jare....especially the absconding part, u sure know how to calm nerves....

tee59:
I know ur parents are igbo who lik money dan anytn.. Money is d only language dis igbo women understand, dat is why dey encourage their toddlers to get married to rich dudes wtout considering their happiness and joy. Igbo people and money, only God can separate dem. I kno d guy must be rich.

Jarizod:
19 years old!! Am trying so hard no to insult ur parents here

Stand ur ground! Don't marry someone u don't want to .. u will most probably regret it for the rest of ur Life!

19..marriage??! nawa oo

Fxwarrior:


Who you epp?
"Stand your ground?"
So when they stop funding her education na you go help her?

Op I have a practical advice for you. Don't argue. Just calm down and tell your parents to allow you finish your education at least. After your education, do your clearance , go for service and you are now in a better position to call off their bluff.

If they refuse the above, tell your Pastor and Uncles let them see how low your parents have sunk to so they can call family meeting

tee59:
I know ur parents are igbo who lik money dan anytn.. Money is d only language dis igbo women understand, dat is why dey encourage their toddlers to get married to rich dudes wtout considering their happiness and joy. Igbo people and money, only God can separate dem. I kno d guy must be rich.

Toniaeloho:

I asked them for their reasons but they said they want what is best for me. My mom likes him because he is from her tribe and stays close to our house I am the first daughter and they want to want to get married early because they think it will bring honour to the family

mrblessed:
Where are the cretins who were quick to malign the Igbo nation out sheer hatred and thougtlesness? Won't these psychos bury their heads in shame? Sorry slowspokes, the lady isn't Igbo. No matter the nature of hatred and jealousy, we don't even recognise your existence. We just do our thing, unmindful of your dismal existence.

mrblessed:
Where are the cretins who were quick to malign the Igbo nation out sheer hatred and thougtlesness? Won't these psychos bury their heads in shame? Sorry slowspokes, the lady isn't Igbo. No matter the nature of hatred and jealousy, we don't even recognise your existence. We just do our thing, unmindful of your dismal existence.

Hexzyz:


I don't think the way people think anyway. But you do have sex with a boyfriend whom you love and don't even know if you will end up together. Why not get married and have sex legally?

talktonase:
A friend of mine found herself in such a predicament and got married at 20yrs. After giving birth to 3 children she went berserk by abandoning her husband and children 12yrs later.Her regret was that she rushed into te whole marriage thing with no experience in relationships.Right now she is kpanshing all over the place meanwhile the husband is a wonderful person.Girl you really need some soul searching...

ItsQuinn:
If your mum says she's not going to fund your school until you marry him and you're in your final year, it's time to change to the "survival to the fittest" mode. In this kind of situation, you need to think logically.

I would say marry him until you graduate and become independent then divorce him

If dem wan show say dem wicked, you go show dem who wicked pass

Estharfabian:

So, This is the 21st century. People Marry for love... Not because your Parents say he's good for you. what do they even know? last I checked, maturity isn't a yardstick for wisdom. We've got dumb, Old people too.


Sweety, If you don't love this-this Grandpa, don't marry HIM! you'd only be miserable for life. I mean, You're Still young. Really young... This is the stage Where you should fall deeply in love, Have fun, Explore the world.

Your parents threats are just barks. I guess? they can't kill you. if they're Your real parents, Then, They won't do you anything. except, well, except they're really evil, Shallow and don't care about your own feelings..DON'T MARRY HIM! Pleeeeease! Sheeesh!

Toniaeloho:
A man in his late twenties approached me to marry him. I was not attracted to him neither was he a very friendly person. I told my mom about it and she advised me to think about it carefully.

After much thought, I decided to refuse because he seemed in hurry to marry me even when he barely knew me.

My parents got so angry with me. They said I should say agree because he is God fearing, has a good job( he owns a school) and they like him. I still refused , the man told me to marry him because he likes me and my parents like him. I tried reasoning with him but he told me that in those days girls marry men their parents approve.

My parents have threatened to not support my schooling if I refuse. I have tried to love this guy but I just can't. My parents esp my mom like him too much. I am not allowed to say a bad word against him. I am in my final year at school and 19 year old.

What should I do?

uplawal:
You are not too young, obey your parent and marry,a child that dnt heed will regret,dnt mind nairalanders discouraging you,you will grow to love,love dnt just occur.your parents will guide you through your marriage,because if you dnt and u want to enjoy life,you may end up losing your virginity for some guys that dnt care,and won't be bothered about marriage, then u will nurse it till twenty eight,by that time, you maybe going from one wring guy to another and at the end you may not find the right man.so dear, you may not like your parents idea now but its gonna pay you in future.better heed.

uplawal:
But Igbos too insult and hates Yoruba's and Hausa's

uplawal:
But Ugbos too insult and hates Yoruba's and Hausa's

davidif:


Wow! omo see reasoning. Na wa o.

Lexusgs430:


But its true nah. If her parents know plans are on tow to abscond, they would relax their position. But I hope she still considers marrying me though .....

lawlahbammy:
Hmmm
Op I certainly understand this just that mine was a little different.

I got a marriage proposal at 20 from my first wen I was in my third year, told my mum and she said I should marry the guy sharpaly because I'm fat. But I felt I wasn't ready and at 20 I have my education to tidy up first. He left me and quickly went ahead to marry someone else. At 21 again I got this loving guy that was bent on marrying me again, he begged and persuaded me he also involved mum. I turned it down again cos I told him to wait a while but he was in a rush to wife me which I found choking. My mum took it personal as she wanted me to settle down on time because of my stature but at 21 gosh! I can't just get married like that joor. The guy also went and marry another lady after sometimes later.


Later I told my mum how I felt about it and she reluctantly understood my plights, actually my dad didn't know about all these proposals as he won't allow me to do anything against my will.

Fast forward to now, I'm 28 and not married, my father that could take my side is gone to the other side #ripDad.
She won't allow me rest as she usually refer to what happened whenever she wants to remind me that I'm getting old and not married.

So op I will say follow your mind ooo and need I say that I don't regret turning down those proposals. I don't want to endure marriage simply because I was coarse into it. Lemme make my decision and face the consequence of it not putting the blame on my mum.

This is 21st century make your own choice.

Lenny5k:


What type of advice is this for crying out loud? She should Obey her Parents and marry somebody that she doesn't Love cos she may love the person someday? Our we now in Indian where they do arrange marriage? How can ur Parents decide what makes you happy? Please lots of men end up Hurting these Ladies so stop telling her to go ahead abeg... I cant even believe am seeing this?

mrblessed:
Ms, it is obvious reading from your weak and unjust defence that you share similar characteristic in 'hate business' with tee59. Don't be a party to what is wrong, even if she is your best friend. Ms, where do you stand? Are you also an Igbo hater? Did that Bimbo said your mind? That lady crossed the line. She threw decency and decorum to the dogs. She let her temper get the best of her, and it certainly reveals the worst of her. Nonetheless, she is still an amateur hater; an apprentice who, from all indication, is destined to fall. She and her co-travellers have the uncanny ability to single out purported Igbo tread, and consequently garnish it with ill-conceived bashing that is the figment of their imagination.

Realhommie:
Just checked ur pix, i mean no disrespect but don't you think you need to shed some weight Like seriously!!

ItsQuinn:
If your mum says she's not going to fund your school until you marry him and you're in your final year, it's time to change to the "survival to the fittest" mode. In this kind of situation, you need to think logically illogically

I would say marry him until you graduate and become independent then divorce him

If dem wan show say dem wicked, you go show dem who wicked pass

Fixed.

lawlahbammy:


Thank you for the suggestion. I've large bones so becoming really slim isn't visible. I do my medical check up promptly so I'm healthy.

Viking007:
Fixed.