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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by ravenzord(m): 3:49am On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: LOL, iLike. Has it ever occurred to U that a man could do the same thing to you? Penetrate your defenses only to leave U hanging? 2 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Krayola(m): 3:56am On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ topic. If she talks without permission, slap the Bit.ch. If she is too quiet, slap her again. If she sleeps, punch her, if she wakes up, kick her. If she complains, baptize her with hot palm oil, You will control her very well. Not sure why anyone will want to control their partner tho. I find submissive girls very unattractive. Besides the whole joy of being with a babe is to be able to enjoy her being herself, which is what i was attracted to in the first place. If my girl non-existent objects to something I say, or want, or do, I want to know why, and I assume that it is because she thinks her opinion is in my best interest. Isn't that a major point of having a partner. . . so we're stronger together than separately? Why da fuc.k would u wanna control your woman?!?! Or betta still, why would any real man wanna be with a woman he can control? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 3:57am On Feb 11, 2010 |
when am in love with a man, am in love i dont like mind games and i only resort to them when am pushed to it i love my current partner to bits and wld go the extra mile to make him happy i am a person of two extremes, either hot or cold, hardly ever inbtw if am loving u like my life depends on it, i expect the same from my man, simple |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Akebulan: 4:00am On Feb 11, 2010 |
Krayola: my point exactly |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by ravenzord(m): 4:02am On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: So, have you ever done this or is this an 'if-I-find-myself-in-this-situation' thingy? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 4:15am On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk, i cn teach u, bt i'll have to charge lol, bt to b honest i look bck on dat relationship n i realise hw much my emotions suffered as a result, contrary to the opinions of the men ave dated, am a very emotional person, bt am a bit like a snail, i withdraw my emotions quickly when stung, and i am very slow to forgive boyfriends when they hurt me especially when it is intentional. i will let a man know he is hurting me, give him time to mull over his actions and change, if he doesnt, then i bcome revengeful, unfortunately, wat will take a guy 2 years to inflict, will prob take me two months, its always good to go wiv a loud bang |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 4:18am On Feb 11, 2010 |
ravenzord, yes ive been wiv a guy like that |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 4:37am On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ Poster tai2 knows what he's talking about no doubt, it's the way of the world. . .nice write up. . . However, you need to get to a point where your MATURITY shines through, along wth your good looks, money or what not, the chic will falll in love with you and you both wont need any mind games to live by. . . you will learn to compromise without necessarily looking like a fool because trust me, no one is perfect and we all have different temperaments. . . .you wont need to cheat just so you can 'keep things in perspective' as you say. . .moreso when there is compatibilty, you guys will just flow. . . Dont get me wrong poster, I read thru your entire post and I understand eveything you said and also agree that is true, but as I said, It's the way of the world, you dont necessarily have to tow that line, just step up your game to a higher level of coolness and understanding so you can truely enjoy life and your MARRIAGE. . . If you continue like that you'r bound to meet your match someday, a chic who also expertly knows her way around a mans heart, stunning, intelligent, independent, extremely cunning who will break you down into pieces, you live by the sword, you die by the sword. Jus relax, so you can truely enjoy the finer things in life, like LOVE, yes I said it, LOVE! . . .It does exist after all, trust me, it really does, very rare though 2 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by madlady(f): 6:42am On Feb 11, 2010 |
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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 7:11am On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: lol can i put down payments lol~ well im learning i guess, i have hardened terrbly over the past few months, self protection I guess |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Akanbiedu(m): 12:49pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by spawnx: 2:02pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
DUDE, u ar a guru. I believe u ar retired now, dishing out ur wisdom to young and naive minds. LIFE IS FUN WHEN U LEARN THE ART OF LIVING. I ll give u a BLACK BELT, Sensei |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by djcrucifix(m): 2:35pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 2:40pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
With the powers vested in me (by me), I officially declare this topic the: THREAD OF THE YEAR!!! (i'm sure platinumnk agrees with me, lol). |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 2:58pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
You may not yet be a mugu but you are going quickly down the path of MUGU-hood. If you don't have much money and you bought her a phone, MUGU-hood is the least of your problems, you will soon start paying other bills. Right now she might call you all manner of sweet names because of the phone you just bought but in the long run she is going to take it for granted that you pay her bills and believe you me, the moment you lack money to pay those bills, problems start. Do not be an ATM machine. As far as I'm concerned this muguhood can never end. I done swear for una. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by dbigrod(m): 3:02pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: [size=16pt]vivaladiva,ur mouth too much jor.sure u do these to those feeding bottle guys.[/size] |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 3:12pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ Platinumnk I observe that you want someone to illustrate what submission practically entails. In that case, consider this hypothetical scenario: HUSBAND: nk love, i've noticed you're now very chummy with vivaladiva; you exchange visits frequently and converse a lot. I dont like that; she is a bad influence. WIFE: she's just a good friend darl, i enjoy her company and there's no chance she'd influence me in any negative way. Besides, i'm old enough to choose my own friends. HUSBAND: I'm not trying to choose your friends for you nk, but i can easily tell that vivaladiva is bad company. Seen her with all sorts of men, besides, her dressing, general deameanor, and loose morals suggests that she's not your type. Trust me on this one baby. I want you to dissociate yourself from her, find ways to avoid her please. At least for my sake. WIFE: You're being too jugdemental darl. But since being friends with her makes you uncomfortable, i'll start avoiding her my love. Ok? You know i always put you first. So, platnumnk. Thats submission my dear. Its not as dreadful a prospect as you may have presumed. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by nihun(m): 3:47pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
If a Girl must be submissive to the Guy then Guys should never complain about girls demanding money. A controller must pay for the privilege . |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Akanbiedu(m): 4:04pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
nihun: Guys no dey even worry about this anymore. The problem is after you spend a lot on them, they still want to be in control. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by nihun(m): 4:10pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
Akanbi_edu: Yes they do, look at all the threads guys have started crying say , she ask me for this, she ask me for that. God should be to only controller, and like the girl at the start said, girls are our rib we should treat them with respect. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 4:20pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
pro01: I see, but why wouldnt he trust me enough to make my own judgements? When I dont critque him on his friends? And it would be hard for me to just listen based on hear say when he doesnt know her. 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 4:32pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@pro01- lemme tell you why I feel that way I had a best friend, very beautiful, we were inseperable during school days till we grad but we were still close She met a guy during high school that was very rugged and I told her from the start that he was a bad apple but she still dated him , I guess because he was cute So I went off to further my studies, she stayed with him in a relationship Everytime I tried to encourage her to branch out with education, he was always irritated that I would talk to her. He proposed to her 4 years ago, and she wanted to marry him, so she "submitted" to everything he told her to do, without questioning; including talking to me, a girl that was like my sister years before he met her! I was hurt, but what can i do? She took her man over me, so I brushed it off and moved on. now 4 year later, she is calling me for advice and finally furthering her education why? Because the man she submitted herself to cheats and gave her two children with no marriage. I know this is not every situation, but in things like this where men can excersise authority simple because "I said so" without any true reasoning can bite you in the long run. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 4:32pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
what r d xteristics of a feedin bottle guy? if there r any am sure ur talking bout ur self |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by henrychmz: 5:25pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@platinumnk and @pro1 Am sorry am coming in btw u guys These things you guy fight over are not things you can understand with the carnal mind whether you like it or not the problem has always being on ground even bfor you guys were born. the simple truth is this the coming of a man and a woman is only ordained by GOD who know all things. HE is the only ONE who can help our Understanding. How sweet it is when man and wive live with one understanding check it out the Life of GOD is there in them that this saying might be true ''THE FEAR OF THE LORD IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM''. IF THE FEAR OF GOD IS IN THEM, then WISDOM must be THERE, and when there is WISDOM, UNDERSTANDING comes AND there is UNDERSTANDING the JOY JUST FLOWS like the RIVER OF WATERS. I WISH YOU GUYS THE BEST IN ALL YOUR DOINGS. TAKE CARE |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 5:34pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ Platinumnk Your story was quite touching [inhales, exhales and lets out a few sobs]. However, that is precisely why you should NEVER fall in love for the wrong reasons. Submission per se isn't the root cause of your childhood friend's woes. Her 'unrealness' was. (it takes a lot to be a real woman). When girls leave genuinely sweet, good and decent guys and fall cheaply for the so-called 'cute', 'rich', 'tall', 'sexy', 'manly', or 'hot' guys, they are bound to tell tales of woe sooner than later. With these sort of 'GQ' guys, submission or no submission, you'd get no love 'cos they know what (not who) you fell for. My point is, identify a good man and fall for his simple charms. With such a man, submission becomes pure joy. When he feels so strongly about a given behaviour/tendency/friend etc. of yours, its best to explain yourself but thereafter yield to his wishes. Assuage his insecurities if need be. No need to try to over-assert your stance, or question his judgment if he feels so strongly about the matter. In the end, it takes nothing away from you because you know he truly loves you. Besides, you know he yields to your preferences in so many other facets of your relationship and family life. P.S. Na wa for you sef. Your mind seems cast in iron on this 'death to submission' mindset. Guess only God can set you right. Just bear in mind that you can only fight fire with water. Fire for fire would only lead to a conflagration. Eh bh ehm [clears throat]. The elders have spoken. 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 5:39pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
pro01, wat has vivaladiva done to you eh lol |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 5:42pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: 1. Christians take it for granted that if you are one of them then you are automatically smart. (What a lie) 2. You don't submit to someone who is not your husband. 3. You don't even consider someone like that as a husband. 4. Your friend is at fault. She should have known better and being in love is not an excuse. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 5:55pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@pro01- thanks , but I admit Im a fighter, and highly resistant to unwarranted authority. I would have the feeling that I got with someone I wanted to share with only to restrict myself A good man wouldnt try to control his wife to a given fault, and I should be meek to not question his judgement? Well I blame my dad lol, I was raised doing things like a son, fixing the house and stuff like that, so I can see a partner, but not a somone to marry to take over me like i was running around with my head off. As my husband, he will have the utmost respect, but if I feel strongly about something, its not my nature to pipe down. Unless he wants to talk about it later, we have to find a resloution and its not "just because I feel like it" In the pure sense of the word there is no joy in "submission" You said there is no need to over asert myself, so I should tuck my feeling in a pocket because hes a man? If I feel like im being treated insignificant I will avoid them at all costs. So there is the problem itself, He should be able to compromise not make passing judgements like hes my father not even my dad does that anymore, if he tells me to do something, and I dont like it, I tell him and he either gives me a reason why he needs it done now or postpones it. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 5:58pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
michelin89: I dont see where Xianity ties into this No she wasnt the smartest page in the book, she cheated off me in school But he mom is a typical homemaker, just finished hs and stayed at home raising kids So I can see where she saw the same opportunity to do the same, but the guy was wrong for her. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 6:02pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
i swear y do people drag religion into every god damn thing, it makes me feel so ill |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:05pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: I am just saying that is what Christians believe. If you follow the rules of the Lord, you'll never fail (a false myth). Now she has two kids and no father. She made an expensive mistake. What can you do for her at this point? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:08pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: you have every reason to ignore it as much as others have a reason to bring their faith into their discussions. platinumnk: this story illustrates nothing. There are a thousand and one girls out there who are more controlling than their men who have kids out of wedlock with no future hanging around the street corners. There are also controlling men out their whose wives have wonderful careers and a great home. The constant use of ONE isolated unrelated example to make a general deduction reduces the quality of this debate IMO. |
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