TOPE2000!:

No point in arguing with u hun. why dont u wait till u marry. Then i hope i wud hear u saying that 50-50 again
well i guess it can work if u are willing to marry a guy that ask you for half of hse rent n bills.

As for me . . . . My husband will be the head of the hse and i wont share any hse rent with any guy. i can help pay some other bills ooo but that doesnt mean he wont respect me n i wont respect him cuz as far as i am concerned he is doing his job as a husband but gudluck

Gbam. I go with you on this. I'm sure plat is fine with paying half of the house rent, paying for her food when she goes dining and carrying her share of the wedding expenses.

chika98:

Anyone can manipulate anyone once they are both "in love"

That is what i have been tellin that stubborn head plat. She doesnt think deep, she dey disappoint me. pesin must talk with all her mouth b4 she gets

davidylan:

I cant trust you on anything . . . you lived AMONG THOSE NIGERIANS you know, stop generalising for the rest of us who live among different Nigerians. you dont know the deal, you simply know some isolated cases.

Absurd . . . frankly silly. not worth responding to.

lol @" those nigerians". can u please tell me about the married nigerian immigrants in ur area of the United States?  what are the typical male professions and the typical female professions? who makes more money?  

http://www.sturvs.com/Blogs/Nigerian_Men_Are_Killing_Their_Wives_in_America_now-/
like i said the "killing" is extreme but u get the idea that the men are generally not comfortable with the US gender relations.

davidylan:

you're dreaming . . . no they are not.

Yes they are .  .

Business Partnerships. . . Marriages. .  Same thing. 50/50

TOPE2000!:

No point in arguing with u hun. why dont u wait till u marry. Then i hope i wud hear u saying that 50-50 again
well i guess it can work if u are willing to marry a guy that ask you for half of hse rent n bills.

As for me . . . . My husband will be the head of the hse and i wont share any hse rent with any guy. i can help pay some other bills ooo but that doesnt mean he wont respect me n i wont respect him cuz as far as i am concerned he is doing his job as a husband but gudluck

I expect to help pay the house rent, Am I working for myself?  
He doesnt marry himself so I shouldnt expect him to do everything.
Its a partnership

50/50

TOPE2000!:

That is what i have been tellin that stubborn head plat. She doesnt think deep, she dey disappoint me. pesin must talk with all her mouth b4 she gets

See i was trying not to say this before they crucify me.  

stillwater:

Abi, that's why I don't even want to take part in the argument. I know myself I don't need all these gra gra to get what I want.

Yep! It is a two way thing. People use emotions to get what they want all the time. Newsflash!

platinumnk:

Yes they are .  .

Business Partnerships. . . Marriages. .  Same thing. 50/50

lol pls can someone set this girl straight before she crashes into a marriage?  

davidylan:

lol pls can someone set this girl straight before she crashes into a marriage?  

She's young still. Allow her

platinumnk:

Business Partnerships. . . Marriages. .  Same thing. 50/50

I expect to help pay the house rent, Am I working for myself?  
He doesnt marry himself so I shouldnt expect him to do everything.
Its a partnership

50/50

Good for you hun . Gudluck

TOPE2000!:

That is what i have been tellin that stubborn head plat. She doesnt think deep, she dey disappoint me. pesin must talk with all her mouth b4 she gets

rotfl. i think your the one not thinking deep here.
so if your husband fall out of love with u. what will u do? or if he start seeing girl outside and spending all his money on her?

u better find a job n make sure your self sufficient. instead of relying on your female parts. that will only take u so far. maybe till u turn 35.  

The fact is Plat is trying to use logic where it can't be applied. We are not talking about Physics or Maths where objectivity rules (yet there are multiple ways to get to the same solution).

Marriage can't be governed with 100% objectivity and fairness, just like in any other human aspect.

TOPE2000!:

That is what i have been tellin that stubborn head plat. She doesnt think deep, she dey disappoint me. pesin must talk with all her mouth b4 she gets

Hey   I am naturally stubborn  

If I have to manipulate the guy then its not a true form of leadership.
the woman rulez then with the man being deluded

I'll take that but its still  50/50 inits truest form

davidylan:

See i was trying not to say this before they crucify me.  

you are always trying to drive a stake in my arguments

davidylan:

Gbam. I go with you on this. I'm sure plat is fine with paying half of the house rent, paying for her food when she goes dining and carrying her share of the wedding expenses.

Dude I already in another thread that I expect to pay my share of the wedding

If he pays one day, I got the other Am I working for myself?

chika98:

Yep! It is a two way thing. People use emotions to get what they want all the time. Newsflash!

again even with coverups the equation equalizes 50/50

michelin89:

The fact is Plat is trying to use logic where it can't be applied. We are not talking about Physics or Maths where objectivity rules (yet there are multiple ways to get to the same solution).

Marriage can't be governed with 100% objectivity and fairness, just like in any other human aspect.

Is this Michelin talking? I can't believe it.

michelin89:

The fact is Plat is trying to use logic where it can't be applied. We are not talking about Physics or Maths where objectivity rules (yet there are multiple ways to get to the same solution).

Marriage can't be governed with 100% objectivity and fairness, just like in any other human aspect.

Even mich understand what we are tryin to say. Thank God

oyinda.:

rotfl. i think your the one not thinking deep here.
so if your husband fall out of love with u. what will u do? or if he start seeing girl outside and spending all his money on her?

u better find a job n make sure your self sufficient. instead of relying on your female parts. that will only take u so far. maybe till u turn 35.  

Oyinda are u OK?
Did i write it anywhere that i wont work?
what does submission have to do with being a hsewife. these girls are living in lala land i swear

from my understanding, when plat says "50/50" the idea is equality not necessarily that u have to calculate ur salary and divide by 50%. no that's not worthwhile.

@ tope, if you end up becoming a rich woman, and by some reason, u end up marrying a richer man than u, will u still expect him to be paying all the rent, bills etc. do u think he will be willing to let u keep all ur money to urself while he only spends his? i don't think most rich men are that foolish. typically they're the most economical (how they become wealthy in the first place) unless they're the flashy type that's taking u for a ride.

stillwater:

Is this Michelin talking? I can't believe it.

TOPE2000!:

Even mich understand what we are tryin to say. Thank God

Little woman grows. She talks less and acts more.

@ OP: Masterpiece!

"Fear is the highest form of respect." --- Al Capone.

"It is better for a prince to be feared, than be loved" --- Niccolo Machiavelli (The Prince).

michelin89:

The fact is Plat is trying to use logic where it can't be applied. We are not talking about Physics or Maths where objectivity rules (yet there are multiple ways to get to the same solution).

Marriage can't be governed with 100% objectivity and fairness, just like in any other human aspect.

Why cant we use logic?

A +B = A+ B

A man get whats he wants (a flimsy title) + A woman using emotions to get what she wants =
Still the same 50/50

If What instances are fairness is not used? A man that wont make decisions without his wife?
That means the man is NOT self sufficient, and is reliant on his PARTNER


Again no one has combated my Business Partnership example.  

Richfella:

@ OP: Masterpiece!

"Fear is the highest form of respect." --- Al Capone.

"It is better for a prince to be feared, than be loved" --- Niccolo Machiavelli (The Prince).

u dey craze

stillwater:

Is this Michelin talking? I can't believe it.

Michelin89 is new-improved.

platinumnk:

Why cant we use logic?
Again no one has combated my Business Partnership example.  

i see where u r getting the 50-50 shite from
u seem to think marriage is some kind of business partnership or contract. Wake up and smell the coffee it isnt.

I am tired of this argument sef. Lets all wait n see, shall we?

oyinda.:

from my understanding, when plat says "50/50" the idea is equality not necessarily that u have to calculate your salary and divide by 50%. no that's not worthwhile.

Exactly, I can not see myself lesser than a man  , if thats in a bible, sign me for a gender change  

If it was true form of leadership, the woman wouldnt have to use manipulation to get what she wants.
But since she does, and hence effectively get whats she wants, how is that being a leader?

leadership or control is not equivalent to manipulation

if the poster was simply saying men should try and be firm in thier relationships then fine

i sorta agree

but thats not what he sed

he mentioned men should not sleep with one woman

thats simple bs i cannot agree with

if a man cannot be himself in a relationship it will neva work

a man cannot fall out of love- that simple means he was never in love

like 99% of the newlyweds out there!

love takes time and effort

but then that doesnt make a marriage and thats a whole diff story!

I know the type of men that behave like the poster have said

they dont have gf's or wives they have women they sleep with

because they cannot make relationships work- so they turn to thinking they are in control

they dont control shizz!!

but whateva works for u sha

if u think a woman that falls for ur mind games is the one for u then fine

michelin89:

The fact is Plat is trying to use logic where it can't be applied. We are not talking about Physics or Maths where objectivity rules (yet there are multiple ways to get to the same solution).

Marriage can't be governed with 100% objectivity and fairness, just like in any other human aspect.

If even Michelin tyre can get what marriage is all about then i guess my job here is done. Let those who want to sign business contracts and draw up prenups on the day of their business incorporation (sorry i mean wedding day) . . . go ahead.

TOPE2000!:

i see where u r getting the 50-50 shite from
u seem to think marriage is some kind of business partnership or contract. Wake up and smell the coffee it isnt.

I am tired of this argument sef. Lets all wait n see, shall we?

As long as there are men like el razour around there is hope, otherwise I'll adopt my 3 kids from Cambodia and rock it out  

Oyinda is even worse, i'm sure she has a ghostwriter somewhere there. 

platinumnk:

As long as there are men like el razour around there is hope, otherwise I'll adopt my 3 kids from Cambodia and rock it out  

men like Elrazur only exist on the web . . . try talking about 50-50 in real life to him. Men like that would have slapped you before you even say A.

platinumnk:

Exactly, I can not see myself lesser than a man  , if thats in a bible, sign me for a gender change  

If it was true form of leadership, the woman wouldnt have to use manipulation to get what she wants.
But since she does, and hence effectively get whats she wants, how is that being a leader?

How many bottles have u heard tonight?
This is bollocks, platinum.

oyinda.:

@ tope, if you end up becoming a rich woman, and by some reason, u end up marrying a richer man than u, will u still expect him to be paying all the rent, bills etc. do u think he will be willing to let u keep all your money to urself while he only spends his? i don't think most rich men are that foolish. typically they're the most economical (how they become wealthy in the first place) unless they're the flashy type that's taking u for a ride.

Well thank God u said richer than me
Honey, its is JOB to take care of me . . . . . .Yes he has to pay the house rent himself . . . . that is a must
and yes i will Help out with some other bills in the hse. does that bother you? if so, im glad it isnt u that i am marrying.

michelin89:

Little woman grows. She talks less and acts more.

That's right.

~Sauron~:

Michelin89 is new-improved.

Lol, not that I conform to all that the poster is saying, not many women want a wimp for a mate.

I wasn't expecting anything except such a look down and belittling of women from a Nigerian man
Typical Nigerian men mentality.

platinumnk:

Why cant we use logic?

A +B = A+ B

A man get whats he wants (a flimsy title) + A woman using emotions to get what she wants =
Still the same 50/50

If What instances are fairness is not used? A man that wont make decisions without his wife?
That means the man is NOT self sufficient, and is reliant on his PARTNER


Again no one has combated my Business Partnership example.  

You can't compare two humans to numbers. Numbers or letters are abstract concept. You take them and invent some rules and they stick to those rules. That's why we have something called Science, but there is no science called Humanology.

If fairness was so easy to achieve like 1 + 1= 2, we wouldn't be here in the first place.

Logic rules in an abstract world, in the real world, compromise is the word.

stillwater:

Lol, not that I conform to all that the poster is saying, not many women want a wimp for a mate.

Oh no but its equality season eh?