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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by ayettymama(f): 6:15pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
religion abeg abeg the jargons posted has nothing to do with christianity absolutely nothing!!! nowhere does the bible say men should manipulate thier gf's or play mind tricks!! if anything the bible says u shuld be honest (real) and faithful and humble (down to earth) christians do not believe women should be ridden like horses now all the earlier lord business i couldnt be bothered but just to clarify- the lord business is more of a language thing than a worship of her husband yoruba people also refer to thier husbands as lord- some of u mite hear it in ur oriki the english language calls actual Lords lord so its mostly to do with language than to say serah worshipped abraham like a God if u read the bible properly u will know that 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 6:16pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: And u David, where are your facts? Besides the Bible, where are your facts? Yes I might have everystory but I do provide examples of how I feel, andwhy I feel that way. you basing your non 50-50 on your mom is also one isolated example. I can give examples till page 100 and its still not enough. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:17pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
vivaladiva: vivaladiva: No vex oh, abeg. It was just an 'ordinary' illustration. You seemed just perfect for the role I assigned to you. Lol. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:18pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: you do provide examples . . . unfortunately you fail to realise that is just as good as providing your fingerprints . . . it wont match anyone else's. You cant pigeon-hole everyone into your own isolated experience. Leadership by a man in a relationship doesnt work for you, it works for others, it makes sense, its the way God designed it. End of story. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 6:18pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
ayettymama: THANK YOU!! Exactly what I was saying! It is just a figure of speech, but some take it to literally. Since when during Englands rule of Kings and Queens did you see someone tell a Lordship what to do? |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 6:20pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: In what is true leadership, when both partners are making decisions You are just creaming for a title And what others, Fallacy! It is just an opinon. Because you interpret the bible the way you want to. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by ayettymama(f): 6:21pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
looool if abraham was a so called lord will he have taken haggai?? then after taking haggai will serah have insulted him the way she did?? they were a normal loving couple- abraham did not 'control' the marriage u men just like to justify all the silly things u do! 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by vivaladiva(f): 6:28pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
lord ko ur royal highness ni, thank u pro01, i take that as a compliment lol |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:33pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: 1. Most of you dont understand what leadership really entails. It isnt about pulling others by the nose . . . it involves taking ideas from others and then taking a decision in the best interests of both parties. Many times it might simply mean taking Madam's advice. Let me use a personal example . . . as "controlling" as my dad is, he never takes a decision without my mom's input . . . 95% of the time we end up doing what mom says. 2. Creaming for what title and from whom? Absurd 3. I dont interprete the bible the way i want, i do so exactly the way it is written . . . unfortunately many of you would rather write your own versions of the bible that suit your selfish desires. ayettymama: This makes no sense at all. Sarah gave Haggar to Abraham and he took it because he considered Sarah's decision to be the smartest way out humanly speaking . . . it didnt take away the fact that Sarah still regarded Abraham as her "Lord". Perhaps you need to read your own bible . . . these things are not abstract stuff we pluck out of the sky. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:35pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ platinumnk, platinumnkechi, platinumnkiru, platinumnkem (which applies) I now understand your 'predicament' very thoroughly. You assume that you have an inherent inability to be subject to any other authority other than yourself: not your husband, not your dad, not to religion, not to societal precepts, not to tradition, heck, not even to the majesty of the law/state! How incredible! Ladies & gentlemen, platinumnk is law onto herself! Or is the a manifestation of the heights of 'girl-power' Feminism. Even Maggie Thatcher, surely, wasnt that outta control at the peak of her power. Best way, it does seem, is for you to go the way of Oprah my dear. Find a Stedman of your own, and when he dares whimper against any of your views, you kick him outta your mansion and get a 'new' pansy, emm sorry, partner. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:37pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
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Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:40pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@ platinumnk, platinumnkechi, platinumnkiru, platinumnkem (which applies) I now understand your 'predicament' very thoroughly. You assume that you have an inherent inability to be subject to any other authority other than yourself: not your husband, not your dad, not to religion, not to societal precepts, not to tradition, heck, not even to the majesty of the law/state! How incredible! Ladies & gentlemen, platinumnk is law onto herself! Or maybe it is a manifestation of the heights of 'girl-power' Feminism. Even Maggie Thatcher, surely, wasnt that outta control at the peak of her power. Best way, it does seem, is for you to go the way of Oprah my dear. Find a Stedman of your own, and when he dares whimper against any of your views, you kick him outta your mansion and get a 'new' pansy, emm sorry, partner. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 6:45pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
ayettymama: thank you davidylan: Can you read what I bolded and compare that to an actual LORDSHIP? I abeg its just a title True submission is not even offering suggestions much less to agree to them tomaato, tomato pro01: Haba na, Im a reasonable woman! Within good reason though. I just cant see someone telling me something just because he hangs tin balls in his pockets. Marriage is about compromise, this Lord stuff is just a fancy title, when the word Submisssion nor LORD is applied properly. Smh~ male egos |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:54pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: sigh . . . Tope2000 reminded you about this yesterday . . . you cant be using the dictionary to define submission as written in the bible. I guess you really cant get to some people no matter what. I give up. By all means do 50-50. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Sauron1: 6:57pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
tai2: Excessive verbiage but the message is MINT!!! Give her an inch and she will always take a mile. 1 Like |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 6:58pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
Leadership is the highest form of servitude. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 7:03pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
michelin89: correct . . . even though i doubt you believe this. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 7:06pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: I believe in a lot of things which I don't bother to express. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 7:08pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
michelin89: so in essence its all just words ok o |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 7:08pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
michelin89: impressive. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Sauron1: 7:09pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: Words? Nah. Action speaks LOUDER!!! |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 7:17pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
~Sauron~: Yes it is, Davids parents talk decisions amoung themselves like partners, if the man wants the flimsy title to stroke his ego, fine. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by frank317: 7:38pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
as far as i am concerned, the poster has said it all(nothing but the truth) if i am allowed, i would suggest that eveyone should imbibe these principles. i wonder why the ladies are feeling insulted, he didnt insult anyone, he only said the truth. please ladies, would you rather prefer a guy who can't control you? honestly, i thought every ladies dream is to have that man who can be able to control her(everywhere, ladies generally prefer, tall and richer guys. they like strong men and sometimes bad guys, these are al signs of control). i think the fact here is that most ladies are looking at control from a nagative point of view. this is not surprising because most ladies have been known to understand life phenomenom from a shallow point of view. it is obvious that women like it when they have a man they can rely on, be it financially, emotionally, materially(physically), etc. why then the arguement? @dave is saying the whole truth, i have carefully read his post and he has not insulted women in any way even when he was pushed to do so. i would advice him to ignore @platinumnk because form her post it is obviouse that she is young and inexperienced, she still lives in a fantasy world not reality. does she have a boyfriend? and is she tryinging to say that he relies on her just as much as she relies on him? wont you like to have a man to cry on his shoulders? to love and to LOVE you, isnt it a pride for ladies to be in love with a man who symbolises strenght? just last week i heard my cousin who was complaining that she has an admirer who is obviously weak and she is not comfortable in going into a relationship with him, what then are we talking about? ladies, please you musnt be grevious about everything. having a guy who controls you is for your own good, especially in a tough world like urs. when we say control dont just see nagtivity, after all a guy can be less controlling and yet undesirable in a lot of ways. nobody has said two cannot play the game, and nobody is saying that being submissive means being stupid and passive. i know u ladies cannot marry a man you cannot respect. and guys who think it is not necessary to control their women, well it is obvious that you are confusing a lot of things. a mans pride in a relationship is all about control, if you dont have it, you are miserable. why dont men like have relationship with older or richer or more educated ladies? why dont we like having ladies who make us feel inferior? i wonder what a lot of people think. in our culture, men have to fight for their women, the fulanies have to beat their men before they are regareded as suitable for a lady. we can go on and on. the bible says that women are weaker vessles. lastly i will likew to commend the women. their world is so complicated yet they are able to handle it without much complaints. thats why when we have a loyal woman and understand what we have, we wil conquer the world. 3 Likes |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by H2O2: 7:43pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
Dude you have spoken. Seun should frame this on his home page. In summary, women want to be dominated. If you grant them a millimeter, they will extend it to a mile. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 7:53pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
@dave is saying the whole truth, i have carefully read his post and he has not insulted women in any way even when he was pushed to do so. i would advice him to ignore @platinumnk because form her post it is obviouse that she is young and inexperienced, she still lives in a fantasy world not reality. does she have a boyfriend? and is she tryinging to say that he relies on her just as much as she relies on him? wont you like to have a man to cry on his shoulders? to love and to LOVE you, isnt it a pride for ladies to be in love with a man who symbolises strenght? dude u dont know me. You cannot tell me that you share decsions with a wife and call that submission! Who said 50/50 isnt strong? Does that make me a weakling? Instead of running allover this thread with silly jargons, try backing them up. in How does 50/50 mean you cant share sorrow with a partner? Im not saying a Woman should boss around a man, a man SHOULDNT either. Control? I have self- control already, thanks |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 7:54pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
It sickens me to see how dengenerate women are in the eyes of men. I guess we shouldnt be voting either. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by H2O2: 7:58pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
Only the lily-livered, self-seeking, inexperienced, young minded little girls concern themselves with the unrealistic obtuse fantasy of 50/50. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 7:59pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: Which men are you talking about? I dont know them . . . the men i see around me worship their women, love and cherish them, honor them with their body and soul . . . their wives submit to them out of love and respect in return. Which men were you talking about again? Where are they? I'd like to have a word or two with them. thanks for your help. NB: Arent we men also SICK and TIRED of women who make wrong choices in life when it comes to "men" (literarily boys in adult skin) and then turn around to blame every other men? I read a bit of these women online and i can just imagine the type of men they date. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 8:00pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: lol i look around the degeneracy that is called 50-50 marriages in western countries and i can only laugh at you. Enjoy. Apparently Frank was right . . . a lot of you have plenty of growing up to do . . . you're still living on fantasy island. There is a huge world of difference between a boyfriend and a husband. you can demand 50-50 from a bf . . . |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 8:11pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: What growing up, you havent proved me different, this Lordship thing is just for your EGOS Period Men worship women, women adore men, SAME freaking thing Even Abe was taking advice from Sarah, In a Business, You do not tell your boss what to do. In a Business Partnership, you come with agreements on what could be done to further the company. what is different in a Marriage? You said you Dad cant make a decision without your MOM In what business partnership is any Decision made without consulting your partner. Personally I think the Bible was bible was encouraging wives to have more patience with men egos H2O2: what ever, a guy on here was also saying 50/.50 In a True Loving Marriage, its always 50/50 know why because each person plays their part,, no one moves without reaching the other, and all decisions are joint decisons. Id rather call it what it was than to be concerned with wordless Delusions |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by Nobody: 8:19pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
platinumnk: - we're not even asking you call us "Lords" . . . its not needed, infact it can be quite uncomfortable. Unfortunately i hope you realise now that stroking your husband's ego is part of the work you will have to do to keep your marriage humming along. platinumnk: I give up, talking to you is like pouring water on a rock (my mom's fav quote). platinumnk: Personally i dont think you understand the bible one bit. |
Re: How To Maintain And Control A Woman by platinumnk(f): 8:25pm On Feb 11, 2010 |
davidylan: as long as he keeps stroking . . im good t!.t for tat 50/50 davidylan: Nope! you interpret they way you want,and I do the same. Isnt that why we have preachers LORD = BOSS, Boss are supported by workers, Workers DONT suggest major things with Bosses, Bosses dont go over decisons with Workers. Business Partnership- They support each other, they suggest major things with each other, and mull over decisions. So tell me, if you guys want a fancy title, fine, but I call it what I see it. |
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