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Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by godofuck231: 8:55am On Jun 17, 2018 |
greyham:I heard a lady telling me to avoid Nigerian women these days that they are destiny killers, I think this issue is appearing as real as the nightmare |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 8:56am On Jun 17, 2018 |
onehouse: Super story 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by debbydams(f): 8:59am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Chai...who posted this una for allow us teach men wey sabi cheat beta lesson...smh |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 9:05am On Jun 17, 2018 |
debbydams: Were you thinking such men will do registry marriage? |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Princefrankie1(m): 9:06am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Originally, the thread was created to counter the payment of alimony and to advise men not to marry statutorily. But as I read through the comments, I realized that the arguments were taking another dimension. Women felt that despite their sacrifices in matrimony, the husbands feels like they "OWN" them, and treat them like rags. And from the comments of some men in this thread, I don't think the issue will ever be addressed until some actions are taken. I have come to understand that men have this sense of 'OWNERSHIP' over their wives, because of the ridiculous amounts of cash coughed out to perform the customary rites of the wife and some other encumbrances involved depending on the region. Huge amounts of money are being paid as bride price and the purchase of other items like Cows or goats as the case may be, rappers, cartons and gallons of drinks. And in most cases these requirements are non-negotiable . Like WTF, are these things really necessary? That is the foundation of the argument in this thread. Because an African man after borrowing huge amounts of money to take your daughter as a wife, it's only natural for such a man to feel or think he 'OWNS' the woman, in all ramifications. In civilized societies, it is not like this. You only spend huge sums on merriments or honeymoon and it's never mandatory. So my take is, women should endeavor to promote awareness in their regions, make your parents understand that you are not being sold out. All the numerous items listed that tantamounts to hundreds and millions of naira should be downsized. Forget about Tradition this, Custom that, when a practice is becoming a pain in the ass, it can be reviewed to lessen the burden on it's subjects. That is the only way out. If African women really want equity in their marriages, parents should marry out their daughters, not sell them. 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Bojc7: 9:09am On Jun 17, 2018 |
OMEGA009: Elder001: If she, @omega, writes like a teenager, then u write like a toddler! A woman spends 20 solid years in ur crib raising u a dynasty and in ur elderly (sic) wisdom ufeel she shd leave ur house exactly as she came? I guess she also entered d marriage with those children from Siberia, shey? Jesu! Indeed women have suffered in our hands. SMH!!! 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 9:09am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Princefrankie1: So if you're going to do "buy" your wife, avoid registry marriage. Point taken! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Obierika(m): 9:23am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Elder001: We're not in California... No Nigerian man in Nigeria will split his property with his wife especially if it was acquired before he contracted the marriage! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by pocohantas(f): 9:25am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Seahawk: I will rather shoot myself in the head than do this Not with all I read these days, not with threads like this . I owe myself and my kids a good life. I will work for that life. 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by allanphash7(m): 9:26am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Registry favor women than men and moreso its a borrowed way of getting married Our cultural way remains the best CAPSLOCKED: |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Reference(m): 9:26am On Jun 17, 2018 |
HARDDON:. The last paragraph is well said and should unschakle any man from the prison of suspicion and the viscious cycle of spousal hate. Why marry if you need all these so called safeguards. Can't imagine a home built like that. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by pocohantas(f): 9:30am On Jun 17, 2018 |
oyb: My uncle did this, the wife was an illiterate, but they started from the bottom together. He married this young girl after over 30yrs of marriage with his first wife. The woman ran mad briefly, when she discovered (after his death) that he willed every to the second wife and her twin girls. Leaving her with only her shop and the BQ attached to it. My dad said it was juju, I was just looking at him like... 4 Likes
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Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by haslaw(m): 9:33am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Born2Breed: This shows you got married to him for the money. |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 9:36am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Ekpanfly:Dem hold you make e no off light? |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by LaIabobo: 9:38am On Jun 17, 2018 |
veave: Madam, customary marriage under your native laws and customs is completely legal in Nigeria. |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Ugosample(m): 9:42am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Elder001: What kind of reasoning is this bikonu 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 9:43am On Jun 17, 2018 |
pocohantas: All our ex military rulers are from poor /rural backgrounds. The wives they show are almost all their second wives. Their first wives have been relegated to the background. A wife who is not married via registry has no rights in Nigerian law if I remember correctly. The sort of scenario greedy family members scrambling over their dead brothers possessions love. Interestingly, an uncle, (fully educated) did this too 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Ugosample(m): 9:46am On Jun 17, 2018 |
bebe2: That is Nigerians for you Thinking like animals |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Dameland: 9:47am On Jun 17, 2018 |
This is the most baseless post I have ever seen. Very myopic and shallow. So because of property, you will not have a registry marriage? How do you and especially your wife prove that she is married and that the kids are not born out of wedlock. The poster forgets that women contribute 50:50 in the relationship. His shallow mind is only seeing the property. If she has got kids for you and takes the 50%,property after divorce are your children not still benefactors? Please people should not come here to show how shallow they are in their reasoning 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by pocohantas(f): 9:53am On Jun 17, 2018 |
oyb: True story. It usually comes with a change in status, which is why women and humans generally, should improve on themselves. When the man starts climbing up the social ladder, he might not want to be seen with the lace and gele wearing wife. Isn't this how escort girls make money? They follow rich men for functions and get paid. We should give GEJ some respect. He is a real man for sticking to Mama Peace 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Brugo(m): 9:55am On Jun 17, 2018 |
OMEGA009: For better or worse? Lol. Are you not a religious bigot? Why would you force your religious requirements for marriage on others? Why would you casually assume that people would adhere to that? Funny girl. It is amusing that those who expressed contrary opinions are now children in your eyes. There is nothing wrong with taking precautions before getting married to Nigerian women. No man should be made to lose his property to his ex. If he can acquire property, so can she. Don’t wait for men to go “the whole 9 yards” while you rest on your oars waiting for handouts. Lazy Nigerian youth. 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by TroubleMaker47(m): 9:56am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Elder001:You can do a registry marriage but ensure u both sign a prenup before heading to the registry! Whatever is in the prenup is binding. That way ur marriage is recognized by law & u have the convenience if the event of a divorce! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Brugo(m): 10:00am On Jun 17, 2018 |
bebe2: She should start from her father’s house. Did he spend so much on her education so she could become indigent without a husband? Have you considered the sheer injustice against the husband? So after buying all he did and all the favours she enjoyed in marriage, he should still lose his sweat to her? If she wants divorce then she should be prepared for it. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by ImaIma1(f): 10:00am On Jun 17, 2018 |
bebe2: Not everyone understands what marriage is. Many churches will not wed you without involving the court. Except the couple wants to do only traditional marriage. Me i did trad, court, church. I didn't exactly insist on it. We both agreed to do all. And he buys everything in my name. Every single thing. He said his dad did the same. So that no family will come and displace me in future. Don't mind some guys here. It is just mouth. 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by cuteralph101(m): 10:03am On Jun 17, 2018 |
HARDDON:True but not in this context. You cant split that reason its irrelevant in relation to this topic |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by freshkpomo(m): 10:08am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Born2Breed:marriage has turned to and investment bah?lord save us from parasites!! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Masterppower: 10:08am On Jun 17, 2018 |
ImaIma1: My dear, it's better imagined than experienced.... My bros lost everything cos of such.. ... |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by pocohantas(f): 10:08am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Sterope: I have never even seen or heard of an average Nigerian woman that benefited financially from a divorce. |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by olaade21: 10:12am On Jun 17, 2018 |
MhisTahrah: Will you also be sharing school fees and house rent in sync. Bam ba shi. |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Enice(m): 10:22am On Jun 17, 2018 |
Daboomb:yeah. This is very true. But there are cases where the judge invites elders of both family to settle the case out of court and the agreement of both family passed as judgement 1 Like |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by poseidon12: 10:23am On Jun 17, 2018 |
@Elder001, what happens if it is the woman that is filing for divorce? I don't see anything wrong with the woman getting a share of the husband's property. However, one has to watch out for gold diggers. Registry wedding provides protection for the woman. The intelligent ladies should opt for registry to avoid stories that touch. A wealthy man can protect himself from gold diggers by forming a Trust and transferring the bulk of his assets to the Trust. |
Re: Don't Trust Any Woman Who Insists On Registry Wedding by Nobody: 10:26am On Jun 17, 2018 |
I think if any lady insist on Registry. Kindly prepare a prenup. That settles it 2 Likes |
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