Hanseel1:



This is surely the most realistic and sensible answer on this thread.

I see no need paying your wife monthly allowance when she also works ,giving her monthly money for upkeep should only be if she's jobless,full time housewife.


The best you can do is to purchase worthy gifts for her, when I say gifts I don't mean cheap stuffs and so.

donbachi:
Pad-500,joy soap-100,body spray-800,roll on-500,data-1000,chewing gum-200,sunday offerings-800...if she is your girlfriend that comes and goes.t-fare-1000=4900naira..by my calculation...make sure sey food dey always dey house.

Oyindidi:
I know of a woman that collects 200k from her husband and I heard she still borrow from lapo.

Don't mind these stupid kids saying trash on this thread.

Even if you're earning a million naira as a woman, you still need the support of your husband. I made that mistake and I'm regretting it.

Op, I don't collect monthly allowance not because I don't need it but I started that way.

Young ladies in the house, don't form good wife and cry later.

Oyindidi:
I know of a woman that collects 200k from her husband and I heard she still borrow from lapo.

Don't mind these stupid kids saying trash on this thread.

Even if you're earning a million naira as a woman, you still need the support of your husband. I made that mistake and I'm regretting it.

Op, I don't collect monthly allowance not because I don't need it but I started that way.

Young ladies in the house, don't form good wife and cry later.

Bluezy13:


Goodnight too
Cheers...

queenfav:
After reading comments of some men and women on the first page of this thread, i have a prayer of Thanksgiving.
"Heavenly Father, I thank you for making me a hardworking woman and for also giving me a Proud Igbo man that still treats me like a baby girl even though he knows i am making money. Thank you God for the sensible Husband you gave me that knows its his duty to provide. Thank you my Good God for giving me a husband that's wise enough to place me on monthly allowance, without having to come and ask kids on nairaland about it. Amen!
Word of advice.. Women, pls marry well. Many of these men are overgrown kids who will come on nairaland to ask what sexxx position he should use in the bedroom with you. Tueh! I am amazed by the comments of some girls here, biko wait till you are married, then come back and stand by your comment.Maybe English is getting hard or they just want nairaland fame. Either ways, it's appalling!It's a man's duty to give his wife money for the upkeep of the home!Even the Bible says a man that can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel! So you will marry a woman into your house and she will be the one feeding you right? . Oshey!

queenfav:
lol.. Exactly o. In my case, my husband is a proud igbo man. From day one's he was d one who asked me how much is ok for me to sort out my needs and that of the house monthly. We agreed om an amount and he credits my account every month end. Most of the girls here are unmarried and actively trying to get praises from nairaland boys. A man is always proud to spend on his woman. If he doesn't have that's a different thing, then she can support him.

pocohantas:

Una go come online dey form Miss Independent, na una type fit chop man destiny if im lose guard.

gonkin:
She doesn't have to give u directly would u even take it if she does?

cruchenutii:


Honestly sometimes It's just better to be a woman in this world.
Asides from delivering children & nurturing them, which is a lot of pain really. I think this is just the only hardship on being a woman.

Every other thing is a Plus, while you are single, different suitors come with their blessings.
When you're married, You have a job, earn decent pay & yet husbands will still give you allowances.

Chaii Na wa oh

Bluezy13:


I like you.
I would have fallen for you if you were single.

You successfully and effortlessly disclosed your friend's own, but you didn't disclose yours.
And that's unjust.

So, tell me; how much do you get monthly from your husband??

ZIMDRILL:


your are missing the big picture you are still a boy

1st its how nigerians 2i assume you are" too misuse the words Upkeep/allowance to wife

2nd your wife shouldnt be given money for upkeep or allowance as you say but should have money monthly "if possible" to buy things like earrings perfume, bras, pants, shoes, clothes new hair ourfit etc things that even if she wasnt married had money she would buy those regardless being married or not

3rd so you aint paying her salary as think or see but the money is to buy new stuff for herself eg a sexy dress etc things that make her look beautiful a nice dress etc sure you wouldnt want your wife to be known to wear the same outfit for the whole year

4th remember this money applies to both men and women as man you need money for beer if you drink, money for a new season jersey for your fav team etc this money is from that covers personal needs after paying main expenses and also if your monthly income can afford that

Hanseel1:



How exactly are women enjoying?? Upon all the degradation, subjugation and all sorts of nonsense women go through in Nigeria and other African countries, you still stay women are enjoying.


Honestly, how old are you?

Well, a typical Nigerian female. I wouldn't expect much.

cruchenutii:


So are you actually crying now? I mean If your husband is performing his roles & paying the heavy bills, then what do you pay for asides from taking care of yourself. I'm assuming he brings money for food stuffs in the home, Rent, children school fees.

Lets note that in the case you pointed, you are actually earning a good pay, so you're not one average Nigerian wife.

queenfav:
lol.. Exactly o. In my case, my husband is a proud igbo man. From day one's he was d one who asked me how much is ok for me to sort out my needs and that of the house monthly. We agreed om an amount and he credits my account every month end. Most of the girls here are unmarried and actively trying to get praises from nairaland boys. A man is always proud to spend on his woman. If he doesn't have that's a different thing, then she can support him.

Hanseel1:

Why won't I take it?

addictiv:


...My dad took care of the capital expenses like building projects, school fees, cars, travel, during holidays he would take us shopping, as we grew older he started giving us money for upkeep esp during Christmas season and other festive periods, he will also buy bags and cans of foodstuffs some to give out and the rest for the home.. My dad has never come home to hear that there is no garri, or money for soup no de. Cos feeding and clothing (herself and her daughters ) is primarily my mum's responsibility. It doesn't mean he doesn't buy her gifts or gives her money when he wants to. They have their system and have peacefully and successfully run it for years. Bearing the whole responsibility alone as a man will only run you down and Wear you out. For all those quoting Bible saying it's a man's responsibility to provide for his house I absolutely agree but I will also remind them that most women in the Bible were primarily house wive's who didn't work and relied on the husband for everything. Now most women re working and have to play a role in the home. Lord knows I ll run mad if my wife keeps asking me for monthly money for home upkeep when she's earning. Monthly money is only for house wives.

Oyindidi:
The rich also cry. My own case I don't know how to demand from someone, if I do then I am in a very tight corner. When I got married 11 years ago, I didn't know there's something like family upkeep. I gladly accepts whatever was given to me then and I don't even know what to do with my own money. But now game don change..

ZIMDRILL:


your are missing the big picture you are still a boy

1st its how nigerians 2i assume you are" too misuse the words Upkeep/allowance to wife

2nd your wife shouldnt be given money for upkeep or allowance as you say but should have money monthly "if possible" to buy things like earrings perfume, bras, pants, shoes, clothes new hair ourfit etc things that even if she wasnt married had money she would buy those regardless being married or not

3rd so you aint paying her salary as think or see but the money is to buy new stuff for herself eg a sexy dress etc things that make her look beautiful a nice dress etc sure you wouldnt want your wife to be known to wear the same outfit for the whole year

4th remember this money applies to both men and women as man you need money for beer if you drink, money for a new season jersey for your fav team etc this money is from that covers personal needs after paying main expenses and also if your monthly income can afford that

Oyindidi:
We need to teach the younger ladies.. Most of the commenters(guys) are bellow 18 years old.

cruchenutii:


Honestly sometimes It's just better to be a woman in this world.
Asides from delivering children & nurturing them, which is a lot of pain really. I think this is just the only hardship on being a woman.

Every other thing is a Plus, while you are single, different suitors come with their blessings.
When you're married, You have a job, earn decent pay & yet husbands will still give you allowances.

Chaii Na wa oh

ImaIma1:


@victorian. This is the point you guys kiss

I enjoyed your conversation. Nothing wrong with a man dropping money for upkeep.

A lot of people responding are just talking based on their perspective of marriage

Besides, as long as the couple agree and they are ok with it, every other thing is background noise.

Sop18:
Don't conclude yet your husband can still earn more!

cruchenutii:


Madame, It's like you will invite me to meet this your Lawyer oh, You cannot be enjoying the connections alone
In terms of the 60k salary & other sources of income.
It's not easy oh. Some fields are just low earners, you need to change your career path totally.
For example, marketers earn as low as they come. These are hard times

Hanseel1:


You didn't get married 11years ago, stop the fake life.
I don't know who you're trying to impress but you forgot you've always revealed yourself on this forum, the internet never forgets.

The fact that you and Victorian are spreading lies on this thread, being fake etc shows that you two are more childish than the people you guys accuse of being childish.


Your post is fake but I still want to help your ministry by replying you.

What exactly do you want?

You work, right? so which upkeep are you talking about?



Victorian aka alexialin it's enough time you stop living a fake life on this forum.
At first you were a 38 years old single lady

2ndly, you've companies, cars and blah blah..

Again.. you are just a lady struggling with your man

Now, you're married and blah blah.




Oyindidi behave yourself. You two should stop spreading lies on this forum.

generationz:


this your friends husband is an IBO or middle belt man abi

kaycee125:
Is that what your father gives your mother monthly??