Hanseel1:


I didn't read his post carefully before commenting, scroll up and you'll see my reply to someone on this page. That's my answer to his question.


BTW, my mom wasn't a jobless housewife. It's sad that your mom was.

cruchenutii:


Ha! 150k wig is on the high side & 60k is too much If a man earns less than 500k to be honest.
Let's note that 60k is not the whole money for the home in a month, It's just the stipend for the Wife alone so It's a lot.

Also the issue is, women can assume a particular class even when they are not. I'm always ask to know a lady's background before I judge.
You can't be earning 150k Net income as a lady & be using 150k Wig, it doesn't work that way.

So anyways, which one are you? - A simple lady or the flamboyant type?
Lemme know now before I propose to you oh, because I'm ready; so no medicine after death

victorian:

He has already settled food and drinks at home.. Their store room is filled with yams, bag of rice, garri and the rest. It's not for food at all. Fridge is filled with all kinds of drinks. This Sallah was eat and drink til u can eat no more
It was great fun.

He Should be earning much and he's a top official in a federal government office .

My dear, I have a big link am working on with my lawyer which is 100percent concrete and legit . Also with my kind of biz and the kind of links I want is different from what the husband can link me to.
But my lawyer? That man knows people and has worked for a lot of top shots.. So am better off with him, than with my friend husband.

Anyone earning 60k as salary, should please look for other source of income.
Cause for me, am looking at other source of income o

Am not focused on just my company alone.

generationz:

he he he

right now I'm a simple lady working hard to live a luxurious yet simple life.
if you know you know

WinningSun:


your response shows the quality of your upbringing and those who did that job.

Hanseel1:


Shut up if you have nothing to say. She was trying to force her ideology on me, trying to make me look stupid because I don't share her ideology I have no choice but to reply her in such manner.


I don't just know what's wrong with me these days, sleep ain't coming that's why I still hear the sounds of notifications.

WinningSun:


you are psychologically disturbed. you need counseling.

Wilfredpat22:
But why should a man be giving someone who got complete hands and legs any money whatsoever. It’s nice to go out as couples and pay the bills. It is even bad enough you are the one taking care of the house bills, [b]school fees of 3 children (of which one of the 3 children may not be your own) [/b]and you will now be placing her on a Budget.

Budget to do what exactly ??

victorian:








She buys hajias clothes, shoes and jewelleries, then save some Incase of rainy day. Cause if any of her friends is broke, she has to borrow to friends
She is that nice with money. She even bought a Samsung galaxy phone for her dad last week. Everybody around them is happy with them.

She and her husband are very nice. And the husband is making more money. He's not complaining at all. They are truly blessed.

iClef:
Sorry, Sir. The reason you're being attacked is because you're talking like a married man and this post is meant to be posted on family section.

My advice is: use the cummulated money and setup a side business for her. Profit from the business can be used to maintain the home. When you start acting too responsible and bumping a woman money, you're training her for a disaster in the future.

A woman who has seen money will always want to see more money just as woman who has tasted a great bedmatician and has gotten an orgasm from him will always want more. If the bedmatician is not around, she'll look for another one because she needs to taste that thing "orgasm" again.

The day or month you'll not give after a brief quarrel is the month she'll go looking for that "monthly salary" you used to pay her from another man despite her working for her own money.

Na una dey carry una hand spoil una marriages while trying to act like real men who take care of their families.

Before a man should get into marriage, he should study how women work, but most men never do it and we always await their marriage disasters or epistles on front-page.

My wife this, my wife that — I trusted her, I did this for her, I gave her the whole world, I gave her all she wanted, she never lacked, she never this, I treated her like a queen, etc. but she did this to me — blah blah blah.

I don't wish married people bad, but I don't pity married men who think money is all they need to keep a woman or a home and with this, they refuse to learn how women work and focus all their lives on just money.

Money is good, but a millionaire who knows how women work is better than a billionaire who doesn't.

Wilfredpat22:
But why should a man be giving someone who got complete hands and legs any money whatsoever. It’s nice to go out as couples and pay the bills. It is even bad enough you are the one taking care of the house bills, school fees of 3 children (of which one of the 3 children may not be your own) and you will now be placing her on a Budget.

Budget to do what exactly ??

Squooshy:

Stingikoko.

cruchenutii:

Hmmm I don't know oh, Please let me know

AreaFada2:


A late relative's three kids, all three were not his. He died soon after finding out. All the pampering, jeeps/SUVs, money and massive house the young lady enjoyed didn't stop her cheating.
So it's not far fetched.

AreaFada2:


A late relative's three kids, all three were not his. He died soon after finding out. All the pampering, jeeps/SUVs, money and massive house the young lady enjoyed didn't stop her cheating.
So it's not far fetched.

For many couples getting married, discussing finances and contribution formula is still almost a taboo. It is assumed the hubby will foot all the bills. But increasingly it's becoming an illusion. The money needed to live to a decent standard cannot be provided by the hubby alone. A woman now needs or wants everything a man needs in addition to traditional female stuff. She needs a car, nice phone and gadgets too.

Add that to hairdo, clothes, shoes, make up, children's school fees, clothes, family feeding cost, housing/rent, inlaws/elderly parent', commitment, electricity/gen/fuel cost, etc. A man has to have an unusually well-paid job, avenue to siphon money at work, corruption money, or an extremely successful business venture to carry such load alone. Only a few in Nigeria fall into this category.

@OP, how much you need depends on your family's unique situation. No single fixed amount: First & foremost your income. It determines what you can afford. Whether you shop at Shoprite or local market. Then number of people in your family unit, location, taste/living standard you have both adopted, your plans for the future, etc.

MiztaFabulous:
In every reasonable way it is very necessary that a man gives his spouse a certain amount of money every month for the upkeep of the home whether she is working, doing business or not.

In your opinion, how much do you think is very reasonable for a man to give his spouse every month that will definitely be okay to maintain a comfortable home?

generationz:


are you saying a man shouldn't take care of his wife because he is afraid she will cheat on him or leave him? shhh

the first responsibility of a man is to take care of his family whether his wife is working or not .
While the first responsibility of a woman is to take care of her home whether she is working or not

how the both of them then choose to go about it is theirs business. Everyone of them knows their limit and the nonsense they can take

As for me I would never let a man open a business for me only to push all the family responsibility on my head ... so what is he then contributing...

what happens if the business crashes tommorow? will he take up the family responsibility again?

A woman already goes through a lot with child birth ,home care, taking care of the kids and a 9-5 job or full time business . this your suggestion is the number cause of stress on women then when the woman is looking worn out he will start looking for side chick.


I will have you know sir, that poverty is much more likely to lead a woman to cheat on her husband than abundance. come to slums and see married women who hawk their wears branching into another mans house for a quicky to feed her kids.

Bluezy13:

"And he still takes care of everything in the home and also assist both his family and hers join"


So what exactly does your friend use the 60k for

generationz:

he he he

right now I'm a simple lady working hard to live a luxurious yet simple life.
if you know you know

Wilfredpat22:


You are the first person I will give a mention on nairaland and that is because you deserve it

Hanseel1:


Shut up if you have nothing to say. She was trying to force her ideology on me, trying to make me look stupid because I don't share her ideology I have no choice but to reply her in such manner.


I don't just know what's wrong with me these days, sleep ain't coming that's why I still hear the sounds of notifications.

tee59:
Your whole salary now and you be suffering till another month ending .Since ,she is disabled and liability that can't work to make her own money. Be wise in spending.

MiztaFabulous:
In every reasonable way it is very necessary that a man gives his spouse a certain amount of money every month for the upkeep of the home whether she is working, doing business or not.

In your opinion, how much do you think is very reasonable for a man to give his spouse every month that will definitely be okay to maintain a comfortable home?

orbitalgis:
Marriage is about trust and compromise.[s]Give everything you earn to your wife and let her manage the finances[/s].If she is a prudent woman and she is trustworthy,your wealth will grow otherwise get out of the marriage.This means that [s]if you cannot give your wife all you earn,it probably means you don't trust her [/s] and if you don't trust her, there is no reason you should be married to her.Yes my wife takes it all and as a matter of fact,i never fancied being asked by my wife for money.I am happy to work for her.