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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by swagwu(m): 10:39am On Nov 13, 2014
YEA its possible if only the man is impotent...

cuz as for men i cnt be spending money on u in the name of love nd woudnt get something in return i will feel cheated tongue

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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 10:42am On Nov 13, 2014
foxxynik:


So what's with the saying that love is BLIND?
If its a true love...he won't even notice her booobzz!

Tell you what... A friend never liked dark girls...he gets turn on with light skinned girls...
But when he met this ebony looking princess...His mentality changed!

What's ya say buddy?
love ain't blind.
U'r nt getting one point. He didn't say he doesn't love d girl because of her small brsts. He does buh dt fling is nt jx there. U sure knw dt u can b sexually attracted to someone u don't love...maybe cos d person's got dt tin dt spines ur head.....dey r two different things bro
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 10:46am On Nov 13, 2014
Sarimah:
yhh
howw was ur trip to Dubai?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Dcmg(m): 10:48am On Nov 13, 2014
mrbamo:


If you are not sleeping with the girl you said you love, there is possibility of sleeping with another girl elsewhere (cheating). So, if you truly love someone and you are cheating on him/her, the love is questionable. sad
You guys are just deceiving yourselves with that fake thing called "Love''{erotic/romantic love}.The only love i believe is love for humanity,This is the real genuine love.
If i should marry today,it wouldn't be becos of nonsense Love,but maybe because of the woman's respect,character,attitude towards me and everyone.I would marry her because i like her{her personality}.
And if i decide not to cheat on her it will be because i Respect her and not because i love her.
If i decide not to use harsh words on her or abuse her physically,it isn't because i love her but because i respect her.
So if my partner should cheat on me,it's a problem because she has disrespected me.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by luckybaddest(m): 10:52am On Nov 13, 2014
have passed through many comments but I just don't know wat to say d only thing their is that different peoples with different ideas and for me I can't keeping date you and not have the feeling to Bleep you.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Samabu07(m): 10:54am On Nov 13, 2014
Yes, one can love and want or desire for sexual intercourse. People are just different. They are handy to come by.

I got in a no sex-relationship, though she asked me out. She loved me (love at first sight). I had to do some little demo on her she was blown away like "wow". Had to show her I wasn't some dumb ass learner. She calls me badoo (Lol). We had no sex o. Just some intimate touches.

Now I'm single again. Waiting for the right one, time and space!

I love sex and had abstain for close to a year now, but I am determine to wait til that night.
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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by kandiikane(m): 10:56am On Nov 13, 2014
Kingsleyinfo:
Do not be deceived, it is better to marry than to burn, those were the words of apostle Paul.

When romance is involved, sex will always be an issue, but when love is involved, doing right by your partner will be
Paramount on your list. The real question is what do you term right and wrong?

Honestly it depends on the two people involved, and it seriously boils down to what they believe in.
Personally am a christian so I believe that loving someone means no sex, till its proper to become intimate, not because I don't want it, but because I believe its wrong. if that's what she wants she better look elsewhere.
So basically no, the desire will be there. This long epistle sef.


@topic..Many people lack basic comprehension skills..
anyone who said yes failed to comprehend the question.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by RuuDie(m): 11:00am On Nov 13, 2014
awa:


@UjSizzle,

Certainly the desire won't die off like you rightfully said; however, one important attribute of humanity is the ability to make DECISION. Perhaps whether such decision is religiously implemented or not becomes a topic for another day. Desire is a product of decision and it has an intrinsic feature that only the human mind and Almighty understand. Action is what brings to bear the inherent desire inside of us, desire is nothing if there is no equivalent inadvertent sale of such feelings via attempted action. This is what makes us imperfect humans. You won't know I love you if I do not start acting like I do, same way desire won't be noticeable if there is no iota of action. By the way, DESIRE being a verb has action attached to it....wanting to, to put, to express, to require; these are all ways of attempting to define DESIRE.

Thanks for your observation and comment. It's encouraging...

Wrong Ma... Even though you have written well but I beg to disagree with the bolded! For example, do you "decide" to be hungry first before you desire a certain kind of food or is it the other way round!?

Desire is "spontaneous", random if you will... then decision follows!

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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by kandiikane(m): 11:02am On Nov 13, 2014
ratatis:
It's difficult for some women to conceive how a man can be in love with a lady & does not desire to have sex with her, yet does it with another lady. It's possible with me.
"It takes all sorts to make a world". A lady should endeavor to understand her man & should not judge him according to how some men behave, merely 'cos it's popular.

If I was in a relationship and the person doesn't find me sexually desirable then that's a huge problem.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by abiegbu: 11:05am On Nov 13, 2014
it is possible to love have sex or dont have sex
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by jossyphobia(m): 11:10am On Nov 13, 2014
no no no
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Anomnity: 11:16am On Nov 13, 2014
The true love,the genuine love,the old time love of those days has no immoral urge attached to it.The western culture has corrupted everything today to the extent of even gay and beastly relationships.As a man you have the highest level of love existing for your mum,sisters & there is never any inordinate feelings.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by tabisegroup(m): 11:26am On Nov 13, 2014
faithugo64:
so why then do people think that sex has nothing to do with love?
picture orr ...
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by cut007: 11:44am On Nov 13, 2014
AgapeCharis:
love ain't blind.
U'r nt getting one point. He didn't say he doesn't love d girl because of her small brsts. He does buh dt fling is nt jx there. U sure knw dt u can b sexually attracted to someone u don't love...maybe cos d person's got dt tin dt spines ur head.....dey r two different things bro
Mehn how come you see it EXACTLY from my perspective?? I had wanted to elaborate for better understanding but with your excellent summary above, I feel no need for that. @ foxxynik thanks for your inputs. But i'ld luv you to appreciate the fact that my sexual preference is not a product of pevertion or lust. I didn't just decide to start liking/preferring girls with big mamaries (SEXUALLY), its something I just discovered I had even from my early days so i think its passive to just ask me to "man up and drop that boobsy thingy". That why I enquired if it had a medical explanation just so I could save the relationship NCOs like I earlier said, I luv that girl madly, i see her in my future and from strong evidences, I think the feeling is mutual. Its just that sexual connection (from my side) that is a blight to an otherwise almost-perfect relationship. [i][/i](#talk about the role of sex in sustaining a good relationship# whof!!!!!!)
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by isolatosinsamuel(m): 11:45am On Nov 13, 2014
[color=#006600][/color]its truelly possible coz am having dat kinda feeling right nw towards som1. But d most important thing hre is holding up to your principles & reputations for dis defines u.
Thus u can avoid d feeling thru d following ways:
*Don't stay alon wit ur partner in an enclosed place
*Mix wit oda pple apart 4rm ur patmer alon. I'v come 2 knw dat ppl in luv do nt in any way lik 2 relate wit oda ppl except dat one person.
*love God: this i'll say is most important coz i bliv dat if u love & consistently work for God,d feeling will ave no place 2 stay coz u'd be tu occupied 2 let anything defile ur hrt....lastly
*Pray abt ur relationship life & secure it into God's hands.....THANKS...
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by VivaLaFrans: 11:51am On Nov 13, 2014
faithugo64:
most ladies believe that a guy who loves you would never want to sleep with you untill he marries you.so here is my question

is it possible to love someone and not have the DESIRE to kiss,hug or have sex with him/her?

Please i don't mean having sex with the person,i mean is it possible not to have the DESIRE(wanting) to be intimate with that person.

NOTE: HERE AM NOT TALKING ABOUT AGAPE LOVE O!!!
But you topic says ''SLEEPING WITH''... Correct it please....
See, we are all humans... It depends on what you are looking for. If your searching for brilliance, you'll never be carried away by lust.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 11:54am On Nov 13, 2014
3cycle:
Not possible to be inlove and not have the urge to have sex.
Sex adds flavor to the situationship grin

"Situationship"
Lol
Lmao
Lmfao
Lwkmdooooooo
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Sarimah(f): 11:57am On Nov 13, 2014
cooljoe:
as d queen plzs. Nice dp u have there. Rnt u jst stunning
thanks
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 11:58am On Nov 13, 2014
chibwike:
abi she go dey happy cef, say i dey respect her virginity, till we marry.

Respect Virginity my Nyansh,.,,, disobey Pu.s.sy my Balls,.,,,
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Sarimah(f): 11:58am On Nov 13, 2014
decode55:


really? Same here.

Err.. Pm?
its fine
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by chibwike(m): 11:59am On Nov 13, 2014
ebukaOtika:


Respect Virginity my Nyansh,.,,, disobey Pu.s.sy my Balls,.,,,
Lol..only you
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Sarimah(f): 11:59am On Nov 13, 2014
Unibenstudent:
howw was ur trip to Dubai?
lol...
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 11:59am On Nov 13, 2014
Sex and love are two different things, you can have sex with someone u do not necessarily love, you can love someone you have not had sex with.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by chibwike(m): 12:00pm On Nov 13, 2014
Sarimah:
thanks
Longest time...where have you been.
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 12:00pm On Nov 13, 2014
Sarimah:
lol...
this one u escape from nairaland ,I led a team of 4 vigilantes to go in search of u ,and we were discouraged to not have found u despite our intense search
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 12:04pm On Nov 13, 2014
dennykel60:
It is possible but it depends on the decision of both parties. When I start dating my girl, I had no intent on having sex with her. After a year past, her friend told me that she was complaining that I don't touch her. I asked her if that is what she wants, she said yes. I really love my girl to the extent I want to marry her soon. So it depends.


Stories that is about to touch,.,,, it is incomplete guy ,,.,,.
DID YOU TOUCH HER ,,,,?
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Boyooosa(m): 12:05pm On Nov 13, 2014
chibwike:
am sorry sire...you can pardon me this time.....i'd work on my communication skills...thanks for the correction.
for being a gentleman that learns from correction which is very rare among Nigerians, u av my vote! buh listen! b4 u walk out of the door, dont waste my vote wink
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ebukaOtika(m): 12:07pm On Nov 13, 2014
Annypie:
its possible to love sm1,and nt be sexually attracted to d person..exclusive to agape love.i wuld never wana get intimate wt sm1 i dnt love though,i just feel love nt matter hw superficial shuld be a prerequsite 4 sex. BTW shebi they say sex is different 4rm makin love ni


Ele i ti confuse gan,.,,, THEY ARE THE SAME,,,, ROOM , BACKYARD, TOILET , UNDER TREE EVENT o jare ,.,,, but with different Nicknames,,,,
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Nov 13, 2014
cc150615:

no need to cry, the hoe doesn't deserve u, You'll find someone else that does
Did you just call her a LovePeddler or hoe..is not cause I said these things should make you insult my girlfriend okay so shut your mouth and withdraw that statement before I shut it for you.I use brass knuckles ya know.Besides I only complained of not having sex and not to insult her she is my wife to be..
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by chibwike(m): 12:10pm On Nov 13, 2014
Boyooosa:

for being a gentleman that learns from correction which is very rare among Nigerians, u av my vote! buh listen! b4 u walk out of the door, dont waste my vote wink
thanks sire....i promise..i wont waste it..God bless u
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Nov 13, 2014
swagwu:
YEA its possible if only the nan is impotent...

cuz as for men i cnt be spending money on u in the name of love nd woudnt get something in return i will feel cheated tongue
Bleep YOU ASHOLE FOR SAYING THIS TRASH HERE..BEING CHEATED YOURE DATING FOR SEX..WHY DONT YOU PAY WHORES THEN OR BETTER OFF DO IT YOURSELF WITH OIL AND SOAP LOOSER

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