MzNelly:
Yes, yes, the all-too familiar topic.
For the few majority who have no idea what 'Friend-zoning' implies, let me paint you a picture:
Boy meets Girl, Boy Likes Girl, Boy Asks Girl Out, Girl says: "I'm sorry, but we can ONLY be friends". Boy whines about being 'Friendzoned'.
Typical eh?
Here are 5 reasons why men should suck it up and quit whining:
1. She Has a Type And You're Not it.
Yes. You may be the most caring person you've ever known-nice, sweet and gentle(good for you!), however the fact remains that the heart wants what the heart wants. I see guys complain about this but have you ever really stopped to wonder what the girl in question is interested in.....


2. She can't control Her Feelings.
This goes without saying. Don't trivialize her feelings by claiming you've been friendzoned. Don't expect her to hook up with you because you talk to her on Facebook late at night. Don't expect her to feel the same way you do just because you've been nice to her. That's prossstitution and that makes you a douche.

3. She's Been Hurt too.
Only guys sit down and make up a name of something that is actually...pretty normal. I've been hurt as well, i've liked people who didn't feel the same way. So? Would i sit and lick my wounds or move on? The same applies to the so-called 'Nice Guys' out there. Be a man about it and move on.

4. The Friendzone is an Excuse.
It's an excuse for when a guy likes a girl but the girl doesn't like him right back. It's a sense of entitlement. It's the idea that just because a guy gives a girl his time or affection, she's in the wrong for not giving him sexual or romantic favors back. It's a defense mechanism, a way for the guy to make the girl seem coldhearted or callous or dumb for simply acting on her feelings, or rather lack of feelings.

5. Because No Girl Just Wants A 'Nice Guy.'
You need to be more than an innocent little boy. You need to be a smart, witty, funny, charming and confident man. Girls don't like 'nice guys' or 'douchebags', they like guys who are real, just like guys like girls who are real. If you think a girl owes you something simply because you're a 'nice guy', then you have a warped sense of entitlement with the females, man.

The friendzone is the ineffectual tool of an ineffectual male. Stop using it as an excuse. There's a girl out there for you but you can't expect it to be me and blame me when it isn't, Kapeesh?

mikeomo11:

Nice one 'Nelly' if that is the name. I stumbled on ur diary and discovered u are a witness. I am also one. I would like us 2 chat pls if u can. Just pm u.

Mprex:
This friendzone of a thing is annoying. If a girl doesnt wanna go out with you, why not man up and let her go They will seat around crying foul and screaming friendzoned.

Lobbish!

Mynd44:
Blood of Zeus.

The number 5 is hilariously silly.

I hope the OP does not have that mentality oooo. Na from there you go marry cheat, abuser and claim he did not show the signs

MzNelly:

Of course. You're a dude. Defend it zealously.

Mondisweets:
FP please

Mynd44:

Go to bed

Mynd44:

And your pride is making you blind to my point.

walearoy:
Friendzoned - Bleeping = Complains
Friendzoned + Bleeping = No Complains

Have a friend who friend zoned me but i fall under category 2, I'm fine being friend zoned.

MzNelly:

Err....you mean "Friends With Benefits"? That's quite different.

walearoy:


Is dat wat its called?
I sha know I'm happy with it

Oahray:
Exactly! If you want a romantic relationship with a girl and she wants just platonic friendship (with full benefits or not), take a walk and be remain acquaintances. I wish I could knock it into the heads of my fellow guys.

If you sit pining away for her affection you'd never get, you aren't well upstairs.


@op, I think number 4 is very unsound. A girl who knows that a guy's attention and gifts are geared towards starting a relationship, and accepts them without the intention of obliging him, is a greedy con-artist without any self respect.

If you aren't prepared to sell your house, would you accept payment from interested parties? Let your No mean No.


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