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Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 10:50am On Jan 26, 2015
Many people have different views about this. While majority are of the opinion that it's better you don't check your partner's phone so you will not get "Heart attack" (Lol) grin. They believe it's better you don't bother yourself about anything as long as your partner is not acting in a suspicious way.

However,,a lesser fraction of people see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact they believe it's a good way to earn your partner's trust.

But the question ponders. What is really bad in allowing our partners go through our messages? I feel a healthy relationship should be as transparent as anything. There shouldn't be anything to hide. So once you can't allow your partner check your phone it may mean you have something to hide. It mustn't necessarily be cheating but that is how it always is 97% of the time.

So i'd like to ask. Can you allow your partner go through your phone? Or Can you ask your partner to give you his/her phone to check? If yes,,please give your reasons. If no,,your reasons should also be stated.

Nairalanders,,please let's be sincere in our contributions. I know many of us may want to form/pretend other wise. grin

N:B This applies to both marriage and a normal relationship.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Viktoh(m): 10:54am On Jan 26, 2015
Why not

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 10:56am On Jan 26, 2015
Viktoh:
Why not
Which of them? To ask or to give? smiley

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by alberto2k(m): 10:56am On Jan 26, 2015
Yes o... As a Real Nigga'

I check and delete every evidence of --------- whatever u call it.




too bad, My Nokia torchlight is where every bad is being carried out..

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:01am On Jan 26, 2015
alberto2k:
Yes o... As a Real Nigga'

I check and delete every evidence of --------- whatever u call it.




too bad, My Nokia torchlight is where every bad is being carried out..
HaHaHa!! Bad guy!

don't you think she'll be suspicious if she sees that everything is clear?

Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:04am On Jan 26, 2015
i can allow my partner to check my phone cos i have nothing to hide.
But i don't really like checking his phone maybe it's because i think it's invasion of privacy.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:06am On Jan 26, 2015
AyokunleRuth:
i can allow my partner to check my phone cos i have nothing to hide.
But i don't really like checking his phone maybe it's because i think it's invasion of privacy.

Hmmm...don't you think he's invading your own privacy too?

If he can check yours...why not check his?

Btw...

This is dorlapoh20 right? wink

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:07am On Jan 26, 2015
Even though, I don't have skeleton in my cupboard, I can't allow her.

I'll feel uncomfortable. Thanks

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:08am On Jan 26, 2015
FrancisTony:
Even though, I don't have skeleton in my cupboard, I can't allow her.

I'll feel uncomfortable. Thanks
Lol I like your sincerity.

But why should you be uncomfortable when there are no skeletons in your cupboard? grin

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by alberto2k(m): 11:08am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

HaHaHa!! Bad guy!

don't you think she'll be suspicious if she sees that everything is clear?


Ofcourse everything won't be clear

I'll leave the least suspicious ones that she'll only ask and I can confidently reply back

Everything can't be 100% perfect u know wink

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:10am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Hmmm...don't you think he's invading your own privacy too?

If he can check yours...why not check his?

Btw...

This is dorlapoh20 right? wink
well if he doesnt see it that way its nothing. We are different people trying to be one. A mature and reasonable guy will notice and he will stop doing it.

yes this is dorlapoh20.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:10am On Jan 26, 2015
alberto2k:


Ofcourse everything won't be clear

I'll leave the least suspicious ones that she'll only ask and I can confidently reply back

Everything can't be 100% perfect u know wink
Cool grin

Can you also check her phone? wink
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Dotwillis1(m): 11:11am On Jan 26, 2015
No! ...cuz i won't wana get jailed for bn the cause of a 'suicide'

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Mathematical(f): 11:12am On Jan 26, 2015
Everybody has a skeleton in his/her cupboard, even mine wore a robe.. why wont I allow him..
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:13am On Jan 26, 2015
AyokunleRuth:

well if he doesn't see it that way its nothing. We are different people trying to be one. A mature and reasonable guy will notice and he will stop doing it.

yes this is dorlapoh20.
Ok...Simply means that you're comfortable if you both don't go through each other's phone and that everything is alright except he starts acting suspicious.

Right? smiley
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:15am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Ok...Simply means that you're comfortable if you both don't go through each other's phone and that everything is alright except he starts acting suspicious.

Right? smiley
Exactly!!!

pakam!!!

you got it right smiley
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:15am On Jan 26, 2015
Mathematical:
Everybody has a skeleton in his/her cupboard, even mine wore a robe.. why wont I allow him..
Sorry please can you elucidate on this? grin
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:17am On Jan 26, 2015
Dotwillis1:
No! ...cuz i won't wana get jailed for bn the cause of a 'suicide'

ahhhhhhhhhh!!! grin

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:18am On Jan 26, 2015
Dotwillis1:
No! ...cuz i won't wana get jailed for bn the cause of a 'suicide'
Nawa o! grin

Naso your skeletons plenty? cheesy

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:20am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Lol I like your sincerity.

But why should you be uncomfortable when there are no skeletons in your cupboard? grin
That's how I'm wired. grin
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:20am On Jan 26, 2015
AyokunleRuth:

Exactly!!!

pakam!!!

you got it right smiley
Could be dangerous though cheesy
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Mathematical(f): 11:21am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Sorry please can you elucidate on this? grin

Nothing to elucidate on ..its simple...I don't check on his phone. And he doesn't too.. buh if he want to. No declining. Same as him
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:22am On Jan 26, 2015
FrancisTony:

That's how I'm wired. grin
I get you!

Sometimes some girls may even start suspecting what you never thought could arouse any form of suspicion.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by alberto2k(m): 11:23am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Cool grin

Can you also check her phone? wink

Nope

I better Not

Atleast it spares me all the heartbreaks grin
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by alberto2k(m): 11:24am On Jan 26, 2015
Mathematical:
Everybody has a skeleton in his/her cupboard, even mine wore a robe .. why wont I allow him..

lipsrsealed
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:26am On Jan 26, 2015
Mathematical:


Nothing to elucidate on ..its simple...I don't check on his phone. And he doesn't too.. buh if he want to. No declining. Same as him
Ok I get you now. So in your opinion it's better not to check at all. Because you both have skeletons in your cupboard?
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Dotwillis1(m): 11:27am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Nawa o! grin

Naso your skeletons plenty? cheesy
baba, chicks surrounds me lik say i own a poultry grin ..nd ma main g.f trust me lik craze ..

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Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:28am On Jan 26, 2015
alberto2k:


Nope

I better Not

Atleast it spares me all the heartbreaks grin
Lol,,but how can you be comfortable in a relationship when you know your girl may be hiding something from you?

I mean a serious relationship.
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:28am On Jan 26, 2015
Why should he?... Nah.
I wouldn't allow him.
Wouldn't give him a reason to distrust me.
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Nobody: 11:29am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Could be dangerous though cheesy
Really? well i follow the adage
what you don't know doesn't kill you.
there are other ways to know if a guy is cheating without checking his phone.
what if he is someone like alberto2k
actually i dont really believe in checking his phone. Guys are way smarter than that. I roll with them alot.
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by naijaboiy: 11:32am On Jan 26, 2015
AyokunleRuth:

Really? well i follow the adage
what you don't know doesn't kill you.
there are other ways to know if a guy is cheating without checking his phone.
what if he is someone like alberto2k
actually i dont really believe in checking his phone. Guys are way smarter than that. I roll with them alot.
Yea you're right about that adage.
But if you're married would that rule also apply?
Re: Can You Allow Your Partner/spouse Go Through Your Phone? by Mathematical(f): 11:33am On Jan 26, 2015
naijaboiy:

Ok I get you now. So in your opinion it's better not to check at all. Because you both have skeletons in your cupboard?

Stop twisting it up.. embarassed ..it all start when you both are having trust issue..me and him..we dont..he's human same as i,and were bound to have baggages ..The bottom line is, if you don't trust your partner, that's a problem. It's natural to be curious-who isn't?-but taking that curiosity beyond the bounds of what your partner would be comfortable with crosses a line that could be dangerous for your relationship, not to mention your mental health.

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