Benignasweety:
after d talk and he isn't prepared Willing but no money to keep it tin?

Atleast she should let him know.

If she undergo D&C and she lost her life without him knowing he contributed to her death.

Why die alone ?

She was sick for 2 months and people thought she had Typhoid.

Lets face the fact. She let the current quarrel to get in her head.

Her inability to differentiate between quarrel and enemity pushed her into the madness

Benignasweety:
how dear Add me on fbk benigna Godwin.

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Check your mail.

Years ago, a 17 year old boy on our block whom we'd known to have high hopes killed himself with a gun to his head, because his gf made the decision to abort her unwanted pregnancy.

Benignasweety:
after d talk and he isn't prepared Willing but no money to keep it tin?

Seems uve made up your mind already.

hotwax:


Atleast she should let him know.

If she undergo D&C and she lost her life without him knowing he contributed to her death.

Why die alone ?

She was sick for 2 months and people thought she had Typhoid.

Lets face the fact. She let the current quarrel to get in her head.

Her inability to differentiate between quarrel and enemity pushed her into the madness

She is talking about herself.

EnlightenedSoul:
Years ago, a 17 year old boy on our block whom we'd known to have high hopes killed himself with a gun to his head, because his gf made the decision to abort her unwanted pregnancy.

This is on another level.

Female folks actually think we just go about impregnating them. Some of us are responsible

lilspiceyy:

She is talking about herself.

How

proxillin:


This is on another level.

Female folks actually think we just go about impregnating them. Some of us are responsible

A lot of them do tho, and even if so it matters little how "responsible" you are if the girl isn't ready for the pregnancy, or simply doesn't want it to begin with. That's life for ya.

'Quarrelling" that lead to 4 months of no contact even despite working in the same building hardly qualifies as a "relationship". A sane mind would've considered the relationship over, hence the reason she was probably compelled. Your friend has two options open to him.

MrsChima:
She doesn't need your consent to do anything to her body even if you are married. It is the same thing for men who do not have to be father's to their children. They can terminate their parental rights and move on.

It is a risk you take when you are in a relationship and date like minded to avoid conflicts.

pls mention one country where men are free to reliquish fatherhood, just one! The last time i checked, if a woman gets pregnant by you and she decides to take it up, you have no option at all but to own up and your salary be deducted for maintainance (i actually welcome that). Pls do not come here to pretend like men have reproductive rights in many part of the world! And parts of the world where such rights exists, are being faced with constant hostility from a culturally imperial part of the world who thinks its world view is absolute.

About "she doesn't need your consent to do whatever she likes with her body even if you are MARRIED", how exactly do you not make the man a victim of his own nature that he cannot house a child?

MrsChima:


This has nothing to do with Feminism. There are women who are not feminists aborted their babies. Get off the Feminism thing and focus on the matter at hand.

You take a risk when you have unsafe sex with anyone. I am not advocating abortion but I do call a spade a spade.

It is her body and she can do whatever to her body.

this has got everything to do with feminism! When other women who are not feminists abort their children in cases like this, they don't do it to spite the reproductive rights of men or abuse, insult, undermine, strip or spit on the intrinsic paternal desires of men like you, a feminists is doing riht now!

When a feminist tells men dismissively that he should wear a condom, do a vasectomy etc, anytime he brings up the arguements men have brought up above that made you to give that reply, they spit on men's intrinsic paternal and reproductive behaviour!

craziebone:


this has got everything to do with feminism! When other women who are not feminists abort their children in cases like this, they don't do it to spite the reproductive rights of men or abuse, insult, undermine, strip or spit on the intrinsic paternal desires of men like you, a feminists is doing riht now!

When a feminist tells men dismissively that he should wear a condom, do a vasectomy etc, anytime he brings up the arguements men have brought up above that made you to give that reply, they spit on men's intrinsic paternal and reproductive behaviour!

So you are basically saying women who has aborted their babies are feminists There you go you non'feminist bishes! You are a feminist if you have denied a man his rights to a baby that he may or may not care for!

So the men who don't take care of their children and baby mommas are misogynistic dickheads..

Boom Harms stealing 200 girls made more sense than this bullsh1t.

craziebone:


pls mention one country where men are free to reliquish fatherhood, just one! The last time i checked, if a woman gets pregnant by you and she decides to take it up, you have no option at all but to own up and your salary be deducted for maintainance (i actually welcome that). Pls do not come here to pretend like men have reproductive rights in many part of the world! And parts of the world where such rights exists, are being faced with constant hostility from a culturally imperial part of the world who thinks its world view is absolute.

About "she doesn't need your consent to do whatever she likes with her body even if you are MARRIED", how exactly do you not make the man a victim of his own nature that he cannot house a child?

LMAO@men can't relinquish their rights.

PunkyVeer post 36396210: Some guys are funny. I'm sure if she'd told him about the pregnancy, he was going to think she was trying to trap him with a baby to remain in their obviously tumultuous relationship. He needs to get over it or end the relationship if he's bothered by what she did. They weren't talking, so maybe she thought there was no chance of a reconciliation & to save herself the stress of single parenthood, she made the decision to terminate. Her choice. Her body. A child deserves a stable environment. Full stop.

you cannot assume his reaction when you have not told him, fact! The truth is, most men have accepted responsibility for the Gf's pregnancy. Infact, when a woman concieves a child, most men have actually gone on ahead to marry her. We see this everyday by the number of pregnant brides on traditional wedding day. Infact, the presence of a child have actually fast tracked some wedding plans. This is one thing i have experienced many times around me.

The whole idea that men are not responsible and wouldn't want to own up when she takes in a false narativbe peddled by feminists so as to make the man a legitimate target for hate!

Ofcourse, he needs to get over it. If i were the one, i would get over it as soon as possible. Who wants to continue to dwell on irrationality, injustice and outright dictatorship and turanny from a power hungry fellow!

Fact is, you can't know the chance of a relationship unless you talk to the other person! The very fact that that's not your first argument shows that feminism seeks to destroy relationships and no wonder you and mrschima opted to spit on male reproductive rights and paternal instinct!

Fact is...a child can have a good environment even with a single parent. I am not encouraging single parenthood, neither am i saying it can be a good substitute to both parenthood. And isn't it funny that feminists on the one hand, would dismissively tell men to their faces that they do not need to get married and that if the want children, they could get it and take full care of the child on their own, thereby, endorsing single parenthood; but on the other hand, and when issues like spousal consent comes up, they are the first to insinate that songle parenthood is not the best option?

MrsChima:


LMAO@men can't relinquish their rights.

why don't you just go on ahead and tell us already, where it is that a man can, on his own, decide not to take responsibility for a child he fathered and there will be no legal or attitudinal consequences should the lady decides to take it up with him?

craziebone:


this has got everything to do with feminism! When other women who are not feminists abort their children in cases like this, they don't do it to spite the reproductive rights of men or abuse, insult, undermine, strip or spit on the intrinsic paternal desires of men like you, a feminists is doing riht now!

When a feminist tells men dismissively that he should wear a condom, do a vasectomy etc, anytime he brings up the arguements men have brought up above that made you to give that reply, they spit on men's intrinsic paternal and reproductive behaviour!

sorry to say this, dis has nothing to do wit feminism or d likes. go tru d post again and u wud find out dey re just dating and not married yet. xo she appeared single to everyone even to her family.

therefore every action taken by her is her responsiblity and not d guy. i wud av luv to ask u dat if u were in dat messy relationship and d gal walks up to u and tell u she is pregnant. wud u even stand to answer for secs. but no need to ask since i might knw ur reply.

am a guy but i will go wit wot mrs chima said.

craziebone:


you cannot assume his reaction when you have not told him, fact! The truth is, most men have accepted responsibility for the Gf's pregnancy. Infact, when a woman concieves a child, most men have actually gone on ahead to marry her. We see this everyday by the number of pregnant brides on traditional wedding day. Infact, the presence of a child have actually fast tracked some wedding plans. This is one thing i have experienced many times around me.

The whole idea that men are not responsible and wouldn't want to own up when she takes in a false narativbe peddled by feminists so as to make the man a legitimate target for hate!

Ofcourse, he needs to get over it. If i were the one, i would get over it as soon as possible. Who wants to continue to dwell on irrationality, injustice and outright dictatorship and turanny from a power hungry fellow!

Fact is, you can't know the chance of a relationship unless you talk to the other person! The very fact that that's not your first argument shows that feminism seeks to destroy relationships and no wonder you and mrschima opted to spit on male reproductive rights and paternal instinct!

Fact is...a child can have a good environment even with a single parent. I am not encouraging single parenthood, neither am i saying it can be a good substitute to both parenthood. And isn't it funny that feminists on the one hand, would dismissively tell men to their faces that they do not need to get married and that if the want children, they could get it and take full care of the child on their own, thereby, endorsing single parenthood; but on the other hand, and when issues like spousal consent comes up, they are the first to insinate that songle parenthood is not the best option?

And you expect me to reply to an old topic? Nigga, if a thread wasn't created today or at least yesterday, don't bother me with it. I've moved on so ta ta.

And I noticed the shade with the post number thingy. Tsk tsk tsk. Whatever.

proxillin:


This is on another level.

Female folks actually think we just go about impregnating them. Some of us are responsible

A few responsible men doesn't represent the majority. These girls are not just aborting all nilly Willy....they have had some male influence in making decision to abort their babies.

bdchange:


sorry to say this, dis has nothing to do wit feminism or d likes. go tru d post again and u wud find out dey re just dating and not married yet. xo she appeared single to everyone even to her family.

therefore every action taken by her is her responsiblity and not d guy. i wud av luv to ask u dat if u were in dat messy relationship and d gal walks up to u and tell u she is pregnant. wud u even stand to answer for secs. but no need to ask since i might knw ur reply.

am a guy but i will go wit wot mrs chima said.

Would you like dome coffee dear?

A man can bish about reproductive and parental rights BUT women can't bish about child support?!!!

MrsChima:


Would you like dome coffee dear?

hmmm wud av luv to....but i think proxillin wud be suited for it xo he can convey a beta msg to his frnd.

bdchange:


sorry to say this, dis has nothing to do wit feminism or d likes. go tru d post again and u wud find out dey re just dating and not married yet. xo she appeared single to everyone even to her family.

therefore every action taken by her is her responsiblity and not d guy. i wud av luv to ask u dat if u were in dat messy relationship and d gal walks up to u and tell u she is pregnant. wud u even stand to answer for secs. but no need to ask since i might knw ur reply.

am a guy but i will go wit wot mrs chima said.

my dear, your problem happens to be with the fact that they are not married. Well, your judeo-christian background could have influenced your idea of legitimacy of a child that it is only possible in marriage. I am not going to argue that with you since its got more to do with religious disposition.

But i want you to also know that not everyone sees things the way you see them and clearly, the op's friend definitely doesn't think a child is less legitimate when concieved outside of wedlock. He is entitled to his own world view as he could have concieved it out of facts and evidence as well as the common sense available to him.

My dear, it matters not if you know my reply or not! That is completely irrelevant! The point is, like the op's friend, i do not think a child is less legitimate when concieved outside of wedlock. That is the mentality i was raised with. And maybe, that's what's getting me this mad at the nonsense being said here.

PunkyVeer:


And you expect me to reply to an old topic? Nigga, if a thread wasn't created today or at least yesterday, don't bother me with it. I've moved on so ta ta.

And I noticed the shade with the post number thingy. Tsk tsk tsk. Whatever.

bitch, it is irrelevant what you disposition is to the time a thread was created or not. Thank god nairaland works well enough to maintain a thread on the main board of a particular section as lon as that thread is being replied to. And that means, as we continue to open your a.s.s here, people will come on to see the bullshyte you can conjure.

craziebone:


bitch, it is irrelevant what you disposition is to the time a thread was created or not. Thank god nairaland works well enough to maintain a thread on the main board of a particular section as lon as that thread is being replied to. And that means, as we continue to open your a.s.s here, people will come on to see the bullshyte you can conjure.

What's irrelevant to me is your opinion. Now clear off, mofo.

MrsChima:


A few responsible men doesn't represent the majority. These girls are not just aborting all nilly Willy....they have had some male influence in making decision to abort their babies.

"a few responsible men doesn't represent the majority". This confirms exactly what feminism is made of. I cannot understand why a group that is famous or infamous for cautioning the world about stereotype and generalization, should find it so comfortable generalizing and stereotyping all men. If men are that irresponsible, you really think the world would have evolved this much? You think you would be sitted here talking to me right now? You think you would have git the rights you now have which you are begining to abuse and stretch to the limit? You think you, MrsChima, would be alive today?

No body is talking about a man who doesn't want to keep his child,m we are talking about a man who wants the child and him being told to his face he has no say in wether his child can be born or not! Do you know what that means to him? Do you think the instant reaction those guys in page 0 had to your first comment on this thread is born our of the desire to "control YOUR BODY" like you obsessively say all the time? No Nigga! It because a thing in him is denied; its because a part of him has been trampled upon and it is because his place both as an equal player in reproduction and parenthood is kicked aside and the kicking aside of it is done by an obsessed movement back up by some powerful governments the world over. All of what i am saying is exaclty what women feel when the table is turned around as can be seen in the thread i am going to refer you to.

PunkyVeer:


What's irrelevant to me is your opinion. Now clear off, mofo.

ha! That it is irrelvenat to you is not because you know the merits or demerits of it. It is becasue you lack insight, which is the characteristic of very ordinary and everyday people, to appreciate it.

Now you go back to your viberatttor, puuuusyy

craziebone:


my dear, your problem happens to be with the fact that they are not married. Well, your judeo-christian background could have influenced your idea of legitimacy of a child that it is only possible in marriage. I am not going to argue that with you since its got more to do with religious disposition.

But i want you to also know that not everyone sees things the way you see them and clearly, the op's friend definitely doesn't think a child is less legitimate when concieved outside of wedlock. He is entitled to his own world view as he could have concieved it out of facts and evidence as well as the common sense available to him.

My dear, it matters not if you know my reply or not! That is completely irrelevant! The point is, like the op's friend, i do not think a child is less legitimate when concieved outside of wedlock. That is the mentality i was raised with. And maybe, that's what's getting me this mad at the nonsense being said here.

my friend i am not talking about the legitimacy of the child. i pity most gals because dey dont knw dr stand in a relationship. as a gal u dont allow ur bf sleep wit u witout condom or any oda peventive means because u might be at d recieving end at d end of d day. u must av a say in ur sexual intercourse not just d guy.

but most gals fail dis test just because of dr ignoramous or stupidity. if d gal has died on d course of d abortion. its her fault and she will bear d consequences hersef. as a gal, u shud define wot u want in a relationship bfor goin for it else u wud forever be a victim of any circumstance u find ursef.

all am sayin is dat, in a relationship of bf and gf both av a responsibility to play individually

craziebone:


ha! That it is irrelvenat to you is not because you know the merits or demerits of it. It is becasue you lack insight, which is the characteristic of very ordinary and everyday people, to appreciate it.

Now you go back to your viberatttor, puuuusyy

I still give zero fùcks about your opinion of me. You're lucky I even replied to some dusty post you dug up. Now go fùck yourself.

You've just received an official fùck off from me. DISMISSED. Ciao.

PunkyVeer:


I'm making assumptions because it is what it is. Some guys ARE like that. They see pregnancy as a trap. Maybe this one is different or maybe he isn't. It's very easy to claim responsible & "why didn't you tell me" AFTER the fact. However, I digress.

when you tell him you are having a baby for him, it won't change anything since you have already decided to abort the child if he doesn't accept it. What we are concerned about is the puting of the power of wether a man can have a child or not, competely at the hands and discression of women.

When you tell him and he refuses and you know you cannot go through single parenthood alone, then you can abort it! He wouldn't be bothered and you wouldn't be bothered to! Although, i am pro-life in most cases and i do not advocate abortion. But atleast, tell him!

PunkyVeer:


I still give zero fùcks about your opinion of me. You're lucky I even replied to some dusty post you dug up. Now go fùck yourself.

You've just received an official fùck off from me. DISMISSED. Ciao.

hehe! I don't fuuk myself. It seems fuukingg of ones' self is not unknown to you and that means you do it very often. Damn it, i knew it! No wonder i refered you to your viberatttor.

As for me, i don't fuuk women. I MAKE LOVE TO WOMEN. There is a difference somehwere in between. It is your likes dogs fuuk. Men make love to real women and fortunately for humanity, such women are in the majority and you, you are in the tini tiny minority that only gets fuuk, not love.

MrsChima:


No, you don't have a say because you are not carrying it.

he's got a say and there is nothig you can do about it. He's got a say because he is the father, the child is a different person and pregnancy is no disease!

Benignasweety:
plz how wld I go about it?? Am a big disappoint to my parents already bcuz I once had a son. I didn't knw why I made diz mistake twice. I guess mayb itz becuz I felt secure with him cuz of his love for me.. Am confused nd abortion is d best cuz of my parents.

Madam please don't listen to this people that don't know anything about life. Go and abort while you still can, you already have a son for crying out loud.

Don't say I didn't warn you o.