Katastrofy:
There was a thread That made front page yesterday on the topic "We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys,Rape is Real". https://www.nairaland.com/2512044/opinion-ladies-should-stop-visiting
I took my time to go through the Ops write up,it was a nice reminder to ladies to be conscious,and mindful on who they visit but in other words it is actually passing some kind of black list to "Men" and refocusing any lady that reads that thread as " All Guys being rapist" or even making ladies have the mindset that any guy you visit these days will end up molesting you.

To. Some large extent that thread was contradictory and could be misleadin and I really want to correct some mental affiliation on that thread..
I really love where the Op is coming from but at the middle and end of the write up she made some mistakes and generalisation of opinions which is unacceptable..
Firstly, Rape is a serious issue meant to be handled,demonic men are among us.. The ladies should be careful and wise on who they play along with..

Corrections of the Thread

.. especially the guys, they'd probably say things like "she seduced him" "she initiated the sex" "she brought condom along" "no evidence since nobody was there

These statement is a two way thing.. It could be true that the girl actually started the move.. Let's face it, I can tell you the major reasons why men cheat these days is not that they can't stay faithful but the ways in which our girls dress.. Men are move most time by what they see which directly induces impulse to their brains.. Check out your areas how these girls dresses..provocative way without minding, for instance if you in lagos,ph you wll know what I'm saying.. A strong godly man can get loose on seeing such things. When these ladies dress in a provocative way and come visiting, that one mistake they do, and then lay on the mans bed probably exposing other parts, and so on, so many things comes into the mans mind and at the end of the day if they are being refused they could force it on.. So we should also tackle the ladies on the stuffs thay put on and move they make when with the man alone.

This same guys come here to complain about girls coming to visit them with loads of friends, why won't we come with loads of friends when we know there's a condom waiting to be used on.us
Its a good thing for girls to come visitng the guy with her friends just to be safe.. but its also a bad idea not telling the guy or informing him before coming to visit him with your friends.. I mean let's look at it this way, I'm inviting you to my house and the next thing I see is you and bunch of your followers in front of my gate, I will be kind enough to send you all back because I didn't plan for a group visitation.. Before you go visiting know the aims and objectives, you will know when a guy want to have a carnal knowledge wit you before you coming, it could bt through chatting or calls.. When guys makes statement like "I can't wait to be with you when you come" I'm so lonely,wish to be by your side all alone" things like this could tell.. Though there are other guys that won't indicate their intention not until wen they see you..but the mast conversation before coming matters a lot. Yes! And by the way you don't expect a grown man with blood running in his veins not to have condoms in his house when he isn't married.

I have personally stopped visiting guys since 3/4 years back, it's either you agree to meet me in my parents house when everyone is home or you meet me in an eatery

This is your personal opinion and lifestlye.. And remember all opinions are opinionated.. You cant simply wish or inspire other girls to behave or do like you.. I can tell so many girls do visit guys in their houses without having issue like yours. Visitng guys in church or eatery isn't the solution, the solution is be mindful and know when and when not to visit.. People do rape ladies in church or even in the girls house.. There is this real life story of a guy going to visit a girl in her house,when the dad of the girl was upstairs, the guy followed the girl to her room, at the end of the day,the guy drugged her inside her room and had her then left..and again neglecting the Ops opinion, are you telling us for people that want to be serious with eachother should always end up meeting in an eatery or your house only? I don't think so..

Idk what else to say, but i know prevention is better than cure. I pray God deliver us from these animals disguised in human clothing called men [b]

You made a conclusionary generalisation statement here.. Trying to label all men as rapist or being bad ..

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[b] knostbrown01:
You r not ready to have a boyfriend.....the fact that all bird could fly doesn't mean the have equal feather

I wouldn't imagine you will still have a guy you go visit or love after condenming guys generally.


**By The Way (ClassicB) I went through Your Profile, All the Posts or thread Has got something Doing with Guys,If You've Got Bad Experience With a Guy,try as much as possible to deal with it don't generalise on your personal Experience** thanks


In conclusion some of your point was sentimentally written.
All MEN Aint same.. Visiting guys isn't a bad idea,but be Mindful and stop making unecessary advances when your with him because him seeing those things makes it consensual..

God save Our Laides from Bad Men.. Happy sunday! Stay Blessed!

Op, pls correct me if I'm wrong, bt I don't see anywhere in her post where she said "ALL MEN ARE RAPISTS!" Thus if u think she wz generalising, then I can safely say u were generalising too when u mentioned the dress pattern of ladies who live in PH and Lagos. I live in PH, bt I've never liked d dress pattern of most ladies in PH. I find them too skimpy even raunchy. So nt ALL women dress like like dat.

The Op on d said post also mentioned that it wz HER OPINION. She wznt trying to force it down others' throats. U either take it or leave it.

I agree totally with you tho when u wrote that if a lady must visit a male with a friend or friends, she should inform him b4 hand. I personally find it irritating and childish when a Lady toes that line.

All in all, I think we ladies should be more conscious of the fact that we need to take steps to protect ourselves from rape, ranging from hw we dress to how we talk/chat online, to the kind of friends we keep.

I stand to be corrected.

classicB:

I dnt know how to explain, but when we ladies give to our bf or guys we give out of love without wanting sex in return, but reverse is the.case for u guys

Hmmm are you sure about this mrs fuckaholic?

Ngokafor:






....The problem is that the irresponsible men far outweighs the responsible ones..
....That is the tragedy.

Yes.

classicB:

We are talking about emotional torture here, having sex with my bf won't put me tru that okay?? Are u now saying rape is justified just.because it's also a sin as lieing?

Hmmm evidence number 1. I have said it, you too like the thing too much ahn ahn, for you to be following only fuckerholic was making me suspect but now I have confirm evidence.

I'm sure you do the thing 8 times in a day. You need to repent o. It is a sin, because while you are judging rapists remember someone will judge you too for not waiting to be married before taking the sweet thing.

You hear? Madam fuckaholic.

Vyolet:

Some guys are good at pretence,they are so sleek and smooth, they rarely talk about anything immoral beside you,it's either education,business or religion,you trust them completely and feel free,these are the same guys that will turn to monster later.


Second gf? run and stop being nice to her,that's how it starts.

Ok, will do so.

Both the initial post and the original have some solid points. The first post may be a bit over the top but it doesn't make it nonetheless informative.

There are countless cases of rape cases that are perpetrated by friends on friends. In fact, 3 out of 5 rape cases are committed by guys who know or are close to the victims. The initial post also suggests, and I think rightly, that the fact that you are close to a guy does not reduce the chances of sexual encounters. Even more so, when the guy is a person of low integrity. Rape happens even between spouses. Most are unreported because, well the law is lopsided somewhat.

In India right now, the level of rape is is so high that pornography has banned. Intact it is not safe for a lady to visit a guy over there. Is this generalization? Absolutely not!

The current post, while much better, simply delves in with the notion that not all guys are likely to rape a lady. But does it mean that there is still no risk of rape or coercion?, albeit slightly? Generalization? Maybe

The solution to this problem

Guys stop trying to be romantic by wooing a gal and spending money when you are not sure you will get what u want from her

When u meet a lady,just ask her for the amount of money u will spend on her to get her to ur bed.

If she is not interested,let her be.

If she is interested,u can bargain

So that nobody will be shouting rape and u will not feel cheated after spending on her.

I think this is the best solution

Smiles...Brother, even if someone is not a psychologist; normally one should decipher the code of #wrongs....

yanabasee:

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This is the best comment ever! More like a psychologist!

Fact!! seriously noted; ur head dey jawe!! R d girls nt goin to say anything again?

The only way I can read ur text is wen u make it short with an incredible approach to this thread.
This topic ain't static.
but really going through all said an done 'the only thing I see here is same point in different formalities. Yes op mentioned guys...and guys ah trynna proof that wrong saying not all guys.
Where ah we really heading to? its called change from both side...guys

Newcreature07:



Hmmm evidence number 1. I have said it, you too like the thing too much ahn ahn, for you to be following only fuckerholic was making me suspect but now I have confirm evidence.

I'm sure you do the thing 8 times in a day. You need to repent o. It is a sin, because while you are judging rapists remember someone will judge you too for not waiting to be married before taking the sweet thing.

You hear? Madam fuckaholic.

jesuuuuuuuuuu,e yin o wa porju....ClassB,8times a day...Kilode

robinsoncrosoe:
The solution to this problem

Guys stop trying to be romantic by wooing a gal and spending money when you are not sure you will get what u want from her

When u meet a lady,just ask her for the amount of money u will spend on her to get her to ur bed.

If she is not interested,let her be.

If she is interested,u can bargain

So that nobody will be shouting rape and u will not feel cheated after spending on her.

I think this is the best solution

Are u saying....I shud bergain with a lady to Bleep dat hole...More like,Me:hey baby,let's get dis straight I need yha pussy and I will like to knw d amount I will spend on u to Bleep u..Her:R u serious,u will spend$1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000.....Dose holes aint loyal bt I hate rapist like mofedaku....

SirShymexx:


Lol. All women are passive rapists! I don't know any woman who when hor.ny doesn't manipulate and passively force her man have sex with her, even against his wish. You know as a guy, you can't say no to chics when they want that Mutombo - else the emotional blackmail and all kinds accusations are going to start flying around lol.

You lot get too many passes!

hahahahahaha. ...... where did u think the phrase "women are manipulators" come from?
we know how to get what we want. Dont hate.

yanabasee:

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You better shield and remain undershield...
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Used to fantasize my sexual habbits as to banging a girl as if I was insane before I could cum!... Again! It'll make me not last on bed! And I jammed a girl dat corrected that impression!.... Ever since then... Iffa no romance ah no d do anything! ... It doesn't mean I had rape instincts! I take my time on you and u'll enjoy every bit of it... Slow and steady! And one round will likely make both of us to attend our orgasm! Not all men are rapist! I'm an exception to that fallacy!

Yes I have gone hiding under the Olumo Rock. Just like my ancestors did.
No shiyt!!!
You just told us how do it in the bedroom. Am sure the interested girls are taking notes

Nothing wrong with ur fantasy. There are some girls who like it rough also. (Not the rape kinda rough
though)

Pidggin:


I pity your future wife as she is about to marry a dunce.

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You should pity ur worthless self... I can imagine how many times u've been raped and dumped!... I wouldn't pity the kindaf man u will end up with coz he's gona be one hell of a stupiid man! Perhaps one of ur ex-rapist! ugly thing like you!
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You need exposure even tho you may not think so. FYI 1+1=2 is correct only in maths, in the real world things does not always happen how we expect it to.

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Things don't happen the way u expect them becoz u're a lazy f00l... Hardworking ladies don't sit back and expect things to happen... Real Men will find it difficult to marry a scumbag like you... why won't men rape u when u lazy around and be expecting men to invite u over to have a lunch perhaps ur dinner!
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Not all rape victims are worthless hun, in fact no one deserves rape regardless.

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Indeed... In ur own case... You're a free giver! Infact, u deserve to be rape ample times coz u're worthless and stewpeed! You're literally arguing blindly! Isn't this what I've been preaching since morning? To avoid being rape coz none of u deserve to be raped? And a thing like u picked on me simply becoz some idiots raped u and u think that makes u a victim when in a normal sense...u raped them! with ur muscled vagina
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Stop disgracing yourself and displaying your inadequacies.

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Hehehe.... Even if I should degrade my status to a nobody...ur family put together will never match up with me! U're just a used and dump girl...
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You also sound like a rapist, since you think it is OK to forcefully have sex with a girl because she is worthless to you.

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Hehehehe...... and if I should rape a girl.... I wouldn't consider your type, STD infected bastard!
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You are a big cow for even thinking this way.

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Lol.... Some cows are better than you....

DollyParton1:

Yes I have gone hiding under the Olumo Rock. Just like my ancestors did.
No shiyt!!!
You just told us how to do it in the bedroom. Am sure the interested girls are taking notes

Nothing's wrong with ur fantasy. There are some girls who like it rough also. (Not the rape kinda rough
though)

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Hehehe...ya ancestors must have been very troublesome to make Olumo rock their hide-out
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Yeah, but the rough kindaf sex though

adeoti01:
Smiles...Brother, even if someone is not a psychologist; normally one should decipher the code of #wrongs....

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Right on point bro...

yanabasee:

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You should pity ur worthless self... I can imagine how times u've been raped and dumped!... I wouldn't pity the kindaf man u will end up with coz he's gona be one hell of a stupid man! Perhaps one of ur ex-rapist! ugly thing like you!
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Things don't happen the way u expect them becoz u're a lazy f00l... Hardworking ladies don't sit back and expect things to happen... Real Men will find it difficult to marry a scumbag like you... why won't men rape u when u lazy around and be expecting men to invite u over to u can have ya lunch perhaps ur dinner!
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Indeed... In ur own case... You're a free giver! Infact, u deserve to be rape ample times coz u're worthless and stewpeed! You're literally arguing blindly! Isn't this what I've been preaching since morning? To avoid being rape coz none of u deserve to be raped? And a thing like u picked on me simply becoz some idiots raped u and u think that makes u a victim when in a normal sense...u raped them! with ur muscled vagina
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Hehehe.... Even if I should degrade my status to a nobody...ur family put together will never match up with me! U're just a used and dump girl...
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Hehehehe...... and if I should rape a girl.... I wouldn't consider your type, STD infected bastard!
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Lol.... Some cows are better than you....

You are a BIG FOOL! Beast!!! Rapist scum, filthy idiot, Waste of space..

EggovinMma:


Do you have better ideas? Not too old to learn few tricks

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Weeeeellllll........ I dnt think my ideas will change a thing! You're good at what you do... Thing is! Just be happy! That's all! what ever you do... don't do it to please anybody! Tried to masturbate ones and I got one silly experience and since then... Its been a NAY to me!...... Try and keep off it... U'll be happy u did...

Pidggin:


You are a BIG FOOL! Beast!!! Rapist scum, filthy idiot, Waste of space..

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Buahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahha
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You're just a thing! Classless and ineptly below standard! will live u to wallow alone in ur stupidity!

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Buahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahha
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You're just a thing! Classless and ineptly below standard! will live u to wallow alone in ur stupidity! [/quote]

Look who's talking? A rapist apologist c when i said u are a dunce I soooo mean it. Your spew of filth shows your level of reasoning gutter boy!

DollyParton1:

hahahahahaha. ...... where did u think the phrase "women are manipulators" come from?
we know how to get what we want. Dont hate.

Lol.

I always knew women are passive rapists - but you lot just mastered the art of playing the victim card lol.

Only God knows the number of female rapists running around this forum unchecked.

Pidggin:

Look who's talking? A rapist apologist c when i said u are a dunce I soooo mean it. Your spew of filth shows your level of reasoning gutter boy!

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Swerve! go meet ya ex-rapist! He's got ya time! He digs metal-vagina! bush girl!

yanabasee:

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Swerve! go meet ya ex-rapist! He's got ya time! He digs metal-vagina! bush girl!

Lol you came into this world through one, you will leave with your sorry behind through one

Pidggin:


Lol you came into this world through one, you will leave with your sorry behind through one

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Atleast not from a dismantled vagina due to excess raping from street touts!... and I will live long...longer than the oldest man/woman in ur entire generation!.... ... Second-handed girl like you! hehehehehe... Fairly used and dump girl...

Pdggin ..... Its ok... I'm not cut up for this... How are u doing?

yanabasee:

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Atleast not from a dismantled vagina due to excess raping from street touts!... and I will live long...longer than the oldest man/woman in ur entire generation!.... ... Second-handed girl like you! hehehehehe... Fairly used and dump girl...

All your sisters are second hand rotten materials scraps with a rapist junk for a bros

Pidggin:


All your sisters are second hand rotten materials scrap with a rapist junk for a broda

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Hehehehehe...you're pained! Kpele
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My sister's married and have grown up kids! And they're well behaved and well nurtured!
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Ion want to diss u any more! How are you?

yanabasee:

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Hehehehehe...you're pained! Kpele
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My sister's married and have grown up kids! And they're well behaved and well nurtured!
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Ion want to diss u any more! How are you?

Hehheehee no they are not, well nurtured indeed! With a brother like u?! Lol

Pidggin:


Hehheehee no they are not, well nurtured indeed! With a brother like u?! Lol

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How are you doing?

yanabasee:
. . Buahahahahahahahahahaha... You bad gaan!

bros na true I talk na