I don't no y we nigerians see dating older lady as a taboo.am 25 dating a lady of 27,and amaka has been so wonderful,matured,respectful she has been everything a girl of 20 or even 23 wasn't.mate if u love ur lady go for ur lady.darey art alade got married to a lady older than him,and his marriage is one of the best in nigeria.its not about the age difference,but wat she fills for u.a nigerian man can marry a girl 20 years his junior but a lady can't marry a guy 4 years her junior.haba our ladies deserve happyness also na.

Don't do it Youngblood!

My guy steer clear. By the time u get a job and become self reliant you would be swarmed with cuties you know the rest.

just f*ck her and get ur own kids

damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

Follow your heart


If things doesn't work out, you know you have at least tried.

There is no magic recipe to a happy, healthy and succesful marriage. Do your best and if it doesn't work out at the end, move on

damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

Just ff your heart

Please end your relationship with her as soon as possible. These are my reasons anyway
1.She or You didn't tell you or us why get husband left her
2. Although it might be sweet because of love, she might not respect on the long run
These are my reasons

mommysgirl:

I don't know if I should hug you for your comment or tell you you're mean...
The last line is a funny line...

Lol Hug me first before telling me

I'm just humbly giving my opinion ma, on this esteemed forum

MrsPhyno:
Love is controllable and at the same time uncontrollable so
I get it.

Just marry her. Whatever. It's really not that big of a deal, although if you were my brother/son/any male I knew, I would never allow that. But you're not, you're just a random dude out there in the world. So I can't care and you should just do whatever it is you want.

u re not a good person at all...so because u don't know d op u don't care? why open his thread to spit this ur rubbish then? my signature says it all, so am not surprise.

tuna4servi:
Oboy, how old are u? B4 I continue

u obviously didn't read the details

Sugar mumy in disguise

MrsPhyno:

Lol Hug me first before telling me

I'm just humbly giving my opinion ma, on this esteemed forum

No hug smiley, this should do
No homo,





You're mean sha

Reality will take on you as soon as u r married to that lady. Then, you will kno d challenges in marrying a SINGLE MOTHER.

I had been dere.

rawpadgin:
u obviously didn't read the details

I will go through it rite now

mommysgirl:

No hug smiley, this should do
No homo,



You're mean sha

lmao so girls too dey follow do no homo these days? good to know. 14 yrs are too real abi

I will endeavor to be nicer eh, I promise

MrsPhyno:
Love is controllable and at the same time uncontrollable so
I get it.

Just marry her. Whatever. It's really not that big of a deal, although if you were my brother/son/any male I knew, I would never allow that. But you're not, you're just a random dude out there in the world. So I can't care and you should just do whatever it is you want.

na by force to comment??



I wonder why people keep coming to the internet for these kinds of solution. Na d guy i blame sha..

MrsPhyno:
Love is controllable and at the same time uncontrollable so
I get it.

Just marry her. Whatever. It's really not that big of a deal, although if you were my brother/son/any male I knew, I would never allow that. But you're not, you're just a random dude out there in the world. So I can't care and you should just do whatever it is you want.

MrsPhyno:
Love is controllable and at the same time uncontrollable so
I get it.

Just marry her. Whatever. It's really not that big of a deal, although if you were my brother/son/any male I knew, I would never allow that. But you're not, you're just a random dude out there in the world. So I can't care and you should just do whatever it is you want.

If you were my brother, I will tell you to RAAAAN.

Yes, RAN!

First, an unmarried single mother has shown massive poor judgement. This one actually has two.

Secondly, you're just a spring chicken. Do you want to start out with all this baggage?

If you get a beautiful SINGLE girl who sucks your c0ck like her life depends on it, and you still think you love this one, then what more can I say?

You are 26,her husband left her over 8years ago meaning her youngest child should be 8 and oldest may be 10. You should be 16 years or less older than her first issue. Age they say is number but managing wards that aint yours and who are slightly younger than you won't be easy.
No advise we give on Nairaland will change your mind,but whatever you arrive at,do not jettison your family,the least you can do is persuade them to respect your decision. Beside, if you find a good paying job I assure you that your perception of women,relationship and all that will change. Kindly channel your energy now toward self empowerment.

MrsPhyno:

lmao so girls too dey follow do no homo these days? good to know. 14 yrs are too real abi

I will endeavor to be nicer eh, I promise

Abeg oo, I just dey start life, make them no come pack me join
It's good to be nice
Gnite ma'am

sheilak:


Never?

If your husband dies leaving you with two kids, would you still take that position?

What if it were your daughter?

Yes Oga/OgaMadam. Never

To answer your first question: Yes

To answer your second question: Yes

I think what you may not know is I wouldn't let my daughter/sister/any female I know marry a dude with two kids either. So it goes both ways. But like I said its his life of coz

correctyourself:
My guy that kind of relationship is not for younger person like you are to young for such relationship, you may get tired of it as soon as you start working.

Do you mean ‘you'

Heheheh, you want to marry a lady older than you and she has 2 kids already !! ... You , a single man with no kids just about to start life ..... Lol,,, you will regret ... So my advise is this , marry her ,after 5 years come back and tell us your stories of woe , and if your parents are anything like me , they will sit back and watch while your misery in days to come swallows you alive .... Smh

mommysgirl:

Abeg oo, I just dey start life, make them no come pack me join
It's good to be nice
Gnite ma'am

yes yes.

goodnight ma. thanks for the laughs

MrsPhyno:

Yes Oga/OgaMadam. Never

To answer your first question: Yes

To answer your second question: Yes

I think what you may not know is I wouldn't let my daughter/sister/any female I know marry a dude with two kids either. So it goes both ways. But like I said its his life of coz

Sorry ma

I don't think so

It is easier said than done

Life is not set in stone

damostic2005:
Hello guys, I need your honest opinions, I'm 26years old and I'm in love with a 30year old lady. She loves me too and she's got 2kids already, she has never been married as the father of her children left her over 8years ago..

She's a responsible woman as far as I know because she takes proper care of her kids, she's fromAkwa ibom and she's a police officer (Asp) but my parents don't want me to be with her, they say because she's older and she's got kids and because she's not yoruba, that she won't be submissive and respectful to me, bla bla bla.

..I'm a fresh graduate am still job hunting though..but once I get a job and settle down, I'm willing to go all the way with her..

We have been off and on for 4years now..but one thing am sure is that she loves me and her kids love me too..please I'm I on the right path? I hope am not getting myself into trouble? Please I need your candid advise..thank you guys

U want my honest advice?

U are not anywhere near love. It seem like love but I CAN TELL U FROM EXPERIENCE U ARE NOT IN LOVE. I WAS ALSO 25 AND SHE WAS 42 WITH 2KIDS. just enjoy the moment but never ever think of spending ur life with her. Besides, focus on getting a good job and watch how ur life would change.
Ur affection is as a result of ur idleness or fantasy.

Read my diary if U think I'm lying. Dated and slept with more older ladies than my age or younger ones.

I think she gonna respect you. She already does.
But you need your parents' consent.

sheilak:


Sorry ma

I don't think so

It is easier said than done

Life is not set in stone

true dat

holusormi:
Heheheh, you want to marry a lady older than you and she has 2 kids already !! ... You , a single man with no kids just about to start life ..... Lol,,, you will regret ... So my advise is this , marry her ,after 5 years come back and tell us your stories of woe , and if your parents are anything like me , they will sit back and watch while your misery in days to come swallows you alive .... Smh

Yeah

Those are your wishes not the reality

Many married men have divorced their wives who were single, seem to be decent etc etc

MrsPhyno:
Love is controllable and at the same time uncontrollable so
I get it.

Just marry her. Whatever. It's really not that big of a deal, although if you were my brother/son/any male I knew, I would never allow that. But you're not, you're just a random dude out there in the world. So I can't care and you should just do whatever it is you want.

what are you saying

LyfeJennings:


U want my honest advice?

U are not anywhere near love. It seem like love but I CAN TELL U FROM EXPERIENCE U ARE NOT IN LOVE. I WAS ALSO 25 AND SHE WAS 42 WITH 2KIDS. just enjoy the moment but never ever think of spending ur life with her. Besides, focus on getting a good job and watch how ur life would change.
Ur affection is as a result of ur idleness or fantasy.

Read my diary if U think I'm lying. Dated and slept with more older ladies than my age or younger ones.

You missed one crucial point

What about you? Maybe you were the problem after not them