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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by northpole1(m): 4:21pm On Mar 22, 2016
I wont forgive a close friend of mine if he withholds information as sensitive as this from me.. the Op owes his frienf d a moral duty to disclose this information. any dude who trusts women does so at his own peril.Its Bros before hoes.
It seems a good percentage of the girls here are fans of the "mind ur business' movement. this calls their personal lives into question: are you folks birds of a feather? its obvious a good number of the ladies here are cheating in their present relationships

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Kazrem(m): 4:22pm On Mar 22, 2016
Wetin consign you? Is he your blood brother?
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Adelekeee: 4:22pm On Mar 22, 2016
some of the comments shows that some people are heartless or better still are cheat themselves..."dont tell him/let him find out...a cheat will most likely be a cheat...if ur friend didnt find out n she continues say after they get married....I hope u know this will be on u...let me even ask u a question,...if he decides to marry her and he asked u to best him, what would u do.....My advice...plainly tell her that u will tell ur friend that she has something to tell him,...n tell her she has 24hrs to do so...if she didnt tell him, u should....

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Damsexy18(f): 4:22pm On Mar 22, 2016
schumastic:


if you don't tell him, then you are a very wicked friend..just tell him in a matured way and safe him from dating a wh*re angry angry
I agree with you.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Kyllahmc(m): 4:24pm On Mar 22, 2016
rubsaphy:
well, she obviously cares about your friend, but just need want to have fun. Am sure there are several nasty sexual stuff that she can't do with your friend but want to try it with some one else. Well ask yourself, if she was your girl would you want to know she's cheating?
lol whos this girl? see the biiitchy crap u typed! how can you claim you love and care about someone and then cheat on them comfortably? the only valid excuse to Justify cheating is if the other partner too cheats.. bt if he is straight foward and loyal then the girl is nothing but a cheap hrtless hoe.I do believe in mutual agreement.. if you prefer an open relationship where you and your partner can cheat freely then find someone who is also ready for such.. instead of making a fool out a loyal partner.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by greatiyk4u(m): 4:24pm On Mar 22, 2016
martyns303:


I don't know if he has plans of marrying her, but I know that if he were in a position of wanting to get married it will definitely be her, talking based on how deep they are with each other. What I don't seem to understand is that, when she is with my guy she is the most adorable person anyone can ask for, she's like this super decent and loving person. I wish I know how best to describe how decent she appears, we his friends respect her a lot, based on how this my guy carries her. Only for me to find out some really heart wrecking details of her, I don't even want to start saying all the stuffs he said, it would be immature.



She is actually forming the descency since that is may be what your friend fancies, this is exactly what is redistricting her from showing your friend her REAL colour.

Since, your secondary school friend narrated his wild sexual escapades with this girl, it will be logical to advise ur friend indirectly or even directly to step up his game.

One of the major problems men experience with decent looking gals is that they treat them too tenderly like jewel~a reason many of them reserve sex with them till marriage even against her own secret wish....
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by ebyoma(f): 4:24pm On Mar 22, 2016
what a small world...


Op your friend deserve to know, especially with the kind of sexually transmitted diseases that's on the increase this days.
Just do it in a way that he'll catch her red handed in the act.
it'll be left to him either to forgive her or breakup.

Imagine marrying such a woman, what the future holds for your friend.

#SaveUrFriend

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Mann11: 4:24pm On Mar 22, 2016
The probability that your friend is dating only that girl is 1/16. Then, why must she stick to only your friend? Let's do it in a way that nobody looses out? Find a way to also bleep the hell outta her. I CHOP, YOU CHOP; EVERYBODY WINS
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Eteriayaoba(f): 4:25pm On Mar 22, 2016
OP, run the scene through your friend pretending that someone you know that he does not know relayed it to you and want advice. Ask for your friend's sincere opinion/advice to give to this supposed 'friend'. Whatever sincere advice he gives is a clue as to whether to tell him or not.

Alternatively, you might just be talking generally then you deliberately push the conversation to how girls cheat on guys and conclude by advising him to be very careful and investigate even the most trusted, just to be on the safer side especially if it has to do with anyone he wants to settle down with.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Omike85(m): 4:25pm On Mar 22, 2016
op.....if your friend is dear to you...and u know he is serious wv the lady.. please tell him....the earlier the better.... @ those saying he shouldn't..... abeg park well....cheating is cheating.....to hell with love undecided
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Jagabanthelion: 4:25pm On Mar 22, 2016
Monalisa185:
lol...martins....it's as simple as ABC....Let your friend find out by himself....let him be as smart as you were....if you tell him, and the relationship crumbles, I'm not sure you will be happy with yourself.....

when next the girl calls, take her call and tell her that whatever you saw does not concern you...

DO NOT TELL YOUR FRIEND.....channel that energy into making your own relationship stronger!

#cheers
If its your brother's serious fiancee u caught in the same act,will u give the same "its none of my business" advice? Gosh...what has women of these days become? Am not surprised,u may not be very different from the girl in question. Birds of d same feather flock together. Only God can give us decent women for wives in this country.

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by seaga: 4:27pm On Mar 22, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:
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At the rate at which these **** are saying don't tell.I couldn't ve agreed more
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Nobody: 4:32pm On Mar 22, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:


Really?
I dont remember her being a memes person just that she was witty and no pushover... a firecracker grin
Its all for fun sha

Those too...
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by luciouscookie: 4:32pm On Mar 22, 2016
See cheaters condemning the babe. What a world! Na who dem catch dem know ooo.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Monalisa185(f): 4:35pm On Mar 22, 2016
Jagabanthelion:

If its your brother's serious fiancee u caught in the same act,will u give the same "its none of my business" advice? Gosh...what has women of these days become? Am not surprised,u may not be very different from the girl in question. Birds of d same feather flock together. Only God can give us decent women for wives in this country.

look here, mr...give him your own advice and get the heck off my mention... this is a public forum and I'm very much entitled to my opinion...

I see no reason for you to quote me with that piece of shiiiit up there..

MR. DECENT WIVES!

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Nobody: 4:37pm On Mar 22, 2016
Monalisa185:


nope, I will mind my business


How will you feel if you get married to a man and discover later that he is a cheat and your very best friend is aware.

There is no justification for cheating anywhere in life, either you are a man or woman. If you cheat and you are caught, you deserve whatever you get.


Way forward, you have to met with the girl in a public place and discuss with her, her reason for such a behavior, try and juxtapose it with what your secondary school friend told you. If you believe she is sincere and deserves a second chance, pressure her to tell your friend, but try and reconcile the two of them. In short, support her and try your best to bring them together. If you believe she does not deserves any other chance, based on your discussion, tell your friend everything, truth including your discussion with her, that's what friends are for.

P.S please don't make decisions based on your emotions or out of pity.....i.e if she starts crying and the likes.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by yankosbaba(m): 4:39pm On Mar 22, 2016
Shaataap grin grin

Monalisa185:


look here, mr...give him your own advice and get the heck off my mention... this is a public forum and I'm very much entitled to my opinion...

I see no reason for you to quote me with that piece of shiiiit up there..

MR. DECENT WIVES!
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by schumastic(m): 4:42pm On Mar 22, 2016
Damsexy18:
I agree with you.

glad you agree with me on this cus some ladies having been coming for her defence
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by martyns303(m): 4:43pm On Mar 22, 2016
yankosbaba:
Shaataap grin grin


Guy I know this girl personally, I would appreciate it if you would accord her some respect. Thanks man!!!

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by ozoemenaca: 4:44pm On Mar 22, 2016
Immorality Immorality immorality ewooooooo. Her sins would find her out
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Prince16: 4:48pm On Mar 22, 2016
How will u feel if ur decent friend is infected with a STD ~eg hiv/aids from ds same girl.

U already know what to do.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Rejoice5000(f): 4:51pm On Mar 22, 2016
BreadandBeans:
report the matter to the elders of your church
hahahaha
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by bdchange(m): 4:56pm On Mar 22, 2016
martyns303:


Guy I know this girl personally, I would appreciate it if you would accord her some respect. Thanks man!!!

Guy you have received some good advise and even some bad ones but you should do what you think others should do to you if reverse is the case. As for me, a bosom friend is like a brother to me so I always expect the truth from such person always no matter the situation at hand.
So I will tell him plainly without hiding anything but he has the finally decision to make himself.
I will do just that because that's what I will expect him to do if it was the reverse case.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by sevule(m): 5:02pm On Mar 22, 2016
martyns303:


Guy I know this girl personally, I would appreciate it if you would accord her some respect. Thanks man!!!


@poster

You are obviously a VERY BAD FRIEND!!!!

I am surprised that you are even thinking about what to do because your next course of action is pretty CLEAR. Of course you HAVE to tell your friend what you saw. Would you see your friend walking into a pit and fail to warn him? There is an ancient Chinese proverb that says
"Only your friends would tell you that you have spit on your face". Be a friend indeed and tell him what you saw.

And please for heavens sake DO NOT CONTACT YOUR FRIEND'S GIRLFRIEND!!! Do not advice her, do not talk to her and do not meet her! You have ABSOLUTELY no business with her and I have no idea why some people are advising you to talk to her. The only person that has any business speaking with her is your friend NOT YOU!!!

Your friend would definitely be hurt when you tell him, but your friendship would definitely be stronger after this incident because he would know that you are a REAL friend

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by PweetyJbaby(f): 5:03pm On Mar 22, 2016
Hackerjay:
These hoes ain't loyal.
More reason i used to control myself not to trust or love any girl now...
Any gal u see with me on campus is just a friend with benefit..
I will just pretend to be in love and av my way...

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by xendra: 5:04pm On Mar 22, 2016
northpole1:
I wont forgive a close friend of mine if he withholds information as sensitive as this from me.. the Op owes his frienf d a moral duty to disclose this information. any dude who trusts women does so at his own peril.Its Bros before hoes.
It seems a good percentage of the girls here are fans of the "mind ur business' movement. this calls their personal lives into question: are you folks birds of a feather? its obvious a good number of the ladies here are cheating in their present relationships
so does d girl who trusts men. was it only women dat advised him to mind his biz? women hater, you only saw what you wanted to see.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by drewxx88(m): 5:06pm On Mar 22, 2016
bro code... bros before hoes and this is the exact reason that vilifies that adage ,where does your alligience lie...
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Nobody: 5:06pm On Mar 22, 2016
martyns303:
I went to visit family members where I used to stay, then decided to quickly say hi to my secondary school friend who stays in the same neighborhood.

On getting to his place he was drinking a mixture of alcohol, we talked about old times and the future. This guy keeps drinking the mixture so I couldn't help but ask him why he's drinking that at afternoon, he told me that a girl is coming to visit him and he "needs to finish work", he went on to tell me of his escapades with this girl, I just laughed and said he won't change.

Just as I was about leaving the girl called him that she is almost at the gate. I was going to leave immediately since his place is a self contain and I don't want it to look awkward that I am leaving because she came. I was right outside his door when the girl walked into the compound, and for a moment I thought my mind was playing tricks on me. This same girl is a girlfriend to a close friend of mine where I live, this girl from what I know is the decent type, my guy's serious date, whenever she is around we would be like ah madam don show.

Thinking about the details and escapeds this my secondary school friend just told me, I couldn't believe she is the same person. Long story short, I don't know how she got my number, she had been calling me, when I refused to talk to her she sent me a message on whatsapp saying she doesn't know why she did what she did, and that she loves her BF what what.

I have been cheated on and thanks to a NL who was able to help me go through that phase, I know how much it hurts and I don't want to be the one to put my friend through same pain. Should I just keep quite and hope he finds out or should I tell him?


The double standard in relationship is just plain annoying . . . . From your post, your so-called friend have other 'girls' . . . but this one is his 'madam' abi?

How many times have you told 'madam' that her oga has other girls. . . .

I've always said it that the payment for ANY man cheating on me is for me to cheat on him too . . . May the lady in question is the same.

She even has the time to beg you . . . for what?

You can tell your rubbish friend what you saw and he's free to walk . . . good riddance!

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Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by PweetyJbaby(f): 5:07pm On Mar 22, 2016
Hackerjay:
These hoes ain't loyal.
More reason i used to control myself not to trust or love any girl now...
Any gal u see with me on campus is just a friend with benefit..
I will just pretend to be in love and av my way...

cha! Holy mary Check latest phone review and price here>> http://www.obagoblog.com
cha! Holy mary mother of jesus
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by modextus(m): 5:07pm On Mar 22, 2016
Martyns303

Please and please.... I beg you with God almighty ... The one that created you and i.... Please tell your friend... Inshort detailed explanation. In a way it'll even hurt him.. Trust me you'll be doing him a very big favor. It'll hurt him... But he'll get over it.just like you did. He's got you.. So i don't think it'll be difficult for him.
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by Alusioji(m): 5:08pm On Mar 22, 2016
BreadandBeans:
report the matter to the elders of your church
guy ur name na vex?
Re: I Caught My Friend's Girlfriend With Another Man: To Tell Or Not To Tell by xendra: 5:13pm On Mar 22, 2016
martyns303:


I don't know if he has plans of marrying her, but I know that if he were in a position of wanting to get married it will definitely be her, talking based on how deep they are with each other. What I don't seem to understand is that, when she is with my guy she is the most adorable person anyone can ask for, she's like this super decent and loving person. I wish I know how best to describe how decent she appears, we his friends respect her a lot, based on how this my guy carries her. Only for me to find out some really heart wrecking details of her, I don't even want to start saying all the stuffs he said, it would be immature.
if he is really your close friend and you think he would understand, I think you should tell him, otherwise avoid both of them he might ask you y, dat may be a good time to tell him.jst becareful wit news like this. I no a guy who chased his yournger brother with cutlass becos he told him his girlfriend doesnt love him.

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