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Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 9:28am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Oh I know what the ladies like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by franklingud(m): 9:35am On Aug 24, 2018 |
''whether she is working, doing business or not'' What kind of lame idea is this? Is she totally disabled or what? Guys like you are the reason most of our girls are lazy. And over dependent on their husbands or boyfriends. #whattalyf |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by donbachi(m): 9:37am On Aug 24, 2018 |
donbachi:as dis comment,dey in favour of guys...no bashing. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by queenfav(f): 9:39am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Oyindidi:lol.. Exactly o. In my case, my husband is a proud igbo man. From day one he asked me how much is ok for me to sort out my needs and that of the house monthly. We agreed on an amount and he credits my account every month end. Most of the girls here are unmarried and actively trying to get praises from nairaland boys. A man is always proud to spend on his woman. If he doesn't have that's a different thing, then she can support him. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 9:45am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Oyindidi: So are you actually crying now? I mean If your husband is performing his roles & paying the heavy bills, then what do you pay for asides from taking care of yourself. I'm assuming he brings money for food stuffs in the home, Rent, children school fees. Lets note that in the case you pointed, you are actually earning a good pay, so you're not one average Nigerian wife. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by ImaIma1(f): 9:47am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Bluezy13: @victorian. This is the point you guys kiss I enjoyed your conversation. Nothing wrong with a man dropping money for upkeep. A lot of people responding are just talking based on their perspective of marriage Besides, as long as the couple agree and they are ok with it, every other thing is background noise. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by NoToPile: 9:51am On Aug 24, 2018 |
queenfav: Honestly na double TUEH, What then is the role of the man if he can't PROVIDE, it's not like he's out of job or something. She's working or not it is your responsibility as a man to provide shikena. It's the role of the man to take care of his family which includes his wife (because I am seeing people posting school fees food stuffs alone as responsibilities) as if it's only children that he's to take care of. Nothing wrong if the woman works and she also drops stuffs as most families can't cope with the current economy on one income but it's not her responsibility. A man should know it is HIS responsibility to take care of HIS FAMILY, whatever his wife makes or add to that is helping the family it is NOT HER RESPONSIBILTY not knowing this is causing a lot of problems today Those saying women are lazy, Oya switch roles. Oya lemme sound it again IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILTY AS A MAN TO PROVIDE ( this includes everything your wife needs hair money, pad money etc etc ) for your wife and kids. Deal with it, that's how it was, it is and will be. I wonder the kind of men being raised nowadays. Know it's your RESPONSIBILTY. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 24, 2018 |
queenfav: Honestly sometimes It's just better to be a woman in this world. Asides from delivering children & nurturing them, which is a lot of pain really. I think this is just the only hardship on being a woman. Every other thing is a Plus, while you are single, different suitors come with their blessings. When you're married, You have a job, earn decent pay & yet husbands will still give you allowances. Chaii Na wa oh 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 9:53am On Aug 24, 2018 |
pocohantas: I wee nor loose Guard IJN. Amen 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 9:59am On Aug 24, 2018 |
gonkin:Why won't I take it? |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 10:02am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Females on this platform have a record of calling people who don't agree with them 'broke, kid, stingy'. It's time you guys realize that all men aren't the same,this is the 21st century not 1950. There are men who'll place you on monthly salary, be happy for that. If you see others who won't place their wives on monthly salary, don't ridicule them. I can't be cooking, sharing all sorts of chores then you still expect me to place my wife on monthly salary. The kind of comments from you women says alot about you people especially those ones from the igbo extraction. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 10:05am On Aug 24, 2018 |
cruchenutii: How exactly are women enjoying?? Upon all the degradation, subjugation and all sorts of nonsense women go through in Nigeria and other African countries, you still stay women are enjoying. Honestly, how old are you? Well, a typical Nigerian female. I wouldn't expect much. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 10:05am On Aug 24, 2018 |
It depends on ur income. At least 30% is enough (my opinion) 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Huchennar(m): 10:06am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Bluezy13: |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by addictiv(m): 10:28am On Aug 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL: If you read my post well you will realise that I have already empowered her to buy any thing she wants by getting her a well paying job. I believe a woman who is married should be cared for and pampered by her husband. I believe he should buy her nice things and give her funds when he can. But it should not be on a monthly basis and she should have her own role and contribution to the home front. I grew up in a family where my dad and mum are both earning and while my mum uses her money to run the home and buy foodstuffs, clothes for kids etc. My dad took care of the capital expenses like building projects, school fees, cars, travel, during holidays he would take us shopping, as we grew older he started giving us money for upkeep esp during Christmas season and other festive periods, he will also buy bags and cans of foodstuffs some to give out and the rest for the home.. My dad has never come home to hear that there is no garri, or money for soup no de. Cos feeding and clothing (herself and her daughters ) is primarily my mum's responsibility. It doesn't mean he doesn't buy her gifts or gives her money when he wants to. They have their system and have peacefully and successfully run it for years. Bearing the whole responsibility alone as a man will only run you down and Wear you out. For all those quoting Bible saying it's a man's responsibility to provide for his house I absolutely agree but I will also remind them that most women in the Bible were primarily house wive's who didn't work and relied on the husband for everything. Now most women re working and have to play a role in the home. Lord knows I ll run mad if my wife keeps asking me for monthly money for home upkeep when she's earning. Monthly money is only for house wives. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 10:39am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Hanseel1: I'm 3 years old sir, trust me I am. Let it be known to you that even with the issues in Nigeria women go through, they never want to fully embrace a part of feminism, which is equality. At least this threads shows you how women don't want to 50/50 manage a home Financially. Well, personally knowing that 50/50 marriage doesn't translate to Financially alone, they do help in other areas that makes up for their 50%. Issue with Nigeria is, It is hard place to live in economically. But still women still prefer to receive monthly stipends even when they earn higher or exact pay as the spouse, instead of combining forces financially. They rather just collect their stipends & keep their own money. And please, this reasoning is to Nigeria alone, some African countries are actually more enlightened. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Oyindidi(f): 10:39am On Aug 24, 2018 |
cruchenutii:The rich also cry. My own case I don't know how to demand from someone, if I do then I am in a very tight corner. When I got married 11 years ago, I didn't know there's something like family upkeep. I gladly accepts whatever was given to me then and I don't even know what to do with my own money. But now game don change.. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by tunary(m): 10:40am On Aug 24, 2018 |
This question is a wrong question |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Oyindidi(f): 10:41am On Aug 24, 2018 |
queenfav:We need to teach the younger ladies.. Most of the commenters(guys) are bellow 18 years old. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by gonkin(m): 10:43am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Hanseel1:Strong men 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Ayowumie(m): 11:00am On Aug 24, 2018 |
It is saddening reading through many of the comments on the first page. The OP simply asked how much is enough for a wife's upkeep or for wife's personal allowance. Whether an African setting or not, it is not out of place placing on wife on allowance whether she is working on not. To answer the OP's question. What is enough as allowance is relative. It all depends on your income, your financial responsibilities in the house besides the allowance, your view on what your wife can ask you to routinely buy and your wife's perspective on her own finance. addictiv: Well, to each his own. I actually do not agree with the premise of your argument that feeding is primarily your mum's responsibility or should be primarily a woman's responsibility but i do agree with you that bearing the responsibility alone as a man will run you down and wear you out. By the way, monthly money is not only house wives. That is my view. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 11:02am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Oyindidi: You didn't get married 11years ago, stop the fake life. I don't know who you're trying to impress but you forgot you've always revealed yourself on this forum, the internet never forgets. The fact that you and Victorian are spreading lies on this thread, being fake etc shows that you two are more childish than the people you guys accuse of being childish. Your post is fake but I still want to help your ministry by replying you. What exactly do you want? You work, right? so which upkeep are you talking about? Victorian aka alexialin it's enough time you stop living a fake life on this forum. At first you were a 38 years old single lady 2ndly, you've companies, cars and blah blah.. Again.. you are just a lady struggling with your man Now, you're married and blah blah. Oyindidi behave yourself. You two should stop spreading lies on this forum. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by SeriousPartner(f): 11:05am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Be giving her whatever you can comfortably afford to be giving her but whenever you truly don't have enough to give her, she should be ready to still manage your home well, bear with you & make you happy throughout. |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Nobody: 11:11am On Aug 24, 2018 |
ZIMDRILL: You're contradicting yourself. If you should call him a boy because he doesn't want to give his wife monthly upkeep then I'll call you a kid because I can remember when I logged in sometime ago I saw a thread about a lady insulting a man who didn't give her money for cab after date, You supported the man. If you can support a man for not footing all the bills of his date then you're a kid . Now, responding to that line.. Who'd give the man the money required to purchase the beer you're talking about? |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by queenfav(f): 11:29am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Oyindidi:I swear...lolz 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by queenfav(f): 11:31am On Aug 24, 2018 |
cruchenutii:Na so u think abi? Lol |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by victorian(f): 11:32am On Aug 24, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Lol Na so.. Stop reading mills and boons |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by victorian(f): 11:34am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Sop18: By God's grace, he will earn more. Amen. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by victorian(f): 11:39am On Aug 24, 2018 |
cruchenutii: Abeg you go wait first o Let him conclude the pending business deals we have on ground with his top clients, first Biko. After then, u can come into the equation, as long as u have a business plan that sells like hot cake.. That's when he will be interested. If he buys your business idea and see it as a good deal with his rich clients, he will talk percentage with u, which is always 10percent. If u agree?. Then he will tell u what steps to take in making your documentations tight. But first let him complete my own first |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by Oyindidi(f): 11:41am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Hanseel1:Please, maintain your woman wrappering lane You don wash her pants this morning? 4 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by victorian(f): 11:42am On Aug 24, 2018 |
Re: How Much Is Reasonable Enough To Give Your Spouse Monthly? by victorian(f): 11:48am On Aug 24, 2018 |
kaycee125: My dad even gave my mum more when they were both alive. He opened a thriving business. He was the CEO, she was the MD. They made lots of money. She built three houses in her name with his blessings, he built three as well.. And they loved each other so much. Helping their extended families alongside. Men of those days are far different from most men of these days who like to complain on every little thing they spend on.. Especially adding value to their wives. So don't get it twisted. 1 Like |
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