Lol she already said No.

Dont know why anyone would get involved with someone of a certain religion and not know what it entails. To be honest dude didnt do much wrong by her. The wiufe sef accepted her as "iyawo kekere"

ThiefOfHearts:

yet you allowed yourself and your daughter to have naming ceramonies and Imams yada yada by this same faith. Or perhaps you thought it was like the Nation Of Islam. He doesnt have to discuss it with you. Only the first wife, which he did which is why she's cool with it.

Yes, I allowed the naming ceremony because I respected his faith. I don't always agree with every aspect of the Bible although I identify with being a Christian-so what of it? Should I have said "NO! We will NOT have a naming ceremony because I'm not Muslim!" ?
His Christian friends attended the ceremony as well, so it's not like it's taboo to have anything to do with someone of a different faith, lol.

And to make everything perfectly clear-he "discussed" it with me first-she didn't find out about me until she touched down on the plane.

According to the Quaran, he should've discussed it with her first and gained her permission before he even layed down with me to begin with. So again, this is the perfect example of someone trying to bend their religion to suit their own selfish needs(take the 911 hijackers for example). Religion has very little to do with his behavior-trust me.

Another weak woman bites the dust, pathetic.

4 Play:

Another weak woman bites the dust, pathetic.

4play-what makes me weak and pathetic? The fact that a man lied to me for 8 years about his marital status or the fact that I'm moving on with my life after I found out? Maybe the fact that I started a business for this man 3 years ago and used my half of the money to buy a house in MY name while he's living in a tiny apartment right now with a wife and 3 kids.

Yeah, I'm mad weak, son.

4 Play:

Another weak woman bites the dust, pathetic.

Very Well said! This sums up my whole posts about her. I couldnt have summarized it better. Kudos!

@IyaKadijat

I'm the only one on this thread giving you useful advice. Every morning, when you wake up, remind yourself how weak and pathetic you have been and promise yourself never to be used like that.

The first step is to acknowledge you have a problem, you are obscenely gullible and weak. The next step is to address it by telling this man to piss off.

4 Play:

Another weak woman bites the dust, pathetic.

Its too late for the chic . . . 8 yrs wasted with an idiot, with a kid to boot.
Single motherhood seems to be the only option for her. Pele.

IyaKadijat:

4play-what makes me weak and pathetic? The fact that a man lied to me for 8 years about his marital status or the fact that I'm moving on with my life after I found out? Maybe the fact that I started a business for this man 3 years ago and used my half of the money to buy a house in MY name while he's living in a tiny apartment right now with a wife and 3 kids.

Yeah, I'm mad weak, son.

Moving on with your life? What's left of it anyway?

davidylan:

Its too late for the chic . . . 8 yrs wasted with an idiot, with a kid to boot.
Single motherhood seems to be the only option for her. Pele.

huh?   and you are God almighty deciding her fate abi?

rubbish!

ikamefa:

huh?   and you are God almighty deciding her fate abi?

rubbish!

So your vex go help am now?

davidylan:

Moving on with your life? What's left of it anyway?

Sweetheart, I'm only 29-maybe where you're from that's old and haggard, but where I'm from 30's the new 20, lol(thank you Jay-Z!)!

My life isn't over-it's just begun. Sure I wasted a good amount of my life on dude, but maybe it was to bring me to find my true love-whatever or whoever that might be.

Yall need to read Iyanla  Vanzant's "In The Meantime", and maybe you would understand why I feel the way I do. Should I jump off a bridge because this happened to me? Heck nah! I've got so many blessings in my life, I'm starting to lose count. Again, this is only the beginning for me.

Baby daddy can go suck an egg for all I care.

Why are u guys unneccessarily harsh with Iyakadijat?  

From what I can gather, she has moved on , so no need for all this.

She said she was lied to for 8 years (it happens all the time), how is that strange or is it because it is coming out of Iyakadijat mouth?

@ david no it cant, your know all posts cant too

Should I have said "NO! We will NOT have a naming ceremony because I'm not Muslim!" ?

Um Yea. You cant accept what aspect of his faith and not others. Stop comparing the two religions. There are vast differences

ikamefa:

@ david no it cant, your know all posts cant too

8 yrs isnt a joke, i cant believe someone would be lied to for that long and the smoke never cleared.

IyaKadijat:

Sweetheart, I'm only 29-maybe where you're from that's old and haggard, but where I'm from 30's the new 20, lol(thank you Jay-Z!)!

My life isn't over-it's just begun. Sure I wasted a good amount of my life on dude, but maybe it was to bring me to find my true love-whatever or whoever that might be.

Yall need to read Iyanla  Vanzant's "In The Meantime", and maybe you would understand why I feel the way I do. Should I jump off a bridge because this happened to me? Heck nah! I've got so many blessings in my life, I'm starting to lose count. Again, this is only the beginning for me.

Baby daddy can go suck an egg for all I care.

Who's been deceiving you?

anyway like many have said, you need to stop picking calls and all that nonsense. Im sure he has friends thta can tell him where his kids can braid their hair and what not. Unless you like the attention, stop giving it to him.

Uche2nna:

 Why are u guys unneccessarily harsh with Iyakadijat?  

From what I can gather, she has moved on , so no need for all this.

She said she was lied to for 8 years (it happens all the time), how is that strange or is it because it is coming out of Iyakadijat mouth?

Moved on where? Why is she starting these threads if she has actually put all this behind her? Did you get the impression from reading her posts that she has moved on?

IyaKadijat:

Baby daddy can go suck an egg for all I care.

That's the spirit!   The only purpose of your contact with the man must be exclusive to issues concerning your daughter. Any discussion, if at all, beyond that should be quickly terminated by you.

ThiefOfHearts:

Um Yea. You cant accept what aspect of his faith and not others. Stop comparing the two religions. There are vast differences

There are differences-not vast but there are differences. The most vast differences are cultural-not religious. Have you ever picked up a Quaran? You should-not to convert, but just as a study guide-I think you'd be surprised just how much the Bible and Quaran are alike.

Again, even the Bible says we should respect other's religions-even Jesus was a Jew-should I stop believing in Him because of his initial faith?

4 Play:

That's the spirit!   The only purpose of your contact with the man must be exclusive to issues concerning your daughter. Any discussion, if at all, beyond that should be quickly terminated by you.

Easier said than done . . . you dont just forget about someone who's been a part of your life that intimately for 8yrs. She can put up a bold face here . . . what happens when she goes back home and starts to think about the past?
Her daughter is basically like a chain that will keep her connected to the man for the rest of her life.

IyaKadijat:

There are differences-not vast but there are differences. The most vast differences are cultural-not religious. Have you ever picked up a Quaran? You should-not to convert, but just as a study guide-I[b] think you'd be surprised just how much the Bible and Quaran are alike.[/b]

Makes me wonder if you've ever studied both beyond the superficial. they are only "alike" because one is basically a poor plagiarism of the other. Nothing similar about their underlying messages at all.

IyaKadijat:

Again, even the Bible says we should respect other's religions-even Jesus was a Jew-should I stop believing in Him because of his initial faith?

Where did you see that in your bible?
You're even more confused than i thought.

davidylan:

Easier said than done . . . you dont just forget about someone who's been a part of your life that intimately for 8yrs. She can put up a bold face here . . . what happens when she goes back home and starts to think about the past?
Her daughter is basically like a chain that will keep her connected to the man for the rest of her life.

It's not easy but she needs to focus on how she's been used. No point in going sentimental over 8 years of shared ''bliss'' when it was 8 years of deception.

Quite frankly, if she had strong self-esteem, she will be able to get over this man quicker.

davidylan:

8 yrs isnt a joke, i cant believe someone would be lied to for that long and the smoke never cleared.

aight @ topic prolly brought all this harsh words on herself by posting this thread

and trying to justify her actions concerning her babydaddy ,people make mistakes everyday ,it might cost some just a few hours , some months, some even a lifetime

lets hope she learns a few things from all these posts

_{make i carry my twins waka comot this thread ASAP!}   

IyaKadijat:



Baby daddy can go suck an egg for all I care.

If she means what she says, then I have no reason to doubt that she has moved on.

Around here people get divorced all the time,  it doesnt matter if the marriage had been 50 yrs long or 2 months long. If she wants to ignore the dude and only have conversations geared towards the upkeep of her kid, she can.

And yes, she can also remarry at 29,

4 Play:

It's not easy but she needs to focus on how she's been used. No point in going sentimental over 8 years of shared ''bliss'' when it was 8 years of deception.

Quite frankly, if she had strong self-esteem, she will be able to get over this man quicker.

If she had one she wont be posting these weepy threads anyway.
What are we to do? Go flog the dude?

davidylan:

If she had one she wont be posting these weepy threads anyway.
What are we to do? Go flog the dude?

My 1st thread was weepy(as everything had JUST happened then)-this thread was one of empowerment. If you can't see that then maybe you didn't read the post in it's entirety. Flog him? That's something I haven't thought of. Can I watch?

Asd long as a chic isnt Nigerian, that's when you seen the "sweet" sympathetic side of 4Play. I should puke on you

IyaKadijat:

My 1st thread was weepy(as everything had JUST happened then)-this thread was one of empowerment. If you can't see that then maybe you didn't read the post in it's entirety. Flog him? That's something I haven't thought of. Can I watch?

The 9 Millie right  

Uche2nna:

If she means what she says, then I have no reason to doubt that she has moved on.

Around here people get divorced all the time,  it doesnt matter if the marriage had been 50 yrs long or 2 months long. If she wants to ignore the dude and only have conversations geared towards the upkeep of her kid, she can.

And yes, she can also remarry at 29, 

Thank you Uche! If you leave it to these people I should go crawl in a hole and die somewhere, lol! This whole thread was started because I went on my 1st date in 8 years-you'd think I'd be applauded for that, geesh!

IyaKadijat:

Thank you Uche! If you leave it to these people I should go crawl in a hole and die somewhere, lol! This whole thread was started because I went on my 1st date in 8 years-you'd think I'd be applauded for that, geesh!

kpa kpa kpa kpa . . . we've clapped for you now.