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OP sounds like one of these arrogant entitled Nigerian girls who add no value to their life or a man's life.

Imagine, so you had to break up from your previous ex before you even thought "Hmmm. Perhaps it will be good, as an adult, to learn a productive life skill so I can be useful to myself".

You meet a man, and in your mind, he has to demean himself so your small ass self can feel like you actually have value. Na Stink brain dey worry this girl.

I think penis extender devices are the only things that have been proven to work.

Give them a try.

TMKsouth:
200 million scammers and skull diggers who've MISRULED themselves for over 60 years really shouldn't be throwing stones. Aren't you the poverty capital of the world after all? What have you been doing for the past 60 years in charge of the largest oil wealth in Africa since the British left? Your country is an epic and total disaster, not to mention your infrastructure that's why you're menacing in South Africa.

Mandela's legacy lives on in SA and guides us to being better people and achieving economic transformation, of which we all subscribe to. Now what's your moral compass is Nigeria? You basically have none and that's why you're global pariahs. Drugpuppi is not the first and will definitely not be last. I can bet you also dabble in fraud and drug peddling.

This is who you are to the world. Your global reputation. Read and weep.

I'm Nigerian and you know what?
I'm not so egotistical that I cannot admit when someone is right.

You are right.
I despise my country for wasting so much opportunity.
And till today, I despise them for voting foolishly.

No ifs ands or buts about it.

The south Africans said no lies.

Some of us are fools that make it hard for the rest of us around the world who have honor.

lefulefu:
like dat dude who got slapped and got hot soup poured on him by his wife in a resturant ...oh a girl was nagging u for money for hair??
things dey happen sha
ur own money oo

Bruh I go divorce any woman wey try that kain ting with me.
She go no say no be joke matter.

I would make sure it is done in such a way that I will win in court.

We can marry again after the divorce if we want
But na guaranteed divorce each time she try am.

Self respect.
Self love.

Most Nigerian men don't have these 2 things.
They will be collecting insult from woman up and down and be thinking that is a relationship.

The day one shediot decided to try and disrespectfully nag me for hair money was the day She got deleted and blocked. If I give you such a thing, it's a gift, not something you should feel entitled to.

Op na grass for antelope to chop.
Please, keep feeding the antelopes. We like them with meat on their body when we cook them.

fykes:
Stop typing what u know nothing about
I had a similar experience in umuahia 2015 and nothing happend.
I still talk with all her siblings and even father till now.

That is the exception, not the norm.

bignero:
You sounded wise,
Till you had to show the disease worrying you.

Bigotry is a disease.. And it bounds fools and limits them

There is nothing bigotric about calling a bad thing bad.

I love all people, Igbo included. I hate stupid cultures.

OBelz:
So ladies & Gentlemen
What's the most extreme measure you've taken just so you could avoid having sex with a guy?..
For which ever reason possible..

Mine was
it was getting all heated up and I could tell he wasn't taking NO for an answer, so pretended I needed a glass of water and headed to his kitchen, got a knife and slightly cut my index finger, I bled and I stylishly told him I was on my period and I needed to use the restroom ..I could see his face

I don't have sex with men.

But I have done things to avoid having sex with women who have perpetually terrible smelling kpekus.
One of them drove a whole hour to me, but then when she arrived and I smelled something, I told her I was not in the mood anymore so she can be going.

Amotolongbo:
Dowry is being paid by women, not men.

Bride Prize is being paid by men.

@Dear OP, sorry for the loss.
It depends on the tribe and cultural values and norms.

In some parts of Igbo land, the man has to settle all the bride prize and probably have a wedding with the corpse before they can allow the corpse being buried.

[size=18pt]In major part of yoruba land where I come from, no much serious implication.[/size]

The major and utmost thing is that, try to know the in-depth of the cultural norms and values of the land which you are marrying from. Clear all the bills, settle everyone you are meant to settle before taking the bride or groom.
Every culture is meant to be observed and respected. If you find their culture so “barbaric”, don’t marry from there, it isn’t mandatory

That is because yoruba are an educated and pragmatic people.

Igbo culturists would rather dishonor the girl's memory by squawking over how to get money from people and eat on top of her corpse (even by supporting necrophilia), instead of all family and friends (boyfriend included) simply coming together to mourn the passing of their beloved.

There is a time for money money money and there is a time to honor the human memory of someone in unity.
Igbo culturists don't get that. Their greed cannot be sated or put on pause for anything.

I only respect igbo people who do like the girl's family in this story who actively go against the backward elements of their tradition if it makes no sense, unlike the majority who act like slaves to it. If I marry into an igbo family, it would have to be that type.

mamatwiny:
Davido should try and pay Chioma's bride price. Nobody is praying for any bad thing to happen, but it is the right thing to do.

My ppl are not tradition custodians, so if a lady's bride price is not paid and she dies during child birth, the village will just go and take their daughter and bury. She and the child still belongs to her father's family.

This is not the case in other igbo communities that uphold tradition. They will so mess the guy up. They will first of all accuse him of kidnapping and killing their daughter. They will accuse you of every. The emotional trauma and torture no be here. The case may be be in police ooo. Na you go dey beg . Then the community will invite you to come and tell them what happened to their daughter. After several forth and back visit with your ppl, some will give you traditional marriage list that is almost double of what it is supposed to be. When you are done with that, then you do the burial proper. You will be so lucky if you escape with just burial list instead of doing both traditional marriage and burial. This is done to serve as lesson to others

It is who has their time that will be following them to do all that one.
Ofcourse, them go add marriage list to burial matter too.
To chop on top that girl head na wetin dey hungry some of those people, not really the loss of the girl itself.
Sha sha, they must still look for a way to chop that wedding list and every every all together. Eastern igbotics
I respect igbo people who value pragmatism and stand up against some of the excesses of their culture. That is the only way reform of these things will eventually be possible.

There is not a damn thing police can do. They will show me where it is my fault in constitutional law that because someone I like died, I must be forced to do stupid things. The girl was an adult of age and made her choice to be happy.

I repeat, it is only weak, culture-enslaved fools that will allow anybody bring nonsense to his doorstep talkn bout "come and meet us in our village".
I owe no freaking villager any damn explanation of anything, especially when I am not even the one that killed the woman.

Kfed4ril:
You were making sense until you had to bring your stupid tribalism in.

Is it igbo or not?
Truth is truth.

If a part of your culture is bad and predatory, say it is bad and let the devil be ashamed.
Igbo people would rather support necrophilia than to go without collecting that wedding list. Na how they go chop x2 from the matter be their only concern, not that the woman has died.

I am not your problem. Go and reform your greedy, demonic culture!

The older African men are the ultimate simps.

If I were that age, Even though I can, I can't even fathom paying rent for one mgbeke in a house I don't live in.
Because I know how the game is, I already know she will be smashing one small boy in the apartment.

She will only see my money when she is with me and if it benefits either me solely or both of us together.

Funny thing is how all those old men act all surprised when they discover she is using the apartment he pays for to host boys. He shouldn't need to go there one night and be "surprised" about "catching" her. In fact, he should be surprised if she is not.

nwakibe:
In my tribe, no big deal. You have two options. it's either you pay your Dead girlfriend's bride price and bury her in your own community or you allow your in-laws to bury her in their own community which you will not like, especially as you love her and she has a child with you.

Why does it matter where she is buried?
She is a memory at this point and not tied to any location.

Her soul is no longer concerned with the affairs of this realm.
The corpse belongs to the plants at that point.
Why pay so much money to specify which plants the corpse will nourish?

Leave that to the earth to sort out.

I would advise you not to allow ignorant village people make you do something you do not understand.

If Jesus says "let the dead bury the dead", who do you think he would say should marry the dead?

Why are you contemplating the idea of becoming one with the dead?

Even marriage is a matter of till death do us part. No body marries anybody into afterlife.

Tell whoever brings that occultic mess to you to shut up and get out. There is not a damn thing they can do.

Greave your dearly departed and move on with your life in the land of the living in FREEDOM. Abi is their demonic culture putting food on your table?

I can already tell that practice is some eastern-igbotic sounding mess. Na Dem be Dem.

Jainine:
This is getting interesting...


You see, white boys (not the racist ones) actually respect black women, I am not even talking about relationship wise yet, I am talking about generally, the white guys are not brought up to see their sisters or other women as any less than they are, if anything they are brought up to respect and support women. When they meet Nigerians, they bring that same energy into the room, and even if she is always on her guard, she will loose her guard quite easily because most people actually shouting for equality in and from Nigeria do so because of level of disrespect Nigerian men have for women.


Before we make this a debate on white vs black, I should quickly point out what point am trying to pass.

Even when a Nigerian woman, pays her own bill and doesn't beg for money from Nigerian men, they will want to bring her low to the level Nigerian culture set for women, under a man's feet. But when they meet white women they can't keep the energy


Secondly, white boy/black girl relationship or marriage is winning because the white boys do not have the same values and disrespectful upbringing. They adore women, respect them and love them.



All I'm saying and from what op has said is for Nigerians to learn humility and respect toward women. That is the reason for the happy marriages between black women and white boys



Cheers!

Bullshit.
Black women (Africa, UK, american, etc) will be the first to call an overly-respectful black man "weak".
Same way a white woman will also call an overly-respectful white man "weak" and then gradually try to test him with cockuldry to see how far his weakness goes.

The simple truth is, black women expect swag from black men. The swag makes them see the black men as something to strive for.
That's the only way most see themselves getting wet for black man, regardless of what their cognitively-dissonified mouth says.

But any basic white boy is free from that because SHE sees herself as the convincer trying to play ambassador to his possibly racist family, etc.
She sees herself as striving for something....and that is the whole point of female attraction at the end of the day. She must feel like she is striving for something, otherwise to most women, that is not love.

"Love shouldn't be easy or boring" is a feeling they have but are too ashamed to openly admit.
The heart of the woman wants to work for love.
I like to give them work

RealEzee:
Really sad, u just might do most things yourself, love all your kids equally cos you don't want to make an impression that you care only for the youngest.
When you mentioned Liberia, I was thrilled cos of the wonderful memories I had there but sad cos your case is really common there too, I vowed never to raise a family there because of how the society view morals in low light, Infidelity is common big time and that's really taking a toll on family relationship, continue in your deeds as a good husband and father, overtime they will come along, I'm trying hard not to sound religious here but bro the solution is christ, I've seen families get better because of applying the principles of the gospel such as repentance, forgiveness, prayer, selflessness and patience, that's what really helped the families I knew there.

Sweet memories at harbel, new Georgia, Logan Town, sinkor, matadi,new kru town, thinkersvillage, paynesville, red-light area(no b small tin). Sweet L.I.B!

Liberia is like that because it was effectively colonized by akata, who did exactly if not worse than what white people did. The lost can only lead you to being lost too.

Kenplay:
This simps are ruining are our society, the redpill is working but the rate of simp men in the society is still 90%.we need to do something, our society is falling apart. Where is the pride and dignity of the men folks?

A guy doing a public proposal to marry a girl and even publicly begging her to accept his proposal. Men have lost it, the F gender folks are now so entiletled because the knows simps are everywhere.

One just posted this morning about what to do about his double dating girlfriend, I felt like smatching my phone on the floor then I remember its a 50k phone. Men has lost control, the f gender has taken over. We now do the complain while the do the control. In that same thread one useless guy told him to just stick around and enjoy the punna, WTF!!! Is this how low the men folks have been reduce to?

How can a man spend his time schooling and hustling and after he succeded and meet a girl will now tell the girl “Am lucky to find a girl like you", what nonsense, she suppose to be lucky to find and not the other way round. I see men hustling and sweating just to bring the spoils of war of their hustle at the feet of a woman. A man will succeed and abandon his parents and siblings but all his hustling is going to a bitch. What is happening?

A girl will post on social media and the simp cartel will give her 1000 comment and like within 5 minute with comments like you are pretty, bla bla bla even flooding their inbox with useless messages. Where have the pride and dignity of men gone to? What happened to the dignity of manhood? What is happening?

Welcome to the redpill.
I see your eyes got fully opened recently. Initial eye opening puts one in a state of rage.
These are not things we get angry about anymore as time goes on as We simply see them for the constructs that they are.
At the end of it all, men win...as long as he has self respect.

Thankfully, there must always be simps.
This is the law of the jungle.

Just as grass must exist for the antelope, simps must exist to maintain the ecosystem of thots that become food for the non-simps .
Thots need to eat and need a place to sleep in, all paid for by simps, so the thots can be refreshed and have the energy to phuck we non-simps well.
I say non-simp because you don't have to belabor yourself with trying to convince everyone within earshot with all that "I'm an alpha" nonsense. Just don't be a simp.

Except in rare cases, the claim of "I was a saint, he was the devil" is generally how you know the female in question did not learn anything about herself in previous relationships.

No-one is a saint.
Women generally have issues with taking any kind of responsibility for their actions.
Unless she has reached a certain level of maturity, most women get off on social sympathy and so must always see the need to project themselves as angels in every story they recount about something.

This is because to a woman, her social reputation of "purity" matters a lot...so good luck meeting a woman who has done the growth work needed to be able to stand as an adult to incorporate the phrase "I said/did some things I was not proud of(that might have hurt him) and I wasn't perfect..." when talking about past relationships. Some won't even use that phrase even if she cheated.
Must. project. sainthood.

Personally, I tend to only truly have sympathy for a woman when she is mature enough to be real about the role she played in matters.
She can pull that manipulation ish with other people who are ready to take her saint propaganda story.

Yes. How you think is greatly determined by what surrounds you.

Rich people just think differently.
Poorer people think based in limitations.
There are boss moves anyone can do at any time to change their finance situation, but very few people have that audacity and creativity to make things happen like someone who has done it many times i.e rich people.

There are some rich people who, if you took all the money they have away today, they will be back up in no time.

libertyfather:
This is just coming in late, full of regret now

Share your story. Wetin dey happen?

bluefilm:
My wife will be a full time 100% housewife... if she's okay with that.

I don't need her for her money for whatsoever reason at all, so why would I even bother if she's making some money or not?

Thank God for all these work at home opportunities.

She can pick anyone that interests her... again, if she's okay with that.

Her working from home does not make her a housewife.

WORDWORLD:
To what end even if the protest is meant to be a peaceful one?! It will only remain as a protest unless the protest is meant to remove the cabals, godfathers who we think are the sole problem. It will remain nothing but noise making as far as a protest tagged 'REVOLUTION NOW' is meant to be a peaceful protest, that is my point.

The government know very well that it will only result to creating commotion here and there at the end of the day of which no government will fold her hands and allow such to happen under their nose.

If Sowore believe he is the solution to Nigeria's problems he should learn to win the hearts of Nigerians so much that Nigerians will see no other alternative except him. Winning the hearts of Nigerians is his job to do. It is his job to cure the Nigerian of his 'MADNESS' since you have diagnosed it as so and so much that Nigerians will become MADLY in love with him and willingly Nigerians will stretch their necks out for him without fear that it may be chopped down by 'cabals'.

Good! So now you admit that an actual revolution is what you need in your country.

Blah blah blah....so again I ask you.
Is your pessimism why you are LAUGHING at the man who is fighting for you and going to jail for demanding a better country for you and your children? You're not ANGRY about it, you're LAUGHING about it. That is deeply and medically sick.

That just means you are indifferent to your own condition and ungrateful that a person cared that much about you to risk himself like that.
So if you don't care about your condition in your country, why should anyone else care?

A protest is not "useless" as you have so ignorantly inferred.
One of the things it achieves is It raises social psyche awareness that "Hey, you may not know this yet, but you are living like a sub-human and you deserve better"....because y'all really do.
You would have to be either an oppressor that benefits from the degeneration, OR a mentally deranged, sick lover of punishment to have a problem with that.

It is this exact mentality that makes me assert, in very clear terms, that the majority of Nigerians in the country deserve all the negativities that have befallen them since independence. The trauma from years of abuse have made you cruel lovers of your own punishment.

It is a sad thing that mental health is not taken seriously in Nigeria. Too many of you need therapy!

derealj:
I can now see you are not normal

Now he knows he has nothing more logical to say, he has resorted to monkey-like theatrics to distract from the fact that he has been called out on his BS .

All his flighty "woke" propaganda has been defeated by pure unbridled, unquestionable facts and logic. He can't operate in that realm so that's just his way of giving up while saving face.

sexylassie2:
I will just say this and real life evidence can support the facts

White people have built an advanced society than any other race, blacks, asians and others are doing catching up, copying their policies and technologies to have a good society.

I hate to argue about this, but real world evidence says it all, that is why many non whites especially black Africans want to live in the western world.

Even the person calling others coon wont survive for a day in Nigeria

100%! VERY SIMPLE!
To the victor went the spoils. We must Quit crying for the past and focus on the future....and develop our infrastructure so more of us would want to come back!

Nothing should come before Nigerians developing their infrastructure. Particularly power.

jorion:
Says the man who doesn't know the difference between history and religion.

LOL we were talking about history.
YOU decided to bring religion into it, creating meaningless parallels which I countered (India's blue skin gods? why don't africans make Jesus the real brown skin if that is so important?) yet you have been unable to give an adequate rebuttal over.

Now you are trying to back out and make it look like I brought that in.

Now can you see why I said you are confused?

WORDWORLD:
The choice of word REVOLUTION was only well acted upon. Such could have never being a peaceful protest

Okay. so tell me, even if you insist on that being what Sowore meant.

What exactly do you think will be need to happen before your various BLACK godfathers/cabals who you defend (that profit off your perpetual degeneration and that of your children) will let you build that country in peace? Since the vocabulary someone is using to push for a better future for you and your children is the only important thing you care for.

I wish I can show you just how ridiculous your type of thinking is to saner minds.

Descortes:
I thought you are an atheist so why you raising your points with Jesus and queen sheba of Ethiopia the wife of Solomon??

He is kinda confused and all over the place right now.

WORDWORLD:
REVOLUTION NOW. Hilarious how Nigerians changed it or acted upon it. It's All damn funny.

Feel free to address the other points if you like

WORDWORLD:
My dear brother, can the same be said about those who voted Trump by those who would have preferred otherwise? Does it then make them MAD MORONS for exercising their right to choose?

Trump is neither a good choice nor bad choice for americans.

At least one half of american population can say Trump is working for them. Who exactly has APCPDP helped seeing as simple 24hr electricity is still seen as such a complex problem in that country? These issues can be solved by a mere micro-fraction of the money they keep looting. Yet Nigerians keep supporting them and still sees the need to keep voting for the same people without holding them accountable. Without breaking the cycle and forging a new path by going with a newer political structure.

I am not talking about mere "choice" here, I am talking about constantly going back to choose what has been proven to not work.
That is the very definition of MADNESS. Insanity is choosing the same thing over and over again yet expecting change. How many of these old leopards will Nigerians continue to recycle before they realize they are guilty of insanity?

That particular person imprisoned was rightly imprisoned by the government that did beat him hands down in an election. Infact anybody who did not laugh at his STUPIDITY for advocating a REVOLUTION not mere protest can be said to not know a comedian when he sees one.

The man you call stupid specifically made it clear that it was a peaceful protest named "revolution now" demanding BETTER GOVERNANCE.
Revolution = to turn something around.
You Nigerians decided to frame it to look like he wanted to go outside of the election and take power by force.
And I see you are one of the people that laughed at the man trying to fight for you by demanding a better country for you.
I hope you now see how you play a part in the greater problem affecting that country?
Even those that try to fight for you, you fight them. And laugh when they are down. Y'all deserve your country in its current state.

You think arrest are not being made in the United States of America during protests. Should anybody wake up one day in the U.S.A and advocate a REVOLUTION and you think the government in power will seat down and cross her legs and say America is the land of the free, you can do as you like?

How many people were sent to jail specifically for protesting against Trump's government? Get some actual facts in here please.

My dear brother, let us be realistic. If he wishes very well for Nigeria and Nigerians, he should endeavour to learn to be patient and steady fast. How many times did this present President of Nigeria contest and fail before clinching POWER? Is it such a person that is lacking in MATURITY behaving like a secondary school student fighting to be a head boy at all cost ridiculing himself that won't be laughed at like a clown.

You seem to have it twisted.
Is it Sowore you are talking about or Buhari?
Because only one of those people have ever "clinched POWER" through a coup.

And the other had no such intent.

jorion:
You need to listen to felas colo mentality. Now that the white man has physically loosened his grip from you, you don't want to mentally and psychologically free yourself. Continue.

Free myself from what?
Dude , I am way more mentally awake than you.

You are obsessed with the past, and I'm obsessed with the future.

You have enslaved yourself with all these heavy complexes and self pity of white man did this, white man did that.
I have freed myself by focusing more on "What are we doing to move ourselves forward?" (not very freaking much I'll tell you that).

And if you want to keep talking about gods,
Anything you latch your mind on as being utterly and completely responsible for your failure in life, is your GOD.
Stop making the white man your god and move the heck forward already.