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Blueelf:
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With all this, its better not to even Marry. Just live your life alone and be free from man's perfect law. Marriage isn't compulsory and it seems to be the major source of sorrow these days.

Its better not to marry

I read somewhere that in the lower plains of existence, a diabolic strategy was instigated regarding human marriage.
"Let there be marriage, but let there be no perfect agreement in marriage"....predicated on the biblical statement "How can 2 walk together unless they be agreed?".

There is a reason why the family that prays together often stays together.
That marriage thing is best navigated with harmonic blessings from above...from start to finish.

It can't be argued.
Women are a second class citizens in Nigeria. Some women love and revel in it.
Even the elected president of your country can boldly say his wife, who is more educated than him, has no business talking on important affairs and belongs in the kitchen. (She don suffer)

But the EXACT reverse is the case in "western" societies.
Women can basically do whatever they want that their personal stamina can carry, along with the added advantage of generally getting preferential treatment over men in any courtroom.
These societies in fact still absolve women from certain responsibilities at the expense of men.

So what more equality do they still need?

Whenever I have time to seek to understand this request, all I ever hear are rote, cookie-cutter keywords like "the patriarchy" and "inequality" or "there's just a lot" without them actually honing in on what exactly they want to see happen, so that it can be determined if that thing is actually fair or if it is just as absurd as the male equivalent of wanting "every woman who passes me on the street to call me her supreme emperor".

If life is unfair for anyone in these western countries, it's for the men.
Women have the freedom to choose which life they want to live without anyone calling them "pathetic".
Men have no such option without braving the societal and spousal insults headed their way with speed.
That is when they hit him with the "A real man"-isms. Yet in these same societies, nobody says "A real woman...".

My questions regarding women seeking for yet-more "equality" in 1st world societies:

- What else do they feel is missing from their equality experience? Hard facts please, not hand-wavy, regurgitated nonsense.
- If they themselves actually know what they want?
- If they get what they want, would they like it, or would they want to give it back immediately due to its side-effects?
- Is it a request against society or a request against biology?
- Is it something you have no strong opinions on but feel you must do because you see certain feminist groups (with different agendas) doing it and so you feel you must tag along like a school of fish?

One common trait in every "movement" is that when its main aim has been met, such a movement will still strive for relevancy.
Even if it has to manufacture phantom problems to fight against, because their relevancy is how they get funded.
I sometimes wonder if the feminist movement in these western societies is just that.

cococandy:
I’ll say that on the basis of equality and fairness, things are better for women here than it is for women in Nigeria (my personal experience. Anyone feel free to disagree please) but women here still have a[b] loooong way to go in achieving real and true equality[/b]. And it’s awork in progress. It took thousands if not millions of years to build the patriarchy, I don’t expect it will be dismantled in a few decades.

Why people think that women have overrun America (or the west as most ignorantly call all 1st world nations) is because for those who benefit from the oppression, equality seems like they are being cheated of their birthright. And they don’t know how to adjust to a world where they have to treat others like they want to be treated.

Let's delve into this more.

Why do you think we still have a long way to go in the west before true equality for women? This discussion warrants its own thread https://www.nairaland.com/5863788/why-women-west-still-say

I have always wondered what the point of a pharmacist was when every little thing still requires a doctor's prescription anyway.

They are basically just like the other store clerks who get paid minimum wage.
I don't use those either. I either order online or use a self-serve kiosk if I'm in a hurry.

No matter how long you've been dating, learn to always be ready to hit a bitch with these lines:

"Hey look. I can tell your heart really isn't in this thing we are trying to do together.
Given your behavior so far I feel it is best we take a break." and that's if you were actually dating exclusively or courting.

You should have hit her with that the moment you realized she was talking to your friend but not to you and your friend became telephone for both of you.
That's a very upfront move on her part that you are no longer important. Nigerian men tolerate too much BS.

All that extra stalking you were doing was unnecessary and beneath you as a man.

Ogaonos:
op frm wat u have written something jux came to mind does these laws apply to same sex marriage.if a lesbian divorce.who will collect d property Nd who will get d child support

The general rule of thumb in western cultures is:
In family affairs, the brokest person and/or the person in the most feminine position always wins.

Even same sex couples must have a masculine and feminine dynamic.
A man staying home for years being a house-husband while his wife pulls in all the money, is also feminine.

This is why it is asset suicide to get with a spouse who has no plans of being financially relevant here.
All they need to do is marry you and they become your problem for life.

Whether you divorce them, or they divorce you, or they cheat, it doesn't matter. The end result is the same. You will pay for being foolish enough to marry a financially irrelevant person.

A girl can claim to be a virgin.
That does not mean she hasn't been sitting down on the largest and widest cucumbers she can find.

Some "virgins" have cunts better paired with baseball bats than actual human dicks.

Weak fool.

O boy. Una never check say Trump don ban una?

pDudd:
The door won't be closed forever. It will open after election season.

That is assuming Trump doesn't win.
More white people than you know support and love that man.
They will vote for him undercover yet act like they hate him for social browny points.

Trump is the outlet to their inner white rage against other races.

None of this matters as Trump has sha closed doors to Nigerians from entering his country.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
that fine, yellow girl on nairaland you had a thing with?

I'm sure she's fine

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
how's Staicey

Who is Staicey?

3 and 6 can get it.

But we will go on diet and gym together for her health.

Wife, absolutely. I take care of what's mine. There's something called washing machine.

Girlfriend, never. That's not mine, it's just my turn.

Wife, absolutely. I take care of what's mine.

Girlfriend, never. That's not mine, it's just my turn.

pDudd:
It all depends on who raised the girl.

If she had a black mother and white father, she will be just like the AA women I wrote about.

If she has a white mother and black father, she will act more decently.

Black mother white father has more of a better chance of not being as ghetto though, because at least then it his highly unlikely that she grew up in the hood.

jawalis:
Sadly. They are the best. Especially the light complexion ones. When a fair complexion lady is Tall and slim with nice ass. She’s close to perfection. If you never fvcked a babe like that, you are still in darkness. Actually I don’t do dark skin babes. Gosh! The cunt will stink.
Have you ever seen LALA ANTHONY or even BERNICE BURGOS in pictures or on movie stages? You’ll understand better.

You know you are being silly, right?

The last 2 pussies I interacted with were beautiful, thick, dark skined babes and they always smell fresh like cocoa butter.
A girl's hygiene has nothing to do with her skin shade.
Dark skin is actually my preference. Light skin is overhyped.

Scientists:




Please, nairalanders, Is it possible to make Heaven when following these girls?

I don't follow any instagram thots because it's just unnecessary sensory overload for a man and you can't do anything with what you are seeing.
Instathots are distractions. By the time you have spent time lusting after those many daily video updates, what time and energy will you then have to do serious things?

Nothing do you.
Last last, life is about passing on your seed.

However long they grow before you are done with life is not important, as you have already passed your seed forward.

ubunja:
because white people are more beautiful

Lies.
My dick doesn't even get hard for white women no matter how societally cute they are. Pasty white skin is especially nasty.
Black women all day.
There's just something so primal and sexy about dark skin.

arazanbal:
abeg dis division 2 game does it consume mb when playing it?? because i know it online game

Ofcourse

She must use I'm or I am... Not Am.

Her character AND potential to be financially relevant/responsible.

humilitypays:
Young lady stop believing that crap, it is all lies peddled by ladies who failed in their marriage by choosing the wrong guys out of their selfishness and greed!!!


Lots of ladies I know married to Nigerian guys living in Nigeria and abroad are all enjoying their marriages to the fullest....stop believing nonsense stories told online.......go into your own marriage with joy and expect the best and forget people talking nonsense and the process of having a wonderful marriage start with who you chose to marry......don't marry out of selfish reasons and greed....marry for genuine reasons....marry who you believe in and strong believe in his vision and goals....work with him to build that goal....stop marrying out of greed and you won't be crying that your husband is treating you like a slave, where does this even happen today How many married ladies in Nigeria of today are being treated like slaves like you guys are forcing us to believe

When even nigerian house wives have house maid, cook, etc.

Eniolakiite:
yea right...

I will never really understand why you will be okay with someone you love acting like a slave and you're pleased with it.

Many marriages are just slave trade really.

Men who think like that are their own problem.
Nothing wrong with cooking, cleaning, washing for one's wife and family.
if the wife is a full time housewife. then obviously less so as that is her agreed upon contribution to the family. (personally not my type of woman)

I do feel like a lot of marital issues arise from lack of humanity.
But man, I have encountered and ghosted some women who I feel sorry for whoever marries them.
Utterly irrational.

May the irrational continue to find themselves and marry fellow irrationals.
They need to keep their poison within their community

Plead:
If women in USA are as powerful as folks on this forum project them to be,the US would’ve had atleast 2 or 3 female presidents.
Unless they’re saying the women are powerful only at the homefront or family level. Such power is technically useless.

Women are always complaining about maltreatment in USA yet nairalanders(some have probably never been to USA before) want us to believe everything is rosy for the female folks in USA.

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Pansophist
Pdudd
Lefulefu
LordKO
Pocohantas

First of all, understand something.
The laws in place in the west were setup by white male simps due to feminist pressure.
White men are generally spineless when it comes to their wives.
I like the idea of feminism, but it's implementation in many accounts is lacking.

Secondly, You say "family power" is useless. That shows you lack understanding.
"Power" is not about who is in power. Power is about who controls who is in power.
Like the old saying goes, the man is the head but the woman is the neck. The neck will always control where the head points.

Women are smart. Being the neck means you can rule without necessarily having to take responsibility for your rulership choices when things go sour.
Through incompletely thought through yet suggestive requests, these men in power figured it would be good to allow certain laws.
Women and children first has always been the motto. Men have always considered themselves expendable.

They felt like knights in shining armor after creating these laws because who wouldn't want to "protect women"? In so doing, laws that were meant for one thing i.e protection from physical abuse blah blah blah, have been abused by these same women to one-up men in any domestic dispute that happens.

Even look at the naming of some laws. VAWA...Violence Against Women Act...not Violence Against Spouses Act. That shows the intent of these laws and their originally altruistic intent. But as lawmakers never learn, before passing laws, always think about how that law can be abused, and make adjustments accordingly. Sadly they did not tackle these adjustments fast enough and now an entire industry has been built around the intimidation and oppression of men through divorce thuggery.

Whenever an industry has been built around a societal failure, that failure then becomes harder to rectify due to special interests.
Just look at the diabolic persistence of the generator industry in Nigeria as a result of the government's failure to buildup its infrastructure in time.

The only way to truly be safe as a man of his own accord in the west is to simply not marry and to not live together with a woman long enough for common law to kick in. That last one is something not a lot of guys know. Common law is also a nasty trap as well. The way it is set up in the US, women should be the ones paying men groomprice to marry, because they basically can take everything from you if they wake up one morning and are tired of you...even if you have proof that she cheated. There is a saying, "It's cheaper to keep her".

To the matter of prenup, yes it is very helpful, but only if you already had some assets from before you married her.
Because after you marry her, any new assets are within her grasp. Prenups are not bullet proof though and many family courts do throw it out the window, and all she would have to prove is "He made me sign it under duress" which, if she has a good lawyer (who you would also likely be paying for), could probably be "proven" on some esoteric and weird level.
Also, if you ever want there to be a penalty for your spouse cheating, a prenup is the only place to define that. The family court will not factor in that she cheated when raping your wallet and giving her your house in the event of a divorce.

However if you must marry, Honestly, the best strategy for western marriage as a man...

- Marry a woman who has and makes her money on the same level as yours or more.
- Never take on a woman as a financial project.
- Encourage her to always think on what to bring into the union as supposed to just what to take because she is a woman.

This will mean a more fair resolution in case things break in the future.
That is the only pure way to not get ganked as a man in the West.

"I am a woman and a real man would xyz blah blah blah" Is an old, cheap and outdated trick used on easily manipulated men, and women know this.
Your wife too should also buy you gifts not just one way. I saw a video of a woman surprising her loving husband with a brand new Tesla. No be human being like una she be?

XhosaNostra:
They usually have very shapely legs though Each person's taste is different. I fux with white men's bodies, especially the bulky rugby type

You're talking about the men.
I don't look at men.

The women look like kpansh.

Spman:
I always try my best i don't just know what's wrong why i haven't overcome this.

And she is d type that doesn't fancy pre-intimacy stuff..

M just fed up don't know what to do again

Sounds like you are both not sexually compatible then.

Sex is not ust about the woman.
It's about you too.

If you need pre-intimacy and she is not willing to engage in that, then that's not your woman.

XhosaNostra:
None.

I don't know how to explain the mouth thing, but the only way I can describe it is it looks gluey. I've noticed it in every single one of them, male & female. Maybe it is dry mouth, IDK.

They don't even have lips, so what would you even be kissing?

White bodies are unattractive to me for any sexual interaction.

- No lips
- No hips
- Longback (i.e no ass)
- No melanin...pale, tasteless white flesh with no flavor.

Ishilove:
This is very amusing, and a tad exaggerated.

Okay fine.
Maybe the man can be #4 and furniture #5.
That's as far as it gets