₦airaland Forum

jorion:
And this is the truth about everything. This is the reason why Africans cannot think critically without mentioning the white man this or the white MaN that. Nonsense. What is so special about the white man?

That's neither here nor there and is actually a shallow perspective.
Jesus took on the physical shell of a brown skinned Isrealite, not a white man.
We are not worshiping what skin tone he came to earth with, but God himself.

What white people decided to do to his skin tone is their own problem.
Why do black people in turn not darken the skin tone back to the original, if skin tone is that important to you?
Why are you waiting for a white man to darken the skin tone for you if it is such a big deal?

Last last, skin tone of the deity you worship is not an excuse to still think like MAD and irresponsible people.
Indians also worship blue gods, but are not as foolish as africans because they don't have blue skin.
Foolishness goes deeper than the skintone of the god you choose to worship.

jorion:
As I said, I like balancing the scale and I don't try to justify my wrong doing with the wrong doing of other. That's why I am simply advocating for critical analysis in sub continent of Africa. You said Africans should take responsibility for their actions, I can't say it any better. After that, then what?

1) Hold your governments accountable.
African countries are the only place where governments do not fear their people.
You complain that they loot, yet you know where these black fools live.
You need a revolution, and the white man won't do that for you.

2) Stop voting like fools.
Even the basic non-violent revolution option called voting...Nigerians still vote like utter and complete morons.
For how long will you continue to cycle APCPDP? These guys are all manned by the same despots who were in power in pre-colonial times.
Old leopards do not change their stripes. It is madness to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect change. Nigerians are, by definition, MAD. This has nothing to do with white man.

There was a man this past election that every non-MAD Nigeria should have given a shot at the presidency.
The same man that called for a protest but was imprisoned by the government for doing so.
Would you believe that MAD Nigerians were laughing at this man while he was in prison?
Someone who left his posh life in New York to come fight for your rights to be treated like human beings by your governments, gets imprisoned, and y'all LAUGH? That is exactly the type of shit-eating madness that infects the brain of the majority of Nigerians.

No freaking Nigerian can tell me white man is your problem today.
Nigerians at home deserve everything they are going through today as a result of their own MAD actions.

jorion:
OH boy, we have another one. Okay, after all that stealing and looting, where were the money sent to. I am in no way trying to say that black people are not culpable because they are. For example, the Benin kingdom were killing black people as for human sacrifice, a lot of African chiefs readily sold other Africans as slaves. That's a fact that the black man is equally as cruel. The only difference is that the black man finds it extremely appealing doing it to his own race. And that's simply disgusting. Funny how many of the uncouth fools believe that the white man is superior. No disrespect, I'm just saying that the uncouth fools are the ones who are constantly demonizing the black race while uplifting the white race.

Meh. White people have also been cruel to themselves as well.

I don't "uplift" the white race. I don't even think about the white race that much honestly. They have their own problems and we have ours.

I see things for what they are without emotionalist bullshit...Black people always pointing at everyone else but themselves as the cause for their problems.
With all the oil money from independent Nigeria, your president is still taking loans everyday from China/etc to do basic infrastructural things they refused to do before. Yet someone has the audacity to blame white/green/yellow ppl for their state in life.
There is very little the white man as has done with us that did not involve an exchange of money. Question is, who ate the money?

Also, Madueke and co looting money and taking it instead to other countries, are you seriously blaming white people for what Madueke decided to do and where she decided to stash it? Why did the black fool herself not decide to invest the stolen money in africa? Do you even listen? Did I not just tell you some of those loot was siezed by whitefolk because it was just wrong even to them and returned to Nigeria? (stolen again ofcourse).


And that is exactly the problem...

The psychological effects of continued external blame is that, even though it feels good (it's not my fault), you strip yourself of your own power and corrective agency. Because you keep telling your subconscious that it is "someone else's fault". You perpetually build the animus complex of powerlessness within your psyche.

All because one is too chicken-shit to OWN and take FULL RESPONSIBILITY of where one has ended up in life.
Now expand that negative animus psychological reality across multiple people, and that has become the psychological make-up of black Africans.

Level up your minds and stop wallowing in the mud already.

jorion:
LOL, who didn't. What do you think those hundreds of African children that are being secretly flown to Europe periodically are used for. Secondly, not all African cultures indulge in human sacrifice. Thirdly, the spartans used to kill all their weak babies and children because weakness is an abomination. At least, if you are going to demonize such act in Africa, learn to balance the scale.

Hey, what do you think the Jeff epstein case was all about.

How did Europeans bring Christianity to Africa if the first organized Christian churches were in Africa. Lol. If you know what I know about European Christianity, you won't bring that up. Go and read about the crusades and see what Christianity is truly like.

Ahhhh. The civility part. With the white man's boot on the black man's head. Gotcha

There is nobody's boot on Nigeria's head now.
Doesn't stop us from acting like uncouth fools tho.
We gained independence around the time South Korea did. Compare our age mate to us today.

I guess you are going to blame the white man too for a person like Allison Madueke stealing 20 billion USD and not a damn thing done to her.

Keep in mind that the same whiteman you love making a god of your destruction is the same ones who gather some of those stolen assets from our BLACK leaders and send them back to Nigeria....which ofcourse has been stolen again. Just recently, another big white country sent some assistance to Nigeria for Covid, but they knew the drill. They had to set structures in place FOR US so that the thing they are given doesn't end up just being pocketed as per usual. That tells you even white people marvel at how corrupt black people are. It's embarrassing that we still have to rely on the white man to wipe our own damn asses.

Evil has no color. Stop over-romanticizing black people as saints.

My stance on every matter is: first remove the forest in your own eye, before you remove the dust in someone else's eye.

If black people are really as saintly as you try to push, then Nigeria would have gotten somewhere since 1960. Instead we retrogressed and things are worse off.

derealj:
The problem I have with these people is that the history they are regurgitating was still written by the white man in their own language and letters none of them was written with any African alphabet and they are swallowing it hook line and sinker and still claiming superiority. The black race was never brilliant and it's still showing till today. Whitewash them all you want, the fact remains that the world would still be in the stone age without the westerners. The good health care, tech devices they are using to come here to yap, the organised sports we enjoy, the convenient means of transportation, modern architecture, even our barbaric way of life was changed by the westerners. Yet some lots are here telling us about the history they don't know when and in what alphabet it was written. I pity those who don't want to embrace the truth so we can progress.

Africans that were still doing human sacrifice to their gods. Heck, they still do that shit now. Even the slavery some black idiots like to jump on band wagons to cry about already happened in Africa and in fact is still happening today. Money exchanged hands.

When you see a foul woman beating up the 7 year old house girl for being a child, what the heck do you think that is

I for one am happy that they brought Christ and civility to Africa.

GeneralPula:
Life would be good..

They stole 70% of what they’re having today..

They’re the biggest thief in this whole world.

There is still a lot of resources in Nigeria right now even with all this stealing. Oil was the last to join this list of resources.

Why did oil not work for you?
Ask this question and you will see your problem is us as a people. We are cowards and arm chair warriors.
Your leaders sell the resource, and instead of using it to better the land like Dubai , decide to eat it and leave their civilization to rot. And we do nothing about it. Not a phucking single thing. In fact, like utter phucking morons, we vote for the same thieving APCPDP leaders all over again and hail and defend them... While laughing at potentialleaders who actually want the best for us when they are imprisoned e.g Sowore. Nigerians are complete and utter phucking morons.

It is not the white man's responsibility to wipe your ass and think for you.
They have their own civilizations to worry about. They have fought and largely won their own wars. What have we done since Independence? Did things not even get worse?!

We must hold ourselves and our leaders accountable and stop all this b*tching about white/green/yellow man. It is the passtime of idle, clueless and pathetic minds.

Ilamina:
My jamaican friend said the world will be a better place without white people

Tell that pot smoking ganja man to shut up.
Look at every country run by black people and what do you see? Nigeria is an independent country where one woman will steal 20 billion USD from government and nothing will happen to her. Still yet no infrastructure any where. That can't happen in any white government.

I'm sorry but the majority of our fellow black people are chaotic and backward as Bleep. Majority of us don't think far enough to adequately plan out a thriving, modern civilization.
It's not the most feel good thing to say, but I am merely a speaker of facts. This is the sole reason we all run to these white countries when we get tired of our own backward selves.

That's actually very good.
I love that.
Finally, I will soon not have to be ashamed of the mountains of garbage in the streets when I bring my American friends to Lagos.

ChristoBam:
I blame the Democrats that supported Biden for the presidential bid. US politics is just too similar to Nigerian politics. Out of all the Democrats available, how was Biden the best option? I have no doubt Trump is winning this election.

As in. There are no strong Democrat options.
And I think God just wants it like that.

Partly because the left tends to allow degeneracy in their land.
And also partly so everybody can start to get serious with their own country as opposed to always thinking about running away. How much insult can we take?

Some of the effort we put into all these Yankee/jand matter running matter, if you put it down intelligently in our land, we will go far collectively.

These things affect also the politicians in Naija who like to run out of the country for every little thing. I can feel God saying it's time to get serious with dealing with ourselves. It will never happen if we run away.

scoundrel:
If these stories were true we'll see the videos litter the internet. So far we've seen nothing. One male friend of mine slept with one of these Dubai returnees. As she peeped that he was a bachelor she refused to leave his life, officially becoming his mistress for two straight weeks before he tired and threw her belongings out. She claimed Arabs were evil humans who enjoyed degrading females apart from those of their race, but said porta potties and bestiality were unfounded myths likely created by jealous white men.

Clearly you just don't know how to search the internet.
You don't even need to enter dark web to see them sef.

Also do you really think a woman who ate shit and sucked dog cawk for money would admit to you that she did those things? You clearly do not understand your own gender . She doesn't want you to be throwing away all the spoons she uses In your house

I bet you they weren't forced to.
They CHOSE to sleep with the dogs for money.
So what exactly are they complaining about?

She hasn't even spoken completely.
I know they are also eating shite directly from the hairy asses of those filthy Arabs too. Disgusting creatures those oloshos. Utter f*cking disgrace to humanity them sluts.

They clearly love the abuse.
*Spits*

cococandy:
I corrected my post. It’s 6 going on 7
I don’t know where I’m rushing to.

Keeping an open mind about the sex I guess

When I was younger I thought it would be a bad marriage if the husband and wife don’t have sex everyday. Cos you’re supposed to be attracted to each other all the time bla bla bla.

But you grow and learn each other. And you realize that if you’re both happy and content, whatever route you took to get there even if it doesn’t fit the ideal romance is a good one.

Very true.
Na all these "suppose to"s dey destroy marriage upandam.
Marriage is a matter of anything you see you work with.
So long as the other person is not being intentionally evil.

They are practicing self-love. Let them flex the belle in peace

TWoods:
Not true. Many people earn in that bracket easily as starting salaries.

Take into consideration that LOCATION plays a key role in which minimum number you would get matched with.

E.g you might be thinking 150k USD is an easy get for a place like San Francisco, but the limit for that place could be $250k. You really cannot base all your time and money moving onwards expecting that as a starting salary. Also the people who tell you that are probably talking about "combined compensation" i.e with stocks etc, and not base salary.

Then consider the fact that these companies then have to play and wait on the h1b gamble for you that has been made longer to discourage them from even thinking about getting into the trouble of hiring you.

Not saying it's impossible, but you have to be on some legendary stuff. It's not a sound plan.
In All these things, na marriage still sure pass if you are bent on yankee. I also have a strong feeling that Trump will win again. So it will not be wise to initiate expensive plans based on that man leaving office anytime soon.

They aren't allowed in military only because it inhibits athleticism. Flat foots aren't very good runners for example.

Also it must be said that Nigerians are idiots. Trust them to package it as yet another lie to use to oppress the poor women in the country. As if men don't also have flat feet.

Golan007:
Wait for the mumus about to tell you this is about making Americans first in everything.

Lol

If you had US plans, just redirect yourself.

Trump cannot make immigration all the way illegal so now he is bent on making it impossible for companies to even consider hiring you after school.

A minimum wage of $150k (up to min 250k depending on location) means you would have to be executive level in some companies in order to even get a H1B.

Either stay in naija and don't waste your USD school fees, or plan for somewhere else.
You don't want to place your life on limbo.

Don't die on that US matter. Try to succeed where you are.

The Trump administration is considering a proposal to require companies to pay foreign-born scientists and engineers in H-1B status a minimum wage of $150,000 to $250,000 or more a year, depending on the job title and location. Several sources have confirmed that individuals most opposed to immigration in the administration view the coronavirus pandemic – and a 30-day review of temporary visas contained in the April 22, 2020, presidential proclamation – as their best chance to prevent the vast majority of high-skilled foreign nationals from being allowed to work in America.

The H-1B restriction under discussion is to prevent, at minimum, the entry of H-1B visa holders who are not paid at the highest wage level – Level 4 – under the U.S. government’s prevailing wage criteria. Employers already consider the federal government’s system not to reflect market wages, and are concerned it will prevent them from employing the tech talent needed to work on digital transformations for U.S. companies and assist in the country’s economic recovery....[read more]

https://www.forbes.com/sites/stuartanderson/2020/05/21/trump-minimum-wage-for-h-1b-visa-holders-could-reach-250000-a-year/?fbclid=IwAR0JAvap4My900Q7I6tHlOKDFPE03dRTHAvRxaP7hYEX_LW9Ik75GnV5MyQ#270fd6e81f1b

Innocentchild:
I saw a youtube video last year about a Golddigger prank where the guy tried to prank this young African American woman with his nice car, she said her name was khiaa and she was 20. Was that you? Can drop the link if you want

She wishes she was ever 20. Khiaa was born old.

XTHRONE:
Will that stop rigging.
Will that discourage MC Oluomo and companies...

It will be the first step towards preventing rigging.
Those abokis won't just be there stamping paper.
They now have to start thinking about hacking servers to rig votes which requires more intelligence than the average rigging scum can muster.

With that there is no human "counter".
The computer will validate and calculate everything on the go.

Dyt:
Never ever
I mean never settle for an entitled man

Dyt baby whats up?
It's been ages.

MOnkeyBabe:
more focused on the wedding and Owambe parrying. Think I was guilty of the last one before, fairRy TAle BaRbie Dreams

So walk me through that mindset as I have always found it strange and willfully short sighted. No offense, just curious.

in particular, what was your vision for the marriage? as opposed to just the wedding.
Was the day-to-day marriage ever something you thought of?

Here's another scenario...what if her child is over 18 years of age? (i.e teenage mother)

- They were lovers, but never friends
- had no shared interests
- No shared long term vision besides sex, swag and/or "I want to have children".
- Ignored the red flags.
- More focus on the wedding than on the life that follows (This one is huge for girls)

Captain simps be out here capping for this because they don't live in a country where men get forced to pay child support on children that aren't even his...simply because he had "ample family association over a long time" with said child.

Laws in some countries make it so men have to be very selfish to not get f*cked. It's mad out here.

ademidedavid:
It's no longer a story that pastors divorce their partners, imams divorce their partners, highly educated people do same and even the so called marriage counsellors are not left out in the order of the day and it has always been a thing of worry for me with the thought that they never loved each other before marriage but getting married has changed my thinking and has made me realised that marriage only takes the grace of God to work out.

I have been married for 3 years with 1 beautiful daughter with a loving wife (maybe before and some years into the marriage). I have always believed that I cannever raise my hand on my woman since my father never did such but I find it hard to believe I did the unimaginable today although It wasn't intentional.

It was due to annoyance after she asked me to stop sitting at home and go work for more money like other men even though I am a federal worker with above 100k monthly income and still do personal work as a civil engineer apart from the federal job despite the lockdown.....

It really got me aggravated because I have been the one fending for the family and the kid for the past 3 years and never asked for a kobo from her.....

Although I have noticed the urge for very flamboyant life style in her lately and has even asked me to get more money at any means, that money is everything in this life even though I have tried telling her its a gradual process, she still doesn't listen and even asked me to raise money for her to travel out of Nigeria.

I have never thought of raising my hands on any woman let alone my wife.....

Please how do I change her sudden mentality towards this sudden extravagant life style because I pray it doesn't lead to something else since I can't do illegal things to acquire the type of wealth she dreams of?

She needs to Change her friends.
Women are very passive when it comes to their friends.
Foolish ones will believe their friends over the man that actually sacrificed to marry her.

That is how Eve allowed snake... common snake... to mess her family up because she could not practice gratefulness with her life.

You have to decide if its worth changing about yourself. Obviously you do.

Also besides your attitude, compatibility is important.
For any serious boo situation, you both need to have some key shared interests.
There will be a point in any relationship where there is nothing further to talk about. It is the continued partaking of shared interests and the discussing of new things that result from that shared interest that will keep the relationship going.

Sounds hard, but it's easy.
An easy way is to make sure you and the girl you choose have fairly similar interests in movies, global topics, etc.

If you are boring, ingest more information and become more aware of things going on in the world.
PS: Same goes for girls! Your brain should not revolve around just makeup and asoebi. You would be a bore.

I love feminists.
I hold them accountable to the very same standards they verbally hold themselves to.

It's the job of men to hold women accountable.
Just like women love to use every opportunity to hold men accountable.

Most feminists won't do that by themselves. They'd just rather make flapping noises with their mouth, including figuring out how to blame men for their own failures and lack of clarity of conviction...because, well, patriarchy!

I love babes who follow feminism...as long as she has and brings money so there is actual value to her feminism in the equation.
A BROKE feminist is a useless creature and a curse to all mankind.

He don become love-vendor be dat.

cococandy:
well you are the one asking. And I rightfully figured you’re not interested in answer. Just looking for another feminist to disagree with :.

Glad I didn’t indulge you. Take care

Nah the fact is you made a statement about western society having a long way to go before women are given equal rights.

You were invited to a space to air your views on what you feel should change in "western" society equality wise.

You choose to weasel out of it, and with typical female flare, you then attempt to blame a man for making you weasel out of it.

The truth is you don't even know what you want to see change in said society. Content instead with the abstract, amorphously undefined status of self-acclaimed victimhood. And that's just standard feminist behavior.

Don't blame me for that. That's all you. Good day

cococandy:
Why should I get into this with you? What’s the incentive for me?

It doesn't affect me one bit.
You people are the ones that says you want "more equality". If it's that important to you, then go get your point heard there.